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MercyStan:
Yes, orange is the predominant color.

Good question. Mine is black.

Black.. interesting.

Do you consider yourself good or evil?

MercyStan:
Majority of those with the white smoke are babies. I speculate it must indicate a sort of purity of the soul?

Every person I've seen the white smoke on always radiates a sort of positive energy, kindness and innocence that is palpable.

This white smoke isn't related to any religious affiliation as I've seen the white smoke on christians, Muslims, atheists and people practicing eastern religions. Whenever I watch TV and see a popular person with white smoke I always Google their names to know the religion they belong and it's always diverse.

Every serial killer I've seen always has a black smoke. The serial killers observation is a very unique and interesting one as I don't notice this on say people that kill people out of anger or during a fight or quarrel or on armed robbers that murder people during a robbery.

I notice this black colored smoke in some seemingly normal people and in some people that have committed crimes, but with serial killers EVERY SINGLE ONE of them that I've seen ALWAYS has a black smoke. I've never seen one that has no smoke, white smoke or the common light orange smoke.

My speculation is that this black smoke indicates a corruption of their soul by something evil? If this is the case then it's sad because I also see the black smoke on newly born babies.

I also see a lot of black smoke among powerful world leaders, some popular celebrities and some religious leaders. I won't mention any names unless specifically asked about the person.

Following your thread. You’re providing more context now.

Special (and interesting) ability you got there.

So, white is pure of heart. Black is evil. It might not be so simple in the classification, but it’s a good start.

Seeing black on babies is not a surprise. Souls in babies are just that: souls. Not babies.

So, light orange is like normal?

What’s your own color?

Streak47:
It's already so obvious, darkness Vs light. US & the Zionist nation are satan HQ. So unfortunate for US, a progressive nation as theirs with real traditional American values have let the Capitalist & Zionist to rewrite their values and what they stand for. I could remember in a documentary, "the men who built America", how Roosevelt, fought those Capitalist head-on, that John D. Rockefeller had to fled America for the time being. The American people are good and enterprising but they've allowed this so called Satanist to infiltrate their system & values.

What we're seeing is the right side Vs the left. Countries like Russia, that still try to uphold their traditional Christian values, other Islamic states, Countries like China, North Korea & some African States and their traditional values against this so called Rainbow nations(LGBTQ), like US, Israel & some other European puppets anxious for the arrival of the Anti-Christ by creating instabilities, suffering, economic hardship, pains, degeneracy to create a low frequency perfect for the arrival of those evil entities.

You can see what's happening with the Nigeria economy and what happened to Libya. Unnecessary suffering from poor policies despite the abundance of resources. Things might not get better. Those guys IMF, I wouldn't be surprised might be part of the ring. This entities don't want any Govt with an ideology of subsidising things for its citizen. It's alien to their ideologies. And now, they have their puppet.

I still believe someday, might not be during our time, a great reset is just imminent, in the form of nuclear war. And we'd be back again to horses & swords and this present civilization and it's tech into oblivion.

I agree with most of ourtruth247 post. Like 99% and there about.

**Like earth is a prison planet, yes I agree. Because from Biblical and Islam, Adam & Eve where cast away to earth for their sins, that man would continue to suffer.

**Other creations aside humans (aliens, genies, demons, angels), also agree.

**A great reset, also agree.

** Capitalist, Globalist, Zionist, also agree.

** Advanced civilization also agree.

** Low frequency - high frequency, also agree.

** Stages of consciousness, also agree.

The only bone of contention is the deniability of a supreme being, God. Like nope, this whole universe is too complex for things to have evolved by chance. And you don't need to practice any religion to know God exist, the signs are all around us.

Who created the so called Draconians, the entities, the source etc.

The source is God.

Where did he deny the supreme being, God?

Ourtruth247:
There is also the sculpture known as the Christo Velato or the Veiled Christ. Looking almost like a petrified dying man with a cloth over his face.

Hey there Ourtruth, well done as always. I hope you’re doing great.

