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fattprince:
Yeah, a girl telling you I hate you is sweet to the ear of a man it shows you are doing something right. So some times tell that girl you hate her and see how she will adjust fast ileven if she didn't chose you.

Lol, that would be taking things seriously. No go carry girl matter for head.

I'll never be found in two extremes, saying 'I love you' and 'I hate you'. That's being dramatic, leave emotions for women. There are other ways of making a lady show if she's chosen you, just withdraw the little attention you used to give and watch her display.

When a lady says "I hate you" and is nevertheless still engaging with you, it means:
I hate you because you are different from other guys and I don't get my way when I'm with you.
I hate you because you make me feel like I've never felt before and do the things I didn't think I'd do, some may even outrightly say " I never thought I'd do this",
I hate you because other guys treat me like a princess but you don't give two f*cks, You're not a nice guy.
I hate you because even though you don't care, I care and I keep coming back to you.
I hate you because you tease me too much and don't praise me.

Regardless of that, they'd still seek your attention.

Normally I just smirk and move on with the conversation, no 'why do you hate me?' crap.

She doesn't hate you, she hates herself for liking you.

kobams:
Please can someone kindly recommend books on game and how to game women

The rational male series- This is the foundation and eye opener. Read the first book before any other book.
Alan Roger Currie Mode one book series- The books are straight forward, no beating around the bush.
Book of Pook- You'll have to filter a lot, but it's a very good one.

But the most important route is self confidence and self development. And the best gaming method is the chosen method.

Calibrator:
@ your question.
Why are you bothered about how this issue is settled?


Same way, females don't care about how the material resources used to sustain a relationship are generated, you should also be less concerned about how the emotional resources are generated.



Worrying about issues in a relationship should be primarily a female job.


Relate with her as usual, she brings up drama, maintain your lane. Rinse and repeat till she either regain her senses or she walks away.


Life is too short for complicated simplicities.

Got me laughing at "bothered" though. Thanks nevertheless.

Carcholce:
You are a SIMP...

K Boss.

Calibrator:
With each explanation you typed in the screenshots.... You are only playing her game and won't be long before you go back apologising for this altercation same as always.


"Let them see your intentions from your actions, don't spell out your actions with words."

I also do the talk. Note she said she thought I'd changed.

But yea Bro, I grab. But that case of apologizing isn't going to happen. She called six times straight up, message me for not picking, I told her to call back, which she did immediately.

It's either she let's the matter die a peaceful death or she apologizes, 90% chance she let's it die. Which do you think is best?

Picks Mic

1. As a young dude, your frame has to be up, and crazy strong.
2. Don't invest in a lady who acts like a child, a spoilt child who wants you to apologize for any small thing.
3. Have options. Oneitis is a chronic disease.
4. Focus on your goals. Your goals won't move but your girls can leave.
5. Be prudent with your M.E.A.T.
6. Be careful of ladies that get angry over the smallest of issues and want to be pampered.
7. Don't pamper any girl.
8. Don't shift frame.

Those attachments are just a tip of the iceberg. This is a result of me taking another route and showing this babe too much attention, got into her head and she thinks she's arrived. There's been times I apologized for the sake of apology, be stingy with your 'sorry', it might be just words to you (they were then) but to her it sounded like another land claimed.

Men to ladies are like an enigma, something they can't fathom, a new toy to a kid, a new machine to an inquisitive engineer. But when the engineer has broken down the new machine to the tiniest cog, and finds out what makes it tick, he is free to do to the machine as he pleases. So does a kid to his old toys.

Remember, myths remain myths unless they are demystified. Stay an enigma.

The words I love hearing the most is 'I hate you', song to my ears.
Know you are the prize and act accordingly.

And will never take the blame
But your frame should be strong you know.
Show them they can never decode you totally.

Then they try to threaten you, believing you've overly invested in them and won't think of leaving them.

Picks mic.
First they try to diminish you and toy with your ego. You're not mature, you're insecure, a real man... Abeg add yours

Picks Mic

Clears throat.

Stay Chosen, don't CHASE.
Thank you.

