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Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Auxtan(m): 11:22am On May 04
I am trying to get back to attracting girls into my life but every time I see myself losing energy in returning their advances at me.

Like it's like I don't care anymore.

This is despite the fact I should have been planning for marriage now if not for the crazy breakup with my girlfriend of 3+ years.

I will be 28 in the last month of this second quarter of 2024 and I am really looking forward to getting into another relationship because I intend marrying soon.

But with this total lost of interest in girls, what could really be wrong with me and how do I improve my situation.

Please therapists in the house should help me. Thanks
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by IbrahimSkiba(f): 11:29am On May 04
Good luck...


Before the Good luck takes effect, pray against SPIRITUAL WIFE
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Auxtan(m): 11:31am On May 04
IbrahimSkiba:
Good luck...


Before the Good luck takes effect, pray against SPIRITUAL WIFE
God forbid abeg. Which one be spiritual wife again? angry
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by IbrahimSkiba(f): 11:32am On May 04
Auxtan:

God forbid abeg. Which one be spiritual wife again? angry



How I want take know? You fit get
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Auxtan(m): 11:33am On May 04
IbrahimSkiba:




How I want take know? You fit get
This is scary abeg. Off mic biko.
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Rexymania(m): 12:31pm On May 04
IbrahimSkiba:




How I want take know? You fit get

I love your eyes. Mhen
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by zyzxx(m): 12:54pm On May 04
Auxtan:

This is scary abeg. Off mic biko.
Give yourself time
Don't enter any relationship for now because you will make the wrong decision.
Take your time to heal, I mean heal

Just be friend with anyone lady that comes your way, else, if you choose any lady without healing, you might question yourself of not being patient and chances of getting another lady If you are patient.


Also, I don't see your relationship with your ex being over yet

Just be patient and be prayeful

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Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Auxtan(m): 1:16pm On May 04
zyzxx:

Give yourself time
Don't enter any relationship for now because you will make the wrong decision.
Take your time to heal, I mean heal

Just be friend with anyone lady that comes your way, else, if you choose any lady without healing, you might question yourself of not being patient and chances of getting another lady If you are patient.


Also, I don't see your relationship with your ex being over yet

Just be patient and be prayeful

I have been praying to have her back how ever God will do it. She's really the one my heart wants.

Sadly she's in a new relationship now with a 30yo pastor.

But thankfully the pastor has said intimacy will be after marriage and they are not in the same city.

We still talk on phone but she says she feels nothing for me anymore and that she's in a new relationship and can't just leave.

I am so sad that I lost my treasure as I call her. I am her first intimate partner. For 2+ months now I have been carrying a heavy heart.
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Bintabisiriyu2: 1:28pm On May 04
Don't berate yourself, there's nothing good in marriage, just bills, stress and baggages.
And there's no Nigerian girl that is worth the time.
If truly you wan marry look for a desperate enp with a good job and marry and make sure you are using your brain and stay in control in that marriage shikena, but you won't cos i smell SIMPery in your blood.
No Nigerian girl is worth going to therapy for - therapy for what - a Nigerian girl? Okay.

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Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Auxtan(m): 1:33pm On May 04
Bintabisiriyu2:
Don't berate yourself, there's nothing good in marriage, just bills, stress and baggages.
And there's no Nigerian girl that is worth the time.
If truly you wan marry look for a desperate enp with a good job and marry and make sure you are using your brain and stay in control in that marriage shikena, but you won't cos i smell SIMPery in your blood.
No Nigerian girl is worth going to therapy for - therapy for what - a Nigerian girl? Okay.

If you grew up in a home that people loved each other you wouldn't be preaching against love or marriage.

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Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Nicepoker(m): 1:59pm On May 04
Rexymania:


I love your eyes. Mhen
Man down I repeat man down. Back up needed immediately grin

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Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Lording123(m): 2:05pm On May 04
Bintabisiriyu2:
Don't berate yourself, there's nothing good in marriage, just bills, stress and baggages.
And there's no Nigerian girl that is worth the time.
If truly you wan marry look for a desperate enp with a good job and marry and make sure you are using your brain and stay in control in that marriage shikena, but you won't cos i smell SIMPery in your blood.
No Nigerian girl is worth going to therapy for - therapy for what - a Nigerian girl? Okay.


The therapy is for himself.
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Lording123(m): 2:09pm On May 04
Auxtan:
I am trying to get back to attracting girls into my life but every time I see myself losing energy in returning their advances at me.

Like it's like I don't care anymore.

This is despite the fact I should have been planning for marriage now if not for the crazy breakup with my girlfriend of 3+ years.

I will be 28 in the last month of this second quarter of 2024 and I am really looking forward to getting into another relationship because I intend marrying soon.

But with this total lost of interest in girls, what could really be wrong with me and how do I improve my situation.

Please therapists in the house should help me. Thanks

I’d advice you take time to heal first. Give yourself time to move on from the break up and fully detach from her.

Regarding your ex, if someone says they don’t feel anything for you anymore, you should believe them.

Regarding marriage, while I don’t know much about you, I don’t see a lot of reasons for a 28 year old man to be in a rush for one. Why not marry after you find the one for you, rather than go into a relationship because you want to marry soon?

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Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Auxtan(m): 2:55pm On May 04
Lording123:


I’d advice you take time to heal first. Give yourself time to move on from the break up and fully detach from her.

