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SirMichael1:
Lol... She likes amebo too.

Why didn't you tell him to post it in the right section but instead threatened to ban him?? The power of a mod.

Why are you contradicting your self ? Why not just passed by and not even type a pin ?

akaahs:
If to say this story na real, I ll comment but since its a fiction from desperate bloggers, in short let me come nd b going

A member of my team had been under performing for a while . I was worried because,prior to this time,she was one of the star performers of our team. As the head of department and team lead,I was getting worried. She was not getting more accounts and she seemed a little distracted at work. After about a month of watching Kene's behavior,I decided to call her and speak with her.

She came into my office. I asked her to sit down and tell me what was wrong. She said she had no idea what I meant. So I explained that her performance was giving me cause for worry but she said there was no problem,she would work on it. I asked her if everything was ok in the home front,she said yes.

Kene is a young woman who got married to her boyfriend last year,I think around September. We all attended the wedding from the office. Anyway,if there was anything wrong with Kene in her marriage,it didn't show but her performance was clearly not impressive anymore.

A few days later,I came into work around 9.30am and called for a quick briefing with my staff. I noticed that Kene was not around. When I asked,everyone said she had not come in. We tried her phone line and she didnt answer.
After the meeting,I didnt hold back,I came down hard on her for coming late,even after our discussing a few days ago about her performance. I went on talking about how frustrating it was to see her performance at work begin to slid downwards. I went on and on,rebuking her. Eventually,she couldnt hold back,she broke down and started crying. I was shocked. I stopped talking at that point and was a bit ashamed that I had made her cry. But she went on to say she was sorry about everything but that she was going through so much at the moment in her marriage. I knew it!..Or I sensed it. I asked her what the problem was but all she could do was shake with sobs and tears. I just got up at that point and held her. I started to comfort her and tell her it was ok. Seeing that we were in the office,I asked her to clean up her eyes and get back to work,that we would talk later.

owards close of work that day,I asked Kene to meet me at a restaurant close to our office so we could talk away from the prying eyes of others in the office. When Kene came,we both sat down and ordered drinks. Its not un-usual for us to have one or two bottles of beer among my team members in this restaurant after work hours.

Kene began to narrate how miserable she was in her marriage. Apparently,she had married a serial womanizer. Her husband was not being faithful and he was also beating her. she found out on her wedding night,that he was texting another woman. After she moved in with him,she found out that several women were sending s*x messages and pictures (videos inclusive)to his phone. She confronted him and that was the beginning of their issues. He would get angry with her for confronting him and beat her. She didnt believe this was the same sweet guy she courted for almost two years and married in a very lavish wedding ceremony.

She said in order for her to have peace,she decided to stop confronting him about his affairs. But what happens recently is that,he now comes back drunk from his side chicks and wants to forcefully sleep with her.When she resists,her beats her and rapes her.

At that point,I couldnt believe what I was hearing. It was shocking that this young lady has been going through hell since last year and no one knew. I asked her why she didnt tell anyone. She said she had told her parents and pastor. Her pastor advised her against leaving the man,that God does not like divorce. Her parents want her to leave the man. She on her side is ashamed that her marriage is less than six months and is already heading to hell.

I counselled her and told her that she needed to get help. I told her she has options,get separated and see how she can get help for her marriage. She was apparently too traumatized and afraid to even take any step. With all these conversations,we had had more than enough drinks. It was too painful. I was in rage. I guess we both wanted to drown our pain in alcohol.

After drinks,I offered to drive her home as it was apparently not safe for her to drive or even out her in an Uber that could take advantage of a drunk young woman. So I offered to take her home. Thankfully,I had my Driver. So we drove out. Half way through to her place,she fell asleep in the car. At that point,I knew I couldnt take her home in that condition. I was confused.. If I took her home,what if her husband decided to attack her again especially now that it was obvious she was drunk?

At that point,I called my friend for advice. James advised me to lodge Kene in a hotel that night. I though that was a brilliant idea. I then asked my driver to take us to a hotel used sometimes by our company. We got a room for her and helped her up. I told the hotel management to take care of her and I left that night around 11.30pm.

