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ebubeson:
In the past, to get a lady you like, it may take three months, a year, weeks etc. for her to say Yes, and it may come with pains, rejections, efforts, begging, assurance etc. before she says YES. And in those days, a lady saying Yes to you may sound like a big win and a joyous encounter.

Why is hard-to-get partly "dead" or almost dying? Why do men generally no longer chase women with efforts.

(1) Lack of Decency in Several Ladies: The rate at which several ladies sleep around might make several men not chase them with effort. Why chase a lady with effort when another guy might sleep with her easily, probably without spending a dime.

(2) Lack of Virtue in Several Ladies: Several ladies have little or nothing virtuous to offer. Some club, smoke sisha, do hookup, behave arrogantly sometimes, cheat etc. So when a man weighs these options, instead of him focusing on building a good relationship with a lady, he may just focus on sex and pleasure.

(3) Quest for Money and Material Things Amongst Ladies: The quest for material things and money amongst some ladies might scare several men. Even some ladies who are not from well-to-do backgrounds may appear so demanding. For some ladies to probably prefer yahoo boys to a responsible salary earner shows part of their nature.

seunmsg:
https://x.com/officialabat/status/1889679363689328892?s=46[/quote]Foolish man...

Edygrin:
Embattled Nigerian musician, Portable has called on president Bola Tinubu to intervene in the ongoing legal battle between him and the Ogun State government.


https://dailypost.ng/2025/02/11/im-federal-government-liability-portable-begs-tinubus-intervention-in-case-against-ogun/

Leobankx:
Pope Francis launched a stinging critique Tuesday of US President Donald Trump’s deportations of undocumented migrants, describing it as a “major crisis” that “damages the dignity of men and women”.


https://www.channelstv.com/2025/02/11/pope-blasts-trump-over-migrant-deportations-says-it-is-a-major-crisis/

God1000:
https://saharareporters.com/2025/02/12/nigerian-varsity-unizik-orders-probe-after-female-student-allegedly-bites-lecturer?

Pukkalolo:
When you do a favor for a girl or give her nice things, she might say, “Aww, thank you,” or even seem very appreciative.

Some might even call you a “real man”... Duh!

But that’s where it ends in her heart. I learned this the hard way

The bitter truth: Women don’t genuinely value what you do for them.

And that’s the basic thing most men don’t realize: You don’t win a woman’s heart by doing things for her. You win her heart by making her do things for you.

Women don’t care how much you’ve done for them. Women are naturally selfish by nature.

Empty your bank account for her?

Donate one of your kidneys to her?

Sacrifice your life for her?


SHE DOESN’T CARE.

The only thing she cares about is how much she has done for you.

This is why, if you try to break up with a girl who has done a lot for you, she says things like:

“So after everything I’ve done for you?”

That’s all she cares about—what she did for you.

All you did for her doesn’t count. It’s what she did for you that matters.

If you threaten to break up with a girl and she doesn’t seem to care, it doesn’t necessarily mean she has other guys she can easily jump to.

It simply means she has done nothing significant for you in the relationship—so she has nothing to lose.

Guys often ask me, “How can I get a girl to think about me?”

My answer:

Women don’t think about you. They think about what they’ve done for you. If you get her to do things for you, she will think about you all day.

If a girl claims she loves you but has done nothing significant for you, then it’s not genuine love. She just wants to exploit you or manipulate you.

Women don’t fall in love with you—they fall in love with their investment in you.

If you want a girl to genuinely fall in love with you, get her to do things for you. Make her invest in the interaction and the relationship.

SpyMaster1:
I've been thinking a lot about marriage lately, and I'm starting to wonder... is it an outdated institution that no longer serves a purpose? Should we just abolish it altogether?

With the rise of non-traditional relationships, increasing divorce rates, and changing social norms, I'm starting to question whether marriage is still relevant. Is it just a relic of the past, a societal expectation that we're all supposed to conform to?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that love and commitment are outdated. But is marriage really the best way to express those things? Or is it just a fancy piece of paper that's lost its meaning?

I'm genuinely curious to hear your thoughts on this. Should marriage be abolished, or is it still a relevant and important institution? Let's discuss!

Tim1212:
A Nigerian man took to social media, why he can’t give out 200k to his girlfriend.

He narrated he came from a poor background, and that he can hardly buy himself a shoe.



He confessed that he is stingy to himself and can’t afford basic stuff for himself.



Netizens quickly respond to him that got people talking same experience they had growing up.













Reactions are very massive as many began to tell there own story.

https://degoldenblog.com.ng/i-cant-press-200k-to-my-babe-nigerian-man-cries-out/

FCmome:
Hello Nairanders , am in severe pain because my wedding was called off, because both Families are against the union, am devastated, i don't know what to do, how to start where to start... I've throw away everything that reminds me of her but i still couldn't get myself to move on.. 😰 pls if anyone had similar experiences let me know how you deal with it

elobrave17:
I joined a new line of business after loosing my previous job. Company shut down so everyone had to leave. There are many aspects of this new business so you would always get people to do some part for you while you pay them. Finally I got my first direct business and got someone to assist me with some part of it of which I paid him for. He was actually guiding me because it was my first direct job. While doing this job, I met a lady who was also doing her own job. I noticed she has been in the business for long and very good in it. I went to her and told her few challenges I was having. We exchanged contacts and ever since I would call her once in a while to make one inquiry or the other and she has been helpful. Business has been dull and sometimes I feel like quitting. Someone has advised me to use my car for taxi sometimes when I don't have any business on ground. Honestly I find it difficult to do besides the car is a bit old and might begin to give wahalla if I stress it much. I am no longer a baby and would have married if not for lack of money, so marriage is one of my major priorities at this point.

Last week I remembered that lady that assisted me with the job. I called her and inquired if she is single and she said yes. We had a date and I told her I want a relationship with her and she didn't hesitate. We had some discussions from job to school & then family. In my mind I was having the thought to marry her if things work out because I felt we might be able to achieve a lot together. Since she knows the job more than me, I can hustle for business & contacts while she will be in the field doing the job. It looked so perfect to me but then she is not exactly my type of girl physically and I noticed she talks a bit too much. I was also concerned about her age. She told me she is 35 but I feel she is older than that. All these concerns I was willing to cope with them until she told me something that scared me. She told me that even though she is a Christian and prays very well but she is also into native tradition because of the job and other things. She told me that once things don't go as planned she normally seek for solution in a native way. She also told me to look deeply into my own life to see the need to look for solution to my own problems. She told me that in her dream before, she always see herself in the village and sometimes in the secondary school. I told her I also see myself in the secondary school in my dreams always. I always see myself writing exam with people, almost everyone will be writing well while I will sit alone and won't know what to write. Sometimes I won't even know the particular subject I was going to write until I receive the question paper. She then told me I need to find solution traditionally that she will give me a contact. She said that she want me to know what she does so that in the future I won't feel bad if I find out. She is now in love with me and also willing to support me financially to seek this solution traditionally. From the discussion, I noticed that she rely so much on this traditional stuff & almost all her faith is in it.

Personally i don't like the whole traditional thing and my family hates to hear anything like native doctor, herbal this or any traditional means. I am also the last born and respect my siblings a lot. If they find out what she does, they would never accept her. But then can it be true that i will find a solution traditionally as she suggested? What if she keeps going deeper to the extent of bringing a shrine into my family. I am very confused. This girl is industrious and would make a great team but then her age and this traditional stuff. I am 38 and everyone is asking me, "how is my family",thinking I am married. I feel ashamed to be single at this age.

People with experience especially elders in the house, please I need your advice on this.
Admin please can you push to front page. Thanks.