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i logged in today to see how my frends on this website was doing and i read thru this. someone is faking to be me. y wud some1 do that 2 me? its not fair. i dont kno y u all hate me so much. i feel so bad right now bcus i really thought some of u were my friends and to the fake person i have not seen Quinton. now i kno that u guys arent my real frends.

since everyone thinks im lying then i guess ill take my problems elsewhere. im sorry for disturbing you guys with my problems. u guys are making me sad now, i hate it wen people say im lying wen im not. i guess i have to find some other website where i can make new friends n vent out my problems, mayb a teen pregnancy forum where i can get advice from other people goin through the same thing. i only came here for advice because u guys are nigerians so i thought u guys wud b of help since my parents r nigerians. thank you for the advice you guys have given me since, i am grateful that it has opened up something between me and my mom. but since everything i say, u guys think its a lie then i guess i wont disturb u guys any longer. i am sorry for taking up your time, this is my last post and u wont have to worry about hearin from me again. thank you for all the advice, i am grateful. bye! im gonna miss u guys tho

and for the person askin about Quinton, my dad has not came back from work so i dont kno anything else. maybe wen my dad comes back he will tell me if he has heard anything from the cops and ill be sure to tell u guys about it. u guys r my only friends so i can come here n vent out everything.

i am sorry if u think that i am a liar but i dont hve anything 2 lie about. i am tellin u guys wat i am goin thru especially since u all r the only friends i hve for now. u guys can think wat u want but i am forever grateful for the advice u all gave me and i know that this is goin to help me grow as a person, i already feel like im a different person especially after the talk wit my mom

no i am not lying. my parents never disclosed any of this to me and my siblings before. thats why me n my mom were crying because she finally told me the truth about everything. she said her and my dad lied to protect me n my siblins from doin the same thing n they didnt want me n my siblins to think less of them. she said that they had no intentions of telling us the truth but she felt that she needed to come clean now so that i can learn from her mistake and mines. her sister who is 22 also went along wit the story. das y she told me i had noting to worry about n dat she wud talk to my mom. das y i am glad my mom finally told me about everything that went on. i am sorry if i confused some people but i am also grateful that u all persuaded me to talk 2 someone. i am the happiest that i hve been in a long time.

okay today im pretty happy. my mom actually talked to me today! i was so happy that i hugged her and i started crying. she was crying too. we talked about everything. i told her that i was sorry and i know that her and daddy were disappointed in me and that i regret everything. she told me she knows but it is hard for her to see me going through this while my mates are in school facing their studies. she says she never dreamt that i would fall pregnant as a teen. she said that she's sorry for not talking to me and she wants me to know that she still loves me but she is just heart broken that i ended up getting pregnant because she had me when she was 17 and her life wasn't the same. she had came to america at 12yrs wit her family and she met my father when they were both 16. she said that she initially had plans on being a psychologist but after she became pregnant with me she couldn't continue with school. she and my father got married. she had to post pone schooling in order to take care of me and then she ended up having my siblings so in all she spent 10yrs taking care of us. she said wen my aunt called her n told her the news that she almost broke down because she wanted a better life for me, she wanted me to go to university and become a doctor. she says thats why her and my dad are goin to give the baby up for adoption, she says they think the baby will have a better life with parents already established and she wants me to still be able to go and accomplish my goals. she told me that she loves me and my siblings and my dad but if she could do everything over then she would have waited before having a family until she had finished her education, she says she doesn't want me to go thru wat she had to n das y she suggested adoption for me. i never knew this was wat my parents went through, i am so glad that my mom shared this wit me, now i understand why her and my dad were so upset. this is the first time me n my mom has really talked in like 5yrs because she is always too busy wit her work. she says that she will schedule a doctors appointment n she will go wit me to all of my pre-natal appointment, sexual abuse organizations, and teen pregnancy organizations. i feel more closer to my mom than i have in a very long time. i promised her i wud never contact Quinton again and that i wud never have sex again but she laughed and told me dat after i give birth then she will put me on birth control pills because she doesnt want me to fall pregnant again. i love my mom soo much right now.

