tiwatopebam:
good evening, happy to announce the arrival of my Prince, he came this morning 9:00 am, with tear at 39 weeks 3 days, BS later. remaining June mamas God will perfect yoursyours too.

mrking3:
Like I said, I just had a discourse with my wife on this splitting stuff. So she explained that it does happen in most cases. Children too have emotions! I remember when we were TTC part of the advice was to live in peace and love with DW because babies don't like a fighting and quarrelling environment. Also, if the baby has gotten used to his dad at such a tender age, the split might affect his health adversely and in rare case, the baby might die if the case isn't handled well and timely. The issue with your DH is similar to that of my wife's parents. Her mum walked out Of marriage because of the promiscuous nature of Her DH. So it affected her growth as a baby! Always sick and down. So the elderly persons In the community told her mum that her frequent illness is as a result of her split with the husband. So they had to use blade to cut most part of baby's body (dw) just to remove the bad blood causing the convulsions. I'm not saying all this to scare you or justify your stay with a man that doesn't value you. This is just the reality. Babies destiny are different. What affects one baby might not affect another. Your case is that of irreconcilable differences with your DH! Hence he has fully made up his mind at this point. Just for the sake of that innocent baby! Plead with him to come check on the little child once in a while where ever he is. My dear, move on!! !! Also pray for God's direction and guidance he won't forsake you.

katchycouture:


pele dear...it will end in praise

Benignasweety:
He is bigger dan his parents nah, so if dey scold him, he might walk out... I dunno but wat I knw is dat I value respect alot, yes I said I deserved an apology but my Fil wanted to restore an unforeseen peace 1st...

Mbliz, I really have heard and made decisions but I have to keep to already scheduled plans we earlier had on travelling month end... I no want back stories dat that I am being disrepectful..

Giddyperson:

If you get an episiotomy, while you're being stitched, ask if you can sit on hot water, if they say no don't do it no matter how many people come to your house later and say you can. Cuz if you do it, your stitches would loosen and you would have to get restitched.

There's also warm sitz baths which is done by sitting on warm water (warm enough to pour on your body). You can do that one. Zaynie made a post on it around 20-21st April, you can stalk her and read the post.

Cook a massive pot of vegetable soup and take a bowl of it everyday alongside all the orisirisi they are cooking for you so that your poo would remain soft and u won't loosen your stitches while straining to poo

If your hp is like mine that doesn't like soap and antiseptics then use savlon very sparsely else you would end up with an infection.

Take your post-childbirth drugs religiously, even if you are a drug throwawayer like me.

Just wash and dry ur hp area every time you use the toilet, if you keep it clean and dry at all times, it would heal fast.

Get like 4 small towels for the drying part so you can wash every time you use them.

Sit with your legs closed, don't walk around a lot, don't do stressful stuff, just rest.

After the first three days, or whenever the bleeding reduces to just drops, dump the lady sept pads and switch to pantie liners so that you can change it every time you feel something drop on it and for fresh air

If breast milk doesn't come in early, still just allow baby suck a lot, let her spend 24/7 on the breast if that's what it takes to get her full, that way the flow would improve. If she's too hungry and wailing tho, supplement with formula until it starts flowing well.

You can buy size 2 diapers, that's what I bought, but don't buy too much cuz you would probably get a lot of gift diapers and they might all be size 2 too. I bought just one pack of size 2 molfix diaper, the one that has 48 or so inside, didn't have to buy again cuz she was using gifts until last week when she grew to a size 3. Right now you still don't know which diaper would be good on her skin so don't buy in bulk yet.

As for baby wipes, is there an alternative?

Prettyhurts:


Your hubby is the real mvp. My hubby was peeping from the door, even when the midwife told him to enter inside he refused oo, even disappeared when the baby's head came out. Didn't come close till I left the favor room, was busy laughing when he asked me how did such big head pass through your jajaina without tear.

Welcome baby Matilda, may you richly be blessed and you shall fulfill your purpose in life.

reniduke:
@naomi14, no one told me sleep go hard person like this! I love my darling but mehn thank God for grandma. All may mommies, sorry its coming late but here's my BS @customised87 @yacaa

So i was induced at 38 weeks. Yes i did not wait for labour to kick in, for health reasons and because i dont understand the waiting for 40-42weeks sef! I had two sets of gynaes, the highrisk ones wanted me to wait while they monitor things every week while the regular gynae agreed with me that since baby n i are fine and full term then why wait for any chance that it might change in two weeks.

-So they induced me with an insert called cervidil, they placed it on my cervix for 12 hours. It looks like a short tape rule, they will push it in and leave it for 12 hours till they take it out. I was 0.5 before they started and by 12hours later, i was ordinary 2cm. Contractions had started after like the first 2hours and had been coming closer. To occupy my time i was counting the contraction time with my mom so my husband left us to come back when it was like 10hours time.

