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Please, those of you who are married — how do you cope?

I am married to someone I don’t think is my friend. We dated before marriage, but during that time, I had a very senior friend whom I always went to for advice, help with decisions, and assistance with things that required initiative or “manly” effort.

My husband, on the other hand, is very quiet. Living with him feels like living in a graveyard — no TV, no outings, nothing lively. It’s not that he isn’t intelligent (trust me, he is), but he’s too lazy to put his mind to work sometimes. By 9 p.m., he’s already asleep. He eats, goes to work, and that’s all. He has no drive for more. Whenever I talk about progress or goals, he says, “It’s a process; it’ll take years to come to fruition,” but he never thinks of ways to get things done efficiently or on time.

So in terms of ambition or drive for achievement, I’m suffering living with him. I feel alone. I’m scared that his lack of motivation and his slow, passive lifestyle will kill my own drive. I’m not even extremely driven myself, but I know I want to achieve greatness. That desire pushes me, but I’m afraid that living with him will make me too relaxed and unmotivated — and I don’t want that.

Before marriage, I had friends — both male and female — with whom I shared advice and ideas. I’ve always had male friends because they tend to be driven. From them, I learned about crypto, stocks, business ideas — they inspired me. But my husband doesn’t trust them or me around them. Since we got married, I can’t talk to most of these friends at home unless I’m at work. It’s affecting me mentally. I’m scared that my circle for growth and greatness is being trimmed down, and soon I might start behaving like him — with no ambition or hunger for achievement.

Women, how do you handle such relationship dynamics?
How do I keep my drive while being married to such a man?

Every Friday night, he’s already asleep. One time, I dragged him to a lounge on a Friday night, and he was dozing off there. I ended up dancing alone while other couples danced together. If there’s something important we’re supposed to do, he won’t take initiative or push for it.

For example, I suggested we start going to church regularly to build our spiritual life. One Sunday, he woke up first and went to bathe. When he finished, he didn’t wake me up, and by the time I opened my eyes, it was already late. When I asked why he didn’t tell me, he said he called me but I didn’t answer. For me, I wouldn’t act that way — especially when it’s something that helps build our faith together.

We also planned to pray as a family. We did it for two days, and then he forgot — and honestly, I’m struggling to remember too. I don’t know if our marriage is under spiritual attack or if it’s just his personality, but my mental health is suffering. I’m not happy. I don’t genuinely smile anymore.

He doesn’t know how to pamper me or show warmth. If I complain about something, he just lashes out. He didn’t date much before marriage; he was one of those “spiritual brothers.” I was spiritual too, but I thought quiet men were more romantic or deep inside. I was wrong. I feel like he’s choking the life out of me.

At home, I can’t even make calls freely — he gets unknowingly aggressive if I’m on the phone and says things like, “Don’t you have things to do?” So I can’t talk to the people I’d love to.

After our marriage, he had issues going to my family, claiming I blackmailed him because of earlier arguments. He would get upset about small things, like me dancing to Afrobeat music. He’d say I shouldn’t, then later deny he said it. Or if we go out to eat, he’ll say we should leave early or that the place will soon close, even when I just want to relax and enjoy being outside.

I feel alone, yet married. I miss home. I’m not sure what to do.

It even took us one month after the wedding to consummate our marriage. We were both virgins, but his manhood wasn’t functioning well, and we had so many arguments that our emotional connection broke down. I felt it literally fall apart. Now I feel like I’m just living with someone.

He often says, “We’re not aligned,” or that he trusts me only 60%. If I go out, he sometimes gets angry or accuses me of lying about where I went. I can’t stay indoors all day like him — I’d just die inside.

I need help. I feel like I’m losing myself. When I visit home, my mother’s voice feels loud or too much, my friends when i talk to them, it feels like they are talking too much — not because they are talking too much, but because I’ve been living in such silence that I’ve lost touch with voice, morelike in a graveyard.

I am even crying as I type this, and he is sitting somewhere on the other side asking me if my head is swelling or what is making me cry.

I’m just… tired. feeling so strongly emotionally starved tooo.

obembet:
According to ESPN, A preseason friendly just pulled the biggest football crowd in the U.S. this year.

The attendance for Man United's 2–1 win over West Ham at MetLife Stadium was 82,566 🤩

It's the biggest crowd for a football match in the US this year, beating the Club World Cup final’s 81,118

Club World Cup final: 81,118

Man Utd vs West Ham: 82,566

Manchester City, Psg, ATM, Inter, Juventus and Real Madrid are all touring can’t fill stadiums.

Can we say that Manchester United remain the biggest club in world football in terms of fan base despite Thier current challenges?

Source: https://x.com/ESPNUK/status/1949447176679014408?t=u2CJA4bkgj5E5GjuXGWRfg&s=19[/quote]You are funny o. You are considering Manchester United the biggest club in the world because they pulled the biggest crowd in the United States of America this year? What about Liverpool that pulled a crowd of 49,704 in Hong Kong in a 50,000 stadium capacity this past Saturday? I guess we should consider them to be on same wavelength with the Manchester club according to your premise.

