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Whew, it's been a while. I was going through the front page and I saw a post about a doctor whose wife cheated on him with his colleague with the knowledge of a friend of his. Damn... Cold I must say.
Here's the link in case you missed the gist.
https://www.nairaland.com/6740641/anthony-chijioke-dr-ozuzu-george

I'd like to point out some things:
First the lady left the US to cheat in Nigeria. I don't know where the "victim" (still a funny term to me) stayed (I'm betting the US) but imagine one's wife, getting a ticket worth a few thousands of bucks (I think), travelling thousands of miles, eager in the plane, lodging with another man for months just for a d*ck appointment. That D must be have been special.
The points are a lady can go any length to cheat, right under your nose and you'll be unaware (it's easier to catch a cheating man). Talk about masters of disguise, chameleon dey learn.
Second point is as long as she fancies you, she's gonna find you, and she'll simp for you. If you like be an alien from Tatooine she'll board the millennium falcon to cheat on her boyfriend (husband) with you . Talk about been emotional, it's their forte. She'll readily throw out all the feelings you once shared for that moment of fulfilment. Don't think too much about it.

Secondly, if you notice from the story the husband was talking as if the guy hypnotized her. Just check it out. It seems like this generation of men have been weakened by "love" and times without number fail to put logic first. This makes them create illogical, annoying excuses for their cheating spouses (another example that idiot called Tega's husband). For what reasons do they make such erroneous blunders: To be on the good side of the society, to be viewed as a 'real man', the dreaded disease called 'oneitis', soul mate syndrome, list goes on. A man should be fortified with strength, logic and the preparedness for people's fvck ups. You can't be entirely prepared but try as much as possible to be mentally impregnable.
As much as his friends have betrayed him, he shouldn't look at his wife as the "weaker vessel" and excuse all bad behaviors. Treat betrayal as such irrespective of the gender, everyone has a brain.

Final point: Know your friends and what they are capable while keeping in mind that people have the capacity to change.

Take the redpill folks: t.i.d

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Martinez39s:


That aside, here is how most strong guys and sharp guys who were initially rugged and smart in their dealings with women usually fall, it is simple and almost always the same.

Apt man, couldn't have said it better boss.

Junnior:
The guy is clearly a simp. He never gave her the jacket. She took it. So, what's ego and self-respect got to do with that? If someone TAKES stuff that belongs to you without your consent, you take it back, not hide behind ego and self-respect.

Yeap I'll agree he lost it , by letting her take it, seeing it at her place and not taking it and not putting her in her place when sh*t hit the fan in school. Three scenarios he shoulda taken charge. He affirmed to what I told him and agreed he shoulda taken action then.

Well, it's bygone. I hope he does better and hopefully the young ones learnt a thing or two. I pretty much did.

Martinez39s:
It's good that you minded your business. Whether it is ego or fear, nothing should stop one from collecting back if they want to.

I am still wondering how he was afraid of losing someone he didn't commit to. Someone he knew was a hòe and was just smashing with no attachments. I wonder.

The things some of my guys in relationships and situationships have done have had me wonder. Seriously, is this my guy. Like seriously. A lot of guys are redpilled(natural masculinity) in theory not in action.

Keeping frame when pvssy whipped isn't a mean feat. Guys will just relent in frame, some go as much as dropping the frame and leaving the bare picture.

Be on guard guys, always.

Nezzjnr:
You ought to have Force him to collect the Jacket back

Lol, I wasn't there. He told me about it. I'd have told him to vex, but to collect it up to him. Make I come carry person matter for head. . What if they started Doing again behind my back?

My own was para...

mrsteel:
@bold Ego or fear?
Your friend's case is not ego but fear!
If someone took something from u that u couldn't give your siblings & u were afraid to confront such person, that is fear and not ego.
If u fear someone, u can't scold them even when they go wrong, because u fear them, that was what happened to your friend.

Lol... Fear, maybe but not the fear of people but the fear of conflict. A lot of people do, it's called being Nice. Not trying to step on people's toes.

Junnior:
Your guy never gave her the jacket in the first place. She took it. He is a m0ron to have let her take it in fact. And she clearly doesn't respect him.

