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@ferdiii
I get what u're saying. The way an abused woman can rily help herself is to leave when she sees the red flags/first signs of abuse. I for one will not wait to be killed by some lunatic. Women shud learn to protect themselves. I remember when a guy was frustrating my friend, and went to waylay her with the intent of beatin and violating her, when she was taking a shortcut to the market. She had a knife which her mother sent her to sharpen and she employed it sharply. When he was eventually dischargd, he NEVER EVER crossed her path ever again!
Now, i wont advise anybody to do that. But I think she could employ the law, which I did when a guy was harrassing me. After cooling off in the police cell for three days, he was taken out to the army guardroom for face rearrangement! I bet  you the guy neva tried such again. Infact, he avoided me like I was poison. Lol.
The sick bully disgusts me. Mmmsheew! Eni a ri mu, ni an le idi mo.
OP, GIVE YOURSELF VALUE AND DIGNITY. DO YOU LOVE YOUR ABUSIVE BOYFRIEND MORE THAN YOU LOVE YOURSELF?

Some people on this forum claim she must have deservd it. But if really he feels she doesnt respect him, cant he walk away from the relationship? Must he kill her for her parents?
When KING XERXES's queen (in the bible) disobeyed him, did he flog her? Did he choke her to death? Did he pummel her with his fists? No, he simply replaced her.
Any man that tries that sh!t with me will live to regret it, gba be!

@kenyy
If OP's abusive boyfriend had choked her on their 1st date, then I can assure you there wouldnt have been a 2nd date because she would have left without looking back and even call the cops on him. But abusers spend the initial stage portraying themselves to be near perfect. D girl involvd is then hooked and the abuse starts gradually. Abuse involves psychological games. Before he startd beating her, he has moulded her psyche to the point that she is addicted to him. I dnt want 2 say more than this, kenyy. Pls google 'trauma bond', u wil understand what I'm talking about. OP needs help. She is displaying 'the battered women syndrome'.

@op
i know it is not easy to leave an abusive guy. But I also want you to know that any negativity now, while stil dating wil increase a hundred fold when you r married.
Yes, making up is rily nice; the gifts, the heavenly intimacy, the promises of 'baby, it wil never happen again'. But girl, is the money/sex worth your life? Is it not better to leave now than getting married and enduring 50 years of beating, battering and humiliation (if you survive his beatings that long).
Maybe you cant leave because you feel no man wil love you. Girl, there are millions out there who wil love and cherish u.
Mayb you feel u av investd valuable tym. Girl, if u build a boat and it is sinking, wil u drown with it because u av investd time and energy?
WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE. HE WILL NEVA CHANGE!
Check the websites inky provided. I'm so sorry because even a dog shouldnt be treated like this. I pray God gives you the will and strength 2 do what needs b done.

Interesting idea! We'l b rooting 4 ya!
I like you BABE! *Platonic o* Your really stressless!

@MzDarkSkin
You make alot of sense. But I think the issue of dating one's mate isnt all conclusive. Its a question of what a man wants/can offer at a particular tym. I hav dis friend who broke up with her boyfriend (7 years her snr) because he wasnt ready to commit. I also hav a friend whom this hot younger guy (2 years) wants to wife so bad.

Tpiah, Nope, she wasnt. She started another relationship after one had ended. You know, very sincere kinda girl. But she ends up alone at the end. Any guy mentiond in lieu of any of her boyfrnds, is just an admirer/toaster.