chigoizie7:



Please do. Thank you so much.

Since you really love her.

Treat her like a normal human being that she is.

Assure her that you do not want to leave, but make sure that you are truly not gonna leave, make sure that you truly love her.

Treat her like a normal human, do not pity her, she needs her self confidence and self esteem intact, and you assuring her that she is normal is the only way she will get that.

But if you keep treating her like she is an invalid, then she will start doubting herself.

If you want to Bleep her, Bleep her well, with no pity.


Offer to help her with her medications. Make sure she stick to the prescription. Since she stays with you, make it a point of duty that she eats well, make breakfast and dinner compulsory for her. With that, you can always hand her her medications after every meal.

It does not kill. You can google it brother. It is not also contagious.

Make her feel like a normal human.

Thanks man.

chigoizie7:
She is really scared.

All that happened wasn’t because of the trust issues.

She is only scared that you blew something that has no significance out of proportion.

In her mind, you are only finding a flimsy excuse to break up with her because you can not stay with her based on her conditions. I know that wasn’t what you were thinking.

But trust me, from the onset of that relationship, she already had it at the back of her mind that you will leave her , not because she is not a good person or beautiful enough to date , but because of her conditions, she already prepared her mind towards that and when you did what you did, she only saw it as an indicator.


Brother, if you really want to be with her, go and get her.

A friends younger brother was having same issues, but after a medical trip to India last year, it has stopped, this guys case is not responsive to drugs.

Then my younger sister too, she do have seizures too. But she is married with three kids, the husband knew about it but it never stopped him from marrying her, and she got married at 22. Once I am back, I am arranging for her to go to India and get it sorted out.


So bro, if you really love this girl, please go back and win her back.

Very encouraging. I want to see her win regardless.

I can relate to the first paragraph because when we started she kept it away from me until it happened on night and I was sacred and almost rushing her to the hospital. She just took her drug and said it will stop.

I later became over careful with her and she hated it and said I should treat her like a normal human being, that I seem scared of being with her and many guys have left.

I will try to get her back because she appreciates my support when the communication was good.

MISTAICEY02288:


Oh okay then. It's good you have apologized to her for your wrong as i earlier said. Like I also said, stop beating yourself up about this. If she truly wanna make things work, she'll create time to talk and sort things out with you. But still on still, always keep in mind to go into relationship with ya head alongside your heart. Enough said!

And as for her seizures, does it happen often? Is it epilepsy or what and how has she been managing it... Seizures is a serious health problem ooo and i actually feel for her...

Thanks man.
Her seizures is triggered by stress, emotions and fear. It's sometimes worse during her period. It happens often and it's usually mild like leg and hand shaking and total disconnection from the real world for like 2 to 5 mins.

The major seizures happen like once in 4 to 6 months, she loses consciousness totally and it's an emergency she's usually hospitalized but this happens when she misses her medication. She has depression tendencies so I always praise and flatter her because the condition makes her avoid people and she loses her self esteem.

I'm happy you understand seizures, the guys up there that suggests she's faking it.... It's ridiculous. With her she never fakes it and she crys anytime she regains consciousness.

I'm usually send less with girls but my girls own is very delicate.

FrLukas:


I learnt that Cannabis oil can be used to treat epilepsy.

Why don't both of you do the research together instead of stressing the life out of each other?

She's taking carzepin and it's managed

MISTAICEY02288:
Hmmm... Bro Stop beating yourself up for nothing. To begin with, what exactly did you notice about the conversation that made you confront her of cheating? What if you were actually right about it? So what if you felt suspicious and confronted her? See ehn... You have to learn how to deal with these Naija gurls cos most of em are indeed full of pretense. I have dated a couple of em already and i know what they're all about.. It's okay to love, buh always remember not to use your heart alone in relationship, but use your head too.. It's okay to feel bad that you triggered her seizures coming to attack her and you apologised as a gentleman. But stop feeling bad that she might not wanna accept you again of you're really sure your reason for confronting her was right.. She will definitely come running back to you if she truly loves you and also knows she was at fault too...

As i am presently, i have almost lost taste completely for Relationships with Nigerian babes. I have a lady at the moment who always wants my attention buh i don't really give her that and i keep making excuses that i am only interested in making some good money for now cos at the end of the day, na money most of em want. She usually keep denying that ooo, telling me she's not about the money at all cos she has a job and earns her own money too. But I'm not having all of that cos i sabi their games. Bottom line is, i don't wanna play Sissy to any Naija babe at the moment and won't take anyone serious until I'm completely sure about her after running some background checks on the lady.. I have played dumb too much in the past and at the end, discovered they weren't who they appeared to be...

My brother, the truth is that the call was just a friendly call...how was your night ish. Truth is that she's gorgeous and she has tons of admirers but she's with me most times. If anything it should be emotional cheating but I did this in order to put her on her toes, the outcome was unfortunate. In her defense she wanted to explain instantly but I cut her off and told her she is exhibiting cheating tendencies. She froze and her legs started shaking.....

She just came to my house now because she forgot her charger. She was looking unkempt and a shadow of herself, She refused to seat, I just escorted her but I told her that my apology is not working but she should talk to me normally without the moody face. I paid for a cab for her then she left.... We'll see what the future holds.

AfroKnight:
She will come back. I hope you know you were right to not trust her. If you overlook certain signs you’d set yourself up for an unpleasant surprise.

