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God punish her.... So after Nigeria exposed you to success then you dump Nigeria. You think God is a fool?

This snake was killed in my compound this morning. It really got everyone scared, infact since i came back from church i kept checking my room to see if there's another one. What specie of snake is this?

Okeytech:
You're right but how about making a police report about her leaving so that I'll be on a safe side?

My candid advise is even if you wanna make a police report, make sure you call her parent first because even if you go to report to the police they'll still ask if you've informed her parent and if you say no, they'll still advise or force you to inform her parent because that's the right thing to do...Shalom!!!

She just told you that she was even planning to rent an apartment and that she has money just to spite you but in reality she doesn't have any money bro... She is most definitely coming back, trust me. When reality dawn on her. Hmmmm. No matter what never take her back.

406 Peugeot

She's just giving him cheap publicity ooo.... No be say him kill person. Some ladies are just frustrated for nothing. If your husband or boyfriend is a womanizer, the highest thing for you to do is to leave him that's all.

Brotherhood is proud of this guy abeg.

First it was Senator Natasha and her husband then boom Senator Akpabio followed suit. Indeed Nigeria is a movie.

AffiliateGuruNG:
For starters how many kids are involved? Have you confronted your wife? Did you make a copy of the evidence?

I've got more than enough evidence

....

I passed there today when it happened. It really created massive hold up. I saw the people it burnt, they were scooping for fuel. It was really bad.

The internet got buzzing in Jos today after a video of a pretty lady walking about naked in the Rayfield area of Jos today. She was about with her clothes in her hands. Alot of people are suspecting Yahoo boys but the truth is na only God know the actual root.

What kind of generation do we have today that instead of people especially females to rally round her and cover her but they rather prefer recording her. Arrrrh

Nigerians can be very funny and unserious. Just because someone posted a job advert and made a spelling error, instead of CHEF, he wrote CHIEF.

It is possible to have

1. A good husband but a bad father to the kids
2. A bad husband but a good father to the kids

3. A good husband and a good father
4. A bad husband and a bad father

Guys, which do you think is better apart from number 3 which we all know is every woman's prayer?

This python was killed by farmer in Jos, it drawer a lot of crowd to come see it.... It was really scary to see such a huge snake. A man stopped by to look at it and later bought it for 200k t support the farmer who killed it.

I think he shouldn't have killed it, if there was a way to preserve it by calling the zoo people, they know how to come and get it alive and preserve it.

AllBlack:
All the times the woman must have nagged and disrespected you and complained just because you delayed in paying A BILL OR MORE for that particular child all the years before you spent your own hard money to discover the fraud.

Women are the best walahi.

broke my phone and television one time sef cos i didn't have money to buy diapers which caused an argument then fight

I've been married for over 8years now with three kids. I've always doubted the paternity of my first son right from day one. Then last year December, 2023 i decided to run a DNA test and behold i found out that i wasn't the father of my first son as I've always suspected. After confronting my wife, she begged and begged that she's sorry when she got pregnant she went to tell the real father about the pregnancy but he rejected and denied being responsible that was why she pinned it on me.

She got pregnant after our engagement and that forced me to take her in even before the marriage due to pressure from he family.

The truth is i've forgiven her since i found out about the paternity and I've been taking care of the child equally with my other kids, though anytime i remember about the paternity of the kid, i feel like a f00l, my spirit goes down and also feels angry about everything etc. Right now I'm planning to tell her to take the kid back to the father because i cannot continue taking care of someone's child while his Dad is still very much alive and perhaps doing better than me financially.

Pls guys what do you think about my plans?

