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Robertgreene1:
So l'm not a particular fan of bringing every relationship dilemma here. But let me just do it for once to catch the feel of it at least. So my girl knows too well that as a script writer, that l'm always busy working online throughout the day and that l normally chat with her towards the evening after work. But this early morning, she sent me some texts on WhatsApp, just the normal morning greetings, nothing much. But l wasn't in the mood for chatting at all, cus l was still going through some severe Monday Morning Hangover(My fellow bros that love the green bottle can relate better here.) Besides, l was also preparing to start my working day, so l ignored her. So this afternoon, eight or nine hours after her text, she started calling me on WhatsApp call, while l was working on a script for my main client. So l ignored the calls at first, but she kept calling and calling. So l was forced to send her a text on WhatsApp that l was working at the moment and will talk to her later. But she kept on calling and calling and even sent me a text that "this is my punishment for ignoring her since morning" That was the point l got a bit angry cus her persistent calls were interfering with my work. So l texted her that she should better stop that nonsense else l block her. She kept calling and calling and even texted me "Oya block me na." So l blocked her. And she has never directly called since then. So l know she's hurt already.
Now, this girl is just 22, and l'm 30. So she's definitely acting her age. But l honestly love her and l know she loves me too. But even at that, l still want to strongly pass that message across to her that "My Work Comes First Before Any Other Thing!" So l'm thinking about not unblocking her till after a week at most. But even at that, l still don't want to hurt her so much cus she just lost her Airport Attendant job last week and l know she needs me to be there for her at the moment. Besides, she was right there for me two years ago when l passed through the worst period of my life. So l'm really in a kinda dilemma right now and needs some mature advice.

Thanks for breaking it down.

dmexy33:
At 21 I was depending on my parents and I wasn't lacking anything, I had my own apartment and everything
At 23, I was still depending on my parents but when you ask them for money after they have sent you money for the month they will start interrogation which made me angry.
My first relationship abroad lasted about 18 months
My when I met the main girl, I Started an online business and I was making money and I hardly spoke to my parents about money. I was with her till we graduated and the business continued I was happily taking care of her and she had a very good job bcs she had suma cum laude. She was a super girlfriend. I used to visit Nigeria anytime I feel like but she only visit Nigeria twice on 2 occasions which were Christmas seasons.

Thanks for the post OP.

Yes, this spiritual spectacle of a thing happens for some people. I won’t say everyone experiences it.

But my concern with your post is the seeming inconsistency in the story. Or maybe I didn’t understand you well. I mean, being rich at 21, asking your parents for money at 300 level. Or being abroad at 21 and still talking about traveling outside the country and coming back after the first main girl.

dmexy33:
Many people always ask why I am still not married in my 30s even though I can get married today if I want to.
I started dating seriously at 21, I didn't have much experience from my first relationship, I was schooling abroad I had my own apartment, money and food wasn't my problem so i didn't really know what was happening because I had everything coming for me. The rich and elites live such lives even till 70 because there almost an endless supply of money and resources.
My First relationship lasted about a year, the girl was EXTREMELY GOOD and loyal to me, she never disagreed or open mouth to argue, I can't even remember her speaking she only followed my commands. I miss her but I am glad she is now in a better place. I had other subsequent relationships but I started noticing that there is a deep spiritual dimension to man and woman relationship and marriage.

Let me explain...
While I was depending on my parents, at level 300 I started getting frustrated because I didn't like the fact that I had to depend on them for money, sometimes you will call and they start asking you stupid questions. Then I met this girl in school one night while I was reading, I fell asleep and left my phone on the desk(Blackberry 10) so she was approaching to wake me up then I woke up as she got close to me, we started talking, she sat with me and we talked till morning. It was then I realized that something was happening, a little while later everything I tried to do started prospering, from the Time I started dating her till the time she left I was a selfmade millionaire. I went into alot of businesses and any money I got I always gave her 30% of it every single time. Whenever I left the country and came back to Nigeria I used to have flings, I noticed that whenever I had sex with one of those flings I always experienced heavy calamity, one time after meet one of them I was driving home and my tire busted. I took note of it and I underplayed it, however, whenever I met a different girl I used to feel the vibe..
I'm speaking from my experience as a man but everything I say applies to both sexes..
1. Some people are witches(I have nothing against witches) that means anything you bring into that relationship will be suckered away from you to the girl/boy. That means your car , house , money will eventually go to the girl if you stay long enough and if you resist it might cost you your life or sanity.
2. Some Carry ancestral curses that they are not aware of, you will never grow when you are with them, it will take great effort to make any small meaningful step. Life will be very hard for you and the person.
3. Some people Carry shit for face, that means when you associate with them intimately no matter your status they will drag you to the mud, you will begin to lose respect for no reason, if you step your foot anywhere you will be overlooked, your voice becomes meaningless.
4. There are those who were once perfect but due to carelessness they became a dumping ground because they mingled with the wrong person and that person stole their destiny. If you get intimate with such people you IMMEDIATELY start experiencing misfortunes and spirit of hopelessness and emptiness befalls you. Your happiness and confidence disappears.
5. On the good side, some people are a walking glory, I have met a lady very pretty and hardly spoke we got intimate and as soon as I left her place life became colorful, I felt good and people smiled and wanted to associate with me more often, some Bring you good fortune, anything you put your hands into will start prospering, girls from royal families Carry prestige, etc

