Catching fun is one of the ingredients for successful marriages. It's a moment to put aside all formalities, all fears and anxieties and just enjoy one another.

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Love Gets Hurts, Love Is Forgiving

-My Wife's Commitment Statement-

I was having a random gist with my woman one day, and was shocked when she said, "Even when you do something wrong, I have forgiven you already". What! You mean you have forgiven me my future errors? I replied with a smile. Yes, she said.
That statement is huge and tempting. What kind of woman could have that kind of heart? It's also tempting in a way because that could be an opportunity for me to mess up at any given opportunity. I know a lot of women go through tough situations just to keep their homes, which shouldn't be; marriage should be enjoyed, not endured. So, this coming out of my wife's mouth touches me to the marrow; that doesn't mean we don't quarrel or argue, but I understood the statement well.
Of course her commitment and determination to make our marriage works, coupled with me playing my part religiously could have birthed that statement, but it's not easy hearing that from a woman; and that became my watch word too in God's grace.

One of the basic truth couples or intending loves must understand about love is; Love gets hurt but doen't keeps scores. This sounds simple, but it's deep. The moment couples understand that disagreement is inevitable in a relationship (except for a Slave and Master kind of relationship where the woman has no voice), they develop capacity to accommodate one another's excesses and remain steadfast in the successful journey of marriage. That's the true definition of Love.
Love gets hurt, Love is forgiving.

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Hi friends, welcome to episode two on Principles of Successful Marriage. In the last episode we treated "Principle of Agreement" (https://www.nairaland.com/6474569/principles-successful-marriage-ep-), and today we'll be taliking about The Acts of LOVE.

In our world today you'd agree with me that the word Love has been abused and lost its value, people use it decietfully and without understanding what it really entails. It goes beyond words and emotion, it's a principle upon which the world is formed and can be maintained in its glorious state. Without love the world will be unlivable and unbearable.
So, in this thread I will be unveiling one after the other the Acts of Love.
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Love Is Beyond Feelings/Emotions (Life Experience)
Personal Experience:
One day my wife returned from work tired and weak, it was obvious she had a very rough day. I had earlier noticed when I put a call through to check on her day (It's one of our 'Love Rules' to check on one another, either by text or call). Immediately she dropped her bag, she said 'honey I need a massage', hmmm, of course that I can do after you've had a warm bath. She said thank you and we both smiled. Few minutes later something happenned, this rose into a very hot argument (The devil is a liar hahaha). The whole atmosphere had changed in minutes, the lovey lovey feelings all disappeared, and it was like the whole world was coming down on us that evening. Woah! We smiled few minutes ago, now we are having these terrible feelings? Aaargh, what just happenned? I asked myself.

While we both maintained our separate lanes, observing each other from afar, I suddenly remembered her request for a massage. Uh! Who does that? Massage ko massager ni mctcheew, I said to myself. Right there in that state, I felt compelled in my spirit to stand up and give her the massage. The voice said she's tired and you know it, and you've already agreed to give her the massage which will ease her stress; irrespective of how you feel at the moment, you just do what is best for both of you. That's how love works. Putting your feelings aside and seeing through the needs and neccessities. Never allow negative emotions overshadow your sense of reasonning, learn to manage yourselves without tearing each other. Hmmmm….. At this moment, I had a better understanding of what we professed; a better understanding of our Vow, a better understanding of Love, a better understanding of togetherness etc.
From that day, argument or not, we remain committed and true to the marriage. Our misunderstanding doesn't affect our roles, the children or the home in general. That is one of our secret for almost six years of our marriage now.

You see, Love is beyond your emotion. It is the ability to stay committed even when you don't feel like. It is the maturity in managing your differences without breaking bones. Love is deep.
......The Thread Continues.....

