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Zackattack:
As she dey look into your eyes, make you sef dey look into her eyes say she go make am too o. Success is not only for men.
I get tired of only women believing and sticking with men. Make we sef dey put the expectations on them too. At least, if e nor work, nobody go feel disappointed. Eshe!

Is very hard to see people with your calibre of thinking..... You really nailed it....

Caaz:
If you nor erase this mindset your white go continue to stain. Women are created to be pampered and cared for.

Do you know what we bring to the table?

What did i just read, you are created to be pampered, why the men are created to suffer to pamper you abi.....

The only thing you bring to the table is suffering nothing else.....

Dear esteemed men, what do women actually bring to the table in marriage, because the way I see it men are the ones doing everything even though society deems it that way, I don't think it makes any sense for only one person to be shouldering everything all in the name of "man of the house" this is the main reason men are dieing constantly, the load is much.....

Dear esteemed men share your thoughts.....

Dear esteemed single men, to be a single man is indeed a good thing especially knowing the horrors that married men go through in the hands of there partners all in the name of marriage....

I want you to share your experience as a single man and also the benefits that comes been a single man and also the challenges that comes with been a single man in today's society.....


I will start with myself,

Experience:

I have a lot of experience about marriage, I know marriage is an enslavement casted on men from time immemorial to this present day to only favour one person, the women why the men suffer, you barely see men this days in marriage leave up to 70 years before you know it they are dead while their wives leave up higher than that margin, we all know that in today's reality, marriage favours women more than men.....

Benefits:

I have been a bachelor for years, and I can tell you the benefits is so good, I have so much time for myself, no wife to disturb my little peace, I work from home and life has never been much better than that.....


Challenges:

Well, my challenge came from my family, but I made them understand that am not interested, and that fixed it, common they can't control a grown up man like me.....

So that's my experience, benefits and challenges as a single man.....


All single men are allowed and free to throw there inputs.....

Nigeria is number one, the number of churches in one street alone can be up to 15.....

Which person sow this kain thing for them... omo

One liability gone, it has never been this better, what a great news.....

Afodot0022:
Am not an advocate of not to get married, one thing I experienced in marriage is that marriage will humble you as a man. Those saying their marriage is sweet and fine is because they are still meeting up to their responsibility, once this is taking away, that your wife will become something else you never imagined. Those that want to get married, take this, don't marry a woman at was brought up by single mother, they eventually end up like their mum. My mother in-law, married 5 men with different kids to different man. What good can you expect from such family of not their daughter later being like her mum. Now we have been separated for 3years and heard she is with another man. That's a pattern she must follow . Marriage has its up and down. Just study the woman you are with very well and notice red flag that can become insure in marriage. Women are very complicated and you need to be sane to deal with their shenanigans

The bolded is very correct, you see young men that know nothing about marriage, saying it is sweet, they think is a joy ride..... When your peace of mind is been tampered, you will know that marriage is nothing but slavery.....

sportflex:
i took me fifteen years to realize i was with the wrong person.
fifteen years of my life!
fifteen years of fighting!
fifteen years of retrogression!
hanging on, because of the children
God knows best

This is a testament that men are really going through a lot in marriage AKA Suffering ProMax.....

Honestey:
Marrying someone who doesn't really love me hoping she would fall in love with time only to discovered I've condemned myself to a boring marriage. Had it possible to go back in time, marriage wouldn't even be in my dictionary.

That is women for you, very ungrateful things..... You still have the chance to divorce her.... Marriage is not a do or die affair....

hush15:
Marriage is not the problem. Its the values, foundation and principle you bring it to it as a man. You can be a man of one wife and be at peace. You can be a man of 10 wives and still be peace. You can be a man of one wife, and your life can be in turmoil, and regret. You can have multiple wives and you life is complete chaos. When you younger, find yourself, build yourself with the right principles and values. Always strive to be a better man. At first, it might be inconvenient and the world may not understand you and flow with you because the world we living today doesn't go with such, but in time, when you stay on course, it will be begin to sink in and things will align. Those women that will give you the peace of mind you looking for will come along. Whether you married or not, you will be fine and between you and the woman or women, there won't be issues cause they know you and will stand with you irrespective of the outcome and you will be in perfect peace.

My two cents

Am a Confirmed Bachelor, am not a married man and will never be.....

But I still get your points tho....