my parents are really monitoring me so i cant even get on my laptop often, i have to sneak on now when they r not lookin. i feel like im trapped in prison. its so boring bein at home wit no friends and my family barely speaks to me. i followed my dad to the county jail where we got a case report on Quinton. I initially planned on lying to the police cus i didnt want him to go to jail but after seein my dad cry in the car on our way to the jail, i knew i had to tell the truth. i have never seen my dad cry before and this scared me. right now i dont care about Quinton, i hate Quinton, he hasnt called me back or even texted me since i told him i was pregnant. i never want to see him again, i cant believe he is letting me go thru this by myself. its not fair. i thought he loved me the way i loved him, right now i hope he stays in jail forever. the police questioned me and stuff about our relationship, where he lived, last time i spoke to him, if he has been accompanied by his friends, and if i had any other relationships with older men. well the police thinks that he is very dangerous and that Quinton isn't his real name. He says men like that usually go under a false identity so that they won't get caught. the police says that they will start to work on the case and call me back within this week for further questioning and stuff. n the police suggested some teen pregnancy and sexual abuse organizations for me attend because he thinks it will help me. my dad says i have to go to them but thats fine with me, i dont mind goin. right now i just want my parents to smile at me again, im tired of feeling like a disappointment, it broke my heart to see my dad in tears. i really hate this situation. i never thought that having an older boyfriend would cause this much trouble. i thought older guys were more mature than the 15 yr old boys that are in my class. well i hv to go b4 my dad wakes up from his nap, wish me luck. i just want this situation to be over.

o and before i 4get is there a way i can bypass this internet setting. my dad changed my internet setting so now facebook, twitter, and some other sites are blocked. i want to know if anyone knows how to get passed this atleast so i can still keep in touch wit a few friends. i kno he is likely goin to try n monitor my cell phone use to only callin family members. i dont wana die of boredom. does anyone kno how to bypass the internet security just in case he does try to monitor my cell phone use?

so i am back from school and my parents were at home waiting for me. my dad called all my siblings into the living room and started telling them about how much of a disgrace i am and how i have brought shame unto our family by having sex and falling pregnant. he said that when my mom told him the news that he wanted to kill me and my bf but only god is keeping him from doing so. he says that he never imagined that he can raise such a worthless and stupid daughter. he says that he will use me as an example to my younger siblings so that they won't end up at stupid as me. he says that i have to have the baby and then give up the baby for adoption. he says that he will not allow me to raise my baby and bring more shame onto our family. he says that i cant go back to school, that they will hire a home school teacher for me that will teach me from until i finish high school. he has banned me from seeing my friends and he said that i can never longer leave the house unless accompanied by him or my mom. and hes making me share a room with my younger sister so she can keep an eye on me. n then he made me deactivate my facebook and twitter, so now ima b bored at home. atleast he doesnt know about my nairaland account, this is now my only way of communicating to the outside world i feel like im in prison, no friends and no social life my mom has still refused to speak to me, its not fair, i wish she would talk to me and now my siblings arent speakin to me either. my dad also said that i have to go wit him to the police station to report Quinton and he is going to make sure he goes to jail. i dont know that to make about that because i still havent heard from him, so mayb he didn't really love me but i still have feelings for him. i feel better now that my parents know about everything atleast im not crying as much but do u guys kno how i can convince my parents to let me go 2 a normal school? i dont wana b home schooled, that sucks. and how do i get my mom to talk 2 me again? and do u think they will arrest Quinton if i tell the police that i wanted to have sex with him, its not like he raped me?

