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Please ,don't make the worst mistake of your life.

z11111:
My name is Sandy. I am 32 years old. I been in and out of relationships and none of them actually worked out . The last one where I was with this guy for almost two years ended when I found out the guy was dating me and engaged to another girl. The relationship ended just before the close of last year. I was very heartbroken and bitter. I made up my mind to stay off dating for at least six months.

This year, a young man was recently transferred to the Marketing department of my company. I am in HR. His name is Andrew. He is very handsome and dresses very well. We got talking and everything is cool. Just before valentine,he asked me what my plans for val was. I told him no plans cos I was not dating. On valentine's day,he asked me out. I asked him what about his wife. He said,he is not married. I then asked about his wedding ring on his finger. He replied that its a long so. He said he would tell me about it on the date. So I agreed.

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My name is Sandy. I am 32 years old. I been in and out of relationships and none of them actually worked out . The last one where I was with this guy for almost two years ended when I found out the guy was dating me and engaged to another girl. The relationship ended just before the close of last year. I was very heartbroken and bitter. I made up my mind to stay off dating for at least six months.

This year, a young man was recently transferred to the Marketing department of my company. I am in HR. His name is Andrew. He is very handsome and dresses very well. We got talking and everything is cool. Just before valentine,he asked me what my plans for val was. I told him no plans cos I was not dating. On valentine's day,he asked me out. I asked him what about his wife. He said,he is not married. I then asked about his wedding ring on his finger. He replied that its a long so. He said he would tell me about it on the date. So I agreed.

http://livelystones.com.ng/i-am-head-over-heels-in-love-with-an-almost-divorced-man/

My name is Bruno.I thanks God for your life because this your site is so impactful.
I met Rebecca several years ago, a friend connected us together. We were always going to joints to enjoy ourselves most evening after biz for the day. We have a place where we pick she and her friends, sometimes they meet us at the joint.We both like each and afterward we started seeing each regularly. I couldn’t go to university after my secondary school because of financial challenges. However, this did not deter my ambition to make it in life. I do buy and selling buying and selling. And have been managing since then.
After few months of seeing Rebecca she got pregnant for me. Because I loved, when she told me she was pregnant. I took her to see my parents and also we went to see her parent. We eventually did a small traditional where I paid her bride price. Am are still looking forward to the day we will do our white wedding until this happened.
From my small business I raised money for my wife to open a small shop for her in front of our house. Because the previous area we lived she was always fighting with our neighbor. What even annoyed me was when I heard the woman calling my wife all sort of name even to the extent of calling her a prostitute.
We moved to a new neighborhood, at that time our last baby was 7years old and the first was 11years years old. We had two boys and a girl. Once I close shop each day i try to get home early so i could be with my family. though, we where living in a two rooms face me I face you. But we were happy. I was planning moving to a bigger apartment some years back when I lost my good due to fire outbreak. Was the help of friends and sympathizers that got me back into business.
I never had any reason to suspect my wife. She had never complained. We spend beautiful time together especially on Sundays am all around, take them out. I ensure I get home straight every evening after I close shop just to be and play with my kids. They always look forward to my coming home as I also buy them gifts. So I was very shocked when I caught my wife with another man on our matrimonial bed.
That fateful day, my neighbour who had privy that the young man been sneaking into my house once my kids and I are off had informed me on phone about his observation. He actually told me his wife was suspecting but told her to mind her business, but when she said the young man was always going into the room and spend time. He was alarmed. Then, he witness it the day he was at home.
So, that fateful day. I pretended going to work, but hanged around. So after a while, the call came in, so I waited a few minutes and went home. Low and behold, as I sneaked in to the first room as they left door open to avoid suspicion. I heard my wife voice saying ....

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My name is Bruno.I thanks God for your life because this your site is so impactful.
I met Rebecca several years ago, a friend connected us together. We were always going to joints to enjoy ourselves most evening after biz for the day. We have a place where we pick she and her friends, sometimes they meet us at the joint.We both like each and afterward we started seeing each regularly. I couldn’t go to university after my secondary school because of financial challenges. However, this did not deter my ambition to make it in life. I do buy and selling buying and selling. And have been managing since then.
After few months of seeing Rebecca she got pregnant for me. Because I loved, when she told me she was pregnant. I took her to see my parents and also we went to see her parent. We eventually did a small traditional where I paid her bride price. Am are still looking forward to the day we will do our white wedding until this happened.
From my small business I raised money for my wife to open a small shop for her in front of our house. Because the previous area we lived she was always fighting with our neighbor. What even annoyed me was when I heard the woman calling my wife all sort of name even to the extent of calling her a prostitute.
We moved to a new neighborhood, at that time our last baby was 7years old and the first was 11years years old. We had two boys and a girl. Once I close shop each day i try to get home early so i could be with my family. though, we where living in a two rooms face me I face you. But we were happy. I was planning moving to a bigger apartment some years back when I lost my good due to fire outbreak. Was the help of friends and sympathizers that got me back into business.
I never had any reason to suspect my wife. She had never complained. We spend beautiful time together especially on Sundays am all around, take them out. I ensure I get home straight every evening after I close shop just to be and play with my kids. They always look forward to my coming home as I also buy them gifts. So I was very shocked when I caught my wife with another man on our matrimonial bed.
That fateful day, my neighbour who had privy that the young man been sneaking into my house once my kids and I are off had informed me on phone about his observation. He actually told me his wife was suspecting but told her to mind her business, but when she said the young man was always going into the room and spend time. He was alarmed. Then, he witness it the day he was at home.
So, that fateful day. I pretended going to work, but hanged around. So after a while, the call came in, so I waited a few minutes and went home. Low and behold, as I sneaked in to the first room as they left door open to avoid suspicion. I heard my wife voice saying ....

http://livelystones.com.ng/is-dna-test-necessary-i-am-afraid-of-what-the-results-might-be/

Serious Gobe.