I stumbled across “Irina Nola” on Quora. You might want to check her profile out (if you didn’t know her already). She talks about things even you didn’t cover in your post (the spiritual bits); and I read virtually all of your posts (and on previous accounts).

It gives hope and inspiration to know we are not alone (those of us who know and believe the truth).

The Christian faith truly is not the truth. And I was a Christian for 28 years.

I’ve begun my spiritual journey. There’s a really long way to go. But it gets easier if you don’t have to worry about material things anymore.

Oh and crossing from 3D to 5D requires spiritual protection while passing through 4D. Akashic records (I briefly read) also are in 7D.

Thank you for enlightening me, and thus help set me free.

Truly, the journey only begins with learning the truth.

Ourtruth247:
Abandoning material things is the key to spiritual enlightenment and breaking free of this prison planet after the death of the body.

But I had kids before I learned all I know. And my kids are very little and I can't abandon my responsibility to provide for them, so I have to work.

I've said it before that this planet is set up for everyone to fail even if some manage to gain the truth.

Money is the primary vessel of control. And the psychopaths in power have made it such that one can hardly survive without it, especially with a family to fend for.

Maybe if I found the truth earlier I would have had second thoughts about starting a family.

When my kids are grown and can take care of themselves I will unshackle myself from this work cycle and spend my time in nature.

Oh you didn’t have to explain. But thanks for doing so.

Vicboy1:
You are saying the truth
The survival system of this earth is created in such a way you can't easily raise your consciousness even if you want to. It will take very strong passion and determination to raise consciousness

It’s the sad reality. Even learning the truth is not enough.

Ourtruth247:
Sorry I haven't posted in a while. I have been really busy with family and work.

There is still a lot to share, in fact I have only just scratched the surface.

I will keep on posting when I can.

Well done sire.

However, busy with “work” and “family”. Those are material things.

It’s why I mentioned in your previous thread (where the dead bodies go), about the grim reality of how improbable it is to reach 5D.

Not saying I’m deterred. I just don’t think one can reach it having a family and work to think of, like you usually advice (to forget even your own physical self - how much more work and family?).

Apologies if I sound despondent (I’m not). But I kind of look up to you.

Lubrica (water based, blue or red in colour)

Great work. Definitely your best thread so far.

It’s good to learn how it all began.

Following observantly.

Ourtruth, nice thread again.

Judging by the size of the skeleton heads, the last reset wasn’t 12ft humans then?

Then how can one operate at a high level of spiritual consciousness in a physical and material world? Is it even realistic?

And I still don’t think you’ve really explained where the power from Christianity comes from, apart from the power of the Jesus consciousness. The same Holy Communion you mentioned has been stated to give many healings. There’s also the Holy Spirit proofs, anointing oil testimonies, Holy mantle testimonies, soul winning testimonies, etc. Where do all these power come from if the whole Christian religion is false?

It also still baffles me that so many great men of God and anointed singers don’t know the truth. Yet only us esoteric few do.

Answering these would really help.

And it’s good to hear from you again, after a brief hiatus.

Jagidijagan:
I believe if you fix a date with someone and you are not going to show up it’s better you tell the person prior not canceling at the last minute .

Fix a date with this babe we have been taking for a while . Queud for hours to get fuel drove 45mins to the venue on the d date she said she was going to make it .

She didn’t show up neither did she reach out. Placed a call and she said she won’t be able to make it and went off . She only replied my text next morning saying she was sorry and that’s all.

And no nothing serious came up she just said she is tired and she didn’t bother to bring up a reschedule or something.

It’s always good to call hours before a date to confirm it’s still on. And also before leaving for the venue.

As per your date, it’s very obvious she’s not into you.

People sometimes agree to things without intention of honoring it. It’s easier for them to agree than to say no initially.

Namaster:
Government need to do something about it nearly killed me.

On a serious note:

The problem here is you STILL believe that there are decent girls out there. But that's FALSE.

ALL women are HOES. You may not know who they're hoeing for but you can rest assured that they are.