i just wanted to update this thread before i go to sleep. i have to wake up for school by 7am my aunt called me earlier this evening and told me that she talked to my mom the phone and told her everything i had told her. well i was so scared because i didnt know how my mom would react. my mom has been at work all day n she gets off at 11pm. i stayed up in my room waiting 4 her to come home so that she can shout at me but instead wen she came home she didnt even come into my room 2 look 4 me or anything. i heard her in the kitchen fixing something to eat so i went down to the kitchen to greet her. she didnt respond when i greeted her, she just looked at me and ignored me and continued doing what she was doing. i looked at her face n could tell she had been crying. omg, i feel so responsible, i know shes crying because of me cus i disappointed her. i dont think she has told my dad yet cus my dad has been at home since n he acted normal. i hope she doesnt tell my dad because i dont want him to start crying too. i feel so bad, this was not the reaction i imagined. i want to know what my mom is thinking, i wish she would talk to me. what should i do? should i confront her about it tomorrow? oh and my bf is still yet to call me back, im getting pretty worried about him also. this is all my fault, im ruining my parents life and my bf's life. i wish i was never born.

okay so i finally picked up my boyfriends call n we were talkin n i dunno something in me made me tell him i was pregnant so i kinda blurted it out n he cut the call. iv called him back like alotta times already but he isnt picking up. so it broke my heart cus its not fair dat he doesnt wana talk to me. so i called my aunt n told her everything dat has been goin on n she told me not to worry n that she is goin 2 call my parents later tonight n talk to them and dat she is gona make sure my boyfriend rots in jail. she thinks my bf cut the call bcus he is gona deny me n d baby but i dont think dats true, i thnk he dropped it cus i suprised him n he is in shock. i really dont want them to send my bf away, i still love him. n to the people dat asked about my bf, he is 28yrs old n he is a black american. he was raised by his older brother bcus his mom died wen he was 2 n his dad started doin cocaine n stuff n left him n his big brother 2 fend 4 themselves. das y my bf is sensitive n mature n das one of the reason i love him. my aunt says she wont let my parents beat me or kick me out but if they persist then i can come n live wit her. i am so happy dat i talked to her, thank u all 4 persuadin me to talk 2 someone. now im just goin 2 wait 4 her 2 talk 2 my parents but i just pray dat deyleave my bf out of this. u guys shud help me pray.

did u guys already address this issue to a girl yesterday?i didnt know that. well what was her decision mybe it cud help me out. okay so my bf has been callin n txtn me to come over but i havent replied bcus im scared i might tell him im pregnant on accident or something worse will happen. n now he sent a mean txt tellin me i am good for nothing and dat he knos im ignorin him on purpose because im cheatin on him. shud i reply back n tell him im not cheatin? wat if he asks y i have been ignorin him, wat excuse do i use? my younger brother noticed dat ive been depressed n cryin lately n he went n told my parents n now my parents keep questionin me askin wats wrong, i told dem noting but i kno they r still suspicious. does any1 have n excuse i can tell them also atleast till i figure out wat im gona do? n i think i need to reduce how i get on this forum becus i thnk my parents told my siblins 2 b watchin me n i dont want them 2 know abt this. omg, wat do i do?

obowunmi: Legally, a public service employee has the obligation to report the case to appropriate authorities.

Let's say another 15 year old got you pregnant, its a different case. But we are talking about a 28 year old...that is ILLEGAL.

The teacher will be in trouble legally if he or she doesn't call your parents, the police, or ACS (child services).

omg i never thought of that. i dont want anything to happen to my parents, i love them even tho they are mean n i dont want me n my siblins to be in foster homes. okay so i cant tell mr.busch about this. maybe i can tell my moms younger sister, she is 22yrs so she is still young n understandin. her boyfriend is in his 30s, i think like 33, so mayb she wont b to quick to report my bf since her bf is also older.

okay so i think i have a teacher in mind that i can confide in, my world history teacher mr.busch is really nice and understanding. but wat if he asks who is responsible? do i hv to tell him abt my bf? wat if wen he tells my parents abt this he tells them abt my bf?

u guys r really scaring me, do u think my bf will stop lovin me? i hope not bcus he is all i have. my parents r too mean n strict to understand anythin that i have to go through as a teenager. my bf is the only one i can talk to n he wont judge me. i dont kno wat i would do if he left me or went to jail. if i do tell my parents n dey send him to jail den he can b in there for a long time so that means i hv 2 wait 4eva 2 see him again bcus my parents wont drive me to the jail 2 visit him n my parents wont probably let me start drivin next yr wen i turn 16.