Get ready to marry her or looool

liquidlove2018:
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Good day Admin,

Recently a friend told me about LS, he has that motivated me to send my story.
I completed my youth service and had to relocate to Lagos for in search of a good job and a better life.I had to put up with an uncle of mine. The process of job search was not easy. I was also very bored as I was at home most of the time waiting and hoping for a job offer. Sometimes,I would take a stroll around my area just to kill boredom.. One day,I stopped to buy something by one of the aboki’s shop around. There,I met this small very, very attractive gal. Before now, I have been noticing her in my area, our eyes have clicked a few times,she would smile at me and I would smile back sometimes. In my mind,shes just a little girl of no more than 15 or 16. So when we eventually met at the malam’s shop,she said hi…and I responded. That was when I noticed how pretty she is. My mind skipped and I told myself,she is dam too young. I paid for the pack of noodles she came to buy and left her after she said thanks.
Later that evening,Joan came to my place to see me. I was shocked. She asked me if I had a girlfriend,I said no. She asked me if she could be my girlfriend. I asked her how old are you. 16,she replied. I told her she was too young. She said,no that she was not too young and that she promise to make me happy more than any girl could. She kept visiting until one day,she was in my arms and we were kissing.
Much as I didnt want to,this 16 year old girl,who is very pretty by the way was very good at kissing and other adult play. It took all my strength not to go beyond kissing. But not for too long. After a long struggle saying no to her,I eventually agreed and had s.x with her. I found out she was a virgin,I wanted to stop but she wouldnt let me. She said I was the one to take her virginity. I was remorseful after this and wanted to stop but she kept telling me that since I had disvirgined her,I had to marry her. First,she is a minor whom I cannot marry. Secondly,she was still in secondary school. I cannot wait for her to finish school neither will I marry her at this age.
Joan didnt want to hear that I was leaving her. She threatened to harm herself if I left her. I thought she was unserious but she came to my place and asked to talk with me. I allowed her in. After coming up with the I must marry you talk,I said no,she ran to the kitchen,grabbed a knife and began to stab herself on her wrist. In shock,I tried to wrestle the knife from her but she had quite a grip. I got the knife off but not without some serious damage. There was blood everywhere. I panicked. I didnt know what to do. Here she was,fainting.
I eventually got a hold of myself,took a towel,wrapped around the wrist and carried her to the clinic down our street. At the clinic,the nurse asked what happened and I said she cut herself trying while she was cooking. Of course,they didnt ...

http://livelystones.com.ng/i-made-a-terrible-mistake-with-hernow-she-is-suicidal/

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Good day Admin,

Recently a friend told me about LS, he has that motivated me to send my story.
I completed my youth service and had to relocate to Lagos for in search of a good job and a better life.I had to put up with an uncle of mine. The process of job search was not easy. I was also very bored as I was at home most of the time waiting and hoping for a job offer. Sometimes,I would take a stroll around my area just to kill boredom.. One day,I stopped to buy something by one of the aboki’s shop around. There,I met this small very, very attractive gal. Before now, I have been noticing her in my area, our eyes have clicked a few times,she would smile at me and I would smile back sometimes. In my mind,shes just a little girl of no more than 15 or 16. So when we eventually met at the malam’s shop,she said hi…and I responded. That was when I noticed how pretty she is. My mind skipped and I told myself,she is dam too young. I paid for the pack of noodles she came to buy and left her after she said thanks.
Later that evening,Joan came to my place to see me. I was shocked. She asked me if I had a girlfriend,I said no. She asked me if she could be my girlfriend. I asked her how old are you. 16,she replied. I told her she was too young. She said,no that she was not too young and that she promise to make me happy more than any girl could. She kept visiting until one day,she was in my arms and we were kissing.
Much as I didnt want to,this 16 year old girl,who is very pretty by the way was very good at kissing and other adult play. It took all my strength not to go beyond kissing. But not for too long. After a long struggle saying no to her,I eventually agreed and had s.x with her. I found out she was a virgin,I wanted to stop but she wouldnt let me. She said I was the one to take her virginity. I was remorseful after this and wanted to stop but she kept telling me that since I had disvirgined her,I had to marry her. First,she is a minor whom I cannot marry. Secondly,she was still in secondary school. I cannot wait for her to finish school neither will I marry her at this age.
Joan didnt want to hear that I was leaving her. She threatened to harm herself if I left her. I thought she was unserious but she came to my place and asked to talk with me. I allowed her in. After coming up with the I must marry you talk,I said no,she ran to the kitchen,grabbed a knife and began to stab herself on her wrist. In shock,I tried to wrestle the knife from her but she had quite a grip. I got the knife off but not without some serious damage. There was blood everywhere. I panicked. I didnt know what to do. Here she was,fainting.
I eventually got a hold of myself,took a towel,wrapped around the wrist and carried her to the clinic down our street. At the clinic,the nurse asked what happened and I said she cut herself trying while she was cooking. Of course,they didnt ...

http://livelystones.com.ng/i-made-a-terrible-mistake-with-hernow-she-is-suicidal/

Disclaimer : These are stories we receive on daily basis from people asking us to publish on the blogs and other platform. If to you think its false ,its better you move ahead and not comment. We only amplify people stories ,we don t originate them.