They took out the implant at 12hours and started oxytocin IV, this was 12.30am. By 1am, 2am i kept standing up to vomit but nothing was coming out, i wanted to poop too, nothing. By 4am, contractions were like 3mins apart and super painful so i beg nurse to check again and im just 4cm. I think my brain got hot when i heard that. I was thrashing with the pain and ordinary 4cm?!? Nurse had promised to give me epidural by 4cm so i was screaming where's my epidural. She said she would call the anaesthesiologist and prep me and that's how she was doing that outside n wasting time when i told hubby i feel like im pushing. I was shouting the pain doesnt stop, why is there no break, the pain keeps coming. I was thrashing by now. My mom says her heart broke knowing she couldnt help me.
So my husband calls my nurse to say she says she's pushing. My nurse says thats not posdible she's just 4cm. So she checks again and screams OMG! ure 9.5cm. Im shouting where's my epidural. She says honey if you sit up for epidural this baby is falling out. I tell her she lied to me, we had a deal, 4cm-epidural, im crying now. She presses all the panic buttons that she needs all the doctors now, her patient just jumped to 9.5cm. Before the doctors come, she gives my mom one leg n my husband the other to hold. Like 5minutes later they're saying they can see the head, which head? I turned to my husband, is it true? He says yes its true i should push again n he's smiling. Minutes later my princess, my lil Matilda arrives after 5am.

Ps. Throughout the pain from 12midnight to delivery my dh would be whispering to me, u can do it, dont give up, dont say ure tired, ure almost there! etc. My mom asked me afterwards what he was telling me. It helped a whole lot.

Any other mom with autoimmune ish! You can do it God that helped me will help you. Just be open to CS If needed or preferably sef and do family planning after, dont be getting pregnant soon after. The doxtors made me sign that if the induction wasnt successful i would do CS. I told dem no wahala now, even some people who go into labour by themselves still do CS.

Ps. all those mommies that feel proud of themselves for doing vaginal and use it to insult other women, pele ooo, ure not strong, ure just lucky or blessed, i hope u realize it one day.
Vaginal delivery hurts like a MF, CS i will try next time n compare unless my baby disagrees n comes by 38weeks. 40weeks or later is not my deal. My baby is 4weeks now. I cant imagine just going to labour now, like kilode?!? I used to talk to my baby, madam here's the deal, momi is too excited to see u, so either come by urself or accept that i will encourage u out. Agreed? I think she said Yes

-Turns out my nurse had called my husband out to explain that my lab tests showed my platelets had dropped too low for them to give me the epidural without risking that i wont stop bleeding after delivery and need transfusion. They were trying to find a solution when i started to say i was pushing.

Ps. Sit over hot water after u leave the hospital. The steam sitz bath its called. Yorubas make u sit on potty but if u can get this plastic (see pic) they gave me in the hospital and place on toilet seat its more convenient. Steam seating works like magic for flattening ur stomach and removing some thick chunks of blood. I couldnt believe what fell out. My mom wanted to make me do it for two weeks morning noon and night. I think i quit after one week.

gidey:


The baby weight is okay. As for sex, depends on the machine resolution, the sonographer skills/willingness to look for it in early pregnancy. Saw my baby sex at 13 weeks plus and reconfirmed it 2 weeks later. This was only cos it was I and my husband who scanned....lol. I generally don't stress myself for others before 20 weeks except I am interested/know the person. So best to go in 6 weeks time so the sonographer has no excuse as at then.

Pweetiebabe:
I did a scan ard 17weeks and Lo EFW was 0.2kg(200g) and my gynea said is cool cos baby still have a lot of time to add more weight..

perfectcrown:
MY BIRTH STORY.

So iknew it will be cs bcus of d previous surgeries.
I was sheduled for June 12(37weeks).
Got to the hospital in the morning around 9am with my hubby and mother but i wasnt prepared for the theater until about 11am. When i got to the theater,the surgeon said its d spinal one that will be given to me so that i can be awake through out the process but i refused oh and insisted that i wanted the full anasthesia so that i will just wake us and see my baby but he said thats an old process and besides,it weakens the baby as it immediately takes effect! I still insisted until the matron came to beg me that dont i want to see my baby first(na so my head reset o). So i agreed for the spinal one which wen i was given i dint feel it immediately until about a minute later.

They proceeded around 12:20am and gbam,from my ribs to my toes were numbed that i could not even move my toes(oyinbo sha). By 12:38pm,i felt the pop out of my uterus with my Ds screaming his lungs. Matron cleaned him,brought him to me,i saw the most cutest baby,kissed his head and said to him "welcome,God bless you". He was taken to my people at the ward and iheard them all shoiting and praising God! I couldnt be more happier...!

By 12:50pm,i was wheeled out,saw my hubby(meanwhile,he ran away from the hospital when the nurse came to prep me and only came back when he was called that ive been wheeled to the theater. Gosh,dat man can fear for africa wen it has to do with hospital). He laid his hand on me and prayed for me.

Na so my eyes they shine shine o,wey i no fit sleep again cause 2hours later the spinal effect began to wear of,that was when i began to feel THE REAL PAIN! God,women are Blessed o!!!

We are still in the Hospital sha. Hopefuly we'll be discharged on Thurs bcus me,im tired of this place already o jare. Though,its private hosp and their services are good.

There goes my BS,hope i tried bcause im not good at written narative. Lol...

Cc: Tiwatopebam.

gidey:


Have you been feeling the baby move before? Go for an urgent scan.