Around 6am,Kene called me and told me she was awake. She thanked me and went home to change. I asked her to take the day off to get some rest.

After work that day,I got back home around 8pm to meet kene on my door

http://livelystones.com.ng/the-affair-made-her-happy-again-but-the-cost-i-cannot-bear/

Can a massage really transform your s*x life?

I’m going to be honest. Sometimes at the end of the day I’m NOT in the mood. I’ve got a ton on my mind. I’m often tense, because I’ve got lousy posture and I don’t work at a desk (it’s my own fault; I’ve tried to remedy it, but I can’t. Or won’t). I grind my teeth at night which gives me jaw pain and headaches and neckaches.

And often I haven’t taken time to BREATHE during the day. I work all day, and at night I’m working on knitting this gorgeous shawl for Katie’s wedding, and so when night comes around, I haven’t actually sat still and just focused on breathing or on relaxing. Even if I had a great day, it doesn’t mean that my brain isn’t going at a million miles a minute.

Can a massage really transform your s*x life?

I’m going to be honest. Sometimes at the end of the day I’m NOT in the mood. I’ve got a ton on my mind. I’m often tense, because I’ve got lousy posture and I don’t work at a desk (it’s my own fault; I’ve tried to remedy it, but I can’t. Or won’t). I grind my teeth at night which gives me jaw pain and headaches and neckaches.

And often I haven’t taken time to BREATHE during the day. I work all day, and at night I’m working on knitting this gorgeous shawl for Katie’s wedding, and so when night comes around, I haven’t actually sat still and just focused on breathing or on relaxing. Even if I had a great day, it doesn’t mean that my brain isn’t going at a million miles a minute.

That’s where massage comes in, and that’s why I thought it would be great to talk about for this week.

How Massage Can Transform Your S*x Life–and Your Marriage!

A lot of us women need a good 20-25 minutes before making love to turn off our brains and concentrate on the physical side of our being–to just FEEL. I’m so much in my head that sometimes it’s hard to get out and enjoy my actual body. Massage brings me back to that.

And there’s something else, too. I was just talking to a friend about the benefits of massage on your marriage, and she said this:

“You’re touching each other. One of you’s naked. It’s not rocket science.”

I think she has a point. �



Let’s face it: It’s a little bit easy to not be naked much together. Even when we’re making love, clothes may only come all the way off right before–you know. In fact, some clothes don’t even NEED to come off, and if we’re lazy (or cold), for many they don’t. So you don’t actually get that intimacy of touching each other’s skin.

While it’s easy to argue that women need that intimacy–since women need to feel loved in order to make love, and we need to feel cherished, and we need time to warm up–men need it, too. Of course I’ve written that men need to understand how much women need pre-intimacy, but guys also need to feel close to their wives, and guys really do enjoy touching their wife’s body. Besides that, guys need to be touched, too! How many men have serious tension that just needs to be released?

Honestly, if I’m going to share just a little bit TMI on this blog (and I would never do THAT, right?), I’d have to say that massage gave the biggest boost to our s*x life.

A few years ago I was in a slump where I just could not get in the mood. But I found that when Keith gave me a massage, it helped immensely because I had that time to both mentally process things and get rid of them, and to get my thoughts focused on physical sensation rather than my to do list. Even though it took a while, Keith was pretty hooked!



Massage also gives abuse survivors a safe way to touch.

I was communicating with Emma, Denis’ wife who also works on the series, and she said that one of the things that surprised her after they released the videos was how many women were writing in saying, “this has really helped me break down some of the walls I put up from my abuse.” So many of us don’t like to be touched, or flinch when we’re touched, because of things that are done to us. But this delivers a 3-punch: First, it’s a safe touch, because it’s just massage. Second: It feels really good, which gives positive reinforcement. And third, it’s relaxing. So you’re actually able to relax when being touched, which to many is a huge victory!

