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Christianity Etc › Re: Help, I Dunno What I'm Turning Into by Marissacooper(op): 11:44am On Jan 29, 2017

yomi007k:
Then do just that.....do u think people really give a damn?

Stop living to please ppl, u wil never be happy if u do dt.

I feel like I'm letting my parents down and I do anything to please them... Well I guess I just gotta do the right thing now and stop caring about what people say.

Christianity Etc › Re: Help, I Dunno What I'm Turning Into by Marissacooper(op): 11:32am On Jan 29, 2017

yomi007k:

U are very normal.

Welcome to Africa, the land of hypocrisy.

I don't think it's just Africa, it's every where. I wish I could just stay at home and worship God alone.

Christianity Etc › Re: Help, I Dunno What I'm Turning Into by Marissacooper(op): 11:21am On Jan 29, 2017

jiggaz:
My ~~brother~~ sister, i understand you perfectly well.... You see, that is the problem with religion in Nigeria. It is a shame that Christians have turned Christianity into a religion and that is not what Christ made it to be.

I know the kind of Church you are looking for, but i don't think you will find it in Nigeria. You cannot find a 100% Grace-based church in Nigeria. Just find one that still teaches Christ and attend.

I left my former church becos of this same issue of Self Righteousness, Being Judgemental & Hypocrisy...

Read this article, it addressed your situation, you will love it.

https://www.nairaland.com/2601230/jesus-measure-righteousness-joseph-prince

Go through my posts and read them also, it will set you free!!

Thanks, I'll go through it...but I'm not a guy.

Christianity Etc › Re: Help, I Dunno What I'm Turning Into by Marissacooper(op): 10:52am On Jan 29, 2017

brandonobi:
good, be urself and don't do something bcus others are doing it, don't even feel guilty bout not to church cus if shows that ure not blinded by wat people force themselves to see. just like u said religion should be between u and God.

Don't you think it's bad that I don't go to church? Cos people around me tell me that church gathering is important and staying at is putting a lot of doubt in my mind..

Christianity Etc › Re: Help, I Dunno What I'm Turning Into by Marissacooper(op): 10:48am On Jan 29, 2017*

valariz:
~~Bro~~ Sis Mari, i feel 4 u ~~bro~~ sis cuz i've been der. d tin is people wen in dia strongest moments tends 2 b judgmental, 4getin dat der err also in oda ways. just find a bible living church and give ur lyf 2 CHRIST JESUS totaly focus on HIM alone bro. dere is no depths of sin HE canot 4give. com as u r- as nobody, non entity, dirty, unclean, rejected, unloved, un4givable... as u r. u wil b amazed of HIS Love 4 ur u, ur lyf n all dat concerns u bro. n pls 4get dos who judge u as if dey r d most righteous one.

The problem is I've not really seen any church that fits my ideology. The only close is my church and JW and they all have their flaws too. BTW, I'm bro

Christianity Etc › Help, I Dunno What I'm Turning Into by Marissacooper(op): 10:18am On Jan 29, 2017

I'm very confused about religion and this is not something that just started, I never liked attending church services right from childhood. The thing got worse when I got into the uni, and it's making me depressed. When I got admitted I started attending my church fellowship in school, right from time I never liked the people in my fellowship because I feel they are bunch of hypocrites and very judgemental. They preach the truth but they don't practice it. I never got along with them because of this, I've quarreled with them, I've warned them that religion is a personal affair and how I leave my life is between me and God and it's non of their business. Right now I don't go to church anymore because anytime I go I feel disgusted. I've tried other churches but nothing is working, so many questions tormenting me, I don't wanna turn to an atheist or agnostic. I've been really disturbed and depressed, shutting everyone out of my life. It's really affecting me. Please help, I'm in my late teen and I feel I'm too young to be having these thoughts.

Romance › Re: How To Move On When You're Hurt!!! by Marissacooper(f): 3:52pm On Aug 14, 2016

Nice article. Writing down one's feeling and remembering the person's good side helps a lot. Leaving in denial makes you hurt for long, I was in this situation few weeks ago thanks to some nairalanders who helped me out.

Romance › Re: I'm Hurt But I Cant Move On by Marissacooper(op): 4:58pm On Aug 07, 2016

njiasi30:
Op, why d insult? Learn to control ur anger dear, dis is a faceless forum. Ppl re entitled to dere own opinion, u posted ur story online don't expect all d comments to b in ur favour. Take d relevant one's and ignore others, if u must reply dem just b nice even if dey insulted u. U ve 2 wk on it 2 keep d comments flowing in, at least it will ease u a bit.

