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Lostchild:
LiegeMan
I understand your hidden pains and I know there is more to your write up you did not share.

Many people will throw stone at you because they can't see beyond you and your painful journeys.

MY ADVICE

If it is possible, try as much to protect your daughter from the influence of your wife.

Damfostopper:
OP.....how old are you Make una take am easy with OP sha....maybe he's just a naive 25 _27 yrs old male

Kfed4ril:
The question is, does she still leave such lifestyle?
If she doesn’t, then why are you trying to destroy your marriage?

Is you want to flex now that the money is available, flex with your wife na.

mariahAngel:
My comment to you there is the same as the one here.

BKsoul:
Says who she is only respecting herself and her marriage.... I wish your wife has my kind of orientation... you go catch fun you go tire.... dem no dey beg person....mscheeew.

Macheteros1:
My brother, “now that the money is flowing in” why not invest it and give your children the life you didn’t have as a man? How your wife lived her life in campus nor concern you. What if the reverse was the case? So your wife go come say she wan dey flirt outside because she no do am for school? Guy reason this thing you just write here. Unless you left somethings out, my brother move ahead. What your wife did in so far as she no contract incurable disease from that time carry come give you or something worse, face your future and leave the past.

MASTERMIND04:
As in ehn... see wetin dey pain person.

MASTERMIND04:
This OP is very funny Marriage is not for small boys

NetValueFX:
You are a child. You never reach to marry

Adesanmi01:
You could have easily display your intended flimsy excuse life style before you get married man..... You weren't forced to get married earlier I think.... Perhaps she is not responsible for your failure na...you can easily change ur mind now and rebel that against ur parent... Why subjecting that poor lady to an emotional distress.

charles0922:
Sorry for you, how old are you?
Don't ruin ur marriage

executive12:
Stupid man with an archaic mindset. The lady should dump you and marry a decent, enlightened man.

SirBunky85:
very stupid&senseless attention seeker.useless thread

junique629:
Shebi its becos you are seeing small change now, devil wan use you, that money will soon disappear, lets see what you will use to club and carry olosho, mumu man

Yaks02:
Which work do you do?

torqque7:
And how exactly did u findout this new revelation about ur wife now that u didn't findout when dating her?and are u saying she was fu.c.king randomly in school?is she aware u are upset about this findings?this is the reason we always tell women to be careful how they live their lives when young,brother forget all those telling u crap about its in the past and should remain there,thats the rubbish excuse they use to console themselves and do rubbish,brother I'm a man and il advise u to flex and do all u want to do,but il advice u do it codedly so it doesn't destroy ur marriage,just do all u feel u need to do so u can get it out of ur system otherwise the feeling of hate and resentments towards her will only get worse..wish u good luck sha

Abigailgibson:
Why destroy your marriage...
If you want to cruise, club,or do wateva
why not do it with your wife

Lostchild:
Only few wise fellow like you understand this. Many people today are suffering over the sins and past life of their fathers and many keep doing worse than that of their father.

They will say, let forget the past.

Later, the past will start hunting their future.

GodisFirst:
I have just few questions for you;
Is your wife's past affecting your marriage like making her not being able to pay her role as a wife or mother to the kids if you now have Children?
Were you forced or deceived into this marriage?
Is she disrespecting you and your family?
Is she using her family wealth to intimidate you?

If the answers are NO, then you don't need to do what you are planning to do because it may come back to haunt you.
she did those things when she was a student and not very much aware of the consequences of some of her actions, could be peer influence or juvenile delinquency. Those were the days of ignorance; the case is different now if any of you try it this time, it may not go down well. She was lucky to be protected by grace unlike so many other persons.
If she has changed, the best for you is to give her the support she needs to remain a changed person for the sake of your marriage and the family you need to build as the head of the family.
That thing you think you missed while starving or suffering are some of the things so have led many to early grave and have kept so many people in the hospital today battling for their lives. Thank God for not allowing your wife’s case to be the same. You that is free, thank God for the grace because you escaped that is not because of your power. Some people went into some dirty lifestyles due to poverty, but you did not allow poverty to ruin yours, but it led you to the virtues of modesty, fortitude, endurance, patience, and perseverance. So, don’t just throw these good qualities away carelessly due to a little moment of darkness in life. Just put them all in the hands of God.
“You don’t know what you got till is gone”
Good luck.