But there’s even a fourth reason: you get to do the touching yourself. It’s a safe way to touch your husband for a prolonged period of time, and just enjoy his body, without feeling like it’s necessarily s*xual (though it’s likely getting there!). Again, it’s a way to break down barriers.

Just touch each other. Bless each other. Spend time naked together. It really does matter! And it can be very sensuous. Draw things out a bit. Even let your hands wander! But don’t forget the beauty of just touching each other. Sometimes we rush s*x so much that we don’t enjoy the rest of our spouse’s body, and that’s a shame. When you touch everything, and when you spend time even on the back or the legs or the arms–well, it’s like all your nerves are firing. And it’s so much more intense.

So add some massage into your s*x life. You’ll thank me, believe

http://livelystones.com.ng/massaging-exciting-secret-great-sx-life/

But its no ones fault.

This is what the lady did in the past and its nice she told him.

Where is the best place then so we visit for a wife ??

AnodaIT:
That's why I maintain that the church is the worst place to look for a wife

Club is second worst

Dear Jzhane,

Myself and Dayo have been friends for almost four years. We met during an interview. At the time,Dayo was in a relationship with another lady. I eventually got the job from the interview but Dayo and I just stayed in touch.

On my birthday,I invited Dayo to my birthday party. He came with his girlfriend,Tonia. I dont know what happened as I didnt ask but Dayo and his girlfriend broke up shortly after that time.

Dayo said that she was always jealous and quarrelsome. My friendship with Dayo took another level after that. He would spend time alot in my place. We didnt define anything,I felt we just liked to be in each other’s company. But after he and kissed,I knew things had changed. We were attracted to each other no doubt. I must say that I am happy to be in a relation with Dayo but something bothers me a lot. We have been messing around for almost seven months and Dayo has never introduced me to anyone as his girlfriend or anything. Infact,when we are in public,he tries not to show too much affection for me.

When I noticed this,I asked him about it and he said there is nothing that I am just reading too much into it. How can I be in a relationship with a guy for seven months and none of his friends or family knows I am his girlfriend? They know we are friends quite all right. But they think we are just platonic friends.

What pained me most was,we ran into Dayo’s ex at the movies once and he just said hi. When the girl looked at me like,whats going on,Dayo was like…ah,remember my friend,we attended her birthday party once? I stood there looking like a fool.

After that,I decided I had enough so I broke off the relationship. Now,Dayo is trying to come back into my life,promising me heaven and earth. He even said he will marry me but I should be patient with him. That his heart was broken so hard the last time so he is trying to be careful this time. I asked him when we are getting married and he said he has plans to marry in four years time. Hmm,I am already 32 years old. That would mean,getting married by the age of 36. That seems a little too long to wait.

What is bothering me is ....... read more

http://livelystones.com.ng/he-refused-to-acknowledge-me-as-his-girlfriend-for-seven-months/

Hello,

Adrina joined our church about three years ago. How I noticed her was the fact that she was very committed in the service departments like Ushering and First Timers department. Adrina is a very pretty young woman. It was not too long that I got to know her better.

Adrina is a very lively personality too. Very jovial and full of life. It was no secret that every young man in church eyed her. They certainly made moves but rumor had it that she was not looking for a relationship. They were rumors that she was too proud,hence she was putting off guys

Well,an opportunity came for me to work closely with her during the the last year’s Christmas programme. As a youth pastor,I was in charge of alot of dance presentations and other arrangements. Adrina came for our rehearsals. I was surprised she could dance a little hip hop too. We became friends after that. I was surprised to find out that she was not what the rumor had. She was not proud at all. If anything,she is the most down to earth lady I have ever met in my life.

The more time we spent together,the more I knew I had found my soul mate. I mean,this girl is fine,can pray like a good christian lady,can fast,can cook, can dress s*xy too. When she comes into a room,she literately lights up the entire place.

We dated for like three more months before I popped the question. I didnt want to waste time. This was a good thing. And she said yes!…That most have been the happiest day of my life. We were so happy. The church leaders appeared happy too. Every one felt this was a match made in heaven.