My family is a complicated family because I had wealthy relatives but all of them neglected me because my mum was the last wife amongst 3wives which my father married. So after my parents dies when I was 15years old, I became homelessvand nowhere to go. I had to leave my city and travelled to Kaduna, from kaduna to Kano, from Kano to makurdi, from makurdi to Abuja. When i got to Abuja a rich man just saw me sitting on the road just close to NNPC tower in Abuja, just like a movie. He asked me if i was the plumber he called on phone, then i said no, as he wanted to start moving he then asked why is a young boy like you hanging around here, so I told him a bit of my story and then he immediately opened somewhere in his car, brought out an envelope without even opening it and told me to take and go back to my city. When he left, I opened the envelope and saw 100k inside omo that time money get too much value around 2005, i nearly went crazy. That was how I came back to my city and rented a one room apartment at the rate of 25k per annum. Then bough mattress and other things, that was how I started life and thank God today everything is past, but sincerely i really suffered.

So guys have you ever been homeless? Share your experience.

What does a man benefit in marriage rather than responsibilies? Always working hard and thinking of how to get money for either food, school fees, this and that.... Then secondly which is the most important question, what is the best age for a man to get married? Basically to me i think it's 30.

immortalcrown:
Don't hurt yourself because someone hurt you.

Don't travel when you are not prepared for the journey.


What about your other (own) children?

I've told her that the other child is not mine because i don't know what to believe anymore, though i have plans of conducting paternity test on the second child when i heal or have the resources.

After my previous post about how I discovered i'm not the father of my first child through my wife's confession, i've decided to Japa to start a new life and Hussle.

I know it won't be easy but i'm sure it will go a long long way to help me heal and move on.

I'm not financially buoyant but atleast i've taken the first step in faith, i went to the immigration office today and applied for a passport, by the hell of God, i've made the payment and I was asked to come back tomorrow to collect the passport since i paid for express. I'm not travelling out basically because of what happened to me (the paternity fraud issue), i've always been having it in mind to travel out but never took a step, i think this issue that happened to me (the Paternity fraud) just pushed me very well... I know i don't really have funds to travel out but i know God will do it. Once I receive the passport tomorrow, i'll start working on the next step. I know there's nothing impossible for God.... Thanks alot guys for your advises right from my initial post.

Today's makes it exactly 1 week since my wife confessed to me that I'm not the father of our first child, that the child belongs to her ex boyfriend who is back for the child. This is a boy I've been talking care of for over 6years thinking it's my son. God, I cried or three straight days and till now the pains is increasing every single day... Though I've chased her out of my house. Please guys, how do i heal and move on? The pains and depression is too much to the point to the point that i attempted suicide yesterday. One of the painful part is that i don't have anyone to talk to, not even my family because i fought my family just to marry her, none of them supported me to marry her and because of that since i married her we've never communicated with any of my family till today. I thank God for nairaland. Admin pls push to front page, I need to heal.

So after i posted about how my wife confessed to me that i'm not the father of our first child, she has finally moved out of my house with the kids back to her family house, but then none of her family have come to see me based on the issue and her mother too hasn't even bothered to call me, not to talk of coming to see me. The highest i've received so far were calls from two of her siblings who were pleading with me not to let her go while another one of her sibling called me and was telling me that i know very well they have the resources to talke care of all the children, so its not an issue to them.

Today I got a call from someone whom i don't know, he was telling me that he doesn't care about me or my ex wife, he doesn't want to know who is at fault or what happened, all he wants to plead with me is that i should take care of my children wherever they are right now and also be sending money for their feeding. I answered by saying okay, then he ended the call... Please guys what do you think is happening? What should i do? Please most importantly what do i do to get all these issues off my mind and move on with my life. The depression is too much, I'm passing through alot... Thanks alot for your input guys and sorry for bothering you with my issues.

I remember one thing she told me before she left my house, she said she's tired of begging me and i'm not responding, neither am i willing to forgive her, she said God knows she has removed what has been bothering her for over 5years(the Paternity fraud). Then she said to me hope i won't come to regret this someday.

Originalsly:
Why was your family against her? ... and why were you for her?

honestly I don't know why, not as if they know her somewhere nor did she offend them... I just don't know.

imagrg:
Two suggested options for you:
Forgive her and let other men with bigger preeks and stronger minds fvck her on your behalf and make children for you if you know your preek malfunctions like I believe your brain does.
Or..
My candid advise for you is that you divorce her, that's if you were legally married to her, and relocate to another place/house. And if you feel emotionally attached to the child and probably your wife, you can be sending them some stipends monthly for sustenance.
You could even get free fvcks sometimes from your whoring wife without emotional commitment.

honestly bro, I wish I've got the funds to move to another house. You've really spoken well brother....

