halfricanadian:


What u going to do now

I'll buy d teddy bear

Thank you all. I really appreciate.

Sunkyphil:
u can't but money with love its obvious she doesn't love from start she was after ur money

Most of the time while I was spending years back she always complained. Even returned some of my gifts. And threatened to call it off if I continued. I thought she was only playing pranks so i continued till now

ireneony:
The truth of the matter is the love she have for you, has died down and she tired of the relationship. She's just making up excuses cos you lavish her with gifts as an escape route from the relationship. She probably dating a guy in abuja.
Guy move on with your life.

Women are looking for caring mature man like you, here she is complaining. What an irony

Thanks. But it's hard to move on just like that. She has always been my best friend and soul mate for many years. So now it's just hurting

Alright.

Thank you so much

BumBae:


Forget her same way
She found someone better ... Its even more insulting she aint got a reason .. .. But mayb u too should try be more romantic or something cuz if thats the case the you might have this issue future relationship ... And mayb not buy anything too at first .


Sorry lol i see money i see red ... I tink say nah runz bae

BumBae:
Lol Op take heart

Some women are there killing theirselves to meet guy like you , all d gift you got her she didnt even get u jack n she got right to say u dont show love ... Nah now she just realise

Anyway thats y u get an independent lady .. Or one wey get sense thank God u just dodge bullet ..... Be happy move on plenty more decent girls dat u wont even but nothing for n if you dont show love they show you love regardless..


Forget her .. Tell her to find work first

Please did you read the last part of my post?

I said she has a business venture in Lagos. She has a company actually. An I.T company.

ettaetta:
That babe doesnt love you. A girl who truly loves you will accept any present you give to her, whether big or small. She is just using that as escuse to break up with you. Stop begging bro and move on, so many girl will do anything to have a guy like you. Its obvious she is just taking your love for granted. https://m.youtube.com/watch?sns=tw&v=0iq_pkXsMv8

Yes I thought the same thing. I even asked her if she it's just looking for way to dump and she said no. That if that is the case she can as well dump me without any reason as there is nothing i can do to her.

So I don't think that's the case as she has made that clear.

pinceprinz:
Buy the Teddy bear for her and invite her for dinner in your place if she accepts it as her sis had suggested. Get yourself ready to give her the fukc of the century too.

She is against premarital sex. But I'll get the teddy bear. Thanks

Nairaland men and women please help me here. What have I done wrong?

We have been together for so many years. Last year on her birthday, I purchased the latest Galaxy then for her as a birthday gift. She accepted the gift and thanked me that all she wanted was a teddy bear. That was last year.

This year was her birthday again, I even wanted to get a car for her but my friends advised me against it. So instead I took her shopping. When we got to the shop she called in sick complaining of a headache so we had to leave and return home.

When we got home she said she wasn't having a headache. That she cannot continue with me. That maybe I think she wants my money or my gifts. That all she wanted from me is love and for her birthday, a teddy bear as she said last year. That I don't show her the love she is expecting that I think my money is equivalent to the love she wants.

I tried to plead with her not to go that I will stop spending then she said that she cannot just continue that she doesn't see the love inside of me. That I think love means gifts and shopping and all vanity. She told me to go and learn what love means that when i do she hope I find someone like herself.

And she left and returned to Abuja that night. When I called her the next day about our wedding plans she said that she is not getting married to someone like me that she has endured enough. I called her brother to help me talk to her the brother said he cannot force her that it's her choice. That i should move on that she doesn't like guys like me.

What have I done? I have always given her all that I know she needs and wants. Many of my friends were calling me foolish that she would turn me to maga I ignored them now see me.

Even last 2 weeks I begged her and she came to Lagos. I told her I won't spend money again that she should forgive. She told me it's ok. She returned to Abuja and her line has never gone through even till now. Since 2 weeks.

I'm so sad. I want her. I don't want her to go. I'm even planning on going to Abuja to see her but I'm not sure of where she lives there as I'm a Lagos person. She comes to Lagos once in a while because she has a business venture in Lagos.

Her sister said I should buy the teddy bear for her first.

Please what can I do?

Modified (2:42pm) :


I have decided to buy the Teddy Bear for her and try again. And will be a better man. Indeed I thought money was everything since she was working class. Very buoyant so I was trying to do what I xpexted she wants from me but I was wrong. She wanted my love and attention and teddy bear not my money. Because truly for many years she always complained about my spending that she didn't like it. I thought she was forming.

So once again, thank you all. You have helped me today.

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