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catdollsz:
From what I've read now at the site, Propofol is real dangerous - how then did it get into Michael's hands?

By enablers: doctors who can get their hands on those kind of drugs and many other drugs more or less dangerous quite easily using their influence. There is a network of physicians whose main clientele is those celebrities, and feeding their drug use is one of the ways they make a living. A lot of those celebs are often not emotionally strong and of course get easily manipulated by those doctors. Drug abuse is much more prevalent in american upper class, wealthy, and affluent circles than we think, difference is the kind of drugs, not cocaine or crack, or marijuana but prescriptions drugs.
In MJ's case, remember that his doc (who already had professional problems in another state) did not call the paramedics on time, and did not even start resuscitation until MJ had stopped breathing, and when he did start cardio-pulmonary resuscitation, he did it on the bed, which makes it not effective (needs to be done on a hard surface for the heart to be pumped and massaged effectively, not on a soft surface like a mattress).

debbybos:
plz doc who re d specialist in dis/at kind of doc do see cuz am havin som of dis syptoms bt i pray i dnt av it

You need to go to the gyn as soon as possible and get yourself checked. This is not something one can toy around with. Remain calm, it could be something else, but please do get yourself checked and be alert to changes in your body.
Good luck!

sizzlers:
what of the predispositing factors?

premature sexual activity (as in having sex at a young age), multiple partners, smoking, viral infection with the hpv (human papilloma virus- causes warts - transmitted thru oral, vaginal, anal intercourse and can also affect the mouth and the throat, and simple skin to skin contact with an area infected by hpv is even to contract the infection), chlamydia infection, a diet low in fruits and vegetables, long term used of oral contraceptives, multiple full-term pregnancy, and family history of cervical cancer. Those are just factors that are linked to a higher risk/likelihood of developing cervical cancer. Many women have one or some of those risk factors without ever developing cervical cancer and many women never develop any of the symptoms nor have any of the risk factors and develop cervical cancer. The single best strategy is prevention by making sure to get a yearly exam with pap smear. Early changes in the appearance of the cells that line the cervix and allows for detection of pre-cancerous cells, which make treatment easier and more effective, and prognosis better.
Hope this helps.

femmy2010:
Interesting and a from the heart piece.

femmy2010, dont know abt interesting lol. Lying is certainly not anything to be proud abt but oh well, working on that as well.
I stole the heart peace from my sis random images. Thought it was cute too.

Wrong any way you look at it. Sorry thats my opinion. From a religious and moral point of view (african culture).
I'm not necessarily saying that it always affect a relationship in the long term or accounts for higher rates of divorce. But to me, it's not about feelings, it's just wrong period.

God doesnt need to go thru a middleman to reveal His will. She should do what she is supposed to do as a daughter-in-law and just keep praying if she has doubts or suspicions of bad intentions. She will ruin her family life just like that. God's will is also always wise and this situation is def not putting her in a good light.

Well it's better knowing than not knowing. The fear will keep haunting him. He should brace himself and go ahead and do the test.

At the end of the day, abstinence is the best policy!

You certainly shoudnt behave as he does, wrong way to go about it. Have you tried to tell him exactly how you feel in a respectful, non-threatening, non-blaming, loving attitude?

this is really messed up. Can't believe adults who claim to be ready and responsible enough to decide to get married can behave like this. this is really nasty

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
as much as breaking up is difficult, you have to understand that if your base all your idea on the fact that happiness can only happen with a mate then you failed miserably. its ok to be lonely but its also important to know that if you put all your eggs in one basket then when that basket breaks, your whole life will. you should look at yourself and find happiness RIGHT THERE, the man that comes along is just a bonus.
where are all your friends? why dont you go out and spend time with them? do something different that will keep your mind away from your ex. pick up a new hobby if you have to.

being in the situation that you are is no good because you may throw yourself at the first donkey that comes along just to be in a relationship and "seem" happy while you wont really be.
love yourself, be happy/proud for who you are, then you will have that fantastic smile on your face that will have any potential guy out there fall for you in no time. i doubt anyone will notice you when you are sad, crying feeling sorry for yourself.

Word! couldnt agree more!

googles:
Duh !!! it s'posed to be a faceless forum besides if pple dont lie and peddle stories why the heck would pple join ?

the stories and falsehood is the fun in NL at least for me o. . . reading all the stories and the characters her on NL cracks me up biggerly

and wats more they are giving me ideas to be a nollywood producer

LOL indeed, countless perfect scenarios, some of them should get some inspiration from here lol.
Never lied here before, who is ready for my stone?

