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Sexyliciousbri:
Do small marriage within your capacity then in future you can make the anniversary worth it

Heineken:
Just submitted successfully....immigration you're next. No sleeping.

officialchikzy0:
anything is possible sir.

kalan:
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biafraisdead:
From ur write-up what her level of education? I asked cos u compared her level of education to ur former gf. To the topic, nairaland is a wrong place to bring such matter to, i am pretty sure that with lots of negative comments here u may be contemplating dropping ur gf but i say don't even consider that cos most people talking rubbish here are just plain stupid and they know nothing, most of them have unmarried sisters in their thirties. My advice is if u love her to the extent that u think she is good for u as a wife then go ahead. She is still very ok and young.

Raalsalghul:
You better drop this ego and listen to the advise of senior men on this thread.

mercyland93:
Pls, can anyone tell me the original site.
Av been trying to open, but it's linkin to another place.

sofiscatedmoron:
U completed ur service at the age of 33?

Coolcalmcollect:
ask yourself do people read those books?
even marriage counselling people don't attend anymore, dey just feel omo we love each other let's hear word.... lol

zoeycherie:
olabrinks, I've been up since 12am reading your posts and I want to say that you're amazing.

You're just so positive and your posts are always so empathetic and encouraging. Reading your posts makes me really happy. If you're anything like your comments in real life, then I'll say your family is blessed to know someone like you.

Please don't ever change. I remain a big fan. Thank you.

olabrinks:
That is it. My cousin was a virgin and she was 25 when she got married in 2015. But she is yet to conceive, I’m not using her situation to mock her. What I’m trying to say is this life no get formula. My mum had her first child at 33, honestly it’s not by age unless she is very close to menopause. It’s by the reproductive health of the woman and man. I just pray this man will open his eyes, sort out his finances and marry this lady. To get wife in this generation, it is not a small thing at all.

Onyi22:
@Opp I will advice that you follow ur heart, remember it's ur life and u r d one to live with her after the wedding,
Forget about getting any meaningful advice from this forum because some of the guys on this forum r buttered, frustrated n miserable..
Some r impotent n have watery sprem that can't produce anything....
If u really love her and she possess the character u want in a woman pls marry her and allow God to perfect his will concerning your marriage...
Remember, u can marry a girl of 23 and she will still have difficulty in child bearing, u may marry a Virgin, and she will not bear any child for u, it's all depends on God.
I wish u good luck

Coolcalmcollect:
one time I've learnt in life, never be manipulated into marriage, never marry an older woman when you're broke, also never marry a girl above 30.

alexmakaay:
your mumu no be China made..na original Belgium made.

instead of you to focus and help your "shaky life" and better yourself..you are preoccupied with helping a woman most above your age.

now, Mr lover boy.. if she's that good as you said, why is she still single??..or do you think it's only you Sabi better thing?? ohh you want to tell me she's the one made for you. i don't think so, otherwise her presence in your life should have bring financial growth to facilitate your marriage with her.

But seriously, brother don't allow emotion and ephemeral sentiments to becloud your sense of purpose in life.

sorry for those harsh words..but that's the truth and I mean it when I say it's from my heart.

leave her and face your life, the sooner you do this, the better for you and her. better thing no dey finish.

Okoroawusa:
Bro marry her. There's nothing like peace of mind. I am a divorced man right now because I made the mistake of underrating a good thing when I had it. Now I don't even have time for marriage or should I say I don't feel like being married any more. But she will always be in my mind.

Once a woman decides to be with you there is nothing she can't endure with you. I am a man, a mature one at that... Marry her.

eni4real:
You form this story... Talk true!!! Super story

J111333:
Please don't do this, I hate to see kids suffer. Bring them only when you are ready for the responsibilities that follow even if it costs your relationship.

Good girls will always be there when you're ready but the sufferings of one kid may affect a generation.

Several Nigerian kids live below the poverty line, please don't add to that number I beg you.

truthsayer009:
But you said & I quote "people who are wealthy enough to carter for her". I believe she isn't stupid & would have searched for people wealthy enough but couldn't find then she settled for him. It's like saying I should continue looking for "Chevron & Exxon mobil jobs" only when I have waited for 8 years with no job.