Good day Admin,

Recently a friend told me about LS, he has that motivated me to send my story.
I completed my youth service and had to relocate to Lagos for in search of a good job and a better life.I had to put up with an uncle of mine. The process of job search was not easy. I was also very bored as I was at home most of the time waiting and hoping for a job offer. Sometimes,I would take a stroll around my area just to kill boredom.. One day,I stopped to buy something by one of the aboki’s shop around. There,I met this small very, very attractive gal. Before now, I have been noticing her in my area, our eyes have clicked a few times,she would smile at me and I would smile back sometimes. In my mind,shes just a little girl of no more than 15 or 16. So when we eventually met at the malam’s shop,she said hi…and I responded. That was when I noticed how pretty she is. My mind skipped and I told myself,she is dam too young. I paid for the pack of noodles she came to buy and left her after she said thanks.
Later that evening,Joan came to my place to see me. I was shocked. She asked me if I had a girlfriend,I said no. She asked me if she could be my girlfriend. I asked her how old are you. 16,she replied. I told her she was too young. She said,no that she was not too young and that she promise to make me happy more than any girl could. She kept visiting until one day,she was in my arms and we were kissing.
Much as I didnt want to,this 16 year old girl,who is very pretty by the way was very good at kissing and other adult play. It took all my strength not to go beyond kissing. But not for too long. After a long struggle saying no to her,I eventually agreed and had s.x with her. I found out she was a virgin,I wanted to stop but she wouldnt let me. She said I was the one to take her virginity. I was remorseful after this and wanted to stop but she kept telling me that since I had disvirgined her,I had to marry her. First,she is a minor whom I cannot marry. Secondly,she was still in secondary school. I cannot wait for her to finish school neither will I marry her at this age.
Joan didnt want to hear that I was leaving her. She threatened to harm herself if I left her. I thought she was unserious but she came to my place and asked to talk with me. I allowed her in. After coming up with the I must marry you talk,I said no,she ran to the kitchen,grabbed a knife and began to stab herself on her wrist. In shock,I tried to wrestle the knife from her but she had quite a grip. I got the knife off but not without some serious damage. There was blood everywhere. I panicked. I didnt know what to do. Here she was,fainting.
I eventually got a hold of myself,took a towel,wrapped around the wrist and carried her to the clinic down our street. At the clinic,the nurse asked what happened and I said she cut herself trying while she was cooking. Of course,they didnt ...

http://livelystones.com.ng/i-made-a-terrible-mistake-with-hernow-she-is-suicidal/

An Arab woman is divorcing her husband in a spat over a shawarma wrap.The husband refused to buy her the shawarma as he had already bought her juice earlier.

According to Masrawy, an Egyptian woman is in the process of divorcing her husband because he refused to buy her a shawarma wrap on top of buying her juice. The report also reveals that the couple had been married for only forty days when argument about her husband’s stinginess arose.

“We had a traditional arranged marriage, I only knew him for two months before the wedding and never noticed how stingy he was,” the woman identified as Sameeha was quoted in the report. “During the first week of our marriage, he told me that he hates going out anywhere because that would be a waste of money,” she added.

http://livelystones.com.ng/woman-ends-40-day-marriage-over-husbands-refusal-to-buy-shawarma/

loool
Bollywood indeed !!

XhosaNostra:
Like that. It sounds like a Bollywood movie.

Dear Lively Stones,

So I see you are about helping marriages abi relationships right? Lets see f you can help me with this.

My name is Frank (Not real name). My parents always wanted to control my life. They decided what schools I went to. What friends I had,etc. Because of their political positions,they kept a certain lifestyle and maintained that all their kids maintained that too. I did not like this lifestyle but I had to comply. They said it was for our own good and protection of our future.

This continued until I met a young lady in my finals at university in London. I met NK at a friend’s birthday party. She came for holidays and we clicked immediately. When I returned back to Nigeria after my program,I connected with her and we started dating. I was so in love. This was my soul mate, But right from the day my parents found out about her,they told me to end it as NK was not from a high class society family. I rebelled and fought against it but my parents would not agree. Eventually,NK couldnt take it anymore,she broke up with me. I refused to date anyone. I was getting close to 40 and my parents began to worry.

One day,they called me into a meeting and told me I had to get married or they cut me off my inheritance. I didnt have anyone I was dating so my parents arranged for me to marry their political associate’s daughter,Joselyn. I didnt like the idea but they told me to just marry her and if I liked,I could keep mistresses. I was to marry her just to have kids with her as I was not getting any younger. The day I met Joselyn,she took me to a corner and told me she is okay with the arrangee marriage. Her parents were making her do this too.She asked me if it was ok for me to keep

http://livelystones.com.ng/how-do-i-survive-this-loveless-marriage-when-my-heart-is-with-another/

Hello Everyone,

Miran and I have been friends since childhood days. We both went to the same primary and secondary school. We were also neighbors until my parents relocated to Ibadan. So naturally,I see her like my sister. Though we kept in touch but I didnt really see Miran or her family during university days. She got admission into Unjos,I went to UI.

I heard Miran got married a few years ago. I was not able to make the wedding but I was happy for her anyway. Myself,I am also married and doing well here in Lagos. So it was a joy to meet Miran at one of our childhood friends wedding in Surulere last year. We caught up on alot of things that happened over the years and exchanged phone numbers. We kept in touch on whatsapp and talked about everything from family to career to love life.

During our chats,I realized that Miran didnt like talking about her hubby. she has been married for six years and yet to have a child. I tried to respect her privacy by not asking her but I didnt hear from her for like two months last year so I kept calling. She wouldn’t respond and i was a bit concerned. I reached out to her sister who told me that Miran was recovering from injuries from an accident.I was shocked. I asked what kind of accident and was told that Miran’s husband beat her with a car jack. She almost died. I mean,I was listening and immediately raged filled me. I told Suzanne(Miran’s sister) to get Miran to see me unfailingly or I would get the police involved.

