This man is just too charismatic

Rukkydelta:
People brag a lot most especially on social media
For example on nairalander I have seen many teenagers with audio money. Someone begging I uncle to sub for him will tell you he earns on average of 10 million a month. Always present on nairaland 24/7, commenting in every thread but claims to be so rich

Audio money is too rampant these days

olumbest:


I'm like you. Well, let's say, was like you. I asked same question 'What do they talk about?'

Come closer.

1. This is not an advise. I'm only sharing some part of my stupidity and how I was able to help myself.

2. Girls don't need you to speak. They're not that patient, just listen.

3. Before they can speak for you to listen, you need to initiate the talk. Simple thing,be interested in her. Get comfortable with telling her stupid things -- small talks for ladies.

4. Read a book on small talks, Leil Lowandes wrote about ninety something tricks on how to start one. Just don't be lazy about trying them out.

5. I still haven't told you what you speak of for 2-hours. Listen to this:

Me: Hi Hun, how d'u do?
Bae: I'm good, you?
Me: Fine.
After pleasantries.
Me: How did your day go?
Bae: It was fine.

A normal convo with a girl stops there. If you want to continue, this is the moment.
I personally will ask "Anything new?" that's if she didn't start it by herself. You can even ask How is life treating you?
The whole point is to make her lead the discussion.

Simplest trick, stop being lazy about coming out of your shell. Make extroverted friends especially the Warri type. Listen to comedy shows (you need to prep your sense of humour).
And then try my master recipe: Make two new female friend every week.

Hope that helps??

Wow I love this

NoraPibowei:
It seems d ladies you've dated have always been d one calling,while u hardly call? ladies dnt like men dat r weak in communication,am a lady nd I'm telling u d truth,wen a lady loves u 4 real she would love hearing ur voice,infact everyday nd most of d calls shud b 4rm d guy,it makes us feel important nd makes a lady loves u more.

My sister also gave me the same advice I just feel more comfortable texting

Apination:
Yea, they are lucky to be intimacy gadgets because that's what 99.9% of those guys want and they will end up sleeping with most of them

I swear

lefulefu:
ugliest women the easiest?
certainly not true .i have seen guys who have shed blood mixed with tears just to get a very ugly girl"s attention.some dudes wont eat or sleep till the ugly girl looks his way.

Exactly. One shouldn't judge with looks alone

Tonymegabush1:
Who checks a ladys phone even their gallery for them photos i no check just keep your phone to yourself, Nigeria is too stressful to add gal on top am..

Haha them go give person high bp

Grayjoy:
lol, sounds funny sha.

People get mouth

Grayjoy:
Certain things you see as bragging are not bragging the way you see it, although I was not there, what i know that idiots brag about alot is women, but then only idiots do that, why was the lawyer shaking? is he a real lawyer?

Yes o the man was abusing me that why didn't I call him when I was harrassed na so I call am baba dey shake for phone

Lightangel65:


Stay in your comfort zone the other side is scary from what I have heard.

That's right

KiidaACE:
A lot of people brag for sure, some do it to make themselves feel better, to give themselves the validation they can never get offline.. Others do it to pass a point to people that need be taught a lesson or two about certain things in life and most of us have been guilty of this one way or another. This is better done by using personal experiences though.. Now I tend to see nothing too bad in the latter although one shouldn't blow his/her own horn too loud cause that equates to pride or outright cockiness but it really isn't bragging if it's true..
Unless off course the person is a lying fvcker ..

As for the former, it's just the privilege hiding behind a keyboard has given to a lot of people, it gives them this entire new world built in their minds where they feel they're kings and blow their lying horns as they deem fit. e.g
(guys blowing horns on how they've fvcked a thousand girls whilst they're probably buying tissues for semen cleanup everyday and girls blowing horns on how guys online can't approach them in real life like they some kinda Dubai chick when in reality, most of em are just lightskin mushin .) .. This equates to low self esteem though and is kinda like the only way a sheep can get a feel of what being a lion feels like..

Whichever way though a lion needs not tell you he is a lion and any man who must say I'm the king is no king...

Too many wisdom here

dairykidd:
Op ur very funny... The sars/ lawyer part got me rotfl

You need to come and see how they were chest beating

Olawrites:
Ugly men with low esteem does that shit.. I can't do that to any babe.

My babe sef don tire me talkless of meeting a random one online just to cure konji. Sex is pure water

Never check a woman's inbox. Else you go die early with HBP

That's really true

pansophist:
A question to the OP, if you have lots of older women above 50 years messaging you for sex or relationship, does that mean you are "enjoying"? quantity is not quality bro

Do not confuse males with men. Then males orbiting around the typical females are usually the one they do not want, and of a low value. You would also notice that many of the guys are not even responded much to, and many completely ignored. But the guys they truly want, the quality men with shit going on for him will be receiving her message instead, and the game will play in reverse.

