my dear check yourself.. are you really ready to settle down ?.. do you really love this fiance of yours unconditionally regardless of the things you benefit from her...... because from your write up all i can see is a kinda naive boy who wants to shortcut his hustle by marrying an already made woman....... and lemme remind you..based on your write up.. i think the girl is the one proposing marriage here.

NB: if person help you.. tell am thank you. you mist not return the favour with marriage.

i love you... i logged in just to tell you this

MissJoy29:
These are my opinions about feminism;
*Strive for fairness especially in the way women are treated in marriage. For instance, it's not set in stone that a woman should be the only one doing house chores. A man can help out too without his manliness reduced. On the other hand, a woman shouldn't take his helping for granted.

*Be independent to an extent as a lady. In the sense that you can have your own money and pay up your bills without having to depend on a man. Depending on a man has levels. It gets really irritating seeing mature ladies begging for everything from a guy. A man that wants to help can help but don't beg.

*There's nothing wrong in helping out a man financially. There's nothing wrong in buying gifts for a man. There's nothing wrong in pampering a man & surprising him once in a while. But use your head. "Using your head" could mean a lot of things & could also prevent a lot of things.

*Be strong and firm yet feminine. That's a woman's strongest weapon, her feminity. Be sweet and gentle and cute.
Stop with the bitching & the bad attitude. That you can foot your bills doesn't mean you give oit that air that you don't need a man. Your independence should attract men to you not repel them.

*Finally, never look down on any man. Never broke-shame a guy because you think he's not up to a level you want. You see, no one knows tomorrow.

These being said, I am a feminist. The real one not the ones moved by hungry, frustrated leeches.

Smartii:

So what happens to her house? Imagine a lady was bequeathed a house, so she should go and stay in her hubby's house and be more of a liability and not help solve issues as regards financial capabilities. Remember whatever affects the man affects the wife as they're one. Don't forget if the man is determined, staying In that house won't limit him from building different houses everywhere throughout the world, it could just be a stepping stone, are there no culture that we have broken as Nigerians and Africans and do we hold on to all cultures even if it limits our potentials of rediscovering ourselves?

miss smartii. there is nothing wrong in a man moving into a womans house.. it depends on their terms and understanding.
PS: as for me oo.. i wont wish even my worst enemy to move in with his woman not to talk of me....IMPOSSIBLE.

OP... ure a Gee...... as a young guy ..it's better of to have a bestie than in a relationship........ buh not every guys have da traits to be a bestie....
besties are always...da cute,bad, sharp guys...

Shugavee:
U people r just making me laff!! So men this is all u got! I see what u men can so call offeer!

shugavee.. lemme tell you what you need.. you need counselling(serious one). i've gone through your other threads...... your post is sickening ..... i noticed you now adjusted the topic to "physical contributions" to win your yeye purpose......

my dear let me tell you and your so called feminists the bitter truth .... this is truely a mens world .. not women....
........ men and women should have equal rights (social and legal).....
but are we equal...NO......... are we assigned same roles here on earth....NO...

man and woman has its specific roles and duties....a woman trying to take up roles of a man totally obstructs the force of nature.

THUS; have you ever seen a hen running after the cock for courtship...neither have you seen a cock leading its chick ......... the answer is NO......why..because its not in their nature....

lions fight for its territory while lioness go for hunting...
if you truly want to achieve this feminist aim... you have to question GOD first.
why did God choose to be a man and not woman.
why did he choose to have a son and not a daughter .
why did he create women out from a man with just his rib... he has the choice of moulding another partner for him as he did to adam you know ?
why did God bring woman to man for him to name her... why didn't he name her himself like he did to adam .
why are men more muscular and taller than women ...
why are women the the ones that take in the results of what men and women did together(sex)........ why is not either of us can get pregnant.. besides we both enjoyed the sex.
But mind you the strongest man came from a woman(respect).

we all are meant to enjoy equal rights .. but we are not designed to be assigned same roles... we all have our roles to play....

women want and desire anything that will make them equal to a man....disregarding those values and attributes that makes them a woman.....
... women now want to stand and pee like a man using artificial funnel ...... my dear get inside and pee...
wear 10inches to equal height of men... my dear whats wrong with your height..
they now wants to be going after men for marriage proposal...(na your toto go suffer am).