Miran called me a day later and met me at a restaurant . She poured her heart out. She was in an abusive marriage. Her husband would beat her and curse her for her inability to have a child. She tried to leave him a few times but the man would come begging and promising not to do that anymore. I told Miran to leave the man for a while so she can sort out this domestic violence thing but she said she can handle it. I tried everything to convince her but she wouldnt listen. She warned me to let her live the life she chose.

About a month later,Miran called me crying,she asked me to come get her. She was in a bus top. Apparently,she and her husband fought and she left the house in anger and fear of being beaten. I picked her up and we went to my house. My wife and kids stay in the US so I was thankful no one was around to see Miran in the state she was in. My younger brother stays with me but he was not around when Miran came around. We talked and this time I told Miran I was going to take action bit she said she wanted ...

http://livelystones.com.ng/when-a-friend-needs-your-help-to-have-a-child-to-save-her-marriage/

Tonto Dikeh took a 360-degree view of her life and talked about her sex life, drugs use, cosmetic surgery, failed marriage and motherly love for her son

Nollywood actress Tonto Dikeh has, in a new interview, revealed she will get married again but this time, she is never again going to help her man grow because she is tired of being the moneybag in her relationships.

In an exclusive interview she had with Saturday Sun/The Sun TV crew in Abuja, the mum of one took a 360-degree view of her life and talked about her sex life, drugs use, cosmetic surgery, failed marriage and motherly love for her son. Enjoy the interesting excerpts below:

http://livelystones.com.ng/tonto-dikeh-my-marriage-was-a-huge-mistakenever-again-will-i/

Yes. I noticed that too.

He should not blame the wife rather ,look out for a way to love her and help her out.

XhosaNostra:
Exactly. Also note that not even once did he say he loves her. She's better off without HIM.

Exactly.

She should take off abortion off her thought.

Though its easier said than done.

Let her give birth to the baby , raise him or her.

chivic:
I hope other ladies will learn,no guy deserves to sleep with you until after marriage. If he can't way he should get lost in sambisa forest.
Guys have gone nuclear,nowadays, they are ready to take go to the learnt of introduction just to get down,and once they are done,its mission complete.

As for you,its sad to say,but abortion could complete the plan of the devil in your life.

God bless you.
You said it all.
No one in life is void of mistake.
She just has to move on and trust God.

fancy4eve:
So sad my dear......my only advice is for u to move on wit ur life, don't even tink of taking ur lyf bcus of ur mistake, we all make mistakes, but our prayer is for we 2 learn from it nd never go back to it. Just focus on hw 2 keep nd raise ur child. Sumday karma will reach out to him ohk

If you dont believe in God ,how will you get solution ?

Godslove2018:
My heart is in pain. I feel so much pain and I dont know what to do. My fiance and I just broke up a day before valentine’s day and its all my fault…no,its not my fault,its my mother’s fault.

I am a 28 year old lady who has been through so much in life. Sometimes,I dont even want to live anymore. I want to die. Yes,I feel like dying is a better option for me. Why,because,anytime there is love in my life,no matter how much I try,I end up loosing the love.

My mother is responsible for my sad state of life. For as long as I can remember,I was abused and ruined by my mother. As young as 8 years old,my mother used me to make commercial gains for herself. I grew up in Benin in the early nineties. My mother was a restaurant owner. Or you could call her pepper soup joint owner. I was a child from her previous marriage. I was told my father died when I was two years old. My mother remarried a useless man. Johnbull was a drunk taxi Driver. Him and his friends frequented my mom’s pepper soup joint and drank their sorrows away.

At the pepper soup joint,I was abused by all kinds of men. My mother did nothing to stop the abuse. In fact,she encouraged it. Men would come to drink in our shop just to also handle me or in some cases,take me to the back and just rape me. This continued until I was sixteen. By the time,I had had at least four abortions. I was helpless and my mother beat me anytime I tried to complain. I hardly went to school either. When I was 17,I met a young man,David. He was in the Nigerian army. He came back home and we met during the christmas holiday. That was the first time I fell in love. David took me out of my mother’s shop and helped me learn how to sew . He got me an apartment and we were happy. He wanted to marry me so he went to see my mom and her drunk husband. They refused to allow David ...

http://livelystones.com.ng/i-will-never-be-able-to-find-love-because-of-my-mother/

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A lady identified as Cynthia, has recounted how she met the man she ended up marrying. According to her, while on her way traveling to Abuja for the first time, she met a man in the bus and they conversed like they had known before then.

According to the lady, at a point in their discussion she fell asleep and rested her head on his shoulder unknowingly, when she woke up and realized myself, she looked at him and he smiled and said she could sleep more.

Read what she said below;

My name is Cynthia and I met my husband on a bus while coming to Abuja 5 years ago. It was my first time in Abuja and I intended staying with my cousin in Abuja before I could start working and earning money. My cousin lived in Wuse which was my destination while my husband who is a business man lived at Kubwa.

While in the bus, we started a healthy conversation we talked about so many things and laughed as if we had known each other for a long time. At a point in our discussion I fell asleep and rested my head on his shoulder unknowingly, when I woke up and realized myself, I looked at him and he smiled and he said I could sleep more.

On getting to my final bus stop in Abuja, I called my cousin but her number was switched off I was angry. I tried so many times but I couldnt get her on call and I cried because it was my first time in Abuja and I didn’t know any place in Abuja.