So with time and experience I'm able to know what a person is carrying without even getting intimate with them both male and female. The mistake that most people make is that they get carried away by physical features.
You get a very beautiful girl like Tems and you think you have hit jackpot or you meet a very rich guy like Burnaboy and you are happy.. the Bible says TEST THE SPIRIT. There are many signs in both male and female that tells you the kind of spirit they are carrying. I will not say more than that but I'm open for consultation.

FitCorper:
Are you sure you know the meaning of “lock in”? Lemme break it down for your ignorance sake. To lock in as a man means to slim fit your brain to only focus on
1)God
2)Family
3)Gym
4) Money (usually a by-product of consistent gym as it will keep your brain focused).
There is no how you will prioritize these things as a man even for 1 month and not see tangible result. Get out with your negativity.

Nothing is guaranteed

Do you use ChatGPT for all your replies?

Pukkalolo:
I get you, bro.

But I'd be careful about concluding that 97% of Nigerian women think the same way.

One lesson I've learned is this:

Women don't treat every man the same. The same woman who seems unwilling to do certain things with you will happily and voluntarily do with another Man.

The difference is often how she feels about you, and what behaviors she sees you are willing to tolerate from her.

When that lady with the sunglasses told me about the monthly gift game, I didn't argue with the idea or assume, "No woman will do this."

I simply took to heart and suggested it to the girl I was dating. Her immediate response was, "Game on." That told me we were aligned on the kind of relationship we both wanted to build.

As a man, you get to decide the standards you're willing to accept. Don't build your standards around what you believe "most women" will or won't do. Build them around you want, then look for a woman who genuinely wants the same thing.

Human relationships fail most frequently not from a lack of chemistry, but from a failure of screening. Most individuals treat connection as an emotional lottery rather than an operational funnel. By treating relational entry with the same structural discipline used in business or engineering, you protect your finite cognitive fuel and ensure that only high-availability, emotionally mature individuals gain access to your inner life.

Common Relational Bottleneck Mistakes

• Entering Relationships Pre-Gate 3: The most destructive error is committing to a relationship or investing deep feelings based purely on Opening (1) and Mutual Interest (2). Entering a partnership before Baseline Entry Fit (3) or Behavioral Consistency (4) are proven guarantees future instability.

• The "Potential" Trap (Ignoring Data): Projecting a desired future onto an individual while actively ignoring their current low-effort behavior. If a person fails Tier 3 metrics (late replies, zero follow-up curiosity), no amount of attraction will magically change their communication architecture.

• Over-Functioning to Carry Connections: Mistaking your own high effort for a mutual connection. If you are the sole project manager of a conversation—constantly asking questions, initiating threads, and rescuing silences—you are investing in a relational dead-end.

• Dating the Intermittent Reward: Mistaking the high drama of a "hot-and-cold" pattern for true passion. A secure nervous system requires predictability. A person who is highly available on Tuesday but ghosts on Thursday triggers anxiety loops, not co-regulation.

Strategic Blueprint for Execution

1. Enforce the 3-2-1 Threshold: At initial meetings, look for 3 micro-cues (eye contact, posture), 2 mid-level indicators (conversational generosity), and 1 macro cue (vulnerability/availability). If they fail, do not exchange contact information.

2. Apply the 2-Prompt Cap: During early texting phases, never ask more than two consecutive questions if the other party is not throwing curiosity back. If they provide a one-word filler or dead-end statement, let the conversation breathe or leave it on read.