Shugavee:
Guys always say what can ladies offer than sex, but i dont as well see their relevance but sex too!!! Women make their money nowadays!!! So what can u offer a lady, cause if a man n woman get married, the woman does everything, fynny how men think money is a great attribute that keeps the family together,n plus the fact women r working hard n making their own money n u know they claim not to want liabilities so guys what do u really offer a woman!!! If not women carry marriage like one big achievement, men offer u nothing than their last name!!! But a lady does everything n keeps the home but some yeye boys will ask what a woman offers,,, now what do u hv to offer a woman??

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shugavee.. can see your soo bitter and pained. don't pour it on nairalanders over here.. learn to throw a question without being sacarstic about it. from your write up your very shallow minded person and naive too..

most boys always say girls don't have anything to offer apart from sex because of our everyday relationship. where 70per of girls depend solely on their boyfriends. most girls see men as their success ladder. they tend to date men who can only take care of her needs.. now accepting relationships proposals based on highest bidder. Most girls don't spend a dime on their boyfriend..... you expect your boyfriend to buy you gift on your birthday...his own birthday.... on valentines day...christmas gift..even easter... yet he takes you out to shop for you yet still give you pocket money......... meanwhile you tend to offer him good sex for his job well done................ things like this is what led to the saying of girls have nothing to offer apart from sex............our young girls should stop seeing guys as an escape route from poverty and seeing sex as a reward for a job well done......(the independent girls doesn't belong to this group).....


And as for what a man contributes apart from sex.........
NOTE: a woman is his mans weakness and a man is the strength of his woman.
what i meant to say here is that we all have our designated roles to play in a relationship in order to make it work.

The key contribution of a man in marriage are :
1: financial support
2:protection and safety of the family.
3:A man is responsible,accountable, liable for his family and he is the reflection of the family name

Women role include: domestic work, assist and supports the hubby, keeper of the household. it takes a woman to transform a house into a home.

...THUS; A lioness fends fends for the family while the lion protects its territory .

A family without the man is exposed to external threat to the family. while a family without a woman may lack basic domestic upbringing..

and please lets not forget, a woman does not head a family because it is not in her assigned roles..and doesn't have the best attributes that fits in ...... .... women way of thinking differs from men.....

Lol... all these feminist eerrhhh... i don't just know their aim....

the other day i learnt that they want to change Gods gender in the scripture from HE TO SHE.....
i no get ...... .. If it doesn't suit them as God being Man .. they should start their own feminist church.. where a woman will be their GOD.... they should not come and compromise our Bible for us GOD..

shaybebaby:

What does it need then?

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shaybebaby... please what do you want to achieve by creating this thread.. are you a feminist ? lets learn to love and appreciate one another without all this gender criticism.

And also understand the fact that nature has its order ..which is :
GOD .

MAN.

WOMAN.

legally, socially and for the sake of civilization we all have equal rights .

this adebowale89 to slap you just dey hungry me. Your ignorance is on another level. simple post you can't read to understand before spitting rubbish from over.. why are you so pained about Igbos.

plsss apart from lagos and abuja which were developed more than other Nigerian states, because they were once capital of Nigeria. which other yoruba or hausa state can you boast of... mtcheeewww..

lol..forget all this ministries.. na so so big big name dem get... served in ministry of budget and national planning abuja.... their gross salary for level 8(step 1) ain't up to 55k..then after tax deduction ..im nt really sure its up to 50k ... meehhnnn after service i ran for ma life ..didnt evn bother abt them retaining me.... ..buh u can get better connect from their tho..

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