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SpencerForbes:
Checking a woman's past depends entirely on the destination of the relationship.

It is okay to care about a partner's past, but context is everything. You cannot use the same metrics for a 'wife material' and a casual fling.

If you are actually planning to marry her—knowing fully well that not all dating leads to marriage—then by all means, vet her and research her history. But if the relationship is strictly for fun or FWB, why stress yourself over who else she has been with? As long as there is mutual respect and the 'knacking' is good, her history is irrelevant.

We need to stop assuming every woman dates for marriage. Some are just there for the satisfaction or because you are available. Digging into the past of a girl you have no intention of marrying just screams insecurity and desperation.

If you are building a future, vet her. If it’s just vibes, enjoy the moment. Until a ring is on that finger, technically, she still belongs to the streets.

I was speaking with the context of marriage and serious relationship (the type that leads to marriage) in mind.

Of course, if you are just fùcking each other and having a nice time, then go ahead. I got a certain impression when you used the word "partner".

Why do men like to deceive themselves that they do not care about a woman's past? Red pill or not, men naturally care about a woman's past. The fact that society has reached a point where most men pretend they don't care and maintain this illusion is testament to how far manhood has fallen.

Take any bluepilled man who vehemently claims with utmost conviction that he is not bothered about his girlfriend's past aside and make his girlfriend explicitly tell him of her past deeds. You will notice the light dim in his eyes. That is his attraction towards his girlfriend withering. His perception of her as a partner erodes. This dim will adversely affect the relationship moving forward.

If you ever disagreed with me about caring about a woman's past and your mood changes when you hear explicit details of the fact, let's say, that you girlfriend had a few threesomes, or was pounded like a worthless slùt in styles that you don't even try with your "sweet angle" (girlfriend), then you actually care about the past. No dey whine yourself.

If you lose strength at the fact that the same girl was pounded at a frequency unbecoming of the image of her in your head, then you actually care about the past and body count.

If you disagree with me still, and claim that you really meant she doesn't have to be a virgin (LOL!) and a low body count is okay, then you still care about the past because a past of high body count is not acceptable to you. You still care about the past! The problem is how do you know a low body count? If you set a maximum number as a requirement, how do you know she hasn't exceeded it? Many people will delude themselves that they can tell with certainty, but they can't say anything reasonable when asked of their supposed infallible method. The truth is you can't tell.

If you insist she has a low body count or that it is irrelevant as long as she is a normal girl in the sense that she hasn't done sex work, how can you be sure that your decent nonvirgin hasn't done sex work or made any other sex arrangements?

There are many more things I can write, but time gives me no room. Be sincere with yourself and admit that you care the past. Don't be among the men who think past is irrelevant. Don't be among the men who choose a certain kind of women when it comes to your standard. Don't buy into the social engineering that posits that past doesn't matter; don't run along with it. It is the same way many beta men now allow their wives to wear cropped gym wears that only hookup girls and sex workers should wear, and they then defend this norm with silly nonsense.

Don't be hesitant to stand out and embrace your common sense and red pill insights.

SpencerForbes:
A person operating from a position of abundance, multiple options and self-worth would not be overly concerned with a partner's past or current actions. Obsessing over a partner's private life is often a sign of high emotional investment or 'oneitis,' which can be emotionally draining.

When you prioritize your own value, a partner will naturally work to align with your standards, understanding the significant loss if the relationship ends.

This is wrong, bro. Actually, lack of options or red pill understanding and orientation will make a man unmindful of and unconcerned about a woman's past.

By your logic, a man who marries an ex-pôrnstar, who is older than him and has three children before him, can POSSIBLY be an alpha operating from a position of abundance, multiple options and self-worth. Error 400! What do you think about this?

Almost any woman can act the way you want if they benefit from being with you and will lose a lot if you walk away. Does that mean any such woman is okay to marry? No!

In fact, being redpilled will make you take a woman's past seriously in ways the common man wouldn't. You don't just marry anything because she is acting a certain way you approve, especially after being incentivised by benefits.

I will type more later. Just know that it is dangerous to disregard a woman's past. Settling for anything because they are behaving the way you like, or because they are manageable, is actually a beta trait. It signals lack of options, game and self-esteem because men who lacks these usually do this.

You must care about her past, her background, her age and many other attributes. Ignore the past if you want to shed tears.

Egbon waved a red flag in your face and you are asking questions?

It is admirable when it is her spouse or other men, but it is silly when it is her brothers.