That's very true sha

wittyt98:
[b] This is so me mine is so worse that even when I'm at home, I don't like sitting where the rest of my family are gathered to avoid talking or conversing with anyone . I prefer to stay in my room all alone , listen to music and daydream even at work I don't talk much buh i smile at every given opportunity. I'm the type of person that'll give a 15-20 seconds reply to a particular topic other people are spending 2-5 minutes talking about.

Really. It's like you speaking through me. I always run away when I see people to avoid small talks. My room is locked 247 to worsen things am into freelance I.T so I work from home

Aniex629:


nope, am in my early 20s
maturity doesn't come with age, it comes from experience

You right man I always love to see people to learn from

MrBrownJay1:


its just mathematics bro.... a man will fukc just about ANYBODY to get rid of konji, while a woman can stay years with no sex (no big deal)... MEN cant handle the tiger in their pants and need to fukc regularly thus single men need to find ways to burst a nut as often as possible... and as these men also know that the ugliest women out there will be the easiest to give up the coochie, these men go after easy coochie.

Wow you are making a lot of sense

Aniex629:



The facebook part is real, most of us hype girls online when we are bored me inclusive, it doesn't mean we want anything to do with the girl physically and mostly you may not be attracted to the said ladies when you meet physically, these ladies too mostly don't have life outside social media their hype finish there


as for the guy who doesn't like connecting with his babe, he is a realer. it happens to most of us unless you haven't been with women b4.
So I don't see any faking in any of that. Life isn't exactly the way we see it

You sound very mature. You must be in your 30's

healthserve:
Never check a woman's inbox o. Your chest can't withstand what you'll see o. Just out this in mind, a man's babe is his babe only when they're around each other

My brother this fact is too painful. Guys are just too much

I noticed that the ugliest, unattractive ladies when you check their phones you will still see tons of dm's from guys begging for their attention. I don't understand is it that guys are far more than ladies? That's why I don't blame girls ignoring guys cause better guys are swarming around them. I swear the matter tire me ooo

lilmax:
In 2019 guys still gather to talk about knacking women?

Imagine building your pride through sex

Guys dey mumu sha

Some guys can knack anything

ojuu4u:
I went through a Facebook chat of a lady recently,see how guys and men begging, pleading to have relationship with her even those who claimed to be bigger boys. Some guys hype their ego unnecessarily on girls issue.

A close friend who is handsome used to brag that he can't spend penny for ladies, it leads to arguments sometimes. Two days ago he was saying he don't like to call gf whenever is broke, inside me *I was saying but u don't use to spend for girl now*, why holding back when u are broke

As in guys can brag when it comes to girls and if you complain about babe small they will start shaming you

paulsibility:

How do you communicate with your colleagues at work? How do communicate with the market women, the cab drivers you meet daily etc? How do you express your anger when you feel the bus conductor is trying to play sharp on you?
How do you react when your tailor spoils your 'Men in agbada' attire?
Try the same methods.
More importantly, get involved with ladies that have same interest as you (betting, politics, religion reading, gaming, cars, etc,)... It is that simple.

I hardly talk to these people. I have quite a muscular body and a no nonsense face that makes people serious around me

Geminita1:

Hahaha so funny

Grayjoy:
While growing up, I hate it when someone is trying to make me talk, I hate it when people look at me, I came to realise later on that my self confidence was so low, but I never noticed it. Although am close to an introvert because my profession won't allow me to be a complete introvert, the possible solution is partially breaking out of my shell and improving the version that successfully got out of the shell, so you can be who you are, people should not twist and turn your personality solely because you want to please them, also improve your communication skills, communition is an essential ingredient in human co-existence, don't talk when you don't have anything sensible to say for the sake of talk, just learn to express yourself more frequently in a sensible and intresting way, my bro, enjoy your life while it lasts.

Wow you made a strong point

SenecaTheYonger:
Hustle so you won't have to spend 2 hours talking on phone.

As in I wonder what they keep saying Everytime

lefulefu:
u dont need to be a talkative or loudmouth to get a girl"s attention.its not every girl that likes a man who talks too much.just hang out with a girl who shares the same ideals with you.sometimes u can be with a girl and u two would be silent but then certain communications are still being shared .

Wow this makes alot of sense. I am a man of few words but lately I am beginning to be insecure about that

Ginaz:
It’s human nature. Cos a lion is the king of the jungle doesn’t mean he can fight a crocodile.

Wow makes alot of sense

Clinghton:
YouTube videos would help, making an extrovert as a friend would also help.

I feel I should just accept myself for who I am

Phelixblaq:
Only jobless boys calls for 2 hours... The highest I can do is 10 minute of you are not okay with it then roast it

Haha I was surprised.

We were having our usual guy talk about ladies and this nigga kept on going on how he has knacked so many ladies and also how he doesn't take shit from women. Only for the guy to start searching for my number some days later, I even thought he wanted to talk business lo and behold this guy was crying to me about his babe that she's cheating bla bla bla. I was stunned. This chats went on for some weeks. I also had same experience when I was harrassed by sars people were insulting me that am too soft then a lawyer gave me his number to call if it ever happened again, lo and behold when I was harrassed again I called him and he was shaking on phone telling me to beg them. Anyone here with similar experience? you