My husband consoled me and told me that I could stay in his apartment for that night till I could reach my sister on the phone. I was so scared at first I refused his offer but i realized that I didn’t have any other option than to follow him because I didn’t have enough money to pay for a hotel that night. I went home with him on getting to his house he showed me a room which I slept in peacefully. I woke up in the morning and tried my sisters number again, it was available and he spoke with my cousin.

My husband directed her to his house, and she came to pick me that morning, we exchanged numbers and we talked for months and started dating. He got a job for me and in less than two years of our relationship we got married and I have a son now.

He is one of the best things that happened to me after so many failed relationships and he loves me with everything in him. I bless the day I met him in that bus.
http://livelystones.com.ng/met-married-stranger-bus-trip-abuja/

My heart is in pain. I feel so much pain and I dont know what to do. My fiance and I just broke up a day before valentine’s day and its all my fault…no,its not my fault,its my mother’s fault.

I am a 28 year old lady who has been through so much in life. Sometimes,I dont even want to live anymore. I want to die. Yes,I feel like dying is a better option for me. Why,because,anytime there is love in my life,no matter how much I try,I end up loosing the love.

My mother is responsible for my sad state of life. For as long as I can remember,I was abused and ruined by my mother. As young as 8 years old,my mother used me to make commercial gains for herself. I grew up in Benin in the early nineties. My mother was a restaurant owner. Or you could call her pepper soup joint owner. I was a child from her previous marriage. I was told my father died when I was two years old. My mother remarried a useless man. Johnbull was a drunk taxi Driver. Him and his friends frequented my mom’s pepper soup joint and drank their sorrows away.

At the pepper soup joint,I was abused by all kinds of men. My mother did nothing to stop the abuse. In fact,she encouraged it. Men would come to drink in our shop just to also handle me or in some cases,take me to the back and just rape me. This continued until I was sixteen. By the time,I had had at least four abortions. I was helpless and my mother beat me anytime I tried to complain. I hardly went to school either. When I was 17,I met a young man,David. He was in the Nigerian army. He came back home and we met during the christmas holiday. That was the first time I fell in love. David took me out of my mother’s shop and helped me learn how to sew . He got me an apartment and we were happy. He wanted to marry me so he went to see my mom and her drunk husband. They refused to allow David ...

http://livelystones.com.ng/i-will-never-be-able-to-find-love-because-of-my-mother/

If your needs are vastly different than your husband’s needs, work together to find the right balance or compromise for mutual s.xual fulfillment.

It’s not uncommon for a woman to sheepishly approach me at an event and say, “I’m one of those women you talked about who has a higher s.x drive than my husband. What should I do?”

Because women in this situation defy the stereotype, they sometimes feel shame and inadequacy. I must not be pretty or s.xy enough. Is there something wrong with me?

For many women, the “men always want s.x” stereotype has been fed to them for so many years that they assume their husband will always be initiating and constantly in the mood. When he isn’t, they sit silently and make a list of all the things that must be wrong with them. STOP!

Practically every couple has difficulties to overcome in their s.xual relationship. Each husband and wife has their own unique set of strengths, weaknesses, and areas of incompatibility. If this is something you’re struggling with, please don’t add to it by assuming there must be something wrong with you.

Despite what you might have picked up in Christian circles, there is nothing in the Bible that says that a husband should or does have a higher s.x drive than his wife. In fact, the Bible assumes that both the husband and wife have s.xual needs.

First Corinthians 7:3-5a says, “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer.”

Did you notice that a “husbandly duty” is mentioned even before the “wifely duty”? Interesting, huh? Even in Paul’s day there were probably women who were frustrated by the lack of s.x in their marriage.

Start with a conversation

Have you and your husband talked about this issue? Because these are such sensitive topics, many couples only address s.xual differences when they are fighting. Instead of talking, they settle into patterns that lead to rejection and frustration.

You initiate or hint toward intimacy and he turns you down. You get angry and lash out or avoid him. This kind of pattern becomes ingrained until even the mention of s.x becomes a powder keg. Both husband and wife feel misunderstood and marginalized.

You will never solve the problem until you learn to talk about it with the goal of understanding each other and getting on the same team. One of the first things to do is start a conversation with your spouse and not assume the worst.

“After months of frustration,” one woman said, “I sat down with my husband and explained that I felt like we weren’t having enough s.x. He responded with ‘I never would have thought that. Why don’t you ever tell me you want it or initiate?’ … I have now learned to talk with my spouse and show him my needs. Initiating isn’t just a man’s job! This has not only helped my internal struggle, but our marriage as well.”

Problems or conflicts become much more manageable when you can talk them through without blaming or hurting one another. Spend time asking God to show you the right time, to give you a sensitive heart, and the right words to express yourself.

What if my husband never wants s.x?

We need to distinguish between a wife who has a higher s.x drive and a marriage in which the husband never wants s.x. One situation represents a normal difference in desire while the other likely indicates a deeper underlying problem.

If you tend to be the one to initiate s.x, but your husband is eager and responsive, I wouldn’t worry about it. While men typically think about s.x more often than their wives, this is not always the case.

There are some men who are more comfortable expressing love verbally or by enjoying activities with their wives. Other men avoid initiating s.xually because they are afraid of rejection, but are eager to engage when their wife initiates.

While men and women have various s.xual appetites, it’s not normal for a man never to want s.x with his wife. If your husband is simply not interested in s.x, it’s important for both of you to understand and address what is getting in the way of his desire for and enjoyment of s.x.

