WHAT MAKES A LADY BEAUTIFUL?

What's your definition about a perfect beauty and how does the society view the beauty of a lady?

Most people have different characteristics they would love to see in a lady before concurring to her beauty or not.

Some of these characteristics or attributes include:

• thin
• beautiful
• sexy lips
• has big breasts/buttocks
• figure eight
• pointed nose
• white teeth
• tall
• doesn’t have pimples
• has a flat tummy etc.

You will agree with me that the only one who fits all the above description is Barbie.

It’s amazing how a childhood toy can mould a young lady ideas about where beauty comes from.
Many young women grew up with unrealistic expectations about their bodies which later on affects their self esteem.

The real question is where does beauty really come from? Let’s go back to the Bible to see what the Creator of beauty has to say about where it comes from and how we are to use it.

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. (1Peter 3:3-5)

Do these scriptures say that we shouldn’t style our hair or wear nice clothes? Of course not.

The Bible simply says that this kind of beauty fades and can’t be depended upon. These verses are good reminders that physical beauty isn’t going to last forever and that our primary focus shouldn’t be on outward beauty. However, the beauty that comes from loving and serving God with a happy heart is a beauty that endures even when your figure has fallen out of shape and wrinkles adorn your face.

True beauty doesn’t come from fresh makeup, the latest hairstyle, or how you look in your apparel. Rather, it radiates from the inside out, from a heart that delights in the Lord.

Remain Blessed
#The Bride of Christ

SEXUAL DECEPTION


This write-up is for the depressed youth who is a victim of sexual temptations, morally messed up, trapped sexually and don't know how to escape.


You might be thinking " Is there any hope for me?" , of course there is a way out.

As powerful and inescapable "The Sexual Pitfall" seems to be, there is a way out for you.

Firstly, you must clearly understand the sex drive and sexual desires God put within you and why He put them there and you must be aware that the enemy tries to pervert these normal healthy drives into something immoral and destructive.

Desire can be the motivating force that causes two young people to grow and mature, channeled in the right direction to a happy Christian home that is pleasing to God.

Tragically, your desires can also take the opposite direction. They can cause you to draw back from God and the righteous way.


Don't let your desire steer you into areas of temptation that sooner or later will overpower you.

Samson allowed his sexual temptation to overpower him while Joseph overcame his sexual temptation.

WHICH DIRECTION ARE YOUR SEXUAL DESIRES TAKING YOU?

TRAGEDY OR TRIUMPH AWAITS.

Secondly, you need to look beyond the big lie and see what is on the other side.

What happens after the night of passion passes and you are left alone to face yourself in the mirror?

Your Greatest Power is Choice. You have to make a decision. You must choose either to win or lose the battle to avoid falling into Sexual deception.

If you choose to be deceived, then nothing or no one can stop you. If you choose what you know in your heart is right and pleasing to God. It will lead you away from the snaring Pitfall of Sexual Temptation.


You might be saying "I know I'm doing wrong, but I can't help it. The temptation is too great, I can't resist it. It is stronger than I am, I can't say no. I know what's right, but I keep doing wrong. Is there any hope for me? Or is it too late,? Can I be delivered?"


Yes you can be delivered. John 14:6 "Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth and the life......"

Jesus is your only hope of deliverance. He has already taken care of your situation by giving Himself for your sins that he might deliver you from this present evil world (Galatians 1:4).

All you need to do is confess your sins. He is faithful and just to forgive your sins and cleanse you from all unrighteousness.


If you really want to be set free then say this simple prayer "Heal me, O Lord and I shall be healed ; save me and I shall be saved."

CONGRATULATIONS, You have become a new Creature

Remain Blessed

#Obi Ifeoma
#The Bride of Christ

SEXUAL DECEPTION


This write-up is for the depressed youth who is a victim of sexual temptations, morally messed up, trapped sexually and don't know how to escape.


You might be thinking " Is there any hope for me?" , of course there is a way out.

As powerful and inescapable "The Sexual Pitfall" seems to be, there is a way out for you.

