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To cut the long story short, you love Durrent?

asids55:
courtship cohabitation all join

Lol, i forgive you

ronald4lif:
Good you can see beyond her sanctimonious facade and pretense. She can't deny never visiting a guy on weekends and spending days with him. But here on NL everyone feels the need to appear decent.

Hey, don't go using using words on me ok? You don't know me. I don't need to appear decent to prove jack to anybody especially here on Nl and i never said those who cohabit are indecent.

We can't always agree on issues. I only aired my opinion and i didn't insult anyone in the process and i will appreciate it if you don't insult me

iyke1989:
hehehe....now u confusing it all...
Incompatibility:
boy: I can't stand seeing my family eating rice
girl: I can't stand a man who doesn't eat rice..
Counselling:
husband: I used to eat rice but stopped and I want all FAM members to stop as well
wife:can't stop eating rice now because of u
Counsellor: .................

Counsellor: f you want to breakup on rice issue go ahead...peace

COHABITING is bad...ayam tired of arguing with you!

ronald4lif:
You intend to spend your lives together with someone and same time strike against cohab which serves as a lush ground to get to know them. How anyone want to take such a lifetime decision with someone they have limited information of their gloomy habits is really worrisome.

Limited info Is that not the essence of courtship? Then what information did you gather that made you want to marry her?

You must have gathered enough info to make you take the decision you want to get married to that person.

hifaif1:
Nice one, my child!!! Preach it!!! Shout it on the rooftop so they can all become celibates!!! It is only in doing this, that we can meet the 20, 000 monk and nun target!!!

Lol, pray for me father . Between, you and who is meeting nun target ?

asids55:
na..am not saying that..my point is that couples go through courtship to know how they can tolerate each other so strange behaviors don't become new when they get married

Courtship you say not COHABITATION

iyke1989:
of course!! that's the essence isn't it?...to avoid marital calamities like divorces and breakdowns in the future...compatibility is the number one key to a successful marriage!!

Which is equal to a perfect marriage and unfortunately, it does not exist!!!

Lool, sorry i didn't read this well. Just replied

Most of the flaws we sometimes term as "incompatibility" is caused by lack of understanding and counselling which i believe when you go through marriage counselling and the likes, you overcome them

asids55:
is it not better it goes south during courtship, than after they already get married??

In essence you want a perfect marriage with no hitches at all...does that exist

KingRex1:
Hey c'mon, in as much as u wrote for a good course, there so many faults contained in this writeup. Itsa thumbs down

Ok

iyke1989:
hell yea it is...that's if they are unsubtle beings...but mind u, one could modify his/her character and look good from a distance...but not when u bedding with ur partner daily, there's always a spotting difference, and it could help in sorting spouses

So, if they bed each other daily, and find out they can't tolerate each other's differences, it leads to Number one isn't it?

AirSultan:
I do not quite agree with this.. Ok, maybe I disagree to agree.

Why?

Because the exact opposite of all you laid down up there can also happen.

Things happen in two ways: Its either it happens in and with a positive timeline or negative timeline.. It takes two to tang o..

I disagree never to agree

osesology:
Nonsense!!!!!

Lol, don't know why but this made me laugh

iyke1989:
its most definitely necessary to live together before marriage, even if its for a lil while...that's where u build all marriage virtues between partners and decide if ure right for each other (courtship)....trust, care, understanding..LOVE!!

Are you saying its not possible to build or achieve all these without living together?

ronald4lif:
Seems your list is based on personal convictions and sentiments with no grounded basis to support your points. Just the number 2 appears factual the rest have no grounds whatsoever.

They don't experience best sex, lest likely to get married and likely to divorce blablabla please where did you pull out this piffle from?

From my head sir. Just like you said, personal convictions and things i see happening around me.

KashyBaby:
Mmm...I dunno but I don't agree at all...

Wanna share reasons If not, you should move in with pcoolioz


Just kidding hunnae

BlueEyeBalls:
well spoken beauty

Thanks hunnae...muahh

AfroKnight:
Hmmm. Somehow, you didn't say it's morally wrong. The world is really changing.

Really So, what are the reasons for? To prove its right?

jnrbayano:
Living together before marriage makes a mockery of the dowry whenever it's eventually paid.

That's if it will be paid.

Exactly, some people end up paying nothing

olac21:
No 6-for your mind

You don't agree with that?

To a lot of people, it seems to make sense that a wise step in knowing if you are compatible to marry would be to "test run" your relationship by living together first. But, is it really as good of an idea as it seems like it would be?

Why living together before marriage is a bad idea:

1. Those are who live together are least likely to marry each other.

2. You lose the excitement and thrill the honeymoon will bring.

3. While many women look at it as a stepping stone to marriage, most men look at it for convenience and not firm commitment.

4. Those who live together have higher divorce and separation rates.

5. Those who live together do not experience the best sex.

6. Those who live together, have more disagreement, fights and violence.

7. Many times, people who live together before getting married, upset their families or friends who have strict religious beliefs. It can create a rift in the family which can be difficult to repair.


Between, I love this weather....uhhh. If you're cold, cover yourself with the Blood of Jesus

Marlvin:
Look ma'am, maybe you should try and go through what the youngman wrote, once again. you really don't seem to understand his point

He said he doesn't know what to discuss with her. How can you have a gf and not know what to discuss with her? A new one at that

She even does most of the calling. He is not into her

The help you need is to let the girl go with loads of apologies....it obvious you don't love her. How can you ask a girl out when you feel nothing for her Who does that?




You should be castrated

Johneyhaz:
let me share from my own experience...I have a gal sometimes ago,kiss is very limited...anytime she looks me in tge eyes i always feel guilty because i know she was only fvck partner

And the lady must have been in love

MrsPhyno:
I don't think I'm capable of that tbh

Honestly, don't know how some people do it perfectly

slyIsaac:
Na so dem make me believe layla129 is innocent!!

Lool, na you sabi oh

Dexema:
the world has and is evolving into a cruel place where sex has become sport, a source of "relief", where emotions are damned and chastity is frowned at. Men find it easy to have sex for fun and outwit a female opponent ( or a trophy f*ck if u like) but ladies are learning and catching up fast, I will enjoin you to stick to that dude that's giving it to u if both of you have something special, cos these days nobody can be trusted...I don't even trust me.
NB: I believe jadekitana is just forming tough woman, let her meet that guy that has her password and see ohow she suddenly becomes "dundee united"

Lool...you think she is?

Lamexx:
Goodluck to those concerned. I am looking for scholarship to the US and not UK.

Try Fullbright then

ActOfWar:
Like you can't pass ur message without insults I asked because I have been trying to find the resemblance btw ur new pp and d former one. Yet u ll be ranting bout that u dont insult peepz on NL, she was even telling someone dz morning dt she doesn't reply insults that she'd rather ignore. Just go #disappointed

Don't make me laugh please...what is the insult here now

2kurupt:
Do you think he'll have a boner if he's "acquainted" already?

I doubt it. Even if he will, not at this spot

2kurupt:
Judging by the space between them & the look on their faces it's obvious they were likely not "physically" close during the period of courtship. Else the groom should have been able to control himself.

Yeah, i noticed that too

Marlvin:
#Chuckles
Such wickedness from the photographer.

You don't want him to do his job