It doesn't matter how respectable you think they are, they are secretly hoes. And that includes professionals like doctors, bankers, lecturers, etc.

Also NO age is exempt.

Your strategy is to be PERPETUALLY skeptical of EVERYTHING a woman does or says. And NEVER commit to any of them.

Don't wife them.
Or make them your girlfriends.

Just Bleep and go.

If you need kids, Bleep one, impregnate her and take your kids from her.

You will ALWAYS be disappointed if you expect a woman to be FAITHFUL.

To every rule there is an exception.

You make your words sound like a rule, but they are not. If they were, there are exceptions (which you’ve either chosen to ignore or not lucky to experience).

Folks like you say these things and hold onto these beliefs, because it protects you. But deep inside, you just don’t want to get heartbroken (or anymore). And by truly believing these sort of things, it helps you make some sense of the world.

I have no issues with that. Impressing it on another is what doesn’t make sense to me.

There are lots of folks with good wives and marriages. If your beliefs work for you, you don’t have to impress it on someone else.

And because the OP is disappointed today, doesn’t mean they won’t find joy tomorrow (in said subject).

KingEarnest:
I was once like you until i started following my boss here on Nairaland, Pukkalolo. Search for his profile and go through all topics and posts there.

Start talking to a girl or two everyday. A little hello would do.
From there, you graduate to asking for their names.

It's hard i know but its worth it.

And buy his book too.

The second paragraph here says it all OP. No amount of learning can beat action.

While you missed out on gaining much needed experience in earlier years, it’s not too late to start.
Enough has been said about the cons of being with a partner that doesn’t like you genuinely, and only after what they’ll gain from you, so be on the lookout for that.

To defeat your anxiety, start from random “Hello” (with a smile won’t hurt) like King Earnest said. From there you go on. Only action will rid you of your anxiety.

Auxtan:
I am trying to get back to attracting girls into my life but every time I see myself losing energy in returning their advances at me.

Like it's like I don't care anymore.

This is despite the fact I should have been planning for marriage now if not for the crazy breakup with my girlfriend of 3+ years.

I will be 28 in the last month of this second quarter of 2024 and I am really looking forward to getting into another relationship because I intend marrying soon.

But with this total lost of interest in girls, what could really be wrong with me and how do I improve my situation.

Please therapists in the house should help me. Thanks

I’d advice you take time to heal first. Give yourself time to move on from the break up and fully detach from her.

Regarding your ex, if someone says they don’t feel anything for you anymore, you should believe them.

Regarding marriage, while I don’t know much about you, I don’t see a lot of reasons for a 28 year old man to be in a rush for one. Why not marry after you find the one for you, rather than go into a relationship because you want to marry soon?

Bintabisiriyu2:
Don't berate yourself, there's nothing good in marriage, just bills, stress and baggages.
And there's no Nigerian girl that is worth the time.
If truly you wan marry look for a desperate enp with a good job and marry and make sure you are using your brain and stay in control in that marriage shikena, but you won't cos i smell SIMPery in your blood.
No Nigerian girl is worth going to therapy for - therapy for what - a Nigerian girl? Okay.

The therapy is for himself.

Ourtruth247:
5. Every thing one does in his physical lifetime amounts to experience, whether good or bad. The goal is to learn and grow, although sometimes this goal isn't met and it might require multiple lifetimes for this learning and growth to happen.

Sometimes souls make wrong choices in their lifetimes which decreases their spiritual consciousness but choose to rewrite those choices in their next life.

Sadly growth and learning doesn't apply to humans on earth in the way I described above. Our case is different.

We are playing a game where we only have one chance to learn and grow. When we die we start the learning from scratch.

Unlike free beings who retain the memories of all their previous experiences, we always start with a blank slate.

That's why our predicament is almost hopeless.

That's also why our lifespan was decreased by the Alpha Draconians in order to prevent enough time for learning and growth.

6. I don't think it's possible to rise to the uppermost echelons of power without sharing the same psychological profile as those who run things at that level. You have to be sociopathic and obsessed with power to get to that level.