Firstly, you must clearly understand the sex drive and sexual desires God put within you and why He put them there and you must be aware that the enemy tries to pervert these normal healthy drives into something immoral and destructive.

Desire can be the motivating force that causes two young people to grow and mature, channeled in the right direction to a happy Christian home that is pleasing to God.

Tragically, your desires can also take the opposite direction. They can cause you to draw back from God and the righteous way.


Don't let your desire steer you into areas of temptation that sooner or later will overpower you.

Samson allowed his sexual temptation to overpower him while Joseph overcame his sexual temptation.

WHICH DIRECTION ARE YOUR SEXUAL DESIRES TAKING YOU?

TRAGEDY OR TRIUMPH AWAITS.

Secondly, you need to look beyond the big lie and see what is on the other side.

What happens after the night of passion passes and you are left alone to face yourself in the mirror?

Your Greatest Power is Choice. You have to make a decision. You must choose either to win or lose the battle to avoid falling into Sexual deception.

If you choose to be deceived, then nothing or no one can stop you. If you choose what you know in your heart is right and pleasing to God. It will lead you away from the snaring Pitfall of Sexual Temptation.


You might be saying "I know I'm doing wrong, but I can't help it. The temptation is too great, I can't resist it. It is stronger than I am, I can't say no. I know what's right, but I keep doing wrong. Is there any hope for me? Or is it too late,? Can I be delivered?"


Yes you can be delivered. John 14:6 "Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth and the life......"

Jesus is your only hope of deliverance. He has already taken care of your situation by giving Himself for your sins that he might deliver you from this present evil world (Galatians 1:4).

All you need to do is confess your sins. He is faithful and just to forgive your sins and cleanse you from all unrighteousness.


If you really want to be set free then say this simple prayer "Heal me, O Lord and I shall be healed ; save me and I shall be saved."

CONGRATULATIONS, You have become a new Creature

Remain Blessed

#Obi Ifeoma
#The Bride of Christ

Preshy561:
All the Demons of nairaland are always angry when anything pertaining truth, Christianity or salvation is mentioned.

Op, nice write up.

Thanks

Sexual Purity
in Relationships


First of all, remember that if you plant purity today, you will reap a rich harvest, free from shame and guilt. And, by the grace of God, you’ll look back on your life not with regret, but with joyful gratitude. Sexual purity is ALWAYS in your best interest. Be smart, not stupid, and you’ll enjoy the best God has for you!
“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality” (1 Thessalonians 4:3 ).
You don’t have to date just because lots of other people date doesn’t mean you have to. You can enjoy fun, positive friendships with people of the opposite sex and be involved in all sorts of activities without coupling up with one person.
If you do choose to date, the following guidelines can help you maintain a walk with God and guard your purity.


1) If you’re a Christian, only date Christians.
You won’t marry every person you date. But the person you marry will be someone you dated. God says, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers . . . what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14 ).
There are many contexts in which to do evangelism—dating isn’t one of them.


2. Realize where you go and who you go with will influence your sexual desires.
When we put ourselves in a godly atmosphere with godly people, we are influenced toward godliness. When we put ourselves in an ungodly atmosphere with ungodly people we are influenced toward ungodliness. “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character’” (I Corinthians 15:28 ).


3. Realize your date is your brother or sister in Christ—not your “lover.”
“Treat older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity” (1 Timothy 5:2 ). A rule of thumb is, don’t do anything physically you wouldn’t do with your brother or sister.
If a Christ-centered, positive relationship develops, then you might move to cautious displays of affection such as hand-holding. But be alert to the difference between appropriate affection and intimacy. You must stay safely back from the line where either one is propelled toward sexual intimacy.


4. Focus on talk, not touch; conversation, not contact.
Treat your date as a subject to listen to and understand and appreciate, not an object to experiment with, conquer or satisfy your desires.


5. Avoid fast moving relationships and instant intimacy.
Pace your relationship. A car moving too fast is likely to swerve out of control when it hits a slick spot. Keep your foot near the brake. Don’t let this relationship get out of control.