Dear esteemed married men, can you throw more light about your regret as a married man and also share your bad experiences also.....

You can still add if you are still in the marriage or not, and tell us how many years you were in before you eventually left the marriage.....


Divorced men you are free to drop your inputs......

This is how it's suppose to be, women suppose to pay to be with a man, even if it is a small potion of time or small conversation, you pay for it..... Because men are Kings..... Without us, the entire females in this whole wide world are nothing......

What a liability, can't you yourself be successful.... Must you depend on the male gender for everything..... Tufiakwa....

Let her switch to porn acting, she is definitely in the wrong place..... Teaching is not for her.....

ChizzyBuna:
Time will come when you will regret your decision not to have a family

Since you don't want to listen, is your choice man, I don't have any right to change your mind..... Do as you please.....

But don't come 7years from now in this forum crying and lamenting about divorcing your spouse......

Marriage should not be a thing of force, you have the right to say yes or no to marriage as a man.... Why does society deems it, if you are not married at the age of 30 you are not a man.....

They go pressure you put for inside suffering promax say na good thing dey do for you......


Tell them to there old faces that you ain't getting married for your peace of mind oh ....

ChizzyBuna:
Popsi and everyone at village has been pressuring me to marry and give them grandkids.

I'm 34 this year and still single.
I just recently moved into an apartment
So the hunt for finding a wife has begun.

How do I find a wife?
Where should I go to find a good wife?

This is my whole point about marriage, they are pressuring you into marriage not that is your personal decision, but you just been pressured by family members to marry to birth them grand kids, my point is marriage should be personal not mandatory, there is no importance in marriage, if you marry you gonna suffer men..... Don't do it.... This is how they pressured me, but I told them NO.... And here I am, enjoying my money all to myself, no wife and no kids.... Just me and my money.....

Is not too late, be a man and tell them NO to there face....

Kobojunkie:
The problem begins with the fact that your mothers, for one reason or another, did not reach out to correct these notions you have of the status of a woman in marriage in time. If you had known from time that marriage is a type of business agreement between a man and a woman were both typically contribute — financially, emotionally, physically(via labor and more). etc.—consistently to the success of the marriage and the individuals in the marriage, you would have no need to ask these silly questions. 1. She says that because she has every right to claim a part in the success that is the marriage and its dividends.

2. A man's money is typically considered the dividend of the marriage when the man is the sole provider in the marriage. That should be a no-brainer, really. If the man were a partial provider, the case would be entirely different. If a woman can take care of her responsibilities in the marriage and also make time to earn more on the side, that is typically when her money is regarded as her own. It all depends on the agreement between the man and woman, really. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Marriage is a choice... it has always been a choice. If you don't want to pay 1.5M for a woman, then don't. It is that simple. Look elsewhere for a woman whom you can afford somewhere else. Don't play victim. That is a kind of mental illness! 🥱🥱🥱

4.a. Your friend, with eyes wide open, chose to marry a woman who had no job and no established skills of her own. What did he expect? For the marriage fairy to transform her into a dazzling career woman after marriage? Is your friend a reptard? 🥱🥱🥱

4.b. Well, tell him to divorce the woman; however, that woman will do well to make sure that she gives full custody of all five kids to the man, since they are his kids anyway. When he was busy making them, where were these thoughts of this woman being a liability then? He produced 5 kids and is now suddenly screaming that a woman with 5 children he made her have is a liability? 🥱🥱🥱

Please tell your friend's wife to come online make she come tell her own side of the story.

5. Please go back to your mother for the lessons you missed out on, and also visit your friend's wife to hear her side of the story. In this day and age, you can't really think yourself a king if you can't even reason simple things such as these for yourself. 🥱🥱🥱

Your number one point, I don't go along with it, women doesn't have that right to say such, because behind every mans success is his sweat, hard work, determination, dedication and a slim curve of hope to make it, not you.....


Your number two point, so now marriage is now a business venture, enlighten me more..... You just proved my points, so a man's money is actually for the wife also, because they did an agreement, why a woman's money becomes hers when she works for it, I want to ask you a question, does the man not work for his money also, does he sit and wait for money to fall down from the sky before he gets it....... You people are just something else honestly speaking.......



Your third point, when I said 1.5 to 2M of bride price, I was of the motion to say that you guys ain't worth that kind of amount, that is a scam of the highest order, you guys aint even worth 1,000 naira, you are not worth anything because you came from us, without us you are nothing......



