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https://www.nairaland.com/1551567/how-most-nigerian-parents-treat#20148859

Like Eli dude said, can this please be put on the home page? It may help some people like it helped me. Thanks

Ok I'll suggest it

Imagine how I feel when people reading my posts feel so much anger.

Like Eli said, I'm still stuck with them till I complete my education (which is very very very soon).

Is there a platform where one can raise this kind of awareness coz I'm sure a good number of African kids are raised by half-baked and frustrated parents too.

The fact that they provide my needs financially (which is their job as parents) makes them think I'm their slave and I have no right to an opinion or even an apology when they're wrong.

Anytime I hear words like " we love you" from them, I just chuckle internally. They're so twisted. The scariest part is they think what they're doing is perfectly normal.

@eli, trolls is such an euphemism . They used to beat me in public when I was younger, but not anymore. Now They make sure it's just them and my siblings present. Bullies!

I feel much better letting this all out. Thank you for your kind words.

@ blu, thank you.

[quote author=Elli-dude]I get the picture..Are you a christian?[/quote]Yes.

Thank you Eli_dude. Thank you.

This isn't in the past yet. They still do it. Anytime I'm in the same place as them, I'll get beaten for my so-called "offense" all in the name of discipline. And I dare not talk back.

I wish I could just go into a coma (pass out) when they're beating me one day and scared the sh!t out of them!

I can never genuinely love or respect them. The only relationship we can have will be similar to the one between the Jews and Hitler, fear and tolerance.

Sooner or later, the fear will wear out and I'll only tolerate them. Devils!

Eli dude, thanks for this thread. For the first time ever in my existence I've been able to tell a non-family member what I went through as a kid and what I'm still going through as an adult. I've been crying the weight/torture of all these years out (since I saw your thread) and the more I say out these things the better I'm feeling. So I might as well type it here. Planning on seeing a counsellor or something.

I lived in constant fear, I still live in fear. I haven't been to Nigeria in a long while because of fear of being in the same place as my parents. Each time I go back home, I get physically abused (even in the presence of my siblings) all in the name of discipline. Mind you, I'm almost 23 years old.

I stuttered as a kid( and now) so life was harder than normal, getting a syllable out was a task. My parents would laugh at me anytime I stutter, in the presence of my siblings. They would tell me I'm too slow and sluggish and I suffer from self-esteem issues. I hardly spoke in public. They made me feel like sh!t. I was always compared to someone else's child. I was hardly good at anything (to them). Anytime I was picked out to recite something at event or do something related to public-speaking, I'd keep hearing comments like this from my parents

"I no pity you , better don't bring disgrace to this family by going out there to stutter, you mates will be speaking normally, you will be acting epileptic"..... I was a child for goodness's sake. 5/6/7 yr old child!

When I get beaten, it's usually with heels, belts, koboko, Cain, sticks etc. It always lasted for hours. And by the time the section is done, I'll be half naked/or totally naked with marks on my body still pleading for forgiveness. Each time I stop to plead, that means I get another round of beating. I would go to school the next day with blood sticking to my uniform.

I get accused wrongly all the time and I get severely (understatement) punished for it.

They would justify these barbaric acts by saying children are full of demons that should be casted out with beatings, and I'd appreciate these sessions of torture in the future.

This is the future, I'm still has fücked up as anyone else in the world. I can't talk in public. I have a very low self esteem. I'm very clingy and this is even affecting my current relationship with my boyfriend. They raised a low-confidence girl. I wasn't allowed to interact with kids my age, not even my cousins.

Sometimes, thinking back, I wish I could stab them, hurt them. I don't even have a normal relationship with my siblings.

African parents are devils when it comes to raising kids. They suck!!!!! Beating a 5 year old for 5 hours is animalistic.

So much to say......

I want to leave all these behind but I can't, I still get abused anytime I see them, even though I'm 22. They'll be coming over later this year, and I'm not looking forward to it.....
they're still sponsoring my education, so they have a hold on me..