I'd have loved to write an epistle on the idea of being chosen but contributors have dealt with it over and over again.

Note: There's a difference between chasing and cold approaching.

Drops mic.

Picks Mic

Happy New Year Bosses.
I've been an advocate of the gaming aspect of the redpill - that is ladies are for fun and fvcks nevertheless I envy the undiluted MGTOW aspect. I'd like us to analyze an event I'd be sharing, I'll make out some points, so the readers can learn one or two , and the family can make an analysis and point out the areas where improvements should be made and I'm I'll answer questions . I'm not the all knowing, so it's an open discussion I'd encourage.

I'm not a kinda person who chases women, i focus more on myself look out for the ones that show the green lights and act accordingly IF I'm interested or feel like. So I hardly keep female friends and live a secretive life (so they say).

Recently or not so recently a girl, a colleague showed some green lights, yea I shouldn't be doing colleagues but something funny triggered my move. A fellow guy told me he hasn't found me with any girl or seen me lovey lovey , he then declared that "lol, lightheaded you look all Ashewo like and have the Ashewo vibes but really you can't do shit". I just laughed about it and told myself that well seems like I've been docile for too long guess I'll have to show myself I've still got it in me. I'd shied away from gaming for a long while so I've ignored girls a lot, lemme say I'd gone MGTOW. I told him, I can be fvcking someone in the same department as we're in and you wouldn't suspect shxt.

So fast forward, girl gives me the some greenlights and I'm like well lemme just use this for practice, since I've been a bit rusty. She's one of the 'don't wear trousers or ear rings, or makeups' kinda church members, so lumping her with me in the whole class would've made a huge statement, I mean it's lightheaded we're talking about here.
Lesson 1: Girls flash green lights at whom they like, know how to discern.
No
Lesson 2: Girls don't like the nice guys, even guys don't, act appropriately.

Now after the green lights we got talking, not that we didn't before but, I'm not a talker so it was limited to class. She's close to the majority of my close friends so it'll be shocking if anyone knew anything, and I'm very private so you'll not know sh*t. Everything anyone knows about me is speculation or shady details I must have mentioned to you, or not so important things.
Lesson 3: Be stoic, the less they know about your private life the better, keep private things private.

Lesson 4: As a gaming red-piller, it'll do you no good to be loud, learn to keep things secret, that's one thing girls look out for, they have a reputation to keep. Do well to assist them.

Fast-forward to later, I visited her place some times,get talking. I'd seduce her with my eyes, we'd almost start making out and then she'd stop. , I already knew what's up. I'd just leave after each occurrence, well as a patient and calm guy, i didn't make a fuss about it. I ain't forcing nobody, because it's all a game. Now she didn't want to come to my place because I and my closest guys stay at the same lodge, remember reputation.

So I switched up, pulled out the pull and push(dread) game, became colder, almost ice cold. She could only get annoyed, but then two can play the game my dear, you've already invested in your affection in me and the least you can do is try to get your returns(you'll know the returns soon ). Told her we'd see this week,last time of chatting was early December, enough tension built up, so I took an evening break and went to see her.

Got there, the initial chit chat blah blah blah, got over it and invited her to the bed, first she started the normal I'm shy shit, ,she asked what I wanted ,told her she's pretentious,she knew what I wanted, she said I should say it. Me: let's start by making out (normally, I didn't need to spell it out for girls before they got the cue) , didn't take long we're already making out, Na hin mama start dey form I'm shy lol. I just pause, wetin sup again o.
Conversation started,as I had expected:

Her: Why's my heart beating fast, is this normal?
Me: My heart's beating slow, there's nothing wrong with me, probably you, and I see nothing wrong with this.
Her: This is awkward.
Me: (Already knowing wetin sup, getting disinterested), what's awkward.
Her: I don't know (Intense thinking)
Me: (This will be interesting)
Her: Are we friends
Me: Yes we are friends
Her: I can't be doing this to all my male friends
Me: , are you saying you do this with all your male friends? Or you want to do this with all your male friends?
Her: No that's not what I'm saying
Me: What are you now saying?
Her: I can't be doing this with a friend
Me: Oh, you mean you want to do this with more than a friend, because we doing this means we're more than friends.
Her: Ooooh, you're confusing me
Me: Lol, it's not confusing, you want this to be with lemme say your boyfriend,
Her: Something like that.
Me: So you want me to be your boyfriend before we can do this.
Her: No nah
Me: I'm not ready to be anyone's boyfriend, and I don't believe in the aspect of me being a girl's boyfriend before I can get intimate with her.(My hand already away from her waist)
Her: I know you don't want to be someone's boyfriend, that's not what I'm saying.