Melagros:
COMRADES, what is this all hype? Is Puerto Rico a strong team?

Wetin dey worry you? Are Luxembourg, Faroe Island, Estonia, Lithuania, Andorra, Liechtenstein, Latvia, Armenia, etc big teams? Take your time before I and Almiron take you to that clinic.

Hot tears loading... I hope this isn't real.

Okortor:
But i could get him arrested if finding out he led her with false promises?

Yes.

Okortor:
I will get the guy arrested for such irresponsible act and deceiving her.

Did he commit a crime? NO! How do you even know that he deceived her? See how you are quick to abuse/defy the law and demonstrate a disregard for human rights.

You might not like what he did, but arresting him is unacceptable if you are not certain he committed a crime or led your daughter on with false promises.

delpee:
This isn't the best way forward if you want your daughter to stay alive and well. After the initial disappointment and anger, it's wise to ensure that her life isn't wasted because of one error.

A 22-year-old girl mistakenly gets pregnant? Na so. As long as she will have the baby, my decision stands. People who don't want to be serious with how they plan their lives and make decisions can not stress me.

Before she would have clocked 22, I would have repeatedly warned against poorly planned or unwanted pregnancy from the onset as per solid upbringing. If she still decides to be an indisciplined foòl, that's her business. She will suffer the consequences.

Smithwilliams826:
den she bring another one to her kind and nice father.

Father Lord, na beg I dey beg, make I no born girl oh, make them fit b boys. Pls!

You dey mind them?

CorperKola:
You know this can boomerang to a lot of dangerous outcomes for your chilld sha
And at the end of the day people will still blame you

I don't care what people think.

ISellBeer:
She fit still no wise and go carry another belle for the same guy again, this I see many places.

After all that you would do, RELOCATE HER TO ANOTHER PLACE

Are you minding them? When you enable irresponsible decisions from irresponsible child, you set grounds for a likely repeat. I too have seen this pattern happen repeatedly.

People act like it is every child you must go through hell for and never give up on. Some kids are bent on being irresponsible and a thorn in the flesh. Some kids must be spat out at a certain point.

Kobojunkieee:
Abandoning your child to her fate is a formula that has brought countless heartaches to both mother and child, as well as the family as a whole. You call it a principle, but if the result each time is 98% guaranteed failure for the family as a whole, shouldn't you revisit the worth of this so-called principle? 🥱🥱

2. But the majority of the time, in Nigeria, especially, the child's family never accepts the woman and her child. So, again, what is the worth of this so-called principle? 🥱🥱

3. Well, people typically institute principles that benefit them and their family as a whole, not merely for the sake of pretending they are gods over the lives of others. So, I guess the question is, what do you gain from holding on to principles that end up jeopardizing the lives of your own blood? 🥱🥱🥱

Mtsewwww. Lol. It is not you who will tell me how to craft my principles. When it is your turn, do as you like. When it is my turn, I will do as I like. Goodnight.

Fuckyoumod:
speaking from both sides of your mouth, neither here nor there. Why?

What do you mean? Can you be clearer?

CorperKola:
Really??
I agree with the part of warning them early about the dangers of that sha

Yes. I don't enable irresponsible and reckless decisions and I won't shoulder another man's responsibility. I won't work hard to take care of my kids only for them to add another man's responsibility to the mix. This doesn't mean I hate my grandchild.

Kobojunkie:
Not insinuating that actions should not have consequences. Rather, I am insisting that we not keep replaying the same failed formulas of the past, expecting new results each time we do.

It is not a failed formula because I am not expecting any result. It is just a matter of principle: if you get pregnant, you must go be with the child's father. If the child's father accepts you and the child and steps up to his fatherly responsibility, fine; if he doesn't, still don't come back.

What new results am I expecting? Result ke?

Kobojunkie:
Like this formula has ever worked out the many millions of times it has been rebooted at this point in time. All you do by foisting your daughter on the same person who didn't think before impregnating her is increasing the chances of her ruin and that of your grandchildren.

We need to start the thinking with that brain we claim to have. 🥱🥱

Smh. Actions have consequences, and I'm big on that. If I repeatedly warned you against something and told you the actions I would take if you disobeyed, then you only have yourself to blame if you disobey. If you get ruined, then it is all you.

I would ask her who the father is. Regardless of the answer, I would tell her to get her baby and go camp with the guy who impregnated her. As father, you must warn your daughters early on to avoid unwanted pregnancy or at aleast make sure they get pregnant for a guy who is capable and willing to house and take care of them and their kids.