I doubt someone who isn't power hungry and desperate for wealth would even try to get to that level. Anyone with genuinely good intentions for the public who even tries to approach that level of power would be filtered out immediately because their goals will contradict that of the sociopaths in power.

7. By appreciating all you have and not complaining about things you don't have, but rather realizing that you create your reality and have the power to get anything you want.

8. By just simply wishing the best for them;.not showing contempt, jealously, envy or hatred of any sort.

I'm not a fan of prayer. You don't need to pray to anything. By praying to something you are giving away your power to that thing and proving that you have no knowledge of who you truly are. You have the power to shape your reality and prayer is antithetical to spiritual growth.

9. I've also been having the same exact dream. I think it's a revelation of the past; probably the previous reset. A lot of people have also been having the same dream. Dreams of this sort happen when the soul begins to unshackle itself from mental manipulation.

There is something called the akashic records. It's a storehouse of all our past memories. Based on my research when a soul begins to grow spiritually, it can gain temporary access to the akashic records and get a glimpse into his past.

All understood. I really appreciate you for taking the time out to answer them.

@9 whoa! I’m actually starting to think it’s a past memory thing too. But it’s weird to know you’ve been having the same exact dream.

Though so far (after many threads read) I’ve not seen any mention of where an enlightened soul goes after life (on earth) once it breaks free from the matrix.

Ourtruth247:
Sorry for the delay in responding to your question. I've just been so focused on this thread. There is so much information I have to expose.

I'll respond to your question very soon.

Alright understood 🙌🏼

Sure thing. 💪🏼

Ourtruth247:
Little babies ice advert

A company named little babies icecream released an ad many years ago.

Knowing what we know about the meaning of the pedophilia code word "ice cream" it puts a lot of context on the video.

Watch it and come to your own conclusions.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=erh2ngRZxs0?si=Ybb8mUKSe7Tyvj-W

Very creepy.

Well done Ourtruth, I asked a follow up question to your answer (to my original question) on the prequel to this thread.

Will you check it out or should I repost here?

P.S. Someone else was also calling for it to be answered as it’ll help them too.

P.P.S. It’s at the top of the third page.

drimzsmoke:
"Folie a deux", that's what this is called in psychiatry. Sorry for the late reply, I couldn't remember this until now!!!

You do not relate because it doesn’t resonate with you.

Some of us had questions and suspicions before the OP’s threads surfaced.

Ourtruth247:
You are welcome

1. Our current human bodies are a recent creation by the Alpha Draconians. They accelerated the evolution of primates on earth by intermixing their genetics with genetics gotten from the bodies of the 5th dimensional beings; and then manipulated the gene structure in a way that made us shorter, less intelligent and more amenable to mental and spiritual manipulation.

I was making reference to the evolution of this current physical body.

2. The Christian faith is predicated primarily on the believe in the Jesus consciousness. This consciousness actually exists, it's very powerful and it can be channeled.

Also, the mind is very powerful and we have the ability to create our reality by our thoughts. Even if something doesn't exist, as long as multiple human consciousnesses focus on that thing with absolute belief, it's begins to exist.

3. The soul is supposed to experience everything; both good and bad; and then grow as a result. That's why outside of this prison planet called Earth, souls keep all their memories even after the death of their physical bodies, and they make decisions to have new experiences in new environment and new bodies in order to learn more and grow. At the end of their growth, they return to the source and become one with it.

4. Having a partner does not halt your spiritual development, neither does it devolve it. Same applies to sex. The question is who this partner is and why are you together.

Love is the purest expression of the source energy and its the most powerful emotion. When two people who genuinely love each other engage in sexual interactions, they create a very powerful form of energy that can be used to manifest their collective thoughts. If your partner is in the same spiritual wavelength as you, it expedites your spiritual growth.

However if genuine love isn't shared between two of you, maybe you are in it for lust or she is in it for money, then such relationship is parasitic or transactional and would be antithetical to your spiritual growth.

