Before we met or got married, my wife used to date a guy. But because of religious difference and pressure from her family, the relationship went nowhere and they parted. The guy later got married to another lady. Unfortunately about a year and a half ago, he became widowed when his wife died of cancer. To my utmost surprise my wife is now trying to match him up with a friend of hers who lives in the UK. In fact things have gone so far that the girl will be coming to the US by January to see the guy. My wife is so enthusiastic about this match-making that she spend hours over the phone discussing the issue with her friend almost every other day. i haven't said anything about it. I'm just confused whether she was genuinely trying to help her friends out or is there a sinister emotional triangle that eludes me ?

Thanks every body!

@smilenw
your analysis seems to be the most tenable.
you delved into the roots of my fears and insecurities.
i think i left my imagination to run wild.
thanks

@ eze
she spent two weeks with us.

@MMM
It is not as simple as you put it.
firstly we dont chose pple we fall in love with. we met here in the us, not that i imported her from some african village and her qualities as a person overrides all other the considerations like age.
i have no problems with her. we never fight or quarrel over anything. the only issue is the one i stated. and you guys have still not come up with a cogent solid or candid take on it.

@p.wiz
for close to two years

@MMM
no she is not the breadwinner. we share the responsibilities like rent, insurance etc. but to be frank i moved in with her after our marriage. but we share all expenses.

my wife is 7 years older me. though i dont mind since i believe and have seen her indisputable love for me that has manifested itself in so many ways. but i just have a feeling that because of the age difference she takes some things for granted. i could recall about a year ago when i told her to do something for me, she blurted out that i am ordering her like a housegirl. though she later turned it into a joke and did what i requested it sent many alarms ringing in my head. but my greatest concern happened of recent when her elder sister( a professor of medicine in some american university) came visiting. she did not tell me until about three days to her arrival. we live in a two bedroom apartment and she made us vacate our bedroom for her sister to the other unfurnished one where we had to sleep on the floor. it looked odd to me but i never wanted to make too much of a fuss about it since it was her sibling. but guys dont you think she does these because she is older and if i were older she may not be this autocratic? but then again because i never grew up in Nigeria and don't really know how in-laws are to be handled. i dont know if what she did as regards to her sister was normal in the african context. i dont want to be disrespectful.