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OkoAnike:
Forgive what please, did the young woman cheat on him, the answer is NO... I hate having a conversation with a stup*d man, allow him to mess up the little comfort he found through the young girl

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Kobojunkie:
Oh, so you because you discover her body count is more than yours, you suddenly want to make an issue of it? You are simply searching for a way to destroy your marriage here, aren't you?

Anyways, good things can happen to people but not everyone is deserving of good things. Goodluck!

did you bother visiting the attached link??
Well, I didn't create the thread that has that link, someone did and I want you to read what I commented there.

Shadowbeauty:
Uncle you are just foolish

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crackhaus:
While I won't judge you for what you have chosen to do in revenge, I have to admit that your motivation for it makes no sense whatsoever.

Your anger my friend is completely misplaced, there's simply no logical explanation for it.

I mean, I want to assume you didn't meet your wife as a virgin and this implies that you would have been aware she had a sexual past before running into you.
So what then is all this anger?
Like did you believe she lost her virginity while riding a bicycle or something?
Or is it that you assumed you were the second man in the entire world who would be having sex with her?

Some of you guys simply don't know how to be realistic and keep yourself grounded especially when it comes to women.

I'm NOT sorry to say this, but I've never once met/dated a previously sexually-active woman and then convinced myself that she's a sexual novice/amateur.
That would just be me fooling myself.

As far as I'm concerned, every previously sexually-active woman is a porn-star who has had at least three sexual partners before me, until proven otherwise.
This is how I have always kept myself grounded, because I choose not to deceive myself.

The parties and clubbing which you also complained about, I truly don't see the big deal. Those are normal activities that are a consequence of having a very active social life.
It shouldn't become a problem at this point.

The point here is:
If you really (as in, REALLY) wanted to marry someone who had the same history/past as you, then you should have done your due diligence before picking a girl to marry. This is what the rest of us do.

Nothing you're capping here makes any sense. I should bítch-slap you but internet nor go let me.

If you still want to have fun, flirt around, and go partying/clubbing, no problem with that. Do you!
Just don't say you're doing it because you want to get back at a woman you should have vetted thoroughly before getting married to.

That's silly.

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AceRoyal:
Sorry to say but very immature, stu.p*d, fuulish and lack wisdom for you to even think or get angry about her past.
You're angry at yourself for the wrong reasons. You need to mentally, emotionally and psychologically grow up!

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kodemann:
This has to be the lamest post on nairaland. I'm even ashamed that I'm honoring it with a comment.

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Roseey0:
This one don make small change and now looking for excuse to cheat
Of all the reasons to cheat, he chose to dig up the lifestyle his wife lived in the past and called it revenge

Uwa mmebi

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Munzy14:
I si hardship? O si nwunye tara azu ofuma na campus.. So ya nwa ga ta nke ya...That is ihe o wula yi skirt ma o wu bumshort ga amasi ya..lmao

That is the case most guys pass through later in marriage...if they end up with sabi babes ...While they themselves bu ndi mgbuh in their youthful days..

The carryover is a must especially when small money begin to enter their pocket..

Okwa last week ka m no with one pastor biara na my place, we were gisting outside, until one baby oku come pass, Ihe pastor no zi na aza m wu mmmh eeh mmmh while his eyes were fixed in the babes direction...Okwa onye ji umu ise o..lmao.

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micflo28:
OP you are a mockery of marriage. You want to revenge a lifestyle lived in the past that you were not even yet in the picture. If you don't love the poor girl, why bother marrying her. She has changed and yet you dig up her past. Maybe you will go and beat up your parents for bring you up in poverty. If you can't focus on the future and move on, then buy a coffin to be buried with the past. No vex me ooo

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Kingdomb:
This sounds funny coming from a married man this ..maybe you want to ruin your marriage and face the troubles...you may end up carrying diseases or like chidinma and her sugar daddy ..avoid those things you mentioned

If you want to cheat which most couple do you don't need to tale permission from us

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nizelgirl:
Op. How old are you because your talking like someone that is not up to 20 years. I don't understand because the kind of baby men women are getting married to these days is worrisome. I'm speechless

I'm 38 and a business man while my wife's 31 and a banker,
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wiloy2k8:
You shouldn’t be married , you are still a kid .

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baby124:
This guy get many problems, one of many is insecurity and trauma of poverty. So you went digging your wife’s past because? All these men that behave like mad women. You dig the past because you sef wan Bleep her ex’s or what? It’s like you are jobless or something. I am sure she’s doing better than you in every way.