Thanks for your response. All well understood (#1 is clarified).

I do have some more and permit me to ask. Your answers once again, will aid evolution.

5. Does having earthy accomplishments like technological innovations (which help people) and philanthropy amount to “experiences”? Or are they things an enlightened soul wouldn’t concern itself with?

6. Is it possible to rise to the uppermost echelons of this world (in technology) independent of the controllers of this world?

I mean if you don’t belong to their clan, don’t they try to eliminate one? Or do we have people at the top of industry who do not belong to their clan?

7. How do you express gratitude to source?

8. How do you wish someone well, or pray for them as an enlightened soul, absent the religious way?

9. Recently, I used to have recurring dreams (they’ve since stopped) of some sort of doomsday in which highly sophisticated dome-shaped spacecrafts hovered overhead to wipe out civilization. I often woke up (before the said wiping out actually took place) feeling those dreams were warnings of what was to come. Could they perhaps be memories of past lives instead?

Ourtruth247:
The worst type of Ignorance

The worst type of ignorance is the close-minded kind; the kind of ignorance where a person believes he has all the answers and ridicules anyone that tries to present any information that runs contrary to his.

The guy above has always been quick to mention the field of physics as his bastion of truth about reality. But in his attempt to showcase his intelligence, he has revealed his ignorance of the very field he claims to know so much about.

Quantum mechanics is a field within the field of physics that presents evidence that runs contrary to what we know about physics. On the quantum level, matter does not follow the laws of classical physics. For example on the quantum level, a single electron can exist in multiple places at once. These kinds of findings have baffled even the smartest physicists

In fact this discovery was further emphasized in the subject of Quantum Entanglement, a subject that earned three physicists the Nobel Prize in 2022. Nobel prizes are only awarded to groundbreaking discoveries and this was indeed groundbreaking.

I'll suggest that everyone reads about Quantum Entanglement and in general the shocking discoveries in the field of Quantum Mechanics. It really explains how human consciousness shapes our reality, and how contemporary science hasn't fully understood the true nature of the reality we exist in.

Read up on experiments like the very famous Double slit experiment and similar ones.

Thanks for the suggested readings.

I’ve been waiting for you to come on.

I’ve read many of your threads (and still reading). I have a few questions of mine to ask. I’ll appreciate your answering them.

1. First, you said we came to this planet as 5th dimensional beings, chased away 4th dimensional entities, and also gained a (giant) human body. But our mortal body over time made us weak and the 4th dimensional entities came back to wage war on us, which they succeeded. Then created a lesser version of us (current human race) and began the endless reincarnation recycling, and over time resets (when general level of vibration is getting high).

But then, you also said our evolution as species was accelerated by aliens (which ties in with the female reptile Lacerta’s account).

Which is true or how do you reconcile the two?

2. So if the Christian faith is not as we know it: how do you reconcile genuine signs and wonders, genuine testimonies, and the Holy Spirit (with some genuine encounters) of the Christian faith, with the fact that it’s all false?

3. “ The only purpose for existence is for consciousness to experience and evolve.” That’s a direct quote from one of your comments; what exactly is a soul supposed to “experience”, as specifically as possible?

4. Say one manifests a life partner but by the time one meets this said life partner, one already attains spiritual enlightenment, will one still feel the need to have a life partner and become a Union by intercourse?

Basically, I’m asking, does spiritual enlightenment eliminate the fleshly desire for a life partner? And does having sex with a sole partner affect spiritual enlightenment? You’re married so this should be straightforward.

Looking forward to your answers; thanks.

P.S. Again, I like to think I’m waking up. But I need some things clarified to aid my evolution from here.

Ourtruth247:
Just go through my threads. Most of the information I have is shared on my threads.

I choose to remain anonymous because the information I share can be dangerous sometimes and certain people may want to harm me.

Understood.

However, there are many questions you left unanswered on the questions thread you created on the 7th. Answering some of them might save some of mine. Then I can also ask the ones yet to be asked.