Why is that Manchester United plays their pre-seasons in the U.S while Liverpool plays theirs in the Far East? It is because these tours carry great importance for these clubs given their existing sponsorship deals and huge fanbase in these continents.

Manchester United should pull same crowd in Asia let us see if they are popular over there as they are in the United States.

greenbrave:
Hello fam.

I was dating this girl, I really love her so much. She has my quality and all.

But recently, she BROKE up with me. Due to my own fault, yes it's me. I wasn't romantic and don't listen to her.

Now, this is just 3 day back. I can't seem to. hold myself.


I just want to know if it's okay to talk to. her about it.

Mercisharelove:
Obi dey fear .

Call wike name, nothing ego do you. He already betrayed you before, you think he's going to help you.


You just lost my vote and respect.

I will longer support you because you are pretending. Call a spade a spade.

Look at atiku 's statement.... He spoke the truth.

Just dey swim around, abegi shift.

Flangelo12:
Idris Elbar go sell.

God1000:
Hmm, almighty USA will deport people in this age and time, well he promised to do so during election campaign


Deporting massive numbers of immigrants does not solve any real problem except they and other MAGA true believers will have their hate vindicated. The immigrants including the descendants of immigrants have throughout history contributed in significant ways both to culture, life, and finances of countries all over the world, I don’t see any white man volunteering to pick potatoes, vegetables etc on the streets of USA, This is absolutely not going to benefit the economy or make America great again.

FreeStuffsNG:
It is actually brilliant and it's effect is positive on the environment and their livelihoods.
Single Use Plastics are more expensive and the social cost is becoming unbearable to the rest of us not in the sectors profiting from the use of SUPs. The sachet water has since outlived its usefulness and has turned to complete nuisance apart from making water more expensive.
These old archaic environmental practices need to give way and I am profoundly proud that my Lagos State is taking the lead.

The waste has started reducing since the ban on Styrofoam and once we sort out the SUP of bottled water and waste sachet from pure water, we would have solved a huge environmental and economic problem.

The bottled water can come in cheap reusable plastics while sachet water will suddenly become more expensive so the stakeholders now earn more margins as more people move to reusable bottled water and later biodegradable containers.

Jan 2025 is long enough advance notice and I urge the stakeholders to cooperate with the Lagos State Government.

This is the best time to invest in Lagos. Invest in Lagos for great returns on your investment and best investor-friendly experience in Nigeria and Africa.

May God bless Nigeria for ever! Check my signature for free stuffs!

Onebabe:
My grandmother is also a Virgin

oyeb15:
Haris arguments were mostly lies and d moderators goofed by not Fact checking her .


It's uncommon in d history of US presidential debate that a candidate will make wrong postulation, survey and argument and d moderators will just look away. They are under threat.


Trump all d way. The secret organization funding Kamala will soon be revealed. The guy in charge is a retired CIA op. They own many military hardware companies and security companies like blackwater. They have inflate d CIA and homeland security . They just need a top notch to sign their terms in which they believe this laughing woman can be easily manoverd.

wolesmile:
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1x2x3:
LOL, I created a new account Nov last year, it isn't even up to a year and I have obtained top seller badge with over 20M made.

BlackfireX:
Reverend fathers are very useless and disgusting set of people.... I wish phones can be hacked you will marvel even sins you as a layman can't commit they do it brazenly.

Very lazy , greedy set of people

EreluRoz:
98% of reverend fathers are chronic womanizers. We are not ready for this discussion

PerfectStranger:
Selfish wife

Who ever said he who finds a wife has found a good thing should apologize to men.

kaludestiny10:
I see nothing bad in the appointments that she made considering the fact that the appointees are on a voluntary service.
It will even help to broaden the knowledge of the appointees on leadership and service to people.

Uteghe:
Worthless emulation of rogue leaders.

MadamVanessa:



Nonsense stupid school.

I trust uniben students to flout this immediately, no be uniben again. Unless this protest end on the 10th as it was said.

Yugoslavia247:
Until a revolution and science takes over religion and old ways.

We go dey play.


Every worshipper believes his god is the best.

Lol.
The first sign of hatred and wickedness and intolerance.

Later we say we are savages
When your religion already taught you hate of any other thing except your belief.

We vote tribe
Religion
Over competence.

If not why should a player pay to play even at local community league

Sonnobax15:
so what exactly are you insinuating? . That we should keep quiet and probably die of hunger, pretending all is well with us, while our so-called leaders are living extravagant lives with our resources? Na through this protest I take confirm am say many of una no really get sense for this country

LegendHero:
Fayose is right in the explanation he gave.

How can you give birth to 12 children and marry 4 wives while earning less than 50k.

It is either Fayose is exaggerating or that man in question have mental problem.

They should look for the man and organize a divorce ceremony for him to rid him of his burden.

If a man like that complain of hunger, they should tie him to the stake and flog him.

AntiChristian:
So it's everything you do you try to well?