For few days now I've been uploading about the situation I'm in after my wife confessed that i'm not the father of our first child.

She is yet to leave my house because I've not been myself yet, the whole has left me down and depressed and also sick, but i've asked her to leave my house and everybody in her family has been calling to beg. Some of her siblings are calling to plead with me to allow the children finish this term in school before sending them away, while some are calling to plead with me to allow them stay and forgive, stating that I should consider my relationship with the child. Guess what? My wife is acting normal as if nothing happened, gisting ND going about her life normal while I'm left depressed and almost died. I've become the shadow of myself right now, I've lost significant weight, lost appetite and couldn't eat since last week. Nobody in my family is aware of anything happening right now because i abandoned my whole family since i married her because they Adviced me not to marry her but I insisted, that is what caused the end of my relationship with my family for the past 7 years. Please guys, I need help on how to be strong and continue my life.

slan87:
@OP, sorry to sat this you sound too weak. That's the more reason her family are suggesting you let the kids stay till end of the term.

Issues like this are treated heartless, cause for someone to make you raise a child that isn't yours for 6years is also heartless.

Go hard or go 6feet because of a LovePeddler, choose for yourself.

I agree with you, I think I'm a weak man that's why she has been doing some things.

Namaster:


NOBODY can take your child away. Legally or illegally.


STOP TALKING TO HER FAMILY.

They threaten you and you sound scared. Don't entertain them. Don't let them intimidate you.

Apart from the bastard, how many other kids does she claim is yours?

they are two bro.... I swear I'm sending her out of my house tomorrow.

Homeboiy:
You deserve a slap
Crying for what

Collect the children that is yours and send her packing


Well it’s obvious that you are a weak man
That’s why her family is daring you

her family said nobody is giving me any of the kids... That it's either they stay in my house with the mother or the would leave with the mother. They are not up to 5years, the one that is my own.

Namaster:
Great.

Meantime, BLOCK all her family so that NONE of them manipulates you into letting her stay in your place.

Call members of your family IN FRONT of her and explain everything to them LOUDLY. Tell them you are sending her away TOMORROW. That way they can SHAME you if you decide to back down.

By the way, DON'T let her leave with kids that you think sre your own. Just her and her bastard.

Save up for DNA tests for the rest. You can do them one at a time. She may tell you they are yours BUT you obviously can't believe anything she says.

brotherly, exactly what I told her family members today, I told them I'm not sure I'm the father of the remaining children then one of her sister said I am very heartless, that why will I deny my kids just because of this situation? Bro, I'm still shedding tears right now seriously, you know why? I remember when she gave birth to the bastard, I was cashles then that to pay for hospital bill was an issue, I had to treck the whole of Abuja going from one place to another begging people I know, God..... If you know how I suffered just because of that child.

Namaster:
Your neighbours know. You married a WHOORE who shares her pussy like cabin biscuits at a kid's birthday. She's DEFINITELY shared it to some of your neighbours.

Also, you need to forget what people will say or think. And do the right thing by CHASING the WHOORE out of your house.

Your people-pleasing personality is why your wife and her family have ganged up against you. She has enployed her family to put pressure on you while you are ISOLATED because you want to keep her secret.

SCATTER EVERYWHERE!

Tell your family. They may insult you at first but they'll support you since they saw her TRUE COLOURS before you ever did. And you need ALL fhe support you can get.

Back to the neighbours you are worried:

What do you think will make them ridicule and laugh at you MORE?

Being a man who chased out a whoore IMMEDIATELY you discovered her infidelity?

Or

Being a man who continued to live with a WHOORE and her bastard after discovering her infidelity?

The first commands respect and sympathy. The second evokes disrespect and disgust.

Choose WISELY!

I'm sending her out of my house by tomorrow... I've already told her to prepare her things.