His case is not the same as what we saying here. We're talking about collecting stuff you willingly gave out by yourself.

I know it's not about that, i've said something about gifting, I don't subscribe to collecting things that was given out of one's volition devoid of coercion. Gift out of your magnanimity although sparingly. I'm only seconding skeptic ( I think) post on treating disrespect in an intense non-violent way.

Irrespective of whether he gave her or she took it, it's still wrong on her part to give out like that. I'm saying he shoulda treated her F up immediately he knew, Pronto. Whether he collects it or not is up to him.

Lemme repeat, if you're not married, don't go giving like a fool. Don't be a tool.

Thank you.

CaveAdullam:
That's the ego I'm talking about which women and society always use in exploiting men. But to be sincere, maybe your guy got feelings for that girl, the reason he never deliberated much on the jacket after he lose it to her.
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Thanks.

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Shey no be say I don spoil mic like this.

Whether he started having feelings is up to him. But I knew all the time she wanted him to be in a relationship but he declined. Funny thing is she still came for the D when she was in a LDR. Guy knew she was a hoe so he didn't commit.

Like you said the problem is the ego, the blue pilled mentality that you want to be seen as a gentle man especially to women. I was once like that too, thank God nature kicked in, life happened. Forget gentle for golf players, na American football be this.

Cave I need the jacket o

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MJBOLT:

I fit bet my black balls say if the roles were reversed,the girl go treat him fvck up instantly.

I remember one thread like that wey hit FP,babe see her Bobo with another girl for mall,right there the babe asked her BF to remove everything he was wearing do you know why??she bought the clothes and shoes he was wearing and demanded for it back without giving a fvck,This one happened overseas.


There's another video I saw the same scenario except it happened here in Nigeria

You never chop for their side, next thing during fight is I fed you. Fed bi bawo, Lori rice and stew, oo de rora girl yii

CaveAdullam:
Drops mic in anger... Lmaooooooooo... Lol. Just hope you're not in "sifia" pains though.

That jacket is mine!

I'm pained but not severely. Why? Because I expected more from my guy, he's not someone even guys trifle with. It's funny the things guys let ladies get away with but not guys. He'll learn sha, hopefully.

Skepticus:
I don't care about how your present stage in life or how much you have in your bank account, Never fail to treat the fûck up of a badly behaved woman in the most non-violent way possible. The only instance where moderate violence may be required is if she violates you physically or tries to hurt/kill you.

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I agree bruv. Something happened to a friend recently, my guy was having a fling with a babe in the same level for a while. Babe comes to his house and takes a jacket, guy tells her " a lot of people have already asked for this jacket including my younger sister I can't give you". Babe takes it to her house at night without guy's consent. Guy visits her more than once, realizes that she isn't even using it, just hanging it on a rope. Guy didn't talk.

Fast forward to later, guy sees a similar jacket in school on another guy, guy's surprised, tells one of his friends that that jacket looks stunningly similar to his because that friend had asked beforehand which he didn't bulge. Minutes later babe comes to greet the guy in the jacket. You know what that means, the new guy (which is in like the first level of university education) took the jacket from her place or she gave him. This is a jacket my guy really liked.

My guy told me he was astonished, bewildered, surprised, left agog, stunned, any other grammar that depicts shock abeg put am there. I asked him what he did, he said he didn't do anything because of his ego and self respect. I really vexed.

I told him point blank, this is disrespect of the highest order, totally insulting. I told him immediately he saw it he should've washed her straight up on the spot, treat her fvck up. Leave ego aside, it's infuriating. Even if he didn't get his jacket back, he shoulda shamed the shameless b*tch. Then warn her to never talk to him.

What I'd like us to take from the issue.
1. If a girl disrespects you let her know, don't condone such. It's weak, don't hide behind 'ego'.
2. Like they've said if you can take back your stuff in a better way, do. If you can't so be it. It's personal.
3. Learn to stand firm and say no if it doesn't favour you, don't fall prey to the "real men" or "stingy" or selfish gimmick. Na your money.

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Jessepaid:
hehehe...

Just tell her what she wants to hear...

Another angle...sly as a fox.