6. Be accountable to someone about your physical relationship.
This should be a committed brother or sister in Christ, usually the same gender as you. It should be someone who takes sexual purity seriously, someone with wise advice, who will pray for you and help hold you accountable to high standards.


7. Pray together at the beginning and end of each date.
Commit the evening or day in advance to the Lord. Ask Him to be pleased in everything you do. Plan to pray at the end of the date to thank Him for it. Knowing this prayer is coming will help you to be sure to control yourself and please God.


8. When you sense the temptation coming, before things start to get out of control, RUN.
“Flee from sexual immorality” (1 Corinthians 6:18 ). When it comes to sexual temptation, it always pays to be a coward.


9. Write out your own standards and enforce them yourself—never depend on your date.
You as an individual are fully responsible and accountable to God for what you do (Romans 14:10-12 ; 2 Corinthians 5:10 ).


10. Memorize Scripture on sexual purity and quote it when tempted.
“I have hidden your Word in my heart that I might not sin against you” (Psalm 119:11 ). When the attacks come—and they will—be ready to take up the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God (Ephesians 6:17 ).
Even if you are no longer a virgin you can and should commit yourself to secondary virginity—to remain sexually pure from this day forward. You need more than good intentions to maintain your purity: you need a plan which includes avoidance and accountability. If you are committed to a relationship with a growing Christian, formulate a plan to prevent falling back into premarital intimacy.


11. Be radical—do whatever it takes to guard your sexual purity.
In Matthew 5:29-30 , Jesus tells His listeners to do whatever is necessary to deal with temptation. Get creative, get radical, and do all you can to avoid temptation.

12. Count the cost of impurity.
Rehearse in advance the devastating consequences of sexual sin and you’ll be less likely to commit it. Even a forgiven person must deal with many consequences to his sin. God removes guilt, but He doesn’t always remove consequences.
God forgives when we sincerely repent, but if we sincerely repent we will show it by taking necessary steps to avoid temptation.
@Randy Alcorn

amar3664:

Maybe both

Hmmmm

Are you getting married to her out of love or obligation?

A captivating story

MARRIED TO MR RIGHT(MMR)
Episode 1

"There all done" The makeup artist Brian had told to make me up said to me. I felt the tears coming out from the corner of my eyes.
"don't you want to see how it looks?" she asked again but this time placing the mirror in front of me. I took it from her and threw it on the floor making it smash into a million pieces.
My life is being ruined and I can't seem to do anything about it. I can't believe I'm getting married to this arrogant bastard.


There was a time in my life when I wanted to get married to a, man who would love me for me, a man who would respect me, who would cherish every moment I had with him, who would be ready to love me till death do us part but now it's just the complete opposite.
Marriage was supposed to be a sacred relationship between two people. it is a second important relationship in a, woman's life. how would I be able to survive in this life commitment when there is no love.
I never wanted this for myself, I never wished for any of this. please is everything happening right now a dream?
My eyes were all damp. Lily who I assumed was her name kept on telling me to stop crying so as to not ruin my face but I didn't pay any attention to her.
she doesn't know what I'm going through, she doesn't know what I'm feeling now.
my whole life is ruined. all my dreams wasted and no one knows how much I'm hurting. my friends think I'm one lucky girl to get married to a man as rich as Brian but they don't know the plans he has for me under his sleeves.
"it's time to get dressed" She said to me. I reluctantly stood up.
She brought the gown and got me all dressed up.
I looked into the mirror staring at myself as they applied the finishing touches to my dress.
Today was supposed to be the happiest day of my life but sadly it's not.


