₦airaland Forum

franchasng:
Make it balanced, also tell us how Nigerian guys like you, and failed Nigerian leaders (men) like Tinubu contributed to whatever our Nigerian ladies have become today.


All these are as a result of failed leadership and government in Nigeria which we're headed by men.



To be honest, Nigerian men failed Nigerians, both the men and women.


If Nigeria's economy was booming, jobs available, most of our ladies doing what you call hookup or coded runs won't be doing it, they will be busy with their well paid jobs that foot their bills and I can tell you that if Nigerians ladies have a sustainable means of earning legitimate income, Nigerian men will struggle to find a girlfriend to talk of sex mate, it will become a scarce commodity in Nigeria.


So it is failure of Nigerian men in leadership that resulted to every decay we are seeing today in our society.



Nigerian men should stop complaining about ladies all the time and start taking responsibility for the vampires they created.


And I even forgot to mention the Nigerian Yahoo boys that started the trend of using money to turn Nigerian girls into whatever they want. The working class guys who see it as a duty to use their little means to sleep with as many vulnerable and financially disadvantaged girls as they can set their preying eyes on? Nigerian men created the vampires we have in Nigeria today. Nigerian men used corruption, crime, disobedience of rule of law to destroy every fabric of Nigeria. The Nigerian Police who are mostly men refused to do their jobs sincerely and honorably but took their Policing job as a means to make illegitimate money hence, they allowed criminals to get away with crimes hence emboldened more Nigerians to turn to crime knowing fully well that criminals are not punished severely




So as you complain, please find a mirror to look inside as well.


We Nigerian men are not Saints as we do portray ourselves, we have the greater share of the blame of whatever our women and society have become today.

A bitter pill to swallow.

Always shifting blames, they're ( today's women) the monster we made.

TechCapon:
If apps are actually doing that, they should know its not sustainable because people will cancel subscription if they don't get value for it. I use Badoo free subscription. The major thing is to collect their whatsapp number and move the conversation there. Anyone that refuse to move to whatsapp gets blocked instantly

Another way around it!

MarketDispatch:
Don't be fooled. Majority of those ladies are recruited by the apps to make you subscribe to some of the app premium features. The girls are paid by the apps per day. I met one of those girls that do such jobs. I tried to get the link of their recruitment agency but she refused to show me all. They call the girls "chatters" - chatting jobs

You know the drill.

Badadvisor:
Nigerians are annoying Bro, always poke nosing into people's private business.

Are you really being serious rn?

Minding his business while criminal elements flourish right under his nose ?

You dey cross main road with this kind brain?

Oyindamolah:
This is a serious social and security issue that many people ignore until it affects them directly.

As a public affairs analyst, I see this as more than just a housing problem—it is a reflection of how crime quietly reshapes communities and puts innocent people at risk.

Living in an environment dominated by fraud-related activities, commonly associated with “Yahoo boys,” creates dangers that go beyond noise, parties, or uncomfortable lifestyles. The real issue is exposure to legal, security, and reputational risks.

When law enforcement agencies investigate cybercrime, they often look at the entire network surrounding suspects—friends, neighbors, associates, and even landlords. Unfortunately, innocent residents can become collateral damage simply because they share the same address or environment.

This is where many legitimate Nigerians make a costly mistake. They assume, “I’m not involved, so I’m safe.” That assumption can be dangerous.

Security agencies may interpret silence as complicity. Landlords may prioritize rent over tenant profiling. Communities may normalize suspicious behavior until it becomes too late.

Beyond legal risks, there is also the psychological burden—constant unrest, violence, drug abuse, intimidation, and the erosion of moral standards within the environment. For families raising children, this becomes even more dangerous because environment shapes mindset.

We must also address the societal angle: the normalization of fraudulent wealth has made many young people see crime as ambition and integrity as foolishness. That is a dangerous cultural shift.

This is not about judging individuals—it is about protecting lawful citizens from avoidable consequences.

My advice is simple: Before renting any apartment, investigate the environment. Observe the lifestyle of residents. Ask questions. Prioritize peace, security, and dignity over cheap rent or flashy surroundings.

Because when the system comes knocking, innocence alone may not protect you.

Sometimes, where you live can become evidence against you.

And that is a risk no responsible person should ignore.

Nice take,

Like I said earlier, I have been around Old people more often than not.

When I was still serving, under the igbo apprenticeship program, my master then was a wealthy billionaire (no mince of words) in naira.

Man had a full house. 8 children, 5 of us as apprentices, wife still around, a full house like I said. I was his closest servant then, I understood his emotional,physical, psychological struggles.

His health took the greatest toll on him, dude was literally leaving on drugs. He had diabetes, ulcer, high BP, cholesterol. But did put his sh!t together I must say.

Another thing was his own siblings, always at loggerheads. Even when all of them are well off. He's a devoted Christian, a Roman Catholic.

I think, the struggles that comes with old age is not determined by how pious the individual is, notable figures in the Bible had their own fair share. It's basic biology I suppose.

DeepSight:
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Do I understand you right that you pray for a younger passing to avoid the problems of deep old age?

You read that right,

Disturbing right?

DeepSight:
Does watching the many extreme infirmities, indignities and vulnerabilities of old age not take away in many cases the joy of living a long and ripe life and lead many to question the mercies and intentions of our creator?

I'm not alone with these thoughts after all.


I have been around advanced people a lot, so I'm very much abreast with your observations.

All I can say is, God has nothing to do with all of of this. We don't even know we'll be here in the 1st place. Leaving here whether young or really old doesn't matter, to me at least but I usually mutter a silent prayer to experience the former.