Awkward 5 minutes silence.
Broke the ice, told her it's good she knows what she wants, and told her "I suggest we don't meet behind closed doors, because we'll get intimate", so we're limited to meeting only in school and the normal good day greetings, no more chit chat.

Lesson 5: She wanted my attention all along which I knew, hence why she withdrew midway all along but I was still in frame and I saw it miles away ( that's her returns for her investment), logic over emotions.

Lesson 6: Know what you want and don't deceive to get laid, if it's a no relationship set-up let them be aware, there's nothing good in lying about it, be disciplined.(Coming from me )

I just decided to give her the courtesy of spending some minutes with her, because it might be the last she might see me at her place. Listened to her chat without paying attention my mind only on going back home mhen. It was dark and she says,"please stay for like 30 more minutes, I'll be the only one in the room, let's talk"
My reply, "You were alone before I came to visit and I didn't come here to talk" , comman open door lemme be going, I don grab key....

Lesson 7: Don't keep friends with ladies if you're not benefitting from it or will not benefit from it. Be wise.

Lesson 8: After rejection (although I rejected this covert proposal), move on, no need orbiting. Maintain frame always.

What I know is this, she'll want to keep me around as friend, which will be impossible, she'll want me more because I'll withdraw the already little attention I once gave, and intermittently eye seduce her in class to keep her on her toes. It might sound wicked, but I'm a cold guy, and no one knows about what transpired toll now.And I can say I fulfilled my self challenge, I felt rusty but this blade can still cut cleanly. I'm all about myself, with a little gaming IF time and chance permits.

Final lesson: AWALT, maintain frame.

This is open for analysis, any shortcomings, any lag or where I could've done better to get better results or any lessons that can be learnt is welcome. Please if you want to quote, don't quote the whole post, it's too long.

So yesterday after a hiatus I wanted to catch a lighthearted cruise and the 'future' didn't disappoint.

Brothers focus on yourselves, e get why.
Whatever Olamide said in Zazu, ...Daaju, kala, ranju, ma ṣe transfer.

Hypergamy will never disappoint, it may differ according to societies but it's the same hypergamy. Have a fruitful year bros.

It's funny how guys let ladies walk over them under the guise of real men. Lol, as much as groping the other sex is considered sexual harassment, when it's done to you, you should just look the other way innit.

A baby girl in my class likes touching guys ass, chest, can go as far as the nuts. She's been doing it with other guys, they've been like that's how she is, lol. She gets to my turn and does it, I give her one warning, you're trying to bite more than you can chew, I'm not like other guys that'll roll over and tell you to stop, next time I'll reciprocate and I don't care if it's in public. Next time it happens, I do mine back, grab her ass as well. Everyone's like Lightheaded you're bad, lol, she did it first and none of you were complaining or were y'all blind. Since then baby girl knows she does it she gets it back. Her friend touched my chest ( it's wide) and I told her don't try it again because I don't care if you're a worker in church I'll reciprocate, sexual harassment is sexual harassment.

Ladies that try to touch guys on the chest sexually, grab your ass or handle guys sausages know what they are doing, as long as you didn't do it first and gave a stern warning, I don't see anything wrong in returning the favor when she steps out of line once more. To me this is a shxt test, and a lot of guys don't pass this. I don't expect a girl to just stand up and touch a quiet guy like me in some places, there's something she's looking for, and if she does it in public without me initiating it, I'll warn her first and if it recurs I'll definitely return the favor.