im not naive. i just dont what to do. i am confused and i dont have a car to go get birth control, if i did then i would. and i watch 16 and pregnant but their parents r understanding, my parents are not like that thats y i am scared and also cus my bf is older. when me n my siblins n parents were watchin an episode of 16 and pregnant, my parents were laughin sayin that God forbid any of us come sayin that they r pregnant or they got some1 else pregnant at a young age that day will b the end of our lives. my dad says he dosnt mind goin 2 jail after killin us n my mom says the person shud not even come home again. u see this is y i am scared bcus i dont kno wat 2 expect. if my parents were not nigerians but were white,or mexican, or just black then i dont think i wud b so scared bcus theres many teen pregnancys in those homes. my parents said none of us can date till we finished our bachelors degree n my dad claims dat my mom was a virgin till their weddin night so he expects all of his daughters to follow lead. so i dont kno. i am scared. the last time i have ever been this scared was wen my mom caught me smoking weed in our backyard, she reported me straight to my father n my dad went crazy. he beat me so hard n they starved me from school n food for 3 days. u see my parents r very strict so i dont kno what they wud do in the case that i am pregnant, i dont kno wat to expect and thats y im scared to tell my mom bcus i dont kno if she will tell my dad n den my dad will end up killin me this time.

one more advice i need b4 goin to see my bf today, since i heard its not good to have sex wile pregnant so how do i tell him no sex witout him bein suspicous. im scared.

good morning everyone, thank you so the person that gave me some soothing advice, i needed that so much. well this morning after church i was talking to one of my friends dat was pregnant 2yrs ago wen she was 14 n she told me that i had nothing to worry about. she says she knows a woman that can help me get rid of the baby for like 50 bucks. she says i shudnt worry abt anything bcus the lady is trained n nothin bad will happen to me. she says thats where she got rid of her pregnancy 2yrs ago so i have nothin to worry abt. so i am kinda nervous abt meeting this lady, part of me is tellin me not to go but i am just so scared. shud i trust her? i am supposed to be seein my bf today but should i hold off on tellin him? n do u thnk my mom will tell my dad abt this if i was to confide in her 4 help? i dont know what to do, its like the more i think about this the more confusin n hard everything becomes. my school has a daycare for students children so myb if i do hv the baby then i can enroll him or her there while im in school so it wont really affect my schooling. but then if i hv the baby that means i hv to tell my parents who my bf is n i am positive they will have him arrested and then i wont see him again till he gets outta jail...and that could be a long time. i wish i hadnt gotten pregnant, all this wud not be happenin to me right now. i hate my life!!

iv been tryin to go to sleep bcus its almost 3am here but its hard. my mind is not at ease. does anyone have a solution to 4 my lack of sleep, maybe a soothing thought atleast to put me to sleep till the morning?

yeah im in american but i kno if my parents ever found out i was pregnant they would prolly send me back to the village if not kill me

Obinnau: u know what op u are the worst idiot i have ever me. I saw this topic when no body had posted anything and subscribed. I continued to follow the thread. Ur posts were repulsive to me but i kept quiet but i found out u are stupid am 18 and i cant stand the sight of aproaching a girl thats not up to 17 and . And here u are spewing trash . Infact u are mentally deranged

how am i deranged? if i said anything that offended anyone i am sorry. i am just scared of whats goin to happen to me n my bf. i feel like dying, everyone hates me

i really love my bf n i wish u all would stop sayin negative things about him. its so not fair, he didnt do anything wrong to deserve all that. u all are makin me even sadder

obowunmi: Yes you do because you believe that a man who R,APE,S/RAP,ED you, loves you. You evidently have mental issues.

he didnt rape me i said i was goin to cover up to my parents n say a stranger raped me

spykid014: So in ur mind, u think "waiting" till 15 to hav sex is good enuf Or wot cz grls in ur sch had sex @ early age? Do u even know ur still a minor? I feel sorry4 u honestly!

im not that much of a minor, in 4 months i will be 16 and old enough to have a job

obowunmi: I think you have mental health issues...

