I do not know that meaning of scammer and mugu, but getting a visa for me could take a year or even more, would it be longer if he does it? I mean I even have to get a passport before getting a visa, have an invitation letter and many other requirements, I do not think it will take him more

He has been planning my trip and offered to pay for it, do you think he´ll be offended if I ask him to come first?

I´ll take your suggestion into account

Sorry if we hurt you in someway but is not Naija men ,the thing is that men should take some first steps in a relationship, would you trust a person without even meeting face to face? Messages and calls are important but you can say a lie and no one can prove it otherwise, now loooking into a person´s eyes and seeing him act can give you a hint, that´s all I want from the man.

Thanks a lot to all of you for all the quick replies. I have my own view about the situation but I wanted some other people´s opinion to be sure. And you are right, whether he is Nigerian or not, I can´t trust a person I haven´t even seen and take a place somewhere on earth to visit him without asking him to prove his love and promises. You have been very helpful.

I have this Nigerian date on internet, he has made a lot of promises and says that he is a Christian and good man, we haven´t met yet and he wants me to travel to Nigeria to meet him, the thing is that I am afraid he might have some evil intention with me there, he sounds like a honest person but you can nver know, what should I do?

What about hiring a babysitter? It could be someone close to the family, but the girl has a right to make her life. If her sister decided to marry and have children she should have known what she was getting into instead of trusting that responsability on the younger sister now. SHE REALLY IS SELFISHHHHHHH, GUYS

What about her sister's husband? His family members? (

Yeah, that´s right, her sister´s husband is the one who must take charge of the children and wife or his relatives.But if they do not do it, then the mother should help her instead of making the other daughter sacrifice her life, which she has already done.

Kayla´s story is a sad one really but it is time for no more remorse. She has done enough for her sister and it is time she starts thinking about her future. If her sister is too sick then she should probably wait a bit for recovery and try to do something with her life, if she is not that sick, she must leave right away and do something useful with her life or she won´t have anything to offer to her own kids someday in the future. iF HER MOTHER DOES NOT UNDERSTAND THIS, SHE IS REALLY SELFISH, FRIENDS

He is a Christian, I do not know there but here not even Christian boys take that into account these days, what do you think?

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Then better , I know there a Nigerian embassy here but I have been searching about how to travel from Cuba to Nigeria and viceversa and I guess he´ll have to go through other countries to finally come here.

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Welcome to Cuba if you find the way to come. You´ll find we have a lot in common culturally.

Yeah, maybe she will understand what you did and value it before making a decision.

meen: your friend should first talk to her boyfriend and look for solutions, he mustt get a job is they are keeping the baby. If after talking to him he does not respond properly, then ur friend should consider abortion, she safest method. If it were me I would keep the baby no matter what but my society norms are different to yours, if she going to keep the baby even without his backup she might have to face some difficulties, only she knows if she is ready to run the risk of facing society and its prejudices or aborting what could be her only child in life.

Telling the truth is always the best, if after yuo say it she kames a decision then you will feel better, you´ll see. Next time, be honest from the very beginning

If he is a drug dealer do not send him here, the last thing we need is drugs

Girls can only be friends to a man, why not? UR friend is sure of what he feels for this 1 real girfriend he has, friendship must not be confused with love. On one hand if you have a serious relationship with someone you should respect that and on the other friends are sacred if there is real friendship

Cool girl do not say that because men will feel really good, does your man make you feel exhausted after the work?

I´d rather take the second choice. I do not care if he watches his favorite channel, reads or eat as far as he is Hot again

Hello, I wonder what are the common bra sizes in your markets. It seems that in my country we have different sizes that do not correspond yours.

Some have a small koko as you say but they know how to use it despite those who have a big thing I do not know what to do with it.

Of course we care about STDs, that´s is why we are taught how to avoid them from very early ages. Education is the key to many problems and in this case it has worked here, free education,free knowledge,free care for everything, including STDs. Besides the fact of keeping your virginity for a determined man does not mean that you are not going to catch any STD, don´t you think? The really sad part would be if you kept your most special treasure for a guy who is going to infect you from the very first time without taking into account what you are giving him.

You could talk to your parents and convince them of the fact that you are meant to one another, you could even ask them to have some faith in you two and give at least a short time to try, maybe they are testing your love and after seeing the see what you feel they can understand you were right. Also talk to your fathers and try to convince them of what you have, if the father is convinced then the mother will be persuaded by him.

Well I do not know what it means for a man, for ladies if her man falls asleep right after making love it means that it was boring, we women enjoy talking about love, how it felt,how it would have been better, so if the guy falls asleep you do not know if he liked it or not, besides it is rude

teenluv: tell your friend that she has to consider if the guy is worthy all her money. Maybe he is in a bad moment, anyone can be, but she has to analyse him and see if he is gold digging her. Even if it is a man or a woman, gold digging is ugly, specially when love is involved. If she thinks the guy is worthy maybe she should talk to him and even help him get a job that pays him well, if after having a good job, he still asks for money, he is not worth a penny from her purse and there is no doubt he is lazy and takes advantage of her money and feelings.
If you feel that your friend might not take your suggestion well, them just propose her to help him find a new job that pays him better and wait for the results. This way you will see if she really considers you a friend and if the guy is using her. Good luck

asha:
Maybe dating is not the right word for what we have, we never see each other becuase we are too far rom each other, we just write,ask questions and that´s all. He was looking for a woman on the internet to get married and I was looking for a friend, we ran into each other and have been sending messages since then. After some time, I have become interested in his culture and traditions and reading this same forum I found many topics that worried me although I had not realised, this intimacy issue is one of them because it could make a difference between the two of us.

I do not know why you say red flag, I am not African so my customs are not yours ,it is evident that for you a girl who is not a virgin is a problem and I respect that but in my country it is no important. Here people value more other things than the simple fact of dating a girl who has already been with a man in a bed. And seeing things from a different perspective, for us it is more important to know if that girl is the right one to share your life with and spend a lifetime with the wrong person is sadder than spending a first night with a not-virgin, anyway virginity only lasts that first night.