Your fourth point, well like I stated above earlier, I will definitely tell him to do the needful, which is to divorce..... There is a saying that goes this way, all that glitters are not gold, marriage glitters but is not gold .....


Your fifth point, I have a lot of lessons I have learnt over the years, Marriage AKA Suffering ProMax is one of them .....

I hope if you are a female or male or she-male or he-male, or whatever you represent, if a man marries you he will really suffer for sure.....

blesdman:
This is because u are copying western idea of marriage. With African idea of marriage, u will act properly

There is no copying of anything, all marriages are the same everywhere.....

Carl99:
What you said sadly is true. But there are still lots of marriages that are flourishing with happiness today.

The problem is not marriage. Rather it's those who enter marriage without a proper understanding of it. Why would you marry somebody that does nothing in the first place.
There's is a reason for Courtship.

Marriage is beautiful. Just pray you find the right one

Even though you get a working class lady as a wife, it doesn't mean, that they are useful anyway......

There is this way women are been wired to act as a parasite and the man the host..... Even when the said woman has money, just know you are in deep shit, they will obviously want to take control over your life, after all that is all they wanted all along..... Marriage is not sweet, I can attest to that.... Men all over the world are crying silently, divorce is on the high side this days ....

Rexymania:
The thing is, marriage without money is hell.
Marrying a promiscuous woman is hell fire

You nailed it, money is the reason most of this women go into marriage in the first place.....

That is the same reason Regina Daniels married a man her father's age.....

paragon10:
even if he has sisters and aunts, should that in anyway stop him from saying the truth. Men are now facing reality... You women should bring value. It's no longer business as usual

You can say that again brother, most of these women are just so useless, nothing to offer to a man.....

That's why you see men dieing anyhow due to high rate of high BP..... It's painful.....

Esthered:
Do you have sisters, aunt's, does your assertion apply to them?

That doesn't apply to my context, what I wrote up there is the bitter truth about marriage.....

Sirchiboy:
I went through traumatic childhood dUE to over religious woman called mother.
A mother that worship and cherish money more than her own kids.
I have studied this world and discovered that most people that are living good life are actually non religous people.
I stopped going to church in 2006 because I had no single clothes to wear.
I was putting on one trouser every Sunday while the woman called mother will buy clothes every Sunday and still buy for her pastors wife yet her kids wear rags to church.
My life would have been much better if I was born into non relgious home.

Your assertion is very correct, coming from a religious background is a nightmare, especially when your father is a pastor..... The church itself is a business venture, all they care about is money, pastor and his wife love members with money, be it a criminal or kidnapper as far you have money, you are a good member, when I saw how the so-called church is, I quited and i also stop believing in God, God itself is just a mere word he doesn't not exist, he is just a dillusion used by pastors or prophets to strap you off your hard earned money.....

Dear esteemed men, why will a woman you married that has nothing, came from a poor background, have the audacity to say, "I made my husband what he is today, I was with him when he had nothing" why this said man worked for his money without your efforts, is this not entitlement mentality......


Another thing I have observed around marriage is the fact that a man's money is always a woman's money, why a woman's money is only for her self only, is this not greed.....


Why the hell will I pay 1.5M to 2M for bride price just for a useless liability that has nothing to offer me in the long run, except high BP, I will always say it marriage is the biggest scam in this world.......


Most of the married men, are all crying silently, because if they knew what marriage really is they won't have gotten there self into it, marriage is a path to slavery......


I know two friends my age, suffering from marriage wahala, one came to me yesterday and was explaining his ordeal with me, telling me how his wife is good for nothing and a liability and had it been he knew, he would have remained a bachelor like me, I just smiled, I wanted to convince him to divorce, but he has five kids with his wife already..... But I will still tell him to do the needful....


So dear esteemed men be careful out there, so you don't make a terrible mistake...... Remember we are Kings.....


Bachelor For Life

Bachelor For Life

That gender so entitled to another genders hard earned money from hard work and sweat, and society will paint it as marriage, tufiakwa for that gender.....

Ever since I saw how women use marriage to rob men off there freedom, I graduated from being a Bachelor to a Confirmed Bachelor..... If you care for the meaning go and ask google.....

Most of the drivers are full time aberos, what do you expect.... No certificate, just drink and drive and kill who ever is your competitor in the road.....