no i dont, im just lookin for a solution that will benefit me n my bf. i really dont want to face the wrath of my parents n i dont want to send my bf to jail for loving me.

what if i tell my parents that i was raped by a man i dont kno n i didnt get a good look at his face, they wont be so angry at me n me n my bf can still b together. does that sound like a good plan?

pafestula: Questions for u callow OP
1. Can yr bf allow his friend of his age mate blasting his own younger sister of same age with u? because u claim he loves u here
2. What do u think is gonna be his reaction wen u tell him abt d situation? Maybe all yr so called love wont turn thoroughly panel beating at d spot.
3. How sure re u that at 28years he doesnt have his own serious minded adult he is keeping? And just because of yr tight piston and ring and chases...just crusing u for normal guys fun who wish to have another taste of ride!
4. Why at yr even at yr age which u suppose to be more closer to God and be useful elmemt in d house of God, maybe chior in yr church etc and also focusing on yr career, then u turned to adult test driving field. Anyway am out of yr fabricated stories either genuie or not am out! But if real answer d above questions.

i think my bf can allow it bcus he says age is nothing but a number. i kno my bf loves me, he tells me everyday n he has been with me for more than a yr now. i dont kno what he will do if i tell him about the pregnancy, thats y im asking u all for advice. im sure he doesnt have anyone else bcus he tells me that i am the love of his life and that we belong together n that he has never met someone like me before. i have been to his apartment many times n i havnt seen any other woman. i trust my bf. i started havin sex this yr after i turned 15, most of the girls at my school have already been havin sex but its not fair that i waited to have sex n im already pregnant.

okay so since most of you are saying i should tell my parents then i will tell them once i gather the courage but i still dont want to get in trouble or lose my bf so should i tell my parents that i was raped? atleast that way they wont b disappointed in me n i can still b wit my bf.

seriallink: Come o, this girl. U dey sure this this ur story real? Well, if it's true then, u should stop calling the paedophile ur boyfriend 1st, bcoz it's annoying. The best thing to do right now is to help ur parents to have him arrrested and be put away for good. Don't protect him because u feel he loves u, he doesn't! It's all lust

omg i cant bear to think of him gettin arrested, it makes me cry even more. love is not a crime. i wish i was like 26 so we could be married n we wouldnt have to go through this

trae_z: its obvious this thread (and OP) is a joke. Just like the old timer asking for steps to get married. Someone truly pregnant would be shy, defensive but penitant not mouthing off like an online event promoter.

please i am not jokin, i am being very serious here. im like really scared. im not an online event promoter i just want some advice on the best way 2 handle this issue since my parents r very strict nigerians. i dont want 2 b disowned, i dont want my parents 2 b disappointed or hate me, n i dont wana lose my bf.

wat if i tell my boyfriend n he stops loving me? i have seen these kind of issues tear loving couples apart. i really dont wana lose my bf. im really scared. is there any safe way of havin an abortion witout going to the doctors? i kno to go 2 d doctors dat means i have to tell either my parents or my bf n i dunno how 2 face either of them.

mikeywise: @ Op, its either this is a joke or something is wrong with u. One thing about u teenagers is dat u find it very hard to take advice,u prefer doing things your way. Your parents cannot kill u, is ur boyfriend financially independent? I think u should tell ur mum.
Abortion is not an option at all. Lastly, What u feel for dat guy is nothing but lust and that's †ђξ same thing he feels for u.

i wish this was a joke or even a dream. i dont kno why things had to happen this way. my parents r very strict, they say that me n my siblins r not allowed to date till we finish our 1st degree. so i am very scared abt this issue. i hv never cried so much b4. n my bf doesnt hv a job right now, he has been unemployed since november of last yr n he is still trying to get back on his feet with a new job but he keeps sayin that the economy is tough so he is thinkin abt going 2 college bcus he dropped out of college wen he was younger. i love him very much n i kno he feels the same way about me too, i just cant stand the thought of me n him being seperated. i kno if i tell my parents then it will b the end of me n him