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Ujujoan:
certainly not from Nigeria! LOL  

I'm VERY Nigerian!

mydreamz:
I always take my tea with a lot of sugar,
I remember mom was talking about my excessive intake of sugar this particular day while we were all having our breakfast of bread and tea
when my silly mouth just bursted out "THE ONLY SUGAR IN MY TEA" And I was just 8yr old
I dint know what made me say that, but bhoy dint I get thrashed. "OUCH"

You got thrashed for saying the only sugar in my tea  

Man, there were some angry parents! Child protection services would have visited so many families , and taken the kids away.

Ujujoan:
Dad: Who is that?

Me: My friend . . .

Dad: What? In my house? what do you know the word 'friend' means?

Me: *looking totally confused*

Dad: I asked you a question . . . what do you know about friendship?

Me: But dad, she's my friend in school . .

Dad: And so what? Your friendship should end is school oh, I don't want her in my house, do you hear me (shouting), I dont want her in my house! Infact tell her your daddy said he doesn't want her to be your friend! Do you hear me? When you grow up, you can start making friends . . Infact, tell her to go homw now!

Me: But dad I'm 15, can't I . .

Dad: My friend shut up! I said, NO FRIENDS and that's final!

Me:        

I dont know sha, but for some reason, having friends was a no-no for us when we where growing up. No wonder I always pick the wrong friends now!  

Sorry to hear that. Did they ever give a reason for this action. Wonder if it is possible to ask them today?

person!!!!!!!

The replies on this thread show that there majority of Nigerians are still EXTREMELY closed and myopic, and it seems loving it too!

Disclaimer: I haven't read the replies,

Question: Does the bible really say one must be a virgin ? If it does where? I'm really curious

Here's hoping no one will raise their kids in this manner, surely everyone has grown up now, and can see their way wasn't necessarily the best way. I'm sure if they knew another way they'd have parented differently.

Here's hoping for more open and extremely parenting

I had open and liberal parents! Lucky me

What is so sad is the OP trying to justify his actions, even after he said he was arrested justly. I'm curious to know if he really thinks he has a point. If you can't do the time, don't do the crime! Hiss

ITA with chillbabe

'Going up in arms' is an expression. I don't expect anyone to physically go and carry weapons and fight. However I expected a more positive protrayal of disgust at the situation. Not making fun about it .

It's interesting why no one is going up in arms about this issue. Some comments here are even jokingly posted. It just shows what a LONG way we have to go in our country. A child has been killed by the parent. Some pple are saying we should thank the people who whopped our asses as kids, as it got us where we are today, without qualifying anything,

Our mentality needs to change

Totally loving True Blood, as I do most HBO series. I cant wait to start reading the Sookie Stackhouse books.

@ Sherry Lo:


I perfectly understand that mothers went through a lot to see their children grow up. And I TOTALLY respect that. However, does it mean that the mother shouldn't set the child free? It has to be balanced. It is definitely VERY unhealthy for a mother to always be in her sons and his wife business. That is just recipe for disaster! Why does the ma have to ''run'' to his mother when the going is bad. God forbid what happens, if he has lost his mom. My mom lost her own mom when she was a teenager , her mother-in-law (my grandmother) gave her hell! But she had no one to run to, just GOD!

No one is trying to BREAK a mothers bond, I think its only fair to let the HUSBAND $ WIFE bond develop. I really don't think that is asking too much. In the original post , the mother in law in question in my humble opinion has been totally out of line, and the man should have married his mom and spared the poor lady the misery .

If the mother doesn't like the girl What happens if the son LOVES the girl. He should stay away from someone he loves , because his MOM doesn't like her? OK that's just interesting to me .

I really don't think when I have a son , I would want intrude in his life, I will respect his choices and support his decisions. This is how I was raised , my mother doesn't intrude in my matrimonial life, she prays for me offers me counsel but NEVER tells me what to do.

true blood

Whoever gets up first should have cleared their throat well enough to say goodmorning. The one who got up after is still groggy, and should be awakened by a cheerful goodmorning

Hallo. Ich spreche nur ein bißchen deutsch.

@ Okokomeji : Any man who believes that is the way of showing how much he loves his mother should please by all means stay tied to her apron strings and NEVER get married! It's not rocket science. No biggie.

EVERY mother should know her place in her son or daughter's household. You have given your child to this person , RESPECT that , even if you didnt give her or him to the other person, RESPECT your childs decision to be with that person.

As for the case at hand, the young woman should make it very clear to the husband how she feels, and in this case he MUST make decision, stay married to her, or marry his mom! His mom is playing her big time, and she is taking it sitting down?

She is his WIFE!!!! She should have established her own rules too ,as his mother established hers. The guy needs to get his act together FAST !

I dont see anything wrong in a child wanting to be a cleaner or an artist. Its about passion , skills and raw talent! The key to success is doing the common things uncommonly well! And as far as I am concerned this is the what should be inbibed in kids from a young age, and not what meal their chosen profession can bring to them. Success will come from HARDWORK!

Parents who feel the need for their kids to 'pay them back' are just wrong. The kid didnt ask to be born, its your duty and responsibility to provide for them and train them, they shouldnt feel indebted to you , cause of the amounts of money you spent on educating them. IF you raised them properly and inbibed the right attitudes in them, they will definitely know what it is to show love to their parents when they become someone great in the society. They dont need to be forced or coaxed into showing their parents love for giving them LIFE and a good CHANCE in life.

I am very glad that I had VERY liberal parents growing up. For Nigerian parents, they were completely out of this world! My father would pay for any child who wanted to become a dancer, and help you find the best school for dancers! My father is a Civil Engineer and NONE of his 7 kids, did Engineering not to mention going anywhere near the Sciences.