She placed the bouquet of flowers in my hand and wore me my jewelry and shoes.
Then I was accompanied to the limousine that was supposed to take me to the venue for the wedding celebration.
We arrived at the garden which was fully decorated and after.
Soon enough, the orchestra began to play the wedding March. the guests stood up and I walked down the aisle in the company of my mom who offered to give me away.
Brian stood at the alter looking back down the Aisle at me. he was giving a mischievous smile. one would think that he was happy with everything going on not knowing that he's not at all getting married for love but revenge.
I looked round the garden and at the crowd.
on the left side were his family and some of his trusted friends.
on the other side were some of the guests and my friends.
As I got close to him, I noticed how grumpy his face had become.


when I reached him, he took my hand and we faced the priest who was to officiate the ceremony.
The wedding kicked off, thereafter, vows were said and we exchanged rings.
About an hour later, we were presented as man and wife.
"you may kiss the bride" the priest said and he turned to face me. he lifted my veil and threw it over my head, then lowered his head to kiss my lips. he pulled his lips inside his mouth and placed them on my lips.


He really didn't kiss me but made it seem as if he did.
he whispered close to my lips "this is just the beginning. I hope you're ready for everything that comes after this"
He smiled at me and turned to look at the crowd who were busy cheering.
"he's going to kill me. this is a nightmare" I thought to myself.
Refreshment were served and after that I went to a place that was supposed to be my husband's home.
Immediately we got in, he closed the door and and forcefully threw me on the couch.


Then he pulled my hair bringing my face to his.
"Well Ciara. congratulations today you became my wife."
I had already started to cry.
"please let me go. you're hurting me" I begged
"that's the point, I'm here to hurt you. I'm here to destroy you and every precious little dream you had for yourself. I'll make sure you pay" he said, eyes burning with fury.
"Please let me go"
"you know what, when we're outside we're a couple but inside, you have no form of relationship with me. you are only here to attend to my needs and that's all got it" he said and pulled me up then threw me on the bed.


He opened the door and walked outside. I have never felt this pain in my life, I sat down in a fetal position and sobbed.
I have never felt so helpless in my entire life.
I quickly took off my gown and scuttled to the bathroom to have my shower.
After bathing, I wore my nightie and sat down on the bed.


I couldn't eat and besides food was the last thing on my mind right now.
I'm broken
I tried calling my parents but he forbade me from doing so.
"you have to suffer alone" he keeps on telling me
so I just got to bed and cried my eyes out.
will I survive marriage with Brian. I think I just signed a death wish for myself.
And before I knew it, I fell asleep.


To be continued
Written by Jackie

Follow this link to read the next episode
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The updates of the episodes would be daily.

This is an interesting Christian romance story with a wonderful moral lesson.


PERFECT LOVE
Copyright © Ufuomaee


THE PROLOGUE

" Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned " (Songs 8:7 ).
My earliest memory of romantic love was from the movie "Endless Love".


That was the definitive romantic story for me. Not even "Romeo and Juliet" came close. It would be many years before I learnt that it was actually considered a "blue film", and not at all appropriate for impressionable children.
However, besides the lust and sex that seemed to define the movie, it was the heated emotions that burned between the lovers, despite the opposition from their families, that stayed with me. I wanted that kind of reckless love; a mad love, ungoverned by reason and driven entirely by passion. Even when I became a Believer, I always held out hope to have such a fiery romance. And not just romance, marriage.


But many years later, real life changed all that and I was about to marry someone for whom my heart didn't burn. I'd given up on love, as I knew it. Because my heart had been broken, and they said love is not about emotion, but an act of the will... But when the one for whom my heart once burned returned into my life, I realised that, truly, " the heart wants what it wants... "
Alas, ours was not the "forever love" kind. I was his toy, and he was my everything. And when he was done, so was I. And I didn't dare to dream that I'd ever find the kind of mutual, passionate and enduring love I desired. I took comfort in God, and was happy just to have Jesus, and to be content in Him. Or so I thought.


Mine was a wandering heart. A restless heart. A troubled heart.
It got to a point that I had crushes on almost every single man around me. I just wanted love. Marriage. The perfect romance.


And then I met Temi.
He was not the usual guy that I got hot for, but he was attractive and Christian. We were similar in some ways. We were two idealistic people with dreams, who were committed to or lazily following our passions, depending on how you looked at it.