ProphetJeroboam:
Not 100% of the girls that ask this question like you, these questions are frame traps and they’re mostly designed to trap you in their frame. So be careful comrades.

True comrade... true

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I don't know who the prophet up there is but he's a prophet of the redpill
Normalize calling out disrespect and bullshit. Don't allow such in the name of friendship or girlfriend, boys have worshiped them so much they think they can do anyhow. Show her you're not like other boys.

Names you'll hear wicked, stubborn, mean, strict, you're not sweet. My male friends even know "mi o gbadun" . I call out nonsense, pack your shit...I don't condone it

Give people a mile and they'll get to the moon, humans in general. TRP isn't restricted to women.

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ProphetJeroboam:
Example of a woman’s shit test.

Q: You don’t have time for me anymore, I’m sure you’re spending time with your other girls.

Feel free to quote with an answer.

Q: You’re lucky I agreed to go on this date with you.


Q: I know you’re just going to break my heart like the previous guys.

Q: You can’t handle me.


Q: How do I know you really like me.

More questions as we go on.

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My answers to the test

1. Yes o, there are many fishes in the ocean. Why should I stress over your Shawa?
2. Abeg gettat (In brainjotter's voice)
3. With a seductive smile, it's one of my talents. this particular question makes a lot of guys simp like mad.
4. Pele, steering trailer.
5. Don't stress me.

A girl that asks all these questions already like you... don't stress yourself over nothing.

I forgot to drop the mic

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NeroStealth01:
Long live the preachers of the REDPILL.

#TAKETHEREDPILL
#STAYREDPILLED
#STAYCOLD

Chilled drink of your choice for you boss. Spoke exactly what I said on it, exactly my mind boss. Guys shouldn't use gifts as a relationship tactic.

Tonnyray:
Pretty skewed narrative here and it's sad.

People overly invest when they feel comfortable in the relationship forgetting about common sense. I dig you boss

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On giving gifts.

An English dictionary actually said : A gift: something giving to another voluntarily, without charge (force).
In other words nobody send you to give gift. Them no force you. Give what you can afford, and afford to lose.

Guys giving expensive gifts to girls is a tactic used to tie a girl down and make her owe him. He thinks she owes him her loyalty, her time, sex.

Funny story, guy buys his girlfriend gifts on her birthday, then he tells her about it all and tells her he expects her to do normal and be loyal (trying to tie her down with gifts). You wanna know what happened next? Girl tells to list all what he bought , including their prices and send them to her attached to them his account number. She'll return the amount he spent, add extra, and give him transport fare. (I'm joking about the transport fare ) . And she broke up with him; girl wasn't hungry fam, she was well to do.

What I want to emphasize is that a gift should come from the heart, a reward for something done or to show appreciation or love, not a low tactic of tying someone to you. The idea of gifting for favors work on hungry and greedy girls of nowadays, it's what is practiced now.

If you want your gift back as a guy, make it known that it's not a gift, you borrowed the lady/ person, when you need it you'll have it back. It speaks lowly for a man to be dragging what he called a "Gift". Disguising gifts with attachments reeks of insecurities, you're not man enough to ask for what you really want without disgusing.... that's Mr nice guy for you.

Give from your mind, don't attach conditions to it, attaching conditions mean you're using the gift as a payment for some sort of sex or relationship. We know where this path leads to.

Addendum: Don't give all the time, give gifts sparingly. It makes it special and important and doesn't make the other party entitled to your generosity.

Also it's rude for someone to give out your gift, let them know.

This is just an opinion, I'm open to disagreements.

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Ninejaywon:
@lightheaded You are spitting some real shits right there.
Nice one.

I hail boss

Tonnyray:
Great post dude..
I sure love me some humor.
And the points surmised are accurate. For a guy in his very early 20's your guy's mistakes are pardonable though.
For the honest ones among us there was that one babe that made us clueless and weak in the knees at some point.
Once again, great post.

My guy isn't actually going back to her, bro is just in distant friendship mode, it's the girl that's actually clinging. He's just a good guy.
Man said he isn't entering a relationship till further notice, just vibes and food. . Gracias boss

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I just had to laugh because something funny happened recently.
This is for the young ones without much experience.
Story time... Take a seat y'all, cold kunu dey for freezer.