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philexcel:
You are an idiot sorry to say. U want to flirt around because u discovered your wife past and now u have money. U be money miss road.

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GodisFirst:
In addition to Lostchild's advice, please note that sometimes in life we feel like this, if we are not careful we may do something stupid that we end up regretting. Two WRONGS can never make a RIGHT. God has blessed you with this wonderful and beautiful daughter. Maybe your wife's parents failed in taking good care of your wife and giving her a good upbringing or peer pressure influenced, now take up the task of grooming this daughter of yours to making her what you want a good lady to be. Try to influence here more than you wife will do. Avoid fights with your wife and don't make it a competition. Always make out time to stay or take a walk out with your daughter, tell her all you want her to hear and know, make her feel loved and happy. She will have that in her mind and grow with it. start sowing your own good seeds in her and nature it, With God on your side, the good seeds will flourish, overcome the bad seeds and you will reap from it at your old age. This is what you owe her and yourself.
Cheer up always and take a walk out of the house briefly any time you wife tends to make you angry and come back after a short while and put all behind you.

Thanks Godfirst, remain blessed.

sheffyUTD:
This one will kill himself if his wife is hugged in his presence. You're still a boy and not mentally ready for marriage. Go back to secondary school.

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seyoops4u:
I'm trying to understand what the issue is here;

Please are you just finding out about your wife's past ?

Or you have known that before now but you kept everything she told you in mind and now, you want to do the same "enjoyment"

I'm just trying to understand what and where the ANGER is coming from first.

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phenylalanine:
Let the past be in the past, what you are thinking is wrong and u might end up kicking the bucket, u might not be lucky... Pls

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greygoblings:
You just wasted my time reading your rubbish. How does the life she lived before she met you matters? I don't believe this rubbish sha.

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foreveryoung1515:
you definitely need help. Never heard of this in my life, i pity the lady. Only God knows what pepper you would have been showing her in the house. She sef go think say she don find better husband. Baby husband. Grow up!

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dadabashua1:
Op pls I want to ask you a simple question, do you know about her said past life before you married her or you just finding out now after marriage?

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kwasoly:
Children everywhere.. mtcheew
Better grow up and take responsibility for your new home no be person say make ur pple poor.

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hoebamaa:
You're sick in head and I'm here to tell you.

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efficiencie:
True you deserve to get some justice and there should be balance...but you cannot achieve it fairly and justly. Only God can balance the scales of justice. Many of the children on nairaland don't know that the consequence of past sins are very well part of the present and can affect the future. I will advice though that you temper justice with mercy. Yes she messed up her life in school but if she is changed today, a submissive wife, a sensitive mother and a dependable guardian you should endeavor to forgive her dirty past. It is in the domain of humans to have a very horrible past but I will plead that you forgive her so that God can also forgive your sins. Don't let the enemy of your marriage use your knowledge of your wife's past to destroy your marriage.

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Visitobilive:
Hear yourself, your wife past not that when she got married she was living such a lifestyle.
Let me ask you, were you perfect without sin before you got married? If yes, Date as many girls you want, if No, hold your ear and say sense come back to me

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donMIG:
Rubbish.... I swear... U no make single sense
Watsup na?
Na she say make u no flex that time?
C dis guy!
U r funny
Like u no even know weitin u dei do sef

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TENHEU22:
YOU ARE A MUMU MAN!!!

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cococandy:
Your wife didn’t ask your parents to be poor.
Hater

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sisisioge:
Wow! This world and irrational people sha! Was your wife responsible for the poverty you started with? Wow! May God and His host of Angels get evil minded irrational people of our paths! May God help OP's wife too. Awon sadist gang!

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Generalj12:
Seriously are you for real ? You are not yet to be called a man. Yes u are still living in the past when others are moving forward. Anyways your life,your time and money. Don't come back here to ask for advice when u finally gotten yourself in deep shit. Nah still olosho u go carry.

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Theresamay:
how is her past your business? She was dating a big boy in town that took her to those places. She wasn't related to u in all those years. Do u understand the meaning of revenge? U need sense

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sfx9ja:
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To flog you dey hungry me. I was expecting to hear something like she still flirting et al. E come be say na her past dey worry your Brokos. Just use style tell us say you dey find excuse to do olingo. Werey....

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