If you get pregnant for a guy, you are leaving my house to go stay with him and I won't be responsible for you and your child. If the guy happens to be a bum or one irresponsible bad boy who wants nothing to do with you and your child, tough luck and go fend for yourself.

It makes no sense to forgive someone who murdered your family member and caused other irredeemable losses.

Smh. A child is an adult body. You can tell that viral photo did cut her deeply.

Redpillers who follow politics home and abroad and sympathise with conservative and traditional wing of politics would probably have heard of Charlie Kirk, CEO of Turning Point USA.

Sadly, Charlie Kirk lost his life today to a gunshot injury. The bullet fatally ruptured his carotid artery, and he was declared dead few hours after being rushed to the hospital. He was just 31, and he had two little kids. May his soul rest in peace.

Streak47:
I haven't but she offered to work. With reassurance that business is business.

We've had of situations of women using money from other men to finance other men.

I want real OGs that have experienced this first hand. Not just assumptions. How do pimps maintain loyalty from women?

Well, in the matter of money, whether you are dealing with a man or a woman, never cede leverage or trust someone when you don't have to. Protect yourself at all times. I can say more but a word is enough for the wise.

Streak47:
I have a question for the veterans in the house. They will have many experiences in the game. Good and Bad.

Has anyone been in a situation where you entrust your business and monies with a girl you have had something with either currently or actively smashing(situationships). For example, a sales girl.

How did it turn out with finances & other aspects. Is it advisable?

Sorry to ask, have you done this? Or are you contemplating doing this?

Watcharena:
they can never receive us ,we know what we want. They should continue enjoying their penizz around, we are not complaining

What will it profit a man to worked hard and have his life together, and then marry a woman with used pùssy and many entanglements? Lol. Men should try to have sense and pity themselves.

PastorKosi:
You want a virgin right? Are you a Virgin?
You want a virgin right? Are you a Virgin?

Women of lower status what men of higher status. Your post is like saying a woman should not desire a man of higher status. There is nothing wrong in wanting from the opposite gender certain things you don't have. In fact, due to gender differences, there are certain things that are valued in one gender and not so much in the other.

Perish this nonsense.

Watcharena:
A virgin with all the above problems you have mentioned is still better than a non virgin FOR ME.


I will never settle for less
I will never pay for a used product not even okrika
I will never buy a community cow
I will never personalise a public property
I will never keep a public trash can in my house

They are using style to act like injecting peñis into a woman endows her with good character and reliability. Pastorpreneur dey disguise.

You can pander to your female followers without all these. Of course, every man with at least two brain cells knows that virginity doesn't guarantee a good wife. However, virgins can exist with good character and good home training. Your wife must come with virginity as well as good character. Abi na only nonvirgins dey get good character?

In the age of promiscuity, men don't even see the sense in insisting on virginity and the potential baggages they avoid by rejecting nonvirgins. Well, what do I know? They are even foolish enough to assume a woman's body count and even go as far as convincing themselves that they have reliable techniques to estimate a woman's body count. Men will not kee me with foolishness.

"But some virgins have done blowjôbs, anal sex, etc. without penetration"
Yeah, right. If virgins can do that, imagine what nonvirgins would have done. Are nonvirgins less nastier than virgins? Are you even dumb enough to expect things to be this way? Besides, why bother yourself at what you can't measure or spot? The one you can spot which is a virgin pusśy, you refuse to do so because you are trying to mix virgins and nonvirgins together.

"Virginity doesn't matter blah blah." Continue with this foolishness. This is how men marry former hookup babes without knowing or start competing with the works and damage of unknown exes. There many more things that can be avoid by leaving nonvirgins alone.


"She has only three body count"
"What if she just did it once?" (As if you know for certain like her guardian angel )
"Her body count isn't that much" Na you be dis 👇

Tenrack:
I had known about your teachings for a while, yet I let my feelings get the best of me. I hope someone else can learn from my mistake.

https://www.nairaland.com/8461427/got-scammed-served-breakfast-single/7

Keep doing the good work boss.

I just finished reading your story. You really messed up big time. Everything you had been warned against, you did. Never have anything serious to do with single mothers. Only pain and tears await you. Women, single mother or not, inwardly regard you as a beta fool, or a loser with no options, when choose a single mother as your spouse. They may not admit it openly, but it is what it is.

Go and do better, and start taking the red pill seriously.

vision202020:
Can you give me the business idea if I can try it with my wife over here?

Abi you want to open it for yourself?