Sometimes, the problem is a physical roadblock, like thyroid disease, low testosterone levels, medications that interfere with s.x drive or performance, obesity, or exhaustion. Stress, grief, and depression can also lower s.x drive.

Also ask yourself if your husband feels like you dominate or overpower him. In some marriages in which a husband isn’t s.xually aggressive, he is also passive in other areas of the relationship. When a wife is bossy or critical, sometimes this impacts a man’s confidence and results in s.xual passivity.

When he is engaged with some form of immorality

Your husband could also be dealing with an emotional trauma like childhood s.xual abuse. As difficult as it is for a woman to talk about molestation, it is infinitely more uncomfortable for men. Also, an extramarital affair, habitual masturbation, a s.xual fetish he is too ashamed to admit, or porn use could all come between the two of you.

A lot of men were introduced to porn as boys and engaged with it throughout their teen and young adult life. The images from the past are seared into the brain and impact a man’s s.xual response in his marriage even years later. His brain is trained only to respond to more and more graphic s.xual stimuli, so he is unable to enjoy normal s.x with his wife.

As you might imagine, it is very difficult for a husband to admit to his wife that he is engaged with porn or some other form of immorality. Instead, he makes excuses and often continues secretly with porn, masturbation, or other s.xual outlets. The encouraging news is that we can rewire our brains to learn a healthy s.xual response. As porn impacts more and more marriages, God is raising up men and women to minister in this area of redeeming male and female s.xuality.

What about my needs?

The truth is that while marriage is intended to fulfill our s.xual needs and desires, millions of married men and women are s.xually unsatisfied. Many who bail on marriage do so because of their s.xual disappointment and frustration.

Don’t allow this issue to be swept under the rug. Even the Bible says that s.x is an important part of marriage that should not be neglected. If your needs are vastly different than your husband’s needs, work together to find the right balance or compromise for mutual s.xual fulfillment.

You may have a spouse who is unwilling or unable to s.xually satisfy you. While s.x is an important part of marriage, remember that it is not the most important part. Marriages ultimately don’t die because people stop having s.x; they die when people stop keeping their promises.

God cares deeply about the covenant you and your husband made with each other. He also understands the limitations and longings of these bodies of ours. Because s.x seems like such an earthy part of life, we often don’t bring our s.xual concerns and frustrations to God. I would encourage you, friend, to pour out your heart to the Lord. Ask Him to bless your s.x life but also ask Him to use the difficulties and frustrations to help you become more like Him.


Adapted excerpt from 25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask About Love, S.x, and Intimacy, copyright © 2016 by Dr. Juli Slattery.

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Dear Jzhane,
I read your post yesterday about the lady who divorced her husband because of wrong choices and influence.

I could see myself in her. I made the exact same mistake. And I am so sorry. I dont know what turned me into the person I am today. I would like to share my story with your group. Any one can judge me if they like. I deserve it. All I am asking for is a second chance.

After being boyfriend and girlfriend for four years,I married my husband,Tony.While we were dating, it seemed we had a problem of always competing with each other. Maybe because I came from a broken home. My mother was always been maltreated by my dad. I made up my mind never to be maltreated by any man.

Soon after we graduated, Tony got a job manufacturing company and his pay was good. I cut short the celebration by telling him that I see myself getting my job in couple of months. I recall him saying we are not competing besides all he has are mine, and anything i want he will do,though at that time we where yet to get married. That an insight into how nice, and how much he loves me, and sincerely in two months I landed a big bank Job. Months later we got married as we where already planning our wedding.Strangely, this spirit of competing took hold of me.Each time my husband gets promoted in his job,instead of been happy for him, I start looking forward to my own promotion in my place of work to even the score. This desperation most times beclouds my mind to the point that am ready to do anything to ensure I get promoted.

I put so much effort, eye service, closing late, everyone take note in my team all to the detriment of my marriage ie unable to conceive after the eight years of being married. Several occasion Tony will sit me down and plead with me to take things easy so we could have more time together to see if it could enter(get pregnant). Severally, I would flare up. It soon began to creating a gap in my relationship. I became callous too. I began to flirt and have s.x with my a colleague at work.

My very close friend noticed something was wrong. She was going through my purse and found condoms. Wondering why someone who is trying to get pregnant is using condoms,she queried me and asked me to stop any dirty thing I was doing before my hubby finds out and it is too late. and She asked me to quit my job and focus on my marriage and making babies. She berated me for betraying my hubby. She concluded by saying your type of husband is rare,dont stupidly loose him. For the first time,I began to rethink my actions.

I ended the affair with my colleague and began to focus on my marriage. rare species. Well, that calm me a bit and truth be told I took in few weeks later that I spend more time with my husband. I got pregnant shortly after. My hubby was over the moon. He was ready to do anything for me. He advised me to resign,stay home and take care of our baby. Our baby came after nine years of marriage.
But my competitive self set in again. After three months,I went back to work. I was not cut out to be a stay home mom.

I was promised a promotion to GM level before my maternity and I wanted to go back to work and claim the promotion. My resumption back to work caused serious problems for me and hubby. He called me selfish and all. I told him I am a career woman and will not be stopped because I had a baby.
My work load as a GM was on another level.
I could have meetings until very late. I was pretty busy. My nanny was responsible for the baby. Most times,she would take the baby to the hospital for immunization and other medical appointments. I thought she was quite competent. But when I got a phone call that fateful day,I rushed to the hospital to see my baby who was ill. I couldnt believe he was that ill. I immediately realized I had been a bad mother. I prayed to God to save my baby. I promised to quit my job and focus on raising him. None of us could sleep that night.

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Must you comment ?

If you cant go to read the main story , .......

May God forgive you for what you said.