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With Agreement Comes Commitment
Commitment is another key element of a successful marriage. It is important that we are fully committed to one another's needs; emotionally, intellectually, physically etc, into a life-long relationship with your partner. We must be ready to respond and adjust when necessary and be focus in building an all round successful marriage.
Commitment is not one-sided thing; the couple must both be present and faithful to this without taking unnecessary advantage of one another. Any form of unfaithfulness from one partner can affect the other negatively. So when we are talking about commitments this also include protecting your partner's interest in your doings and seeking each other's happiness in all situation.
Before a man approaches a woman, there would have been a level of agreement in his spirit, soul and body. He's expected to have agreed to make the woman his companion without compromise. His level of agreement gives birth to his determination and commitment level, and this is one of the things women should look out for when choosing a partner.
Also, you need to be committed to your partner's success. Your success is her success and vice-versa. Always seek to bring the best out of your selves.

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With Agreement Comes Great Strength
The scriptures says, You shall agree on (a) thing and it shall be established.
- Two are better than one because they have a more satisfying return for their labor; for if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and does not have another to lift him up. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 AMP
- One will chase a thousand, two will put 10,000 to plight. Power of agreement.

We can see the strength of agreement in the above passages. We can also see this same application between countries in the world, it's called allies. Maximising each other's strength to form a great force, always ready to sacrifice for one another.

God will not agree on a thing for us, He is a respecter of will, that's why you must be in agreement.
-Can two walk together lest they agree?
-A house that's divided against itself can never stand.
How can Husband and Wife be walking different paths, and yet they are praying for the will of God to be done in their homes, how?
Even as individuals, our strength Is fully maximized when we are in agreement with ourselves (spirit, soul and body).
May God grant us(couples) grace to walk together as one.

With Agreement Comes Acceptance and Togetherness
Accepting each other's weakness, strength, position and resposnsibility in the home is a great asset in ensuring togetherness. We must accept one another, shape one another in love and find peace in each other.

Point of Discussion:
- Agreement Goes Beyond Marriage Certificate
- Handling Disagreement With Maturity
- With Agreement Comes POSSESSION
- With Agreement Comes COMMITMENT
- With Agreement Comes GREAT STRENGTH
- With Agreement Comes ACCEPTANCE
- With agreement comes TOGETHERNESS

Prayer:
2 Samuel 23:5 NLT
“Is it not my family God has chosen? Yes, he has
made an everlasting covenant with me.
His agreement is arranged and guaranteed in
every detail. He will ensure my safety and success.

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Powerful video. God bless you sir

Hi friends, how do you understand agreement in marriage? Let's discuss!

What People Don't Understand About Agreement-
One thing I've come to realized and I believe is affecting a lot of homes is that, many couple fails to understand that agreement goes beyond what we sign on paper, it goes beyond just accepting proposals, it's beyond things we think we know about ourselves. Agreement encompasses things we don't know about our spouse spiritually, habitually, physically, morally, dislikes and likes etc. It also includes the transformation in women due to childbearing, i.e. you don't say her body is not as attractive as before, or you workout a solution together because you've agreed to that change from day one of your marriage.

So, it becomes an issue for couples who wants their partner to continue to be who they know them to be before marriage without an expectation of any change in their person or should I call it "updated version" of them. Many of which starts revealing in their first few months or years of marriage, and if care is not taken, you'll start to hear things like, this is not the man or woman I got married to, he/she as changed. Madam, that might not be the case.

I could remember the first time my wife heard me scored��, I was seriously tired that day and couldn't help it. She can't sleep with such funny noise by her side, but she managed❤, and I made necessary adjustment after that. She never said 'what kind of life is this! I can't even sleep!'���.

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Disagreement Is Part of Agreement:
We need to understand that disagreement is inevitable in marriage. As in, we disagree to agree. We disagree not to walkout of the marriage but to build and make it better.
Disagreement should be like a refiner to shape yourselves into what you guys wants your home to be. Gold pass through fire before it can fulfil purpose. Embrace your disagreement with love and not negativity. Let it be for the purpose of reshaping one another and not tearing yourselves apart.
When coupled have this understanding, they can withstand anything.

Agreement Comes With Possession
One of the issues some young couples encounter in marriage is the inability to adjust to Possession.
Possession comes in when you start exercising or demanding right over one another.
For example, you want to hang out with your friends after work as usual, but your wife wants you home as early as possible. Sometimes, she believes she has right to choose what you wear to an event, what you eat for dinner�. Likewise, as husband you make demands too, because youu believe you have the right.
This stage must be managed well and with maturity.

To be continued.....
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