As a Computer Engineer, he was very bright, and also ambitious. He dreamt of and talked about how he'd be the next Bill Gates by creating some revolutionary software. I liked that he had dreams and a drive. Though he was out of a job at the time. He had potential and lots of confidence.
I was working in a job to fulfil all righteousness. I didn't want to be dependent on my affluent parents to take care of me and chose a job I was sure I would do well in, while I chased my passion of becoming a writer.


As a Bank Marketer, I wasn't using my degree in Accounting, a course I'd taken to appease my father, who was the greatest Accountant Lagos had ever known in his time. He now chairs a number of financial institutions, including the one I was marketing for.
So, one day, I met Temi when I was on a marketing run to a Telecomms company. He had just completed an interview for a job there, and we left the building together. As we rode the elevator, I was reading a book on my Kindle device.


"Good book?" he asked.
"Hmmm hmm…" I muttered in response.
"What's it about?"
I sighed and looked up briefly from my reading. He was tall and dark skinned. Not my flavour. So, I gave him a curt response. "Christianity and Evangelism."


"Interesting. It's rare to see beautiful women reading. And about Christianity too," he mused. And I thought it was funny that I was irritated about being disturbed while reading a book about evangelism, instead of seeing that as an opportunity to witness to him. Just as the elevator doors opened, he asked, "Do you mind if I ask what you do?"
It was obvious that he wanted to talk, and well, it was time I actually put to practice what I was learning about seizing opportunities to proclaim Christ. So, after he asked his third question, I decided to put the device away and engage him in conversation.
"I'm a marketer by day and a columnist by night," I said, with a grin.


"Hmmm… A go-getter and an influencer. You sound like someone I'd love to know," he drawled and I giggled despite myself. And when he smiled, I thought he looked like a movie star. And so, when he asked for my number, I didn't hesitate.


Still, I played hard to get, though not for too long. I liked that even though he didn't have much financially, and he knew my background, he was not deterred from coming after me. He showered me with attention, listened to me and read my writings, and believed in my dream to write stories that would change the world. He promised me his love and care. He said he wanted to give me the world and I believed him.


I followed him to Church and it was there that I began to fall for him. I saw him in his element, a passionate follower of Jesus Christ who, though poor, claimed the riches of Christ. And I didn't dare to judge him by his present circumstance. I saw a man of promise, and most of all, a man who saw promise in me.


And even though I never did fall with complete abandon, I said "Yes" to him the day he asked for my hand in marriage, in the presence of our friends and family, after only three months of dating. Because "love is an act of the will... " Or so they said.


to be continued...

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Steps to Avoid Fornication

1) No Untimely Relationships: Very young people should not enter into relationships.
"To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. " Ecclesiastes 3:1.
There is a time for entering into a relationship. Why do you want to enter into a relationship when you are still in school? You do not even have a job in sight!

2)Relationships only unto Marriage: You must only enter into relationships that lead to marriage. The only intimate relationships between men and women that God approves of is marriage. A Christian man and woman must move towards God's plan, and God's plan is marriage.
*IF YOU KNOW THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS NOT GOING TOWARDS MARRIAGE ,THEN IT IS JUST GOING TOWARDS FORNICATION.

3) Honesty: You need honesty to save yourself from fornication. If you have a problem and need help, you have to be open about it. No one can help you if you do not ask for help.

4) Prayer: We need prayer to be able to deal with sin.

"And said unto them, why sleep ye? rise and pray, lest ye enter into temptation" luke 22:46.
Prayer is very important to prevent you from falling into temptation. Prayer makes you spiritually strong to fight off temptation.

REMAIN BLESS.

Steps to Avoid Fornication

1) No Untimely Relationships: Very young people should not enter into relationships.
"To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. " Ecclesiastes 3:1.
There is a time for entering into a relationship. Why do you want to enter into a relationship when you are still in school? You do not even have a job in sight!