If you dont feel like going to the link , you move ahead than showing yourself.

mKc9ET:
If you can't post all here' go to hell with that link

true word

tsadoemmanuel:
You should forgive him and forget the past. You should conquer your fear and reach out to him. This is the only way your heart can be free and you will have peace..I wish you the best.

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The video was shared in a well-circulated Facebook post by Pastor Idowu Iluyomade who oversees Region 20 of the huge Christian movement.

In the video, the young man is seen making his intention to marry his girlfriend known in front of God and his people – and got just the perfect answer!

Before he knelt down to ask for her hand in marriage, the coolly-dressed lover man gave a simple speech about the first time he set eyes on Chisom, the shy lady to whom the surprise proposal was being made.

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Right about this time every year,when everyone is celebrating valentine,I cant but remember the pain I suffered during valentine period several years ago.

I was in love with the most handsome and kind man I had ever met. Cyril and I met during a training course and we hit it off quite easily. I found a man who was so selfless and gentle. He would call me every day to see how I was doing,he would also make sure I was okay. I was in love and everyone around me could see I was glowing from being in love with someone who really cared about me.

What I didnt know then was that not everyone was happy for me. My best friend,Tito always pretended to be happy for me but she was not. I didnt know that she was jealous and wanted to get Cyril for herself. When it was getting close to valentine,from the first day in February, Cyril would send me lovely romantic gifts each day. I was so excited,I would post these gifts on my facebook timeline. I got a lot of likes and comments. Everyone wished me well.

But one day,I think it was on the 11th of February,I got the shock of my life. I got a phone call from an anonymous caller informing me to go to Tito, my friend’s place at exactly 9pm. Before I could ask why,the line went dead. I immediately tried to call Tito but her line was not reachable. I then set out to Tito’s place a few minutes to eight. I git there a few minutes past eight. When I got there,I rang the bell but there was no response. I called Tito’s line again,still no response. I was about to leave but I heard faint music from inside. It dawned on me that perhaps Tito was inside. What I thought immediately was that,maybe she needed help,maybe she was in trouble. So I went to her neighbor’s door,knocked and asked the man who responded to come check with me,explaining that I was suspecting something wrong as I got a call and I couldnt reach Tito.

We both went back to Tito’s apartment and found that the door wasnt even locked. So we went inside. I started shouting Tito,Tito! No answer,we realized the music was coming from the bedroom so we went there. On getting there,we found my boyfriend sleeping on Tito’s bed. Tito was no where to be found. I was surprised to see Cyril there. I went on to try and wake him up but something caught my attention: I saw used condoms on the floor…I stepped back and immediately turned around.

The neighbor with me was asking me if I knew the man,I just told him not to worry. As we stepped out of the room to leave the house,Tito walked in. I asked her in anger what was going on. And she responded by saying nothing that she and Cyril had been seeing each other for a week. That she actually wanted to see how good he was since I kept ranting non stop about him. At that point,it hit me that this guy was sleeping with my friend while sending me gifts. As we argued and raised our voices,Cyril apparently woke up,came to the sitting room and was surprised to see me. He tried to start saying something about making a huge mistake but I wasnt going to wait around to listen to someone who just broke my heart with my best friend.

Cyril tried to reach me after the incident at Tito’s place but I was done with him. I had to let him go. On Valentine’s day,I cried myself to sleep. I wouldnt even come out of the house. I deleted my facebook account also. Apparently,people were asking too many questions about me and Cyril. It was too painful. After flaunting my relationship ,I couldnt bear to face anyone who heard about our breakup. About six weeks later,I discovered ...

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I write this with so much guilt that has consumed me. I am not at peace and I feel so choked up not knowing what to do.

I slept with someone else,another man on my honeymoon!..yes,I know,I had just committed adultery in a marriage that has yet to even kick off and I feel terrible and I feel like dying. Moreso,I know I can never forgive myself. My Husband will never forgive me. That is the ultimate sin. I know I could never forgive him if it was me.

But I didnt plan on sleeping with anyone during my honeymoon. My husband is partly the cause of this problem!

When he planned our honeymoon to SA,he actually planned it to coincide with a business retreat his company had planned for. So he wanted to use one stone to kill two birds. When we arrived at the resort,he quickly went into the retreat.So most of the time during the day,he would be attending a retreat. We tried to make most of the time during the night. I tried to have a good time too. But on the third day,their retreat took a different turn. My husband and his chairman had to travel to new York for a business meeting that came up unexpectedly. So the retreat was put on hold.

I had to wait in the resort while my husband traveled to New York. The first day,I was so bummed. The resort is filled with so many nice places and interesting people. I would go to the pool and meet some really good looking people all making out. I was jealous I was alone. Some men hit on me but I avoided them. Night time was the worst,I was Hot as hell. Gosh,I didnt bring my vibrator. I didnt think I would need it anymore now that I was married. By the third night after my husband traveled,I decided to hit the bar. I met a couple of people and I began to mingle. I drank quite a lot too.Being s.x starved and drunk is a very bad idea. All I know was I was having a good time and I finally ended up with a man I hardly knew in my bedroom. The s.xual tension was just too much. I just dont know how I did it but I did. I was with another man and had an amazing s.x.

The next morning,the man had left. Here I was feeling like the most stupid woman on earth. I kept to myself all day,crying and asking God to forgive me. I just didnt know what happened to me. I cursed my hubby for bringing me to this romantic place with so many distractions only for him to abandon me. When my husband came back on the fifth day,I tried to put all that happened behind me and focus on him. I pounced on him and made mad love to him. He was excited too. Maybe he thought that I missed him so much thats why I was so into it. Yes,I missed him like crazy but I also wanted to bury myself inside him perhaps,as a way to block the images of what I had done in his absence.