Her condition does not preclude her willingness and ability to cheat when the opportunity appears. Babes are avid (but still amateur) manipulators.

If you still want her, you could go and put her mind at ease. Be cool but be vigilant. Don’t lose your guard.

I would have been stern if she hadn't passed out, I needed to give her the medication immediately to revive her. I also noticed that she loses interest in life (a symptom of epilepsy) and her condition reduces her self esteem regardless of how stunning she is.

My challenge now is that if she was OK mentally, I would have given her space and cut contact for now but for her I detest her being alone.

We once had an issue via chat and she told me not to attend her funeral... I sent my sister to her house without her knowledge and by the time she got there my girl was vibrating in her feet and palms.

My people, Something really terrible just occurred now.

I have dated my girlfriend for about 6 months, she is the most open individual I've ever met... She has told me most of her secrets. She is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and what really made us thick is that I was there when she had seizures in the past.

To the issue, She answered a call today and I felt suspicious and I decided to confront her immediately, but as she was trying to explain, I cut in and acted with mistrust and accusations that I suspect cheating. This was a major catalyst and it triggered her seizure. I started apologizing immediately to calm her down, she passed out for some minutes after she tried to use her clothes to suffocate herself.

She woke up irritated and I asked her to explain what is happening in her social world. She said it was really nothing and that she feels I don't trust her that's why she reduced telling me personal stuff. That there is no connection between her and the guy.

She said she has forgiven me but she has to leave my house that moment. I asked that I drop her but she refused and packed her belongings that has been here. She later accepted that I'd drop her because I could not stand the shame of her going alone but my car battery decided to die and she eventually entered bike home.

She left by saying she needs space but I feel I've lost her because I'll be once guilty of inducing her seuzures.

Ladies and gentlemen, red pillers, kindly advice me on how to handle this issue.

N:B kindly put into consideration that she is really emotional and her peculiar challenge.

Most predictors here would make good pastors... They have the basic attributes...

I want to appreciate all your efforts in addressing this situation.

I want to state that my last ex I dated long ago was a direct opposite which I detest. She can lie even when caught read handed.

To the negative comments, I understand your perception and, experience might have taught you worse.

To the positive ones, I thank you immensely. I believe it's a rational choice I have to make and judging from my precedents I have not meet a girl like her.

She just texted me that she feels so much guilt, I tried to explain to her that I'm not a Saint too but she interjected that she cares only about my personality not my past.

I'm happy she's not interested in Nairaland, if she had read all this she would feel wanted and proud.

However, I'll watch her a bit and act like she never said anything. If she hears my past, she'll brighten up immediately because I'm a small devil.

Also, I'm ready for the wedding oo. The marriage advice was too much, I hope you'll match the counseling with financial input

Thanks guys.

Prince4945:
Youre more like her Retirement Plan ,like I mean after shes through experiencing all the "flexing" there is to life with her body (I'm in no way judging her actions of sleeping for money) she then finally decides well there's nothing more new to experience let me tie one "good boy" down.

Well , I feel , her not telling you about her past from inception of the relationship, and decides to tell you no what that you've invested your love is more like Emotional Blackmail

And she's also going further to play Reverse Psychology on you with the "you don't deserve me" line. .

Well at the end of the day Its your call bro , to stay with her and start afresh? Or otherwise..

Use your HEAD to decide

I don't know what she sees in me because honestly I'm not a good person but I have a calm personality.

She told me initially when she started developing feelings for me that she's had one abortion for her ex, I guess she was testing waters before the bombshell. I forgave her instantly because I did not ask and I am also guilty of endorsing abortion with my previous relationships.

She surprisingly volunteers information willingly which I never seen in a girl.

In my head, I know her body count is small compared to mine but I don't know why I'm still pained.

I've asked her if she regrets it and is willing to change with or without me and she replied in affirmation. However, I'll give it time and watch things unfold.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Lolz.... Smooth breakup tactics so you wouldn't seem like d villian... You don't deserve me, you deserve better

We done use this line wella that year.

Exactly what I taught, but she has been begging me not to leave because of her past. We are just few months in and she let out this. I'm surprised at the level of sincerity because I can't boast of it myself.

lilwetdick:


ok.. but she also bought for you

anyway up to you, as they said the nice guys always get the bad girl when she wanna settle down

age is not in her side, she wants to settle down thus all these open up stories, so that you will pity her and carry her along

anyway, every man for himself, if i was in your shoe i wouldnt accept her, i have standards and i cant be comfortable with a woman with lot of body count and abortion reason is many women with lot of body count have issues, issues you cant solve, issues of bonding with their future partner, also potential std and sti. that is just my opinion

it is up to you.

She's quite a young girl at 20. I don't know why she made these mistakes

nairalandposter:
All these stories instead of apologising to who you offended, na wa for some naija men sha.

She's been apologizing till now.

lilwetdick:
you boys are funny ooh

what do you expect after buying lot of stuff for your broke ass or did you think it was free

everything was a game from start, a game to control your manhood

best will be to stop collecting gifts and use your brain

Bros try and read well.... She bought stuffs for her ex.
I am not broke.

Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

When I'm angry I don't count money

Even if his source might be legit, easysnipermoney will be seriously doubting the efficacy of his source now because of the pressure on this thread.

I have the feeling that most people are waiting for the failure to earnestly begin a fundamental bashing

Same in Enugu.

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