2)Relationships only unto Marriage: You must only enter into relationships that lead to marriage. The only intimate relationships between men and women that God approves of is marriage. A Christian man and woman must move towards God's plan, and God's plan is marriage.
*IF YOU KNOW THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS NOT GOING TOWARDS MARRIAGE ,THEN IT IS JUST GOING TOWARDS FORNICATION.

3) Honesty: You need honesty to save yourself from fornication. If you have a problem and need help, you have to be open about it. No one can help you if you do not ask for help.

4) Prayer: We need prayer to be able to deal with sin.

"And said unto them, why sleep ye? rise and pray, lest ye enter into temptation" luke 22:46.
Prayer is very important to prevent you from falling into temptation. Prayer makes you spiritually strong to fight off temptation.

REMAIN BLESS.

Bojack:
op calm down, dis your list sef

lol

Preshy561:
All the Demons of nairaland are always angry when anything pertaining truth, Christianity or salvation is mentioned.

Op, nice write up.

thanks

The effects of fornication

“Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication...that
they which commit such things are worthy of death, not
only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do
them”(Romans 1:29,32)

1. You lose touch with God.

2. You are open to attacks.

3. You lose touch with the holy spirit.

4. You open room for other demons to come in.

5. You lose interest for spiritual things.

6. You prayer life drops.

7. You start having pleasure for useless things.

8. You lose your thinking capacity.

9. You lose focus.

10.Making money in a dirty way, becomes your desire.

There are things you should discuss and agree on before marriage. All some do during courtship is shopping, outing, and planning a perfect wedding! No time for discussion for the marriage.

Focus on what really matters, plan your wedding, but most importantly, plan your marriage. Wedding Day_ Soon all your guest will wish you well and go there different ways. Leaving you and your spouse to face the sweet journey of marriage.

I say sweet? Yes believe it and claim it marriage is sweet but you have to put some positive efforts.

Note: Do not pretend in courtship, apologize when necessary and mean it. List of things to discuss before marriage These are the ones I've been able to compile:

Past: What are your past experience? Do you have any secret to share (past mistakes,... abortion,rape)? Do you have any kid(s) before we met?


Health: What are your health status? What's your genotype and blood group? What's your rhesus factor? Any health issues or challenges?


Sex: What are your expectations regarding sex? Do you think you can trust me enough to discuss our sexual differences, concerns or fantasies? OR we go for a medical check up? Have you ever have doubts about your sexuality?


Faith: What are your spiritual or religious beliefs? Are you comfortable with my religion practice? Do you expect our children to be raised with a certain spiritual or religious faith and, if so, what would that look like? What kind of parenting approach are you planning to implement?


Children: Do you want to have children? How many? When do you want to start trying? What are you willing to do if we can’t have children naturally (IVF treatments, surrogate, egg donation, sperm donation, adoption)? If you have kids from a previous relationships, what role are you willing to take or would like me to take with the step-children?


Work: Are you comfortable with my work? What are your career goals in both the near and distant future? Would you like to be a full house wife? If I get offered my dream job in another part of the country, would you be willing to move with me? Would you be understanding if I worked long hours for extended periods of time? Would you be OK with me quitting my job to take care of our children? Finances: How much money do you make? Are you more a saver or a spender? Do you have any debt to pay? Are we going to have a joint bank account? If you have an ex or children from previous marriages, what are your financial obligations to them? How important is contributing to charity to you, and which charities are your favorites? Who is going to pay the bills?

And more... you can add yours. These are the ones I've been able to compile. In conclusion: Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

# Fayanju_Deborah_Handwriting

YOUR PHONE OR YOUR MARRIAGE


Here I am missing my Phone, and it's just been two days it went bad, Here I am wishing my phone was here with me. And It hits me, I think I can say I loved my Phone, And I realize I have actually been connected and committed to my phone in more ways than one almost like I would be to someone if I were to be in a Relationship. And then I ask myself What If we took care of our Relationships like we took care of our phones, maybe many Relationships and Marriages would still be existing Here's 5 ways we should take care of our Relationships/Marriages like we do our Phones.