We began to plan our wedding for the next three months. It was then that Adrina called me to visit her as she wanted to talk to me. I gladly went to see her. I thought it was about our wedding plans. When I got to her,she told me she wanted to see tell me something. A secret she kept to herself for a long time.

My darling Adrina dropped a bombshell that day: She had been a prostitute right from the age of 15 when she went to stay with her Aunty whos husband started to abuse her. She lived with them for four years. In that four years,she worked as a house girl,s*x slave to the aunty’s husband and prostitute for her aunty’s beer palour joint.

According to Adrina,she got pregnant for one of the aunty’s client. They didnt discover she was pregnant until it was too late to abort it. Adrina ended up having a baby at the age of 19. The baby was dumped by an Orphanage home by her aunty very early one morning. Adrina was driven away from her Aunty’s place after that.

Adrina came from a polygamous home. Her mother left her father,herself and her two brothers when they were eight very young. Her step mothers didnt care so when her father;s sister took her to Jos,she thought she was going for a better life.

My dear Adrina had been through so much in life yet she looked so sweet,innocent and fragile.

Adrina said that she left her Aunty’s place to Lagos. She ran away with traders in a lorry that traveled down to Lagos. In lagos,to make ends meet,she started to sleep with men as that was how she knew to make money. But less than a year of doing that kind of business,she met.......read more

http://livelystones.com.ng/how-do-i-cope-with-the-dark-secrets-she-told-me/

Dear Lively Stones,

Adrina joined our church about three years ago. How I noticed her was the fact that she was very committed in the service departments like Ushering and First Timers department. Adrina is a very pretty young woman. It was not too long that I got to know her better.

Adrina is a very lively personality too. Very jovial and full of life. It was no secret that every young man in church eyed her. They certainly made moves but rumor had it that she was not looking for a relationship. They were rumors that she was too proud,hence she was putting off guys

Well,an opportunity came for me to work closely with her during the the last year’s Christmas programme. As a youth pastor,I was in charge of alot of dance presentations and other arrangements. Adrina came for our rehearsals. I was surprised she could dance a little hip hop too. We became friends after that. I was surprised to find out that she was not what the rumor had. She was not proud at all. If anything,she is the most down to earth lady I have ever met in my life.

The more time we spent together,the more I knew I had found my soul mate. I mean,this girl is fine,can pray like a good christian lady,can fast,can cook, can dress s*xy too. When she comes into a room,she literately lights up the entire place.

We dated for like three more months before I popped the question. I didnt want to waste time. This was a good thing. And she said yes!…That most have been the happiest day of my life. We were so happy. The church leaders appeared happy too. Every one felt this was a match made in heaven.

We began to plan our wedding for the next three months. It was then that Adrina called me to visit her as she wanted to talk to me. I gladly went to see her. I thought it was about our wedding plans. When I got to her,she told me she wanted to see tell me something. A secret she kept to herself for a long time.

My darling Adrina dropped a bombshell that day: She had been a prostitute right from the age of 15 when she went to stay with her Aunty whos husband started to abuse her. She lived with them for four years. In that four years,she worked as a house girl,s*x slave to the aunty’s husband and prostitute for her aunty’s beer palour joint.

According to Adrina,she got pregnant for one of the aunty’s client. They didnt discover she was pregnant until it was too late to abort it. Adrina ended up having a baby at the age of 19. The baby was dumped by an Orphanage home by her aunty very early one morning. Adrina was driven away from her Aunty’s place after that.

Adrina came from a polygamous home. Her mother left her father,herself and her two brothers when they were eight very young. Her step mothers didnt care so when her father;s sister took her to Jos,she thought she was going for a better life.

My dear Adrina had been through so much in life yet she looked so sweet,innocent and fragile.

Adrina said that she left her Aunty’s place to Lagos. She ran away with traders in a lorry that traveled down to Lagos. In lagos,to make ends meet,she started to sleep with men as that was how she knew to make money. But less than a year of doing that kind of business,she met.......read more

http://livelystones.com.ng/how-do-i-cope-with-the-dark-secrets-she-told-me/