Noted, I'll ignore them next time. I was upset, it's not really cool making fun of someone in pain. Thanks dear, I'll work on it.

Romance › Re: I'm Hurt But I Cant Move On by Marissacooper(op): 4:53pm On Aug 07, 2016

Titilayooni:
Babe!! Give it time,it will surely heal..I have the same personality as you but when it happened,I tried everything to let it go even going to d beach to scream out my tears but U can't really move on if u don't start by deleting every detail about him. Anything u can see that reminds u of him, that was the 1st step to my moving on..Today am much much better,ready to let someone else cause LOVE can be so hurtful but it still remains the most beautiful thing. Wish u luck dear

I wish it was that easy, I'll still know his number even if I delete it. He's still texting me, he told me he missed me this morning but I didn't reply.

Romance › Re: I'm Hurt But I Cant Move On by Marissacooper(op): 4:48pm On Aug 07, 2016*

missiamme:
That was the statement " I want us to break up things are not okay for me now" that was after 3 years oo.....
OP you just have to let go pls, stop brooding over it or hoping he will come back so as not to waste your time( I'm talking from experience) . May God heal your heart

I didn't date him for three years...we were just friends. It's not even up to a year we started dating. Thanks for the advice.

Romance › Re: I'm Hurt But I Cant Move On by Marissacooper(op): 12:00am On Aug 07, 2016*

modestofynest:
U should be happy, since he has not shined ur kitty cat and dump u go find another dude that will love u and u u don't know where to get them am available to shine ur kitty cat till it will need no shining for a long time to come

Relationship is not all about sex.

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Romance › Re: I'm Hurt But I Cant Move On by Marissacooper(op): 11:58pm On Aug 06, 2016*

FreeSpirited:
All you need is sex. start having a good mind blowing sex. Find guys that are attractive to you..let them pound you till your brain is formatted, i am sure your feelings will shift away from him. Thank you. If you doubt this.......then why do ladies go cold toward their boyfriends after being pounded hard by a cheat?

Relationship is not all about sex.

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Romance › Re: I'm Hurt But I Cant Move On by Marissacooper(op): 11:56pm On Aug 06, 2016

VolT0xic:
Have you tried talking to him?

I believe if you sit and talk with him, get good explanation on why he call things off, you'll find it easier to let him go.

We're on holiday and very far apart. Talking on phone is not working, it's only making me feel bad.

Romance › I'm Hurt But I Cant Move On by Marissacooper(op): 11:19pm On Aug 06, 2016

I just need help because I'm badly hurt and I can't move on. I've known this guy for three years I was in my mid teens but he was twenty seeking for admission, we were good friends. I grew so fond of him He got admitted but I didn't we still remained very close friends. The next year I got admitted in the same school, he helped me, told me what to study. He was happy and I was happy too. When I resumed I deleted his number, removed him from my social media account because I discovered I loved him too much and I don't want to get hurt. I have a very fragile heart and once I'm attached to someone it's difficult for me to let go even if they hurt me.
All this while he has been checking up on me I never knew, he knows the first class I attended and the clothes I wore that day. He got my number back from my social media account, we started talking again he was so sweet. In my second year we became so close we started dating. We were so close, I was obsessed and he was too. People were jealous, my friends advised me to be careful but I trusted him.
Things became rough for him but I still stood by him, we were still good there was nothing wrong with us. He told me things may be rough but I still love you that morning and I told him everything will be alright (I never asked for money because he's a student like me, he has financial problem). I was surprised that evening when I saw "I don't want us to date anymore, things are not alright with me, he said he made me sin, he said everything is for my own good." He's very religious and I'm not. He's the first guy I ever dated, we didn't have sex I dunno what sin he's talking about. I just wanted to date just one guy in my life so that the love I'll show husband won't be divided. Right now if I ever get married in future I'll still love him. He never did anything wrong, things were perfect till the end and that's one reason I can't let go. It's been one week I can't let go, I can't delete his pictures, I'm always thinking about him. Please I need good advice, I want to let go and move on with my life. I can't tell my parents because they'll be very disappointed. I just want my life back, I can't let go because he is already part of my life. I'm depressed and want a happy life. I just need good advice.

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