A dude of mine dated one fresh sumptuous chick like this, I'd say she's a 9 out of 10 boys, the curves and edges are at the right places. I no go lie the babe set, she enter my eye but I don't do my friend's package/ exes. My guy didn't spend money in getting this babe, I'm talking about a babe that can turn heads and make you know who guys pay. Neither did he spend a dime in keeping her (shey all of us wey sapa hold like criminal well police hold for waist ). They've done the kissing and blah blah, but didn't go beyond that. Boy wasn't up to the task of going beyond the first base, he always had cold feet. Long story cut short, they broke up. Why? She had the behaviors young girls exhibit, they just want some useless attention. Plus he lost the feelings he had, according to him sha. I told my guy you shoulda just lashed her maybe once or twice, because she wouldn't respect you if you didn't. Funnily I was correct, girlfriend claimed bro was too "holy" . Me looking at bro like... didn't I tell you.

Fast forward to some days after the break up, girl is already in a relationship, me looking at my guy and smiling like, she was already with the guy before una break up. Despite the break up, she didn't let go of bro, the calling, messaging. I'd usually taunt him about his relationship . Last last they stayed friends close but not close sha, but friends.

Fast forward again, guy told me reliable source told him, she's cheating on her boyfriend. me laughing like, this coulda been you bro. Your holy must have paid you cos you dodged this breakfast. How did we know she cheated? Now, she's feeling down cos the side d*ck isn't giving her the attention he did cos he's now focusing on his relationship after chopping and clean mouth. I mean how could he ??!!!

Fast forward to recently, ring ring... babe's like it's urgent I wanna see you (not me... bro). I'm like bro be careful, it's late at night, don't stop being holy tonight man . Me to my other friend, her boyfriend broke up with her she needs bro to lean on.

About an hour later, bro returns from his journey. Guess what guys... Wait for it... wait for it... Yeap, the sage was correct. Babe just melted and was crying immediately bro got through the door, bro didn't even ask what was up. He just became the shoulder to cry on, he couldn't even talk . Bro came back and told us about the not so cryptic message boyfriend posted on his status some days back..."Boyfriends, don't think you're the only one servicing your babe"... Not the exact words, but you get the drift. Bro acted like he didn't know. Whether they've broken up now I don't know, but abeg have they broken up?
I sha told bro to establish a lean on me company, seems it's a discovered talent.

POINTS I'D LIKE US TO TAKE FROM THIS
1. Attraction is non-negotiable, you don't need money to get a babe that likes you, especially when you're young. It clouds the genuine attraction.
2. Don't make a babe your point of origin, make sure you are. You see babes will leave babe will come, yourself will still remain.
3. Know that most young girls of nowadays just want to shedibalabala . Unserious lot, they'll want to settle down after frolicking around ( emi gan unseriousness ) . Sha know it's not me , maybe it's you they'll settle down with. Yeee!!! Who threw that? (Disclaimer: I said most)
4. Be ready for the worst and hope for the best in modern day relationships, or better still do your due diligence and know what you're involving yourself in.
5. "Brothers since I was born an now I am growing old, I have never seen a girl break up to become single, brothers have you seen?" ....Chorus... In other words, girls branch swing.
6. Men shouldn't be emotional in relationships, you'll just kill yourself before your time. You displease yourself to please others, now they have left you.
7. Leave the emotions to women, it's their thing. They are driven by it, they are fickle, susceptible to whoever can add turbulence to those still waters.

I knew it'd be a long read, however if you read this far. Bravo, extra kunu for you .

I said you people should welcome me una no even talk, no be so dem dey do am o, because I just registered... toor. And to that guy that welcomed me... thanK you.. Two more kunus for you.

I'd just like to share any stories I can lay my hands on or experience first hand cos that's what life is for. Experience is the best teacher after all, so they say.

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CaveAdullam:
Let me drop this here for those screaming amoral up and down; alpha fvcks beta bucks, and other plausible talks.

If you still don't get this and the nuances implied...sigh!

Rational male volume 4, Rollo Tomassi.

Thanks boss for reminding us about this. Nothing is set in stone in summary right. I heard amoral so much I thought it was the name of one Spanish girl like that.