Hello Ourtruth,

I’ve been quietly following. I’ll like to think I’m waking up.

How can I become a mentee?

I understand you often say you don’t need anyone to grow spiritually. I only want to learn more from you personally.

ubunja:
problem is I easily get distracted. Must be that gemini thing. I need a team to keep me focused. No wonder even artists have a manager.

Can we work together? Talk via WhatsApp maybe.

ubunja:
changing one's mindset about the world is not always easy or welcome.

Dear Ubunja, I have a suggestion. I’ve been studying your miseducations literally since noon and still very many more opened tabs to go. I have your website too and I will likely read all posts there (are you the person on the avatar?) I also am going to read “the manipulated man” that you often recommend, I have it already. And “the superior man” Am an ardent follow of the red pill and #MGTOW movement.

This suggestion came to my mind while I was studying one of the miseducation posts here, which I will return to after posting this.

I believe you can do a far greater good and even contribute to a worldwide effect rather than the limits of nairaland and your website.

The suggestion: Why not write the MISEDUCATIONS book as Robert Greene wrote the 48 laws of power?

One big book with references, quotes, guides or like the Robert Greene Book: Judgement, Transgressions, Observance, Interpretations, Authortiy, Keys to power. Along with the quotes and stories on the side.

You have such profound knowledge and understanding about women than any man I have seen. Truly you are a rare genius in your field.
I believe you have such talents to write a book like that.

One big book that dymistifes women once and for all! That liberates billions or millions worldwide.

The book can even go on to have an influence in the creation of a new society as more men will rise to know better when it comes to women.

I would have submitted myself to this cause but I already have a cause am pursuing - which is one of service also - and you are already established in this field.

You are the man.

Not to mention that wealth, fame and prestige will follow but the main key here is the cause: the liberation.

Combining all your topics, every single one, is a start and then researching on more. Leaving none out and creating that one book that will help even generations to come.

What do you think?

Good for the OP he learnt further. I hope your friend from this day remains a free man, because the truth has set him free.

ubunja:
do you. If you think otherwise do what you think will work for you. You are not forced to do things this way.

Some people hate it when the status quo is attacked. Mostly female and some blind men that do not want to see the truth.

In the end everyone should do what works for them.

#RedPill
#MGTOW

jackals:
When women chose you, it's a different Ball game.

I'm saying this because I understand what I can do when it comes to the person I chose. I can go miles for him

For the man arguing with Ubunja, this clears it all. Coming from a woman. I think you get the whole concept wrong bro.

When women chose you, they willingly give you their heart and can do anything for you while you don’t have to do anything other than breathe.

But when you choose them, you do everything to win their heart. Sometimes you get it, sometimes you don’t. But you will always be trying to please her and suit her. In the end, you can still lose her to the one she chooses.

It’s so hard for some people to get a new understanding or value other than the one they have been used to.

It is ineffective to try to advise someone out of a heartbreak. You can’t use a logical advice to get a person out of a heartbreak.

Emotions and logic are two different things.

At the point of heartbreak, the willpower is low and even if they are aware of all logic and reality, it is still not enough to get them to act. They will still follow the path of least resistance rather than do what is right or sensible at this point.

You have to be more practical and empathetic.

What you should really be doing is to help them get out of their demise not advice them out of it - that is not enough.

This can include funny insults, helping them see the bigger picture (of life being bigger than a single person who decided not to love them anymore), helping them develop interests in other things and also replacing the part of them that had just left (hooking them up with a few nice beautiful women should do the trick - a new woman they find really attractive and exciting would do a lot of help!)

To give advice is cheap, if you truly care about them you’d be more practical. Their will is what you are trying to win back here. Mere logical reasoning is not enough at this point.

So yeah, stop advising and start helping!

ubunja:
Lording123 anyone can be the Prize

I agree with your conclusion. Parents need to raise their kids right, to stop being used. But if everyone knew the Game then the Game will cease to exist. Actually in the future almost everyone will know the game and things will be straightforward once and for all.