I totally understand what you're feeling right now. I'm slowly getting over my ex after over 4 years and many plans for the future. But believe me, things happen for a reason and its better now that if it had happened at a time when you guys could have been married. Take time for yourself, pamper yourself, try to enjoy being single, go out, make friends, have fun (in a wise manner),  Think abt the bright side of things: you dont have anybody to report to, dont have to take into acct anybody's feeling but your own, you can do whatever whenever. It's also a good time to reflect on yourself, things that you want out of life, out of a potential "next" relationship. It does get lonely, esp like u said when ppl are getting married around you, getting engaged, and all that good stuff. Thing is everybody has their own journey. Dont look around you, focus on yourself and use this time to turn the negative emotions and turn it into something positive, a driving force, a motivation. You'll be smiling about this a few months from now just like I am even though somedays are still more difficult than others, but you know what? that's life. Kick all that negativity to the left, get yourself together, pick up your pieces and head right into the future   You'll be alright!

Flaws? oh man! way too many, God help us.
1- trusts easily, very gullible - working on that and doing good progress
2- too emotional to think straight many times.
3- takes forever to decide on something - obessed with the idea of making the wrong choice
4- Lying- gotta be honest here, white lies are the hardest thing to get rid of - nothing hurtful but more to get out of uncomfortable situations (like this week when this particular elder from my church informed me that I was wanted at bible study, I lied that I wasnt at home bad bad, i know. Or the countless times when i let my sis answer my phone and say that i forgot my phone at home, or i'm asleep, )
5- Puts myself in uncomfortable situations to please ppl that i care about

Pluses
1- forgives easily
2- very driven professionally
3- loves cooking to the point where i get abused and enslaved at home

na2day?:
she said he is one of the few good looking men on nl like she is good looking her self there are tons of good looking brothers on nl and they dont have to post their pic

Lol, I see u still up. it's 1:20am here, dont have to go to work early tomorrow? well, in her defense i dont think u have to be good looking to appreciate someone else's beauty, it's all in the eyes of the beholder they say. Plus for some reason i always thought guys didnt know anything abt other guys being good looking, like they dont look at other guys the way we girls scrutinize other girls. anyhow, how u been ?

na2day?:
what is that suppose to mean?

What part of he is cute dont u understand? My dear post ur pic on here if u want compliments too, and no photoshop pls. Thx love!

femmy2010:
I think true love that is mutually felt can go beyond the little  sunshine in a very misty weather.
Love may suck when it is mismatch and headache can come to be even without you loving.
But frankly to love and be love is the sweetest feeling ever.
Allow me to love you and would do that perfectly.
What do you say?

too late, last night I checked into Our lady of Peace Coventry
Well, I partially agree with the first part of your post. Will expand on that later.

stephnina0:
Matters of the heart are really complicated. i dated this guy and i think i loved him more than he loved me and that wasn't healthy for me so i had to take a bow before story go change. There was this other guy that has been asking me out even when i was in a relationship with my x so i decided to date him not out of love but i guess i was lonely and needed someone. this guy loved me and he showed it in every way and i tried so hard to feel same but it wasn't just there. I felt bad about every thing so i had to let him go and seriously i wish him the best of love cos he deserves it from the right lady which wasn't me. i'm single now and taking my time. Tho been single can be lonely most times, it allows you define yourself and what you really want out of life

Yes Maam!!! Totally agree with that. There is so much to do and to enjoy when you're single and free as a bird. So many things to explore, discover, and understand about the world around and yourself. Being single really shouldn't be defined by the absence of a romantic partner - it's more than a relationship status, it's a state of mind. There is much to learn and grow from esp the opportunity to develop a richer, healthier, more fulfilling relationship with yourself and with God.

[b]femmy2010 [/b]lol

I was just trying to say that sometimes not being in love is better because nobody gives you headaches, you dont have to worry about anybody, u dont have to try to understand or read somebody's behavior etc. This love thingy can really mess up your daily life esp when you have to deal with the emotional issues that naturally comes along with an emotionally romantically committed relationship. But when you love, you don't see all those little things or rather you focus on the good things like the good times together, the nice words and actions and all that. Love is just like life: A few rays of sun in a mainly cloud sky

In the bigger scheme of things love is def beautiful. But on a daily basis its sucks a lot oftentimes I mean once you get past the emotional ups and down of course and the instability of passionate love, when the relationship/passion involves more of a stable, calm, peaceful, consistent type of "love". Don't know how to explain that.

I'm in almost the same situation except I'm not dating anybody right now. The "wrong" person in this case has exactly some of the main qualities I would be looking for in a life partner. But cultural differences and other practical things prevent me from me giving this a chance. It seems that some of your dilemma has been resolved but nonetheless whenever you feel confused esp abt emotions I think you should take actual "physical" and "emotional" time off the whole situation, including thinking about it too much. Things often become clearer when we are able to distance ourselves and look at it from somewhat of distanced perspective. Good luck!

(this was a duplicate of the previous post -- Sorry.)

I'll give my honest opinion and I'll just speak for me. I can't be with somebody who makes it a duty for me to do whatever for him esp household chores. I don't have a problem washing his boxers or washing whatever is his, cooking, or anything else, the problem is, I have to be the one offering to do so -- never imposed on me by force, otherwise he would take it for granted. Plus I'll only offer to do all of that on a regular consistent basis when he would have gained that right through marriage. But that's just me.