While chatting over dinner at the resort restaurant, I was .....

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Haba !!

You want the to cheat on her to make the sin equal?

Two wrongs no good nah .

XhosaNostra:
Only when it involves other people I don't want the poor girl to lose her man over a "mistake". She's remorseful as it is.

If he cheats on her in the future, at least they'll be on equal grounds

This is why its not good to just jump into marriage any how.

ImaIma1:
When you are married, you are not meant to go around falling in love.

You know its not possible nah.

Asowari:
Ok dere is no problem just return everything chief have spend/done 4 u,den u call go and continued ur love wit efe,Miss dominique am I correct.

I write this with so much guilt that has consumed me. I am not at peace and I feel so choked up not knowing what to do.

I slept with someone else,another man on my honeymoon!..yes,I know,I had just committed adultery in a marriage that has yet to even kick off and I feel terrible and I feel like dying. Moreso,I know I can never forgive myself. My Husband will never forgive me. That is the ultimate sin. I know I could never forgive him if it was me.

But I didnt plan on sleeping with anyone during my honeymoon. My husband is partly the cause of this problem!

When he planned our honeymoon to SA,he actually planned it to coincide with a business retreat his company had planned for. So he wanted to use one stone to kill two birds. When we arrived at the resort,he quickly went into the retreat.So most of the time during the day,he would be attending a retreat. We tried to make most of the time during the night. I tried to have a good time too. But on the third day,their retreat took a different turn. My husband and his chairman had to travel to new York for a business meeting that came up unexpectedly. So the retreat was put on hold.

I had to wait in the resort while my husband traveled to New York. The first day,I was so bummed. The resort is filled with so many nice places and interesting people. I would go to the pool and meet some really good looking people all making out. I was jealous I was alone. Some men hit on me but I avoided them. Night time was the worst,I was Hot as hell. Gosh,I didnt bring my vibrator. I didnt think I would need it anymore now that I was married. By the third night after my husband traveled,I decided to hit the bar. I met a couple of people and I began to mingle. I drank quite a lot too.Being s.x starved and drunk is a very bad idea. All I know was I was having a good time and I finally ended up with a man I hardly knew in my bedroom. The s.xual tension was just too much. I just dont know how I did it but I did. I was with another man and had an amazing s.x.

The next morning,the man had left. Here I was feeling like the most stupid woman on earth. I kept to myself all day,crying and asking God to forgive me. I just didnt know what happened to me. I cursed my hubby for bringing me to this romantic place with so many distractions only for him to abandon me. When my husband came back on the fifth day,I tried to put all that happened behind me and focus on him. I pounced on him and made mad love to him. He was excited too. Maybe he thought that I missed him so much thats why I was so into it. Yes,I missed him like crazy but I also wanted to bury myself inside him perhaps,as a way to block the images of what I had done in his absence.

While chatting over dinner at the resort restaurant, I was trying to have fun with hubby when a group of his colleagues came by. Among them was the man I slept with nights ago. He was introduced as Greg,their company’s South African Director. I froze!…He also recognized me and was in shock. We both managed our shock well. But I couldn’t eat anymore.. I excused myself and went to our room. I cried and cried so much. When my hubby came in,he asked me what happened. He noticed that my face was swollen and knew I was crying. He asked again,alarmed. I just told him I wanted to go home. He didnt know what was wrong but he said ok. I tried to find Greg before leaving. I called his room no and begged him not to tell my hubby He said he was cool as long as I was.

We leave the resort the day after tomorrow. I have had a very bad experience. I dont know what the future holds but I beg the future,i beg God to never reveal what happened in SA n my honeymoon. I could never live if it happened to be revealed. I know I would commit suicide. I knew I will. But what if I tell my hubby like after sometime,do you think he could ever forgive me? Say,maybe like in a year’s time?

Jozi,

Ghana

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Dear ma,

My name is Veronica. I am 28 years old. I have been through a lot of hardship in my life. All through my growing up,I worked hard with my mother and siblings to make it. I am the second child in a family of five. Our father passed away when we were very little. Even though life was hard,we were all determined to make it no matter what.

My elder brother Jude,did all he could but he had to quit school to face full business after he completed WAEC. I pushed to OND. In ND final,it was very difficult,I was faced with the challenge of quiting school. It was very painful,I wanted to graduate by all means. My mother was also very ill at the time. Managing her illness and continuing with school was impossible.

It was at the time,I met Chief Onobori (not real name). He was about 51 years of age. He took a liking to me and was actually asking for my hand in marriage. Chief was married with grown up kids. Here I was,a 26 old girl,I tried to refuse but eventually I gave in. Chief married me as a second wife and took over the responsibilities of my schooling and family. I graduated and continued to HND. Chief allowed me not to get pregnant cos we agreed that I would finish schooling first in order not to be distracted..

However,I met and fell in love with Efe during my HND program. It was not planned but I did fall in love I tried to fight it,trust me I did but I couldnt. Efe was a young man my age mate. He was a very understanding soul mate. Whereas,with Chief,I actually have to tolerate living with him. His first wife doesnt even like me one bit. I also began to feel I made a mistake as a christian, the bible is against polygamy.

Efe and I want to be together. I got married under the rough circumstances I was facing,I didnt marry for love. Besides being in a polygamous relationship is not my dream. There is too much qaurelling and keeping malice involved. Chief cannot even make love properly because of his age. I am too young to suffer like this.I want to leave this marriage and be with Efe. Moreso,I am pregnant for

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