3. Let Behavior Classify Placement: Stop guessing where people stand. If someone disappears for hours without acknowledgment, they automatically categorize themselves as a Level 2 "Contact." Adjust your response speed and mental priority to match their data exactly.

This system converts emotional ambiguity into structural clarity, ensuring your cognitive energy remains entirely yours until a safe harbor is earned.

A guide for the one who’s done playing games, doesn’t want to settle, and ready to connect on a healthy level.

The percentages in the illustration are not scientific statistics. They simply represent a way of thinking about compatibility and long-term reliability.

The idea is straightforward.

A small percentage of people will consistently demonstrate the qualities needed for a strong, lasting relationship.

Some will have good intentions and genuine potential, but with trade-offs you need to honestly evaluate.

Many others simply won't be the right fit, regardless of attraction or chemistry.

The goal is not to stereotype people.

The goal is to identify who you're dealing with as early as possible and make decisions accordingly.

If you're aiming for someone at the highest standard, be prepared for the possibility that you'll remain single longer. That's often the trade-off for refusing to settle.

And don't overlook the other side of the equation.

If you're expecting someone in the top tier, make sure you're becoming someone who belongs there too.

The standard you expect from others should first be reflected in yourself.

An average man shouldn't complain about average women.

Generalization always amuses me. From your write up, it only happens that way?

My last relationship played out exactly the way you described. But instead, it was me who walked away, not her.

Most generalizations when it comes to men and women actually applies both ways.

What is reality?

Is it what you perceive, or what is?

Different people perceive reality in different ways. Many people may be in the same place, yet experience it differently.

So is reality really real if it is all subjective? Is it an illusion?

What is real?

Today, I want to speak about three different ways the illusion of reality can be seen through.

You either see through the illusion or you don’t.


1. The Relative

If you look closely, mathematics appears to underlie the universe. The deeper we go into science, the more reality reveals itself as governed by patterns, laws, structure, and precision.

Technological advancement feels inevitable. What was impossible yesterday becomes commonplace today.

The universe has consistency and limits. So does code. A truly random world would not appear to operate this way.

Anyone with enough intellect and curiosity can arrive at this perspective.


2. The Esoteric

The universe is in dimensions. From the lowest levels of consciousness (1D) to the infinite (12D).

Earth exists in the 3rd dimension, and the world is under the imprisonment of evil 4th-dimensional beings, with the Demiurge and AI acting as architects.

The idea is to trap consciousness indefinitely within synthetics.

Souls, karma, miracles, psychics, religion, cults, awakening, evolution, Service to Others (StO), and Service to Self (StS) all play within this domain.

Some who see through the illusion only see the dimensions. Others feel called to free humanity from these 4th-dimensional forces by helping raise consciousness to the 5th dimension.

A small minority of people see reality through this lens. To them, the illusion has already been exposed.


3. The Absolute

Non-duality sees through all of this.

It sees through the illusion behind the illusion: the illusion of separation.

In the Absolute, there is nothing happening to no one. And nothing has ever happened.

The entirety of reality can be seen as a dream appearing within Consciousness itself.

Like a dream that seems completely real until you wake up and realize none of it ever happened, despite how real it felt while you were inside it.

All 12 dimensions are simply layers within the dream. There is no one to set free because there is no one imprisoned.

Ego is the true illusion because it believes the illusion to be real. The ego is only a lens.

In the end, the dream exists only for the experience of it.

Life is that experience. It simply is.

In the experience of non-duality, you see no separation between yourself and the world. You are the world.

Less than 0.01% of people who have ever existed experience non-duality.


What is my message to you today?

You are exactly where you need to be.

Reality is not what we perceive; reality is what is.

And what is, is the witness of experience, not the center under the illusion that the experience is happening to it.

Be lighthearted. Enjoy the experience of life as much as you can.

Mazzatov:
You was jilted, I don’t understand that part
After 15years and still counting

His main lover abandoned him.

Candidlady:
Liberalism liberalism

We can't keep allowing madness to just keep sliding by like this..

As crazy as iam somethings dey that Ican never do

This is just madness

If this is a limit for you, and “somethings dey that Ican never do,” perhaps you’re not as crazy as you think you are.

jorion:
Bro, they only do that when they don't care about or have little emotional attachment to the dude. I have been there, we know them wella.

I enjoyed both of your arguments. MrBrownJay1 speaks of character while you speak of emotional attachment. Both of you are spot on.

