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OGBEREIJEBU:
Stright to point

I am 36years old. Many years ago after NYSC, I have no Juicy paying Job that can enable me to marry. I was in a relationship with Ugochi from when she was 20 until 28.
Age was not on her side so I being a nobleman advised her to go ahead and marry one wealthy middle-aged man 41, that was asking for her hand in marriage.

The pressure to marry him was too much from her friends and family. I had no juicy Job, could barely eat, pay bills and have a chance to even drink and buy clothing.

I had to make sacrifices for her, so 5 days to her wedding, we agreed in unison to meet for farewell and farewell F@@k.With frustration and Heavy heart I ca..me deep inside her Four times. Gave her money for drugs (White quinine or postinor 2), she rejected it and promised to take care of it herself. I went to her wedding, eat, wished her well and left. Cried all night and moved on.

Her hubby took her to Abuja.

Now I have a good job. I am building my house and I have a car. I am extremely comfortable now.

I got a call earlier this year and it was Ugochi. She was desperate to see me.
she travelled down to Lagos to see me.
I wasn't comfortable so I talked her out of coming to my house. We met at an eatery and she came with one handsome little boy.
I ordered Food for them and then my biggest fear came.
She said her husband found out the baby is not his and sent her packing.
She informed me the baby is mine.

I was shocked and I had to tell her I am squatting with someone, She and xxxxxxxx left for Imo State but before then, I denied and I argued, I went defensive.

The problem I have now is that I am planning my traditional wedding in August 2022 I have a presentable fiancee I love way too much.

Now, I can lie to the world but I can't lie to myself. That Little boy looks like me and has my pointed nose. Facially, it is glaring He is mine but I don't love Ugochi again, I have moved on. I love my fiancee so much.

How can I handle this situation?

You dated someone's child for 8 years. You enjoyed her body 8 solid years. Still had the mind to do a "last one" before the wedding.
Na God catch you. You can't escape.
Do nonsense and see if your wife to be will ever have a child.
Wicked man.

Sexy Zadddyy

Pretty sure you're a closeted cross dresser
And you like men don't ya?

Mustiboy:
Yes, and I mean the very neat ones.

Mind you, it's not an awful smell per se, just that I can't stand it.

Maybe it's just me.

I don't think you should generalise though. Maybe it wasn't well washed or stuff.

Mustiboy:
Not minding the neatness, I just don't like it.

That thing can suffocate someone, even if you put all the hair deodorants in the world.

You mean it smells?

Mustiboy:
I don't like dreads.

I can't stand a woman with one. I'd throw up

Nothing wrong with locs if it's neat yunno.

Your hair though

MAGG0T:


na sickler your yeye friend wan pilot now,

Man has got no shame

What's wrong with sicklers?

Darkseidxx:
Make e nr rough doke or choke her
I nr wan see person for FP

Everything you must drag sex inside. OK na

I think there's nothing wrong with it. Though I wonder, if he gets scared she'll die and leave him.
It's risky right?

Chef chi and Davido are now poster children for dead situationships?

Gadaf007:
Hello dear Nairaland

I have been dating a girl for the past 5 years she has every thing I want in a lady but she’s too dependent since I have been dating her I buy from latest iPhones to sanitary pads , data , house rent , I even sent her to a fashion school which I spent millions on her, when she was at the fashion school.

Ever since she has resumed her school I told her won’t she be doing something in school like handling her friends and clients wears like sowing and selling quality materials I promise to open website , create mobile app , register her company , open cooperate account for her she’s yet to believe she can start making money her self .

During the conversation she told me how do I expect her to cope with class I was like woman I only allowed you to school because you should be able to stand out at-least you are not working for any one even when we get married she insists until she finish her school honestly I was pissed and decided not to give her any penny again until she fix her self..

Because I am a business man I have businesses running I believe my partner should also be doing something for her self not depending on me most time I don’t feel comfortable spending a dime on her again..

I need advice..

I want to date you.

This lady is getting married respectably. The younger sister was foolish, flunked school, following Davido about, dead chef career and becoming a baby mama only to be dumped.
Women, let's be wise Abeg.

Stop feeling entitled to people's affections.
If you want to love, love. Doesn't mean they'd reciprocate. Learn how to conserve your affection and channel it to profitable outlets.
Move!

olisaEze:
You’ve got a problem and it’s not your cousin’s dress sense, it’s ur own mind!

From the get-go it appears u don’t think of her as a sister, if not, whats with all the excuses about mini skirts & bum shorts. Abi Oga, if ur mom wears bum shorts for ur dad, will ur pr*ck still stand??

Abeg getat joor with ur corrupt mind!
Instead of looking out for a girl that trusts u as her big bros, ure already set on taking advantage of her naivety! Fricking scum!!






Buh wait first.... u say the body na coke bottle ni, which side ur house dey first??

My friend, don’t look at me that way, she’s wrong for you and right for others. I am others!!

Kobojunkie:
I was waiting for someone like you to stupidly quote the bible.