Thanks for such a nice analysis of that Chosen Miseducation.

The honor is mine ma man.

I wanted to know what your thoughts are on “Patriarchy (the standard in former generations) as against Feminism (starting to rise in this modern generation)”

For it is not enough to be chosen, you also must know how to play the game. As it is not enough to gain power, you must also know how to maintain it, else you lose it. Being chosen only gets you in the game, you must also know how to play it.

Big kudos to Ubunja. Man has inspired guys like myself to know better when it comes to dealing with women.

If you continue reading this post, am assuming you have already read Ubunja’s miseducation post: Chosen.

Now let’s continue.

As it has been debunked in the post, the secret to getting a woman that will love you unconditionally without you breaking any sweat over is by being chosen by the woman. You wait to be chosen. It has to come naturally from the woman as love is not to be earned.

But this is only half the work, how long you actually stay in the relationship or keep it at great conditions depends on what you know on how to deal with women.

If you do not know how to play the game, in simple terms - how to deal with and handle women, you may yet find yourself in a losing position.

Hence, the need to know how to play the game.

To be continued...

Cc. Ubunja

In this piece he states that the one who is being chased, the prey, is the prize. And the one who chases is the hunter. Also, he stated that the best way to find someone who loves you unconditionally without you breaking a sweat to impress them is simply by being chosen.

While he stated this in the view of the man being the prize, and having gone through the comments I have now come with my own thoughts about this.

I believe the theory holds true for either sex and truly the one that loves more, the hunter, is the one who suffers more and the one who loves less, the prize, is the one who holds the power. This is true for either a man or a woman being the prize and in this case of Ubunja’s piece, it is the man.

Truly the same girl every other guy is trying so hard to woo and impress is giving her attention and time easily to another guy, why? Because she chose him, simple.

At the same time for guys, the girl who actually loves you is not the one you care much for. But it is that same one that is not treating you rightly that you keep making efforts for. Why? Because she is the one you chose.

So this makes me conclude that it holds true for either sex. But then, we have more cases of men being the heartbroken one these days.

My simple explanation for that is due to the simple fact that naturally, men are the hunters. Naturally men chase women and for most times, it is not the other way round. Hence, more men are heartbroken, as the fate of most hunters, simply because more men do the hunting than women.

This explains why a girl will stick to that boyfriend that keeps hitting her. Or why a guy will stick to that girl that keeps hurting him. Because they chose them and will do anything to keep their prize. While the other cares less and does not value them much because they are not their own prize or trophy.

Another thing I would add is that, women are not as simple and straightforward as men. Show a woman too much love and attention and she will lose interest in you or start giving up attitudes (there are exceptions.) Also, the best way to get a girl’s attention is by actually ignoring her.

In essence, most men do not know how to deal with women. They do too much, they try too much, they are too obedient, they are too simple, no mystery, they care too much and display wayyy too much emotions. Leaving little or nothing for the mind of the woman to wander about. Giving no challenge for the woman to always pursue. Hence, she loses interest and treats them badly. As women are naturally wired this way, they can’t help it.

You can call this a double wahala case.

Which makes me conclude that you can actually chase a woman and then make her stay in love and respect for you if you can play the game well.

But first of all, men do the chasing (already at a disadvantage) and then you go on to do things in the wrong proportions (inviting more trouble to the already existing one.) Hence, why there are so many heartbroken men these days.

So for each and everyone, according to Ubunja, if you want to be loved unconditionally, better you be the prize than the hunter.

One more thing I’d like to add, we blame the society for how women are at a disadvantage and same as for men. Yet it is this same society that is starting to complain these days about how things are. People rise from this same society to complain and protest.

So how do we solve this? Maybe never. Or maybe better for each one to solve their own problems and get things right for themselves.

If everyone trains their sons and daughters the right way, the world would be a far better place. But sadly the one that is supposed to teach does not himself know.

But maybe there is hope for the generation coming after us because some of us are starting to wise up.

Cc. Ubunja