CAPSLOCKED nothing do you, after the warning she knows she should have backed down but they'll always try to test your spine. Yours is diamond solid man.

Jessepaid:
Hehehe.....


If we men don't have each other back then what are we really doing?

When I was telling these guys I be like enemy...


Like person wey wan pour sand for garri..


Now them don dey see the truth...

Like play like play it happens and they look at you like, and you told me so o. But they won't listen until they are bitten again. Then a bit of sense will develop.
Happy weekend Bro... although it's almost over

Jessepaid:
hehehe....


A friend of mine was doing this...


The girl cheated on him and got pregnant for another guy...


He caught her pants down in another man's house...


He took pics of her unclad and sent directly to her father...





Don't simp biko...

There are levels to simping I must admit. This your friend own loud, but I must especially commend you for sticking with him.

https://www.nairaland.com/6881129/asked-cant-parent-provide-basic


An example of "sunk-cost fallacy". When you head into a relationship with money flying around, you just started what you can't finish.

Some said he should marry her so that his "investments" won't waste, it sounds like sarcasm to me.

A red-piller shouldn't even be in this situation from the get-go.

MJBOLT:

Messi's output this season is low o
Wetin dey happen na

It's not only his output, but you need to factor in the output of those around him, the position he played in recent times in PSG especially with Di Maria and Mbappe in the Front line meant he'd assist more, but then they've been a bit wasteful or probably unlucky. He could've easily had 2 to 3 assists the last game against Nice. He'll get back into his stride soon, not the first time he's had a rough start to a season.

heartofcity12:
Know this and know peace. Stick to the rule no matter how rare you feel this kind of women are, you’ll get yours, eventho broke girls are all over. It’s high interest or nothing, that’s the standard. #trp

Jordan Peterson had this to say, "Friendship is a reciprocal arrangement....", if this is friendship what more of intimate relationships. High interest it must be or nothing.

darkelf:
Nice write up
I sure learnt a lot

I'm glad you did man.

CaveAdullam:
DAY 336, REDPILL 2021

"I don't know what came over me".

"I didn't even know when he pulled me close".



Authority: dump her!

Lol, the summary of the incident I shared a while back. How I wish I could share this, but salvation is of the Lord.

Men, don't accept a cheat, it happened once means it can happen another time. Okafor's law is a law of nature.

Entering into a serious romantic relationship means you should set boundaries, rules and define the relationship. Is it a one time thing? Is it FWB? Is it a long term thing? Is it just friends? Irrespective of what you want, define the boundaries of the relationship and when she steps out of line, just shove her out.
Does this sound harsh, probably but setting boundaries is one part you shouldn't take lightly.

An example : A mutual female friend likes disrespecting my friends, but my friends don't talk. I just observe yeah. So on a fateful day, after a church service, while waiting for my friend, she comes and put a nylon wrapper in my breast pocket. Surprised, I look at her without saying a word. Then she said "...will you now beat me?" As a redpilled gentleman that I am, Internal smile activates, I just took out the nylon wrapper signalled to my guy that I'd be leaving, didn't utter a word.

Now I'm a jovial guy, but everyone knows I have boundaries I set, even with my gees. She comes to visit my friend, I just say my greetings to her and continue interacting with my friend alone, no hard feelings. Just no talk with her. This went on for weeks until she came to my friend asking him if she's offended me. Me looking like, what offense, not at all. She apologized extensively and I went on with my day.

Since then she knows what to do and what not, I've shown her they are some things I don't overlook. She can do it with other guys but I don't take it. The recently funny thing was how she was really seriously apologizing for wasting my time (in seconds) lol, I know what would have happened with my other guys. See finish no good sha.
I say this often to people even if we dey press buttons no mean sey make we no sabi wetin we dey do. Man I don't take boundaries lightly. People say I form hard guy a lot, omo leave my hard guy alone, it's better than being disrespected.

The thing is shxt tests can be done consciously or unconsciously by ladies to test your frame, now when you get tested the first time and pass, they fall back, gather reinforcements then bring another, you pass it then they know better (even though they can try it another time). But when you fail the first, then subsequent ones come at faster paces, till you ain't shxt anymore. Now my friend, that's see finish.