Regarding your ex, if someone says they don’t feel anything for you anymore, you should believe them.

Regarding marriage, while I don’t know much about you, I don’t see a lot of reasons for a 28 year old man to be in a rush for one. Why not marry after you find the one for you, rather than go into a relationship because you want to marry soon?
I want to move on but it's really my biggest challenge at the moment.
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Bintabisiriyu2: 4:12pm On May 04
Lording123:


The therapy is for himself.
No, he's going for therapy in order to lose his guard and learn how to love and trust a girl again, Hahahaha.
I really wish him all the best.
Someone wants to let go of common sense
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Bintabisiriyu2: 4:14pm On May 04
Auxtan:

If you grew up in a home that people loved each other you wouldn't be preaching against love or marriage.
Ok Sir Simp

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Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by olawale780: 4:49pm On May 04
Auxtan:


But with this total lost of interest in girls, what could really be wrong with me and how do I improve my situation.

Please therapists in the house should help me. Thanks

STOP MASTURBATING.

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Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Tallesty1(m): 6:15pm On May 04
Auxtan:


I have been praying to have her back how ever God will do it. She's really the one my heart wants.

Sadly she's in a new relationship now with a 30yo pastor.

But thankfully the pastor has said intimacy will be after marriage and they are not in the same city.

We still talk on phone but she says she feels nothing for me anymore and that she's in a new relationship and can't just leave.

I am so sad that I lost my treasure as I call her. I am her first intimate partner. For 2+ months now I have been carrying a heavy heart.
How come you know all these? You are not helping yourself man. Cut off all communication and move on, she aint coming back, she's gone and you won't heal if you continue keeping tabs on her. You gotta accept the fact that she aint coming back, okay? You will get over her fast if you do that.
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Rexymania(m): 7:03pm On May 04
Nicepoker:
Man down I repeat man down. Back up needed immediately grin

I have been rescued grin
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by zyzxx(m): 7:29pm On May 04
Auxtan:


I have been praying to have her back how ever God will do it. She's really the one my heart wants.

Sadly she's in a new relationship now with a 30yo pastor.

But thankfully the pastor has said intimacy will be after marriage and they are not in the same city.

We still talk on phone but she says she feels nothing for me anymore and that she's in a new relationship and can't just leave.

I am so sad that I lost my treasure as I call her. I am her first intimate partner. For 2+ months now I have been carrying a heavy heart.
I understand you perfectly bro
It's normal for her to not feel anything for you at the moment, if you want her to feel something for you or think about what you shared, don't give her the attention again, stop all communication, then she will be able to know where are heart belongs

If you are still available, she won't miss you at all. So give her some space

And about her being in another relationship that's nothing to bother about, if she is your own she will definitely come back if you are praying according to the will of God

Again just be patience, don't force anything, man-up, give her distance, then she will miss you, then chase you but if you are still around, she wont miss you
Cut all the communication
Manup!

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Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Auxtan(m): 7:43pm On May 04
zyzxx:
I understand you perfectly bro
It's normal for her to not feel anything for you at the moment, if you want her to feel something for you or think about what you shared, don't give her the attention again, stop all communication, then she will be able to know where are heart belongs

If you are still available, she won't miss you at all. So give her some space

And about her being in another relationship that's nothing to bother about, if she is your own she will definitely come back if you are praying according to the will of God

Again just be patience, don't force anything, man-up, give her distance, then she will miss you, then chase you but if you are still around, she wont miss you
Cut all the communication
Manup!
Thanks so much. That manning up starts tonight. In fact, I want to take my mind totally off marriage and see where life leads me.

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Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by ObalendeCMS: 7:56pm On May 04
Homie, don't stress over a nigerian girl.
These girls are very deadly!
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by zyzxx(m): 8:42pm On May 04
Auxtan:

Thanks so much. That manning up starts tonight. In fact, I want to take my mind totally off marriage and see where life leads me.
that where your freedoms lies
And about marriage save yourself from that pressure

God be with you and help you through amen

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Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Auxtan(m): 8:48pm On May 04
zyzxx:
that where your freedoms lies
And about marriage save yourself from that pressure

God be with you and help you through amen
Amen

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Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Caleb15(m): 11:48pm On May 04
Your gayder have been piqued
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by AcadaWriter: 2:19am On May 05
Your gayder have been piqued
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Gadafii: 4:29am On May 05
You see that marriage, no 'prejure' yourself too much about that,and don't be desperate before you marry Wetin go hang you for neck
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by Sapasenator: 4:34am On May 05
How can someone who is not in any relationship "intend to marry soon"

You wan marry spirit wife?
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by ITbomb(m): 11:44am On May 05
Stop masturbation
Re: Could This Be Phobia For Ladies??? by EmperorCaesar(m): 12:20pm On May 05
Bintabisiriyu2:
Don't berate yourself, there's nothing good in marriage, just bills, stress and baggages.
And there's no Nigerian girl that is worth the time.
If truly you wan marry look for a desperate enp with a good job and marry and make sure you are using your brain and stay in control in that marriage shikena, but you won't cos i smell SIMPery in your blood.
No Nigerian girl is worth going to therapy for - therapy for what - a Nigerian girl? Okay.



This one no go fit control Enp o,na Dem go dey use him head


Better make he wait first, clock 40 then make he con marry one 25yo girl

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