Look, my point remains not every woman would end up with a Rich dude, some will struggle. You women live in fairy tale lives far from reality.

I'm not even supporting him calling her aged, 33 is perfectly fine. But wealthier Men? Ah, she will sleep there o.

iamharkinwaley:
Bro, you had better listen to Farfromaverage, I once dated a lady like yours, She's 30, 5 years older than me. I thought she was the best woman, she kept pestering me to let us run away and start life somewhere. God so good I have to relocate for greener pastures and she began to show her true colours. Started exhibiting her true self.

What I'm trying to say is don't allow anyone rush you, you go into marriage when you know you're ready, know her so well like the back of your palm.

See how God made me dodge a bullet, I will be suffering now had it been I loop away with her....

Somzee:
So because she's 33 years that means OP is settling for less?
Your reasoning is really laughable. I guess it's the average Nigerian men mentality.

@Op getting married to a younger woman doesn't guarantee happiness, you wear the shoe and knows how it fits. Think through it and know exactly what you want and go for it.

Marriage is like a wrapped gift, only after you've opened up would you know what's in the package, just pray to get married to a good and understanding woman while being a great man.

oazeez1991:
Hmmmm! different strokes 4 different folks. Evri1 who has contributed previously ol got dia point.

In my own opinion, u already know wat u wanted, ol u want 4rm here is just a push up like a supportin system 2 backup ur stand. 4rm ur post, it is obvious u already plan or wish 2 marry d Lady in question, so it's ur choice. U don't need any1's approval here 2 mk ur decision stand.

If u go by ur own decision even if it's smtin u later regret in d long run which I don't pray u do, at least, d feelings dat u made d decision urself nd not sm1 influencing or forcing u 2, is enough.

My most concern is just d finance nd compatibility aspect. If d both of u cud brainstorm nd map out a plan 2geda nd den work towards it, den fine, but mk sure finance is tkin care of, nd don't 4get, delay also shud not tk long.

I was in similar situation as u, d decision I made myt not be wat u need as we are two different individual. Wat work 4 Mr. A might not work 4 Mr. B nd vise versa.

EVILFOREST:
All are the same.
It's better you get a very younger lady and tame her to the level you want.

At least, you are sure of her fertility chances and whoredom-like chances.
AGED LADIES would have experienced a lot of trauma, procedures, emotional torture, hatred and jealousy, of which if married will predispose you to UNTIMELY DEATH because of Vengeance.

EVILFOREST:
She can't be the BEST.
She was just DISPLAYING those LOVELY antiques because AGE wasn't on her side.

The MOMENT she steps into your HOUSE legally, she will start TORMENTING you.
NOWADAYS LADIES don't fail in that regard.

PLEASE, leave her and focus on your career.
Better things LIE ahead.

misreal:
Bros wife her oh. Nothing like a matures and understanding lady. Dating a young girl is stressful oh

doggedfighter:
Not even one meaningful advice on how to to better his situation and marry his heartthrob. Everything is centered on the girl's age as if the guy doesn't know her age already. He's made his choice already . Bunch of irrational mofos

Michellekabod2:
Some f00ls will spoil your mind about her because of her age. But bro,it is best you make mistake with your own hands than let the archaic opinions of people on a faceless forum destroy your life.
It will be pathetic if the opinions of random strangers you will never meet your entire life spoil your mind on someone you always see.

Is the money you earn and that she earns ample enough to live a moderate life or you are eyeing those living big life? Are you targeting a Bella naija type of posh wedding? How about you do u just dowry payment & traditional rites for now?

jagaban002:
Please don’t give her belle make money first my brother , don’t rush because u love her because d love will turn to hate when belle set in .

olabrinks:
naturally when a woman ages the number of eggs in her ovaries decreases. Every month she will lose thousands of her eggs. By the time she hits menopause, they’re no more eggs left in her ovaries. There’s no egg for the sperm to fertilise, so the woman will not be able to conceive. Also the older you are the more likely you’re to have reproductive health isssues. But like I said this doesn’t happen until late 30s early 40s as it’s very gradual and it doesn’t happen over night.