TheUndercover:
Sure, I understand. The thing is that, typing isn't really my thing and I get bored and tired easily when typing but I'm working on it. I might not create another thread for it. It will be posted on this thread when I'm done. It will enable us rub minds together on the topic.

As they say, no one has the monopoly of knowledge, as long as you're alive, you just have to keep an open mind and continue learning. Thank you.

All the better should it be on this thread, it's exactly what I was looking forward to.

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Testing one two. Ahem. Those at the back can you hear me? If you can't, please just come forward, aomine, Martinez sir, no dey block road nah. It's like this mic is not working properly today
I read about the boss that planned to out of his magnanimity decided/ is deciding to give out his seed to the unsuspecting boyfriend of one of his flings. This writeup is just an opinion, so I'll just lay out some points and we can decode our stance.

1. It's very hard to be logical all the time, heck even harder when it has to do with morality, this leads us to get emotional when it challenges our beliefs. We've been aware of the alpha fvcks beta bucks mode of operation, the highest we do is wail about women and laugh at simps, but surprisingly when a guy who's in the redpill fold wants to enact it, we come for his head. Why's that? You at the back yes... "Morality" Let's calm down on the screaming, abi the boyfriend is here ni ,bros abeg make sure the boyfriend is not here, e get why. We still have morality in us despite the drills, heck I can't get rid of my morality... Yeee!!! who threw that 33 bottle?
So question is : Does TRP ask us get rid of our morality?

2. Choices: I thought sex was consensual, both parties signed to be in the deal, albeit maybe not on a piece of paper. The result is out and one party is being blamed. She opened knowing the consequences, he ejaculated into her knowing fully well what his semen can do. Mans went skin dipping. They both made the decisions, they'll both figure it out.

3. TRP: As much as game and spinning plate a major category in TRP,has TRP advocated us to sleep with every girl on sight or bvng without remorse? I don't know, but development of one's self comes at the detriment of certain pleasures. Let's not make a mountain out of a molehill, bvnging 200 chicks is not an achievement abeg, will it ever? I don't know, King Solomon might enlighten us. This is a reference to a sentence boss said. Different folks different strokes though.

4. Putting one's self first: This is one of the gray areas of TRP in my opinion, I'm open to correction. As much as many can claim TRP, we're still subjects to societal norms and values. Putting one's self first is on a personal level. To make it through society, you' might put others first especially when you're not in a position of power, in order to scale through; which introduces us to Mach... (complete it). As long as you're not bound by society or you experience a certain degree of freedom you're free.

5. Never trust a hoe right. This says a lot about the situation. Someone's about to father a son that isn't his, someone said. Says a lot obout someone.

This isn't the first time it's happening, neither will it be the last. My special POV/ opinion is if boss knows the seed is his and the lady insists on keeping it, claim your kid or take care of the kid in anyway you can. Don't yield to unhealthy pressure. Nobody is charging you with child support ( if na overseas you dey... sorry o, now they have left you).

TRP is amoral we say, when we're been hit with the other end of that stick, I hope we'lll be able to accept it with our full chest because we're now exposed and should be logical.

Authority: I feel like a boss using that word . Try as much as possible not to be at the end of that stick, don't be the unsuspecting husband or fiance. Know what they give you; don't swallow hook, line and sinker.

A Robert once said : The problem is God gives man a brain and a p3n1s and just enough blood to make one function at a time. ...Learn to control your second head guys.

It might not be a really coherent writeup but I hope we can get the drift.

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TheUndercover:
- Friendship with women. (How to use women to get what you want).

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Great job Undercover. TRP (the one preached) has been an advocate of abstinence from female friendships (platonic) due to obvious reasons with the major being disrespect and zoneships (friendzoneship, brotherzoneship, bestiezoneship, shawarmazoneship and the likes). I'd suggest/ plead that you write on this topic extensively if you can. It'll go a long way in clearing some misconceptions about interactions with the other gender. I'm looking forward to reading it. Holla when it's done boss.
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Jimmy17:
Okay thanks... what version is that mine is not working anymore

https://www.pdfdrive.com/the-book-of-pook-with-indexed-contents-e158427207.html. Here's one, although PDF

Jimmy17:
I'm seeing multiple version of the book of pook online... which is the right one?