NoToPile:


What I find funny about the thread is if it was about his wife's sexual history he would have emphasized more on it. ( I trust nairaland guys for that) his major grouse is the privileged background his wife had that he didn't have.
( check out his opening statements about his wife, it was all about how her family could provide and she didn't lack and this and she enjoyed herself and that ) , maybe he would have felt better if she also hawked oranges to go to school ( not a prestigious university).

I am not even a fan of boys and girls partying and clubbing in school but for me this OPs matter is very close to witchcraft, what this OP feels is pure envy and in all honesty I pity his wife he is a dangerous person to be around.

And you know the very hilarious part of it, even if he goes all out partying and clubbing womanizing he still won't feel fulfilled and that anger will still be there.

Bobmarie:
Nobody forced them to marry, and not all men lived that unnecessarily hard life the government has caused. Rich/middle class men everywhere that enjoyed their lives growing up too.

Bobmarie:
Lol. Because her parents gave her a better life than him? Sick people everywhere.

mariahAngel:
@Liegeman, why did you not do a thorough background check on your wife before marrying her?

Like I told you before, you alone are responsible for the choice(s) that you make(made) in life.

Bobmarie:
There are men on this thread in support of his irrational thinking. Might just be real. Very sick.

"once a soldier, always a soldier

Magnoliaa:
Mtcheeewww. Joker. I no know watin una dey gain from cruise posts.

Ocholu:
OP, let me be real with you;

I really pity you and your shallow thinking. Person just wan carry wahala put for him head. That's not how real men think na.

See bros, if you eventually begin to fufill this stage of your ire/anger, trust me, another stage will come in which you'll wallow in pain and regret.

To be really real with you OP; focus now on building and raising a healthy home. So that your children won't pass through what you passed.

Shalom.

Ocholu:
OP, let me be real with you;

I really pity you and your shallow thinking. Person just wan carry wahala put for him head. That's not how real men think na.

See bros, if you eventually begin to fufill this stage of your ire/anger, trust me, another stage will come in which you'll wallow in pain and regret.

To be really real with you OP; focus now on building and raising a healthy home. So that your children won't pass through what you passed.

Shalom.

Raalsalghul:
Op, the mistake you made was getting married in your peak.

You should have taken like five years break once you became successful to navigate and understand the world of women: explore, travel and enjoy the good things that life has to offer.

Your wife used her peak to live the life of the party: socializing, having fun at parties and careless sex (who knows), going on dates .

In your case, you spent the majority of your youth toiling to develop yourself due to your humble background, you've attained relative success (your own peak); it only makes sense you have your own fun too instead you're now weighed down by marriage responsibilities and feeling cheated.

You should have thought about this before saying your wedding vows.

One more thing, if your wife is the supportive type given her family background, then drop this anger and see how you can make it work. You're in, you're in.

CandyOps:
Hmmm.. there's something you're not telling us, bro.

Why are you sad she had fun while in school and you didn't? You said something about anger & vengeance? Where is this anger coming from?

funshint:
Is she still living that kind of lifestyle? Is she not fulfilling her duties to you as a wife? So why do you want to set your house and future on fire because of a past that bears no correlation with your present? We are not destined to live thesame life pattern. This "revenge" you want to take; you'll only end up hurting yourself because it has no basis. What has happened in the past belong to the past nothing can change it. Accept this and have peace!

Kobojunkie:
Vengeance? What you describe if stewpidity instead!

If there is anyone for you to be pissed at , it should be your mother and your father who both failed to invest in your education resulting in you leading a hard life in college. Their incompetence as parents is what robbed you of all you desired.
Now, if you chose to destroy your marriage in order to fulfill those vain desires now, you will have cemented yourself a fool responsible for destruction of your future for the sake of those desires.. your wife will still have no fault in any in it.