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Can you hate her? That’s just women for you.

Except you’re gay, misogynist, asexual or priesty, you always need a woman. And there is always a good one out there.

But that’s just women for you bro. Many of us have been there. Nigeria here, India, US, Europe all the same. They are meant to mess your emotions up, betray you and make you see the harsh truth of life, how it works and how they (women) work.

It’s just the process. To be successful you have to gain experience. To do well, you have to gain experience. And how do you gain experience? By failing and struggling first.

So be of good cheer my bro. For now you are free. You have learnt the truth and it has set you free. Never ever be hurt by the devil you already know again. And never trust the angel you do not know.

The truth has set you free but woe unto the one whom the betrayal came from.

I wish you all the best in your recovery phase, it will be hard but you will surely recover. The memories will even take longer to go but surely you will find love again, maybe true love this time.

Till then, look after yourself bro. There’s more to life than another judas.

I had my fair share too but OT done dey now.

Two years relationship that later became an on-again off-again relationship. She like me but the hoe inside no let her rest. Always going and coming back.

Mama wan explore and enjoy her youthful days.

Las las na one day for the owner jare my brother.

Mr Op don’t you have your future to think about? Na 6 years time marriage you dey think about? With Nigerian girls of these days?

Abeg live in the moment and focus on your career while yet avoiding most mistakes weak men make with girls before they finally learn.

Anything can happen at any time. You fit leave her. She fit leave you. External factor fit break una up.

Abeg let’s discuss your ambitions and career forecast in 6 years time. Planning marriage already with a 19 years old? Lol. You go learn also.

Well, personally I do not think it is far fetched to think that not all of them that do so are wild albeit very little.

And for the mere fact that you have it either shows you are already wild or have a potential to be, since a sense of decency didn’t prevent you from having it.

I’ve not had a personal experience with them and the ones that do have spoken.

My advice is for the Op to share his frustration with her before making a final decision. What happens from the discussion will give you your much needed answer.

I feel you @op. I am scared of this generation and the people we will all end up marrying. The kind of past they will have.

In this case op, what is your own solution to this? I mean will you marry earlier or how won’t you also end up with the same fate you wrote about.

(This is my first comment on nairaland since 2015 of being a visitor )

Two ways; some women might not be ‘women’ to you but to other men, such as a friend, a family member, extended families, a colleague etc. The ones that are a ‘woman’ to you are defined by romantic interests.

Quick facts:

• There is no true love or real romantic relationship: It is all relative and their interests is all that matters to them.

• Age does not matter but trend does: Age does not determine or explain their maturity or behavior. There are only trends of how some particular age gap or group behave.

• Some men get the better of women: Men who are smarter than them (use them for friends with benefits, the playboys, strict boyfriends), men who control women with money (to get them to do whatever they want), men who use women only or mostly for sex.

• The lover boy or gentleman is always the victim: There is a particular way women are wired; engaging them in a love or adoring relationship will later fail.

• Women are not smart, they are only cunny: They respond based on how you handle or treat them (both in productive and counter productive situations.) Meaning they are mostly passive and can’t act for themselves. It depends on who they are dealing with. Women however are, or can be, deceitful and manipulative.

• Some leave the league of ‘women’: There are some who later become different and more reasonable (active thinking and intelligent) influenced by factors such as age and maturity, career influence, experience and ready to settle down etc.

Best Tip: Never compromise when it comes to women. Treat them in the way that works best with them. All women are the same in the long run except for those out of this league. Be aware of this and if you want something real, true and lasting - it is better to go for those not in the league. But NEVER compromise or else you suffer for it. Understanding this will go a long way.


Disclaimer: This is not based on research work but on the ideas and realizations of the original poster. In essence, his own opinion, you have yours too. Feel free however to criticize or supplement.