That is scary, well if it meant to be then it will, God has ultimate control over things but seriously 2 months is def not enough under any circumstances. Marriage is or at least should be a one way trip, not something that one decides without taking time to think, reflect, observe and all that, Good luck to ur friend and happy marriage. Our parents back in the days didnt always even know each other and some stayed married and happy for a very long time so maybe there is hope

isonlagba:
Don't forget the fact that Whacko Jacko was also a renowned isomniac who for a long time depended on sedatives to sleep. Propofol, from what I've just learnt - an anesthetic drug ONLY to be used under surgical conditions - combined with sedatives can turn sleep into death!

It's also used for sedation in patients on mechanical ventilation (who can't breathe on their own) in intensive care units, but yes under careful monitoring and a sedation holiday (turn off the drug for a minute to assess that there is "somebody" there).

indie22:
He was a no 1, 100% psycho control freak!

He was not only insanely jealous and possessive, also paranoid and unbelievably petty!

He put a pin on my voice mail so he culd listen to my msgs, went through my emails and replied on my behalf where he felt necessary. Moved homes to sum remote place in essex, where he hoped no one would come visit. I lost touch wiv friends and even started avoiding family, coz I knew he would throw a fit if anyone came to d house. I stupidly told myself I loved him and allowed him continue wiv his controlling behaviour.

I found myself not being able to keep a job, he always somehow messed things up for me,like taking forever to drop me off at d train station so I would be late for work, taking my house keys with him on purpose or doing something silly on days when I had job interviews so I wouldn't be able to leave d house.
Anyway, eventually I got a job I enjoyed and I stood my grnd, he tried everything and nothing worked. I just concentrated on work while waiting for d perfect opportunity to escape! The moment he went to naij on vacation (I made up a work excuse not to go) I packed d biggest and smallest of my stuff and escaped from his house, I got a place and dropped his keys off at his bros, changed my number and that was it! It was so funny, he kept calling, threatning me, I no gree,  After he begin beg, I no gree, my mind was made up.

I had to leave him coz he was slowly beginning to turn me into someone I didn't want to be plus e be like say me sef don wan begin crase!

Wooo, its like you're telling my story, except we didnt live together and I was a student, but with no family around. Somehow I let him build walls around me, and very soon I felt like i had nothing else in this world except him and if I lost him, I lost everything, which of course only made the walls higher and thicker. Still get mad at myself for letting that happen, but I guess life is a learning experience.

pro01:
^^You gurls are still not getting the point. U cant use men's cheating (which they don't even hide) to justify yours! How come no gurl so far has said something like "yes, i'd rather lose my job than cheat on my man with my boss, i put that on my life". Rather you've been busy begging the question; passing the buck to men (who hardly pretend to be 'holy', unlike women). Una funny sha. So if a suspected thief is charged to court, his only defence/alibi would be "am not the only one that is a thief abeg, other people steal too". I bet that 'wonderful' alibi would make the judge discharge and acquit him, right? Duh.

There is one thing that I havent seen mentionned in the 5 pages of this thread, and that I think is essential. Cheating or not is really not a matter of not doing it (not cheating that is) because you love your partner. It has to do with yourself, your character, the dignity and the respect that you give to yourself. I am speaking in general but also from a woman standpoint. If I'm dating/engaged/married to somebody, I have a commitment with that person, but I also have a greater commitment to myself: I have promised myself to give myself to this person, and I am responsible for whatever happens because of that (good or bad) and because it's a covenant with myself, I carry it around 24/7 365. It's harder to deceive and cheat on yourself than to cheat on somebody else. To me when someone cheats, it does not necessarily say everything about the relationship or the person that's being cheated upon, it says it all (or almost all) about the character of the cheater, and the commitment that they have with themselves.
Consequently, whatever excuses ppl bring up, like communication issues, not loving the partner anymore, abuse or whatever, does not justify anything and does not make it ok.

To ppl who think it's ok to cheat depending on the circumstances:
You should respect yourself enough to want to carry yourself in a certain way, independently of whats going on around you (your husband cheats too, or beats you or whatever, your wife has less desire for intimacy etc.), and independently of what your partner does or doesnt do. It's about who you are as a person. And ppl do change in a good or bad way, the important thing is staying faithful to who you are, working on becoming a better person (not making right out of something that's wrong because other ppl do it too) and not let yourself sway because of what's going on around you. Character is what is really the substance of who we are, and thankfully it's something we can work on and build up.

na2day?:
point of correction, u only have me in your life, remember we agreed that 3 is indeed a crowd

Hey lost hubby, how can u let me catch u cheating like this?

na2day?:
dont allow me come there and give u a dirty slap! my friend leave that girl and move on asap!

Hey buddy, so this is where u are? LOL
@topic- I agree with other posters. There isnt much u can do at this point. Let her go. And move on. you'll find somebody who can appreciate you enough to decide to stay and marry you.