Dtruthspeaker:
You don dey feel the heat abi? You ain't seen nothing yet.

To the post, it is only cus people who complaining about old age. And they are the same ones who life for them was already bitter even when they were young.

And this is in addition to the fact that since you people have fallen for Satan's trap, so more cuses of diseases have fallen on you people unlike in the past were 80yr olds still went to their farms

So, you don't bring God into this matter but it is the result of you people's increased sins. So, you are just lamenting about the various ways God has set life do deal with you ivu pips

Completely unrelated to the topic.

Heal!

I've always wanted to hold this swift creature with my bare hands just as you're holding it up right there.

Collect a chilled desperados from lady Gold, I go pay .

You're just finding out?

ReasonYourz:
I am dating this girl but she is so much younger than me in age. I do like her but ever since I dated her I have been attracting little favor in life. Is kind of weird and hard to explain. She has no idea and I want to tell her. Like she just randomly came in my life out of nowhere and I feel so unworthy. This girl is younger than me. Are age gap is crazy but we met in a weird way.

Feeling unworthy?

Who's raising these things?

spiceadole:
As long as he was not using me to relief himself.
Because even if I allowed him to, he would still sleep with others if he wanted to. Then , if I catch him, he will proceed to rub it on my face, boast about it and mock me.
Shame and low self esteem will finish me.
I will begin fighting other ladies .. "Leave my man alone" gang
All that drama,not for me please.

Apt

Nice observation,

Both genders have their own fair share of the blames, at least in the current dispensation.

You really need to go outside the more.

TossTos:
[b]I don't still see you stopping [/b]it but I will say , if you can try , it will do you good . It is determination... I beg you to summon the courage to never depend on it anymore as the only way you can make it in life .. thank God , you have job that fetch you money , stick to that .. let me tell you one simple short story about me , when I stopped betting , I substitute one idea to replace it , I said to myself , I. Keep betting everyday 1k each ,2k each I don't win , I need to Stop . Then I said , I won't go give any bet9ja agents ot Baba Ijebu Agent my money again , but I will be placing the bet inside my kolo or safeboard .. i start dropping 1k , 2k inside the safeboard/piggy bank for the first 30days , my brother when i checked the following month , I counted 52k . I told myself , i won 52k today .. I keep doing this till this moment

Baba never start to dey play sef

Op, relax...


You'll never stop, at least for now. Until it pits you with something much more life threatening, until then...

DonroxyII:
God forbid, we shall also emancipate ,Amen !

Not a "we" thing .


It's individual.

SisterAnn:
Even though your post is AI generated you say, all the above listed are very obvious truths that even the Op knows about.
But I guess his motive for opening this thread is just draw attention to himself and siggy message for copywriting.

Nah,

I think there's a more insidious agenda here, there's a comment he's looking for, although someone mentioned up there but we need a much bolder comment.

Not coming from me,

razzydoo:
The moniker sounds cool, like something straight outta Sci-fi. But the moniker betrays what it represents, Science. I saw Videos of the Artemis crew live on CNN few days back, one of the crew was actually floating, i think the lady. I'm very sure you can't explain why she was floating. Hence you saying Ai this and that.

I guess dude's cherry picking his own reality in his boxed mind.

Techu:
Please don't be deceived by this, there is nothing like space, space is fake... Literally deceiving you guys.

Somehow, the opinion of a Nigerian facing a thousand ways to die daily in his country, do matter...

From the mobile device you're tweeting from down to your toothbrush, you literally can't do without these 'theorists'.

Let's just stick to the reckless procreating ability and religious fanaticism we're known for.

One of the nightmares of iron/ metal fabricators...

What's your take on this oga michlin?


Substandard materials , beam's size not proportional to the quantity of water to be carried, my take.

Keemkarr:
SPORTZX app can do a streaming magic

Thanks brother.

timidapsin:
I don't think I can ever trust Glo

Coming from a Glo employee...

Don't even bother if you have anger issues guys,

Still waiting for a proper day to dispose this shambolic network called Glo.

Lithiumite:
200k where you dey live ani nah village u dey?

Still waiting for the app recommendation,

I want to stream this champions league matches right in the comfort on my 200k per year self con.

You and BBN that year...

Duplex90:
try am bomb u will be banned for life. Don't try nonsense with Snapchat

Okay,

Your signature is a hard one to overlook...

Tone down on it if you're still struggling to stop. Try getting closer to God, not church.

Which state you dey?

Duplex90:
let me put it this way, if Snapchat was to make a policy that I will have to pay 20k monthly to use the app i will gladly pay it infact i will pay for 12 months in advance. Think of snap aa a a secret government app for government agencies alone, u wont understand anyways... Snap isn't just pictures, even after 11yrs i still don't understand the app 50 percent. If u buy a phone and snap doesn't work on it then that phone is useless. I have like 12 governors as friends on snap, Davido is my friend on snap. Am still grieving for my account loss i will never get over it....i ve made over 100m with that acct

You dey bomb am ni ?

Professor007:
No be lie. But you've got to admit, life can get crazy hard, especially for a man just trying to make a life himself.

Not just the men alone, almost everyone got something they're dealing with. They're just good at not appearing like their problems.

Reminds me of the darkest phase of my little time here, at least for now .

2017 to be precise.


Budaatum did a lot right there. I think... Or rather, I am fully convinced that the human mind is really a complex component and if not handled with outmost caution, every other thing goes down hill.

Snap out of it dawg, I'm not doing 100% even in this moment but hey, still much better than I am 11 years ago.


I'm not great with putting my thoughts into writing but I pray you grasp the message I'm trying to put across.