So here are two things. According to Jesus Christ, the fact that you are around by a woman who is not your wife is counted as sin against you.... Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28. By that standard, lusting after any woman you are not married to is a sin. This while you contradict by claiming it is OK for OP to lust after his cousin. See how foolish your attempt is?

And the same scripture also tells you that when your body part causes you to sin, that you should cut that your body part off - not someone else's body part ooo. - Matthew 5 vs 29 - 20

Where Paul suggests you should flee temptation, he didn't say you should warn other people. Instead in this case, his suggestion to you would mean that you stop lusting in your hearts after women as this is a sin and all sin is condemned as unholy to God.

Please stop quoting bible foolishly abeg!

This one nor follow

okoroemeka:
what you have to realize is that human beings are different and some men has more libido than others,I think the op is a normal healthy man that is been sexually assaulted by his cousin,I can testify about what this University girls wear at home,I simply have no option but to read the riot act to my daughter to stop going about naked in my house,what she wears at home whenever she comes back from school is far more worse than what the op is seeing,just pant called bum shorts and bra called top,what is wrong with this children nowadays,

Your own daughter sef.
It is finished.

Most of you men cussing him will do worse.
But why do you guys feel this sexual urge in stupid ways? Like ehn.

BabaIbo:
Forming posh OR Behind online but something else in reality.

Getawayu jare!

Well you don't know me. Nor I, you.
Move along.

Omoluabi16:
Which lady with self respect will even bikepool with a random guy especially in these times. I will hardly bikepool sef with a friend much more with a total stranger(M or F). Imagine been sandwiched between two strangers

Likeee.... Imagine sitting sandwiched between two total strangers. Bike an intentionally grabbing the brakes at intervals, so my boobs is kissing his back and then some stranger sitting at my back. God abeg o.

gozzlin:
Who the fvck is he and why is this in the celebrity section as if he's a celebrity?

Quit or no quit, no one gives a fvck.

Your ignorance outed you.

festacman:
David Hundeyin is the most unpredictable but effective investigative journalist in Nigeria today. He is ruthless, fearless, arrogant, annoying, highly cerebral and has scarily unperturbed disposition about people's opinions of his person or his works.

He is someone you'd find yourself loving, hating and ignoring in one short week depending on what issues he investigated and published. He is maverick. He is an enigma. He is a gadfly every society needs to be balanced.

He ain't leaving journalism because that's his life.

Not if it doesn't pay his bills. He'd always be a journalist, but only as a hobby.

What ego can do. Russia is ready to obliterate Ukraine, destroying itself in the process, all because of ego.

Mooh247:



This is what happens when Nigeria doesn't have Labour law that protects workers right, Ministry of Labour is dead and a useless office in the secretariat were workers gossip all day, Industrial Court are so little and inaccessible to the ordinary workers

Now Every boss is the Pharaoh, and Military Dictator of his organisation and can do as he pleases without question.

Before you hire a staff, terms of employment, company policies and rules , company code of conduct must be properly documented and signed by both the worker and the employers and the HR must forward the agreement to the Municipality's Labour office, so that the Government can be the witness to their labour contract

Only an extremist and a wicked sadist black African with black mindset and envious backward mentality would outrighly terminate an appointment over a few minutes exchange of gift, Hug and Kiss of two consenting adults except otherwise stated in the workers handbook.... No probation, no first second and third queries, no panel just straight Termination of appointment without any financial compensation or consideration

Anyways if Nigerian Army under FG can actually severely punish Soldiers for merely posting a picture in uniform on social media, and some female force girls repremanded for doing an harmless Instagram video... Anyone boss can treat a worker anyhow




.

Succinctly put. Except where stated, the boss has no rights to fire someone for a few minutes display of affection.

Zonefree:
God bless the Firer.

The love bound Firee deserves the treatment. You're just on the job for 12 months and your key performance indicator is on a low but what's on your mind is to play nonsense love during work session. Foolish girl! Fish brain! Didirin!

You and your ilk are the reason some people like myself see Nigerians as sadists.
You conveniently forgot to remember there was a boyfriend she was celebrating with.

MufasaLion:
This is really good! Religion and ignorance have ruined many lives because it do Bleep their mentality up and unfortunately, it do affect people close to them also.

He should rot in the deepest of hell!

Oh yes blame religion. Its the cause of all your misfortunes in life.

Goldbw122:
She want to save your money, she is a wife material.

Stingy bone. Do you know whether he's lying or she's not interested because she has option B?

This ones just come this world to procreate.

cooooooks:
Were you every in a relationship during valentine's?

Don't talk to me

OloshoMan:
What's your location?

Mid belt

Kobojunkiee:
If you are as intelligent as you claim then surely you should know that getting a valentines day gift or not, does not define one.

Maybe what you need to do is find you a mental Health counselor to speak to about the thoughts that you seem to be dealing with rather than allowing them bring you down.

Dating and valentines gifts are not all there is to living... there are so many other dimensions we fail to explore because we remain focused on what others think and do instead..

Give me money to register for therapy, Mr ITK

dingbang:
why cant you give one?

To whom?