OP’s girlfriend has avoidant attachment. In that case, it’s a battle between her avoidant nature (which is responsible for the narcissistic behavior) and how attached she is to the OP. And as it is, her avoidant nature clearly wins. OP most likely won’t be fulfilled in a marriage with her. The ball is in his court.

My advice is always simple: decide what’s best for you.

For most of us, the school represents our first experience of performance, progression, success or failure, and lessons. Our mind reflects back to this depending on what’s going on in our present reality. This is why we dream of our past schools, even after many years of graduating from them.

School dreams are not a determiner of our present reality. Neither are they the cause of what’s going on in our present waking life (some Christians have this wrong).

All school dreams are is a reflection of what’s going on in our present reality. In particularly, our subconscious mind. We might or might not be aware of our present state of mind (or the full extent of it), which then plays out in dreams when we sleep in form of our past school.

For instance, if we aren’t satisfied with our present reality in terms of progress; or if we feel stuck, we might have school dreams of being in class and seeing our old schoolmates. Or about needing to write one more exam before we graduate.

Another one, if we are somewhat anxious about an upcoming project or test (or anything performance related), we might have school dreams about being in school and writing a test.

Also, if we feel like we’re failing at something in any area of our life, we might dream of failing an exam in school or writing one and not being able to complete it.

In the same way, school dreams could represent going through a form of test (not literal) in our waking life, if we’re currently learning or venturing into something new.

This kind of dream varies for everyone. But the theme here is consistent: they are a reflection of our present state of mind; of what’s in our subconscious mind. And what they represent for each one of us, will depend on what’s going on in our present reality.

My unsolicited advice, don’t brother about these dreams, they are no harm (as far as I know), focus instead on what you can control in your waking life and aim to improve gradually. Show yourself some love, don’t be discouraged, and never give up.

All the best!

Mikel99:
OP can you see your own smoke?

This

MercyStan:
Yes, orange is the predominant color.

Good question. Mine is black.

nairaman66:
Your conclusions is laughable because God made all
His creations perfect. If she feels comfortable with some colors (She draws energy from them), and feels distracted or uncomfortable (Means she cannot draw energy from them, rather she looses energy). Didn’t mean those without smoke don’t have soul.

Before we draw any conclusions, the OP needs to do a mental evaluation/assessment test to ascertain her mental state. She said I have no smoke, but in my 30+ years on earth, people who know me would tell you I am one of the nicest person ever.

That’s interesting she says that about you.

Do you notice any significant difference between you and most people?

Do you believe in God?

OP if you’re still on this thread, what is the color of Elon Musk and Mark Zuckerberg?

Your answer will be much appreciated.

MockingBird:
No she didn't. She carefully avoided the question multiple times. And this could only mean one thing - either both of them are black smoke or one of them is.

She actually answered the RCCG own (when someone else asked about three people). She said light orange.

I don’t know why she’s avoiding answering the question cos it’s only the Winners own she hasn’t answered.

Goldensword:
She already answered rcc own, she said it's light orange, she answered it when someone asked her about adeboye and odumege

I missed. Thanks.

Vicboy1:
Mercystan highlighted on how no smoke is more common with a lot of top world celebrities
Ourtruth24 said something similar here about humans without souls

Thanks for this.

immanuelsize:
She once said that she only see the colour on people's pictures and not on written names.
So, I suggest u upload a particular pics and ask her about it.
Just upload the new pics of that person. That pastor's picture is needed for her to see the colour and not just writing his name.

She doesn’t need pictures for popular people. She’s answered similar questions on popular people without the person uploading their picture.

Windblown2much:
You keep asking her these questions and she has refused to answer. Leave her be na🤣😂🤣😂

You sef see am. 😂

That’s the sixth time. I’m persistent.

If she clearly says she doesn’t want to answer, I’ll desist.

But so far, she could as well have missed them. 😅

MercyStan:
Light orange

What is the color you find on the founder of Redeem church and of winners chapel?

Carazon:
Messi is not a human because he's a good footballer?

How many tennis trophies has he won?
How many music award has he won?

What will you say about people like Charles Darwin, Socrates, Newton and host of others that we are still using their discoveries till today?

No, that is not why. And Messi not being human wasn’t theorized by me. He only falls in the category of those that I theorized as not being human based on the OP’s psychic soul reading ability.

I don’t understand the logic to those two questions.