I use a mod version of anybooks, you can search it up on Google. I don't know if sharing links is acceptable here. I'd have looked it up for you.

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Greetings. I've been following this thread since the moment Glycolysis created this page ( lemme say the first 3 pages) but I've not been enthusiastic enough to comment. I'll skip the theatrics and try to focus on some messages I want to pass, this might be a long read ( forgive me), it might be a repetition of what you've heard however treat it as a reminder. I don't see myself as the all knowing so take this as my opinion. I'll try as much as possible not to spit too much grammar, the purpose of communication is for the other party to understand. Please bear with me.

1. The redpill should be treated as a guide through the forest of intergender/ intra gender (you'll need it when relating with the same sex) relationships. You might get lost on your journey through the jungle, however the guide will show you the cues to realign to your path. The redpill is not absolute, it is not the ultimate antidote to the titular "breakfast". Anybody can eat breakfast (not that I've eaten), but remember that you can only work on yourself, not on others. Remember that anything can happen.

2. I'll be taking my perspective primarily from a student's (tertiary education) view . Other perspectives might overlap. I want us to view that picture critically, it shows a lot about the present situation of things. Hence the reason for my establishment of number 1. The rules of relationships during schooling have changed over the years, this is an evidence. More boys are getting money ( mostly by... Normal ) spending money unnecessarily and lavishly on valueless affairs, increasing thirstiness and greed from the other side. "If you can't pay, hit the hay" that should be the watchword. As a student the present situation of the country will occlude your airways if you ain't, you might develop a syncope thinking about it. Try to add value and skills to your armory. I'd have loved to say more but I don't want this to sound like a rant ( I bet it's sounding like one already ).

3. As a student focus on your life, develop connections, be social, develop sexual discipline. Some might seem contradictory up there but they are entirely different looking deeply into it. Develop your body (exercise), I repeat exercise,nothing drives them (you know them) wilder than this and live healthy.

4. I was active during the body game debate. Funny debate though. Please I'd not want us to go back to it but I'd like to drop my opinion. Every girl loves a guy with a great body, I repeat every girl. I'm not saying necessarily The Rock's body, I'm saying a well tailored, slim, chest popping, arms ripping, flat abs body. They notice, even our religious sisters , we're all sexual beings you know. However there are a lotta factors that determine what she'll need from you, her Age, exposure, finances, intellect, upbringing, environment, and other factors. In Nigeria and it's major environs, I'd say have money and body, they go hand in hand and work together. We've become overly materialistic, no girl wants to date down, so you have to uplift yourself become better, not for them but for yourself for you to enjoy life better. There's no happiness in being broke men neither is there happiness in depending on a lady for your well-being (I might be wrong). Have money and game and you can do a lot, money attracts attention, it's up to you apply game and be stingy with your resources. Know how and when to spend them.

5. I might get the stick for this but lemme say this. You can't be 100% redpilled all the time in life, even when relating with women. Life isn't like rods it's like cones ( it's a retina pun), you have to be cunning to get what you want. Why I follow TheUndercover's topic... You're a dragon man... spitting fire

I'd love to say more or rant more but I've lost time saying these few things.

There's a time/age factor to relationship and dating. Sometimes we fail to consider these in our opinions and make them seem like an absolute fact.

I love girls, they're fascinating, redpilled to the core if you ask me. But boys should be aware of these things. Those in the rage phase, I hope you come out of it successful, because if you don't I'm not sure you'll enjoy life to the fullest.

Keep the thread alive and ignore them always (you know them ). Shout out to Ubunja, CaveAdullam, Martinez39s, Aomine ( chairman you dey always shout), Pansophist, TheUndercover, Calibrator ( I see myself in you man, you might not claim redpill, which I dig. It's like attributing a name to what should feel natural) . Other contributors I couldn't mention, accept my apologies.

Please welcome me with a round of applause and chilled hollandia yoghurt.
I'm still a baby and I look forward to learning more from my bosses.

To the young ones : read the book of pook, you can skip the feminist part , but you'll get there when you're older ... Then go out there are enjoy living.

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