1) MONEY. From monthly subs, to airtime, to fixing of phones when bad, everyone spends money on their phones, We use money to buy phone parts. We use money to make our phones look Behind. Relationships and Marriages should involve money, Money spent on dates Money spent on gifts, gifts from books, to clothes, If your Husband or Wife doesn't eat your money who will? Many Relationships and Marriages are damaged because those in it aren't spending on it. Stingy Husbands and Wives everywhere wondering why their Marriages aren't great. How would it be? The grass is green where it is watered. Like a phone without sub, many Relationships/ Marriages are boring because there's connection capacity only money can enable In a Union and not mere love letters and cheap talk. Like a phone without airtime, many Relationships lack communication capacity because there is love only money can communicate and not mere words. Stingy People cannot have a Happy Relationship neither can they give it. You cannot withhold your finances from your relationship and expect the relationship to work out. How?


2) PROTECTION The way some of us protect our phones ehn From screen guards, to protect the screens To Passwords to keep out intruders Then let's talk about pouches, casings etc. But do we protect our Relationships? You protect your relationship simply by protecting the bond between you and your partner. When you cheat on your partner you attack the bond that bonds the both of you, the connection weakens When you lie to your spouse, When you say unkind words, When you allow in laws to talk down on your spouse When you exchange bitter hurtful words When you won't listen to their complaints You abuse that connection When you do the opposite, when you stand up for them, When you show you'll never let em walk alone. Now you are protecting What you've got.


3) CHARGE IT. Phones run on batteries, they need electricity to stay on and constantly powered, Once they run out of that they go off, Ever seen People charging their phones at 93%, you'd think the world is about to end. And then when their phones are actually running low, let's not even go there. Ever heard someone say "sorry you can't make use of my phone right now, the battery is low"? Yes, that's how Relationships should be made a priority and giving care so they last. As phones run on electricity Relationships run on emotions. Everybody has an EMOTIONAL BATTERY, Which needs constant charging and recharging, Some with higher capacity needing less frequent charging and others with lower capacity needing more frequent charging. Our EMOTIONAL BATTERIES are charged when our Love Languages are spoken. When you buy gifts for your Wife whose love language is receiving gifts for instance, she feels loved, her emotional battery gets charged, she feels safe. When you take your spouse out, or day I love you, you charge their EB. Signs your Partner's EB (EMOTIONAL BATTERY) is running low. Constant incessant Complaints is amongst the first signs a disgruntled partner gives. "you don't call me" "you don't text" Sudden coldness Unexplained attitude changes Silence is amongst the last sign a disgruntled partner will show, at this point they've pretty much given up on you and the relationship/ Marriage An uncharged phone starts from 99% but it'll eventually get to 0% if nothing is done about it. Pay attention to your Marriage What is your Partner complaining about?Don't lose your Relationship Don't lose your Marriage. Charge it. Feed your Partners emotional battery daily



4) RESPECT IT You need to see the way some people pride in their phones The way some persons worship their phones Buy fancy phone casing with bunny ears and flashing neon lights. No one treats their phone like trash, we keep then away from water, we take good care of them. That's how you should treat your relationship That's how you should treat your partner, With respect. Before and Behind their backs. Respect them enough not to cheat on them. Respect them enough to be real to them. Respect their opinions Tired of the relationship? Then walk out, but don't cheat.



5) FIX IT. When our phones go bad we take them to a phone repairer. But why then do we ignore our Relationships and Marriages when there are issues, till they deteriorate to irreconcilable difference proportions Why do couples refuse to see a councilor when they are having troubles in their marriages? But when our phones go bad we take them to a phone councilor asap.? Why? Don't Marriages and Relationships deserve to be Fixed? *************** I know, our phones give us access to a world, to people, business deals, information, entertainment, games amongst other things, that's why we so much need and depend on them, that's why we respect them because of what they give us. But don't our Relationships and Marriages also carry an access for us, an access to all the above and much more.? So? Your Relationship/Marriage is worth more than your Phone. Act like it. # MG # MARRYWELL # RELATIONSHIPHEARTBITS

Thanks op
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