OK, so I met this guy at the company where I work, and he never said a word, we've only been looking at eachother, ok so after a few months I just went and ask about him to someone wich i knew would tell him, so from that point goin we started talking, and then we came to a point that he said that he never chase a woman, and that he feels that the woman should make the first step towards him, and I told him that we are having a problem because i don't chase guys, so for real!! this won't go anywhere, i mean even from a biblical view a man should initiate, i'm not going to lie, i'm really attracted to this guy, but honestly i don't want to waiste time on some one that believes it should come from a woman,

i've been reading this thing, wich is really really good,
http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001401.cfm

So should i just leave this guy in the friend zone and not further, or do you think i should pursuit him even though he doesn't want to risk it all,

hahahahahaa 190, you're funny, ok so tell me, what does that say about him, cause i don't understand that he wants it the other way around, for real, he said that even if he sees someone he likes he would let her go, and says if it should happen it will happen, with other words if the girls don't say nothin he won't even think about approaching her, so what is wrong with this guy,

Mr-cork don't be so tight up , ok so tell me how do you feel abbout this,

Well lyk most men he has a swollen ego.Even if he feels the way he does abt the whole chase thingy he shldn't hav told u & just let things flow naturally.The whole thang just hit a brickwall

hmmmm,

It is either he does not want you enough to chase you . . or he knows how you feel about him and he's having fun with it . . or he sees what is good for him but not willing to go after it.

you decide if that's what you want in a man.

kokoye, thanks, i was thinking just that a moment ago , hmmm and honestly I want to be admired by the guys and not the other way around, and i guess you're right about that he's just having fun with this, otherwise he would've atleast said a word before to me,

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it is not normal for a woman to chase a man!! it is absolutely abnormal.I rather go kiss a goat than to see a woman chase me,

^^^

well done Flintstone!

wait a minute, how did you find out about computers / Internet . .are they available in the stone age you are still stuck in??

Poster,

Real guys loves GO GET'ER girls, i'll advice you to take some bold step to express how you really feels about him to him, i bet u real guy will appreciate you for that.

hmmm, yeah the thing he also said that he likes it when a girl makes a bold step, but then i'm thinking ok but what happens after the bold step, you guys should i take it slow and see where this will end, cause he's really really cute, and i forgot to mention that he invited me to check him out at his soccer game, and that nite it did met his brothers, but yet again that doesn't say anything, or it does, so guys tell me what's up,

Who said its not normal for a girl to express how she feels about a guy to him? Still nigerian mentality in 21th cents and i'm wondering when will these people grow up? Is it until when women are no more conceiving males anymore?

i will suggest u take it slow. u have taken d first step. if he finds u attractive or rather if he wants u then he will take the remaining steps. if he doesnt, then u can b friends with no strings attached, that is if u can handle that.

He might be married or has someone
ever thought about that?

Chase. . .

Why most he chase you or why most you chase him.

You guys be friends and let it flow from there.

Some people are happily married now and neither of them "CHASE"  

Madam, stop acting as a friend to him with the way i'm reading your messages for him not to take u as just a friend at the end of the day.

After 2 times of seeing and having a good conversation with him then express your feelings to him live and directs.

No more talk.

No he's not married, he's completly single, no no, i'm against having sex before marriage so i won't do the friends with benefits things, the without strings attached, so i won't go on that road,

yeah i won't do the chasing, i'll just see what he'll be doing from now goin,

^^^good till you find him with another smart lady that deserve him?lol

come, you be naija girl abi?

@ Ksena,
I'll advise u not to make the mistake of telling him exactly or rather directly how u feel about him. He wants to know how desperate u are about him. And shld I tell u the truth? No man would wait for a woman to make the first move unless he isnt interested in her. He wants u to bring urself to him and then later he'll tell u 'afterall u brought urself to me'. If he's interested in u, u'll know and he'l tell u. Be careful!

murphy, that's really a good point you made, i wasn't going to tell him anything, i think you're right about that, that he wants to see how much i want him, i will be very carefulllllll, i will just stay friendly towards him, and i'm sure very soon his true colors will shine through, thnx for your 2 cents on this murphy,

18-23 yrs old lady- the guy chasing the women seriously with cash while women doing shakara
23-25 yrs old lady- the guy contemplating on her maybe to chase or back out
25-30 yrs old lady-the guy running away while women watching what to do
30-35 yrs old lady-women chasing the guy while the guy away running like animal chasing him guy
35-45 yrs old lady-women going to church everyday calling Jesus to assist him in chasing the guy
45-50 yrs old lady-women calling on God to join Jesus in race to chase a guy
50- women married to Jesus cos all hope is lost


Biography of all woman,I will never chase a woman after she is 25 yrs old

^^nothing wrong with any woman chasing you.


your own na for public consumption.

Mr-Cork:

Rubbish, whats funny about a hipopopopopotimust chaseing a theif?  dry (no oofeise)

and what was the hippopotamus guarding for you to label the man a thief?

There is nothing wrong with women chasing men, however, depending on the type of men you are chasing, SOME MEN are pursuers and they often like the challenge of chasing the women,

Some men like a woman chasing them,

ksena:

hahahahahaa 190, you're funny, ok so tell me, what does that say about him, cause i don't understand that he wants it the other way around, for real, he said that even if he sees someone he likes he would let her go, and says if it should happen it will happen, with other words if the girls don't say nothin he won't even think about approaching her, so what is wrong with this guy,

Dats exactly the issue. Something is wrong with the super star. Am ok with his idea of a woman making the advances but his sounding off about it and again to the lady in question, shows he is making deliberate effort to cover up some inadequacies. By deliberately exaggerating his worth and importance, he really doesn't strike me as anybody's dream man. Just walk, you deserve better than that.

stevouge, hmmmmmm, there's a good point there, hmmmm

Alternatively, since you feel some sort of attraction towards the guy, most probably lust, you could just play out this act: Work at it as fast as you can and get this your Holly wood star into bed and Bleep his brains out. Immediately you leave the room, delete his number, leave him high and dry, then move his file to the "Hi guy, sorry am busy" category and lets see if he wouldn't initiate the advances now. You can only mess this up if you are poor on your bedmatics.