When you forgive a cheating mate, especially without any fuss, you just showed them the cheating express and they know you'll be there waiting for them to forgive them. Just let her go and move on.

Danycrusoe:
I stayed up all night to catch up with this thread since my last time of contributing, boy was it worth it. Every single thing discussed is what I have seen and experienced and still experiencing in one way or the other.



I'll keep practising my game even as I try improving myself. I'll like contributions from the wisemen gurus.

Go ye and prosper.

manny99:
Pls house I need your candid advise.
There is this girl I met newly in our office. She has always been around me all the time. We do our work together atimes she even assist me.
She has introduced me to most of her friends that I am her boyfriend. All this while, after work, I don't call her even days she did not come to work. So she complained that I don't call her that she is the only one doing everything.

Bro, for you to even come here it means your frame is shifting. Keep at it man, don't fall for the reverse psychology, she's trying to reel you in to make you confess your feelings by making you jealous....Ma phor guy.

Ignore her man, don't give two phucks, she'll come around eventually when she's gets to know her bait didn't work. I'm guessing you don't usually mingle with other ladies in your office or she's the one who gives you the most attention. If you related with a lot of girls (or she knew you had a lot of options) , she won't try this shxt test. It's a guess, I might be wrong. Keep frame Bro, stay red.

Tonnyray:
Oga you go join queue o.. Some of us don book appointment teytey.

Tonny Can I Pm or not?

Tonnyray:

not shocked per se. I've been seeing it in your first posts right from when you talked about your days in UI as a medical student, and you know medical students also include Nurses, Physiotherapists and the likes. The MB part 2 confirmed my suspicions.

I'll like to send you a PM, I'll make it sooner than later Boss. I want to learn from you. I think Jeroboam is also a Medical Student.

Cave I'm coming for you too.

Tonnyray:
I actually missed this, apologies for the late response. Men have only ONE major distraction: Women/Sex/Yansh/Pussy.. whatever you wanna call it. I call it the curse of testosterone. Women are however not distracted by men. They are far more purpose oriented, the purpose mainly being their welfare and wellbeing (and of course that of their progeny when they start breeding).

Case in point I had a reading partner while in med school who cornered me to just herself cos she saw me as being highly intelligent. Pretty, curvy and intelligent chick but somehow insecure of her academic prowess. .

Boss, are you a Doctor?

CaveAdullam:
Women don't want to be associated with failed men, hence, they always seek for the best. However, since hypergamy got two sides it must fulfil it. That's why even though Richard got a bad reputation as a philanderer, a talkative, a bad boy, fulfil

Lightheaded, I have entered your zone. Lol!

Boss, which zone is that?

ichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] That's why I love the redpill... You get to see the shyte in slo-mo before it hits the fan...Why did Jasmine tell Gerard? Because she sees Gerard as a beta orbital and whatever Gerard thought they had together was nothing less than horseshit...I think you should let Gerard be, he's already in simp hell as it is...And yeah, you see that smooch thing Richard had with her?? She was actually f**ked....With Buruntashi, if I put my imagination to 'good' use.[/color]

Chilled beer for you comrade, who knows if she was twisted and turned. I told Christian don't believe that shxt, you don't know what actually happened.

I've said it before it's not my job to save anybody, if you can't reason how I do and my little advice, then simp away.

Tonnyray:
My own Jasmine...
Churchgirl format no work on this dude so she don ready to switch mode and drop the goodies.
Egbe oshi

Jasmine waiting for Alladin the bad guy to take them out of the palace and show them the world.

ProphetJeroboam:
Times without number I have seen girls say “I hate that guy, he’s such an asshole, he thinks every girl likes him and he thinks he can fvck any girl he wants” , the interpretation of this being “That guy has been with lots of girls, he has his way with women and I am frustrated that he hasn’t found me attractive enough to flirt with” , 10/10 times this girl will be receptive to the playboy’s advances because it is in the nature of women to want what other women want. If a girl says “I hate that guy, he’s such an asshole” , she wants that guy’s attention.

100% what's up.