Some of those people you mentioned aren’t ordinary. That’s all I can say. If you do not belong in esoteric circles (have knowledge of spiritual reality I mean), we can’t have an agreeable conversation. You will reject my sayings at best; ridicule me at worst.

Lording123:
What is the color of the founders of the RCCG (redeem) and LFC (winners)?

You’re not avoiding this are you, MercyStan?

It’s okay if you don’t want to answer. But if you let me know I’ll stop asking. I only keep asking cos I feel you missed it.

MercyStan:
I can only see the smoke at the time the picture was taken. It's imprinted in the image; like a shadow.

Newer cameras have a way of capturing this color. Older cameras can't.

When I look at pictures of my grandfather when he was alive, I still see his light orange color. But when I saw his corpse he didn't have any smoke.

What is the color of the founders of the RCCG (redeem) and LFC (winners)?

Lording123:
Hi MercyStan,

Thanks for this wonderful (and eye-opening) thread.

I’ve gotten enough to propose a theory.

The smoke colors are energy.

White seems straight forward and conjecturing on what you’ve just said: they are souls with pure energy.

Light orange (or orange) is ying-yang; mix of good and evil. In essence, regular humans.

Black, I theorize as having a connection to the occult (4th dimensional beings). Some 4D beings are evil. Some are not.

The people with no smoke are the undead. Here is a quote about them below by my mentor.

“ Ghosts who did not cross over and stay Earthbound need energy to sustain themselves. but unlike living beings, they do not eat or breathe or use photosynthesis, so their energy comes from by vampirism, sucking the energy of living beings, or sometimes - other forms of energy like electricity from power grid or appliances or geomagnetic energy from natural vortexes, streaming water or mineral deposits. So they are like black holes, sucking energy and not giving anything back - no wonder they feel cold and often depressive. They do not necessarily have bad intentions; they are not like demons who want to hurt people. But their presence is scary and cold and in a long run they can make you sick.”

I hope this helps!

Did you see this MercyStan?

MercyStan:
I think I already answer this.

The president has light orange

His vice however has black.

What is the color of the founder of the following churches:

RCCG (redeem)
LFC (winners)

DeeScan:
but messi has a kid/children .. if he was a ghost or has no soul .. how on earth is a ghost able to impregnate a woman and have kids ..


These one theory get plenty k- leg oo ..

Inshort , NLFPMOD come and move to frontpage .. this needs more audience??

It’s still only a theory.

Plus, not everything is simple. And you don’t know anything about said person. We can’t make any assertions from seeing (and reading about) someone on media.

MercyStan:
Both light orange

Hi Mercy, you missed this:

Lording123:
Mercy,

Can you tell us the color of the founders of the following churches:

RCCG (redeem)
LFC (winners)

hstar:
U just made me love cr7 more with this your analysis,

But messi has parents, we can't conclude that, man is undead but living

Good to see you feel the same way about CR7.

I’ll share the quote I gave to the OP below again. I hope it helps you see how an undead can stay living.

“ Ghosts who did not cross over and stay Earthbound need energy to sustain themselves. but unlike living beings, they do not eat or breathe or use photosynthesis, so their energy comes from by vampirism, sucking the energy of living beings, or sometimes - other forms of energy like electricity from power grid or appliances or geomagnetic energy from natural vortexes, streaming water or mineral deposits. So they are like black holes, sucking energy and not giving anything back - no wonder they feel cold and often depressive. They do not necessarily have bad intentions; they are not like demons who want to hurt people. But their presence is scary and cold and in a long run they can make you sick.”

hstar:
Lording, what can you say about that,
I mean messi, not having any energy in him?

Can we say he's beyond human?
Remember, some sport analysts call him alien

Hey hstar, thanks for your mention.

No smoke means the undead (the cold sensation they often leave the OP with proves this).

Basically, souls who didn’t cross over to the other side (astral plane) and stayed earthbound. How they got to gain another physical body without having to reincarnate is what I’m still finding out (I’m still only new to esoteric knowledge).

If Messi is a ghost, it explains his extraordinary ability.

Yes, he’s beyond human.

This is why I will always respect CR7 more: he’s the only human that competed with Messi. Though Messi eventually edged him out. But CR7 did what no other human could: compete with Messi. And he did it for more than a decade. CR7 has my respect forever.

P.S. I speak of spiritual reality. Science or Christian faith does not support this.

MercyStan:
I am Nigerian.

Mercy,

Can you tell us the color of the founders of the following churches:

RCCG (redeem)
LFC (winners)