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In other news,

If you are coming around later today to [/b] , Bring your [b]FUFU or pounded yam along please!!

We will provide the soup and a bottle of wine![/quote]This made my stomach growl.

royallord1:
You are still a child .. So ur ignorance and self deceit is excusable...

Grow up

They're coming in droves. Truth hurts. More excruciating for a granny.

fordunit:
I am not an IPOB member but this one here is the sayings of a stupid man.

Ok. Since you're not ipobian but felt the need to respond, does this not reveal your daftness level?

But seriously, does Buhari need to campaign in these useless piggy states? He ought to shun the piggies with confidence that he'll still win. Let them know that one Buhari is superior to a million ipob piggies.

IkpuMmadu:
Weak Ambode a good example of what a Yoruba man can be ...a Yoruba poster card

You that aren't weak, what have you achieved in life? Small time now you'll be saving ten shillings daily to move your generation to Lagos. Shioor. Idiotic piggies.

awakeupcall4all:
[s]What an idoitic slave.....Your useless pampers wearing and hallitosis infested drug baron is only leader to headslamming zombies like you, the munirudeen, mukaila, abideen, sikira, kamilu and the likes....

Tinubu's time is up....Shock awaits him and his zombies next month.[/s]...

"Reporting from my kportopoto village"

Kagawa10:
What evil travail? Did you realise when our naira-dollar rate skyrocketed to 500 due to Jonathan looting our treasury dry, it was Osibanjo that brought it down to stable at 360?

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All pdp supporters are daft.

chrisj2:
That is better. Raising another man's child is not easy - believe me; it is even harder when the child does not have any contact with her biological father, that question tends to come up time and time again. Being divorced and being a single-mother is not always idea but one can still do it without too much enmity. Children should not be used as a weapon.

Difficult, perhaps, but not impossible.

Elder0001:
It was a mutual sex .
The man didn’t force himself on her ,two consenting adults .

The lady had the option of telling him to use protection but she didn’t

That's right.

chrisj2:
Ok o. You win! LOL.

* BTW, the woman moving on just like that without the man can also have repercussions for the child especially a female child in Nja.

I think you women should also keep the man on side because you never know when you will need them.

Fast forward to a new relationship - many questions about where the dad of a her child is, who is going to give consent for this and that. You might need to prove full parental responsibility and so on.

Everything in a relationship takes two

Yeah. I hope the lady can see the light, forgive herself, let go of the past and do what's in the child's best interest. The innocent child deserves a home, that is, love, protection and care from both parents. The lady has a lot to heal from. If she doesn't give herself the required healing she'd end up raising a potentially needy and insecure child as a result of her own bitterness and resentment. I hope she can see the bigger picture and let her daughter have a right to her father. That is not to say he deserves it.

Ultimately, I would wish for her to meet a man who'll love, care, marry and raise her child as his own.

The lawyer has to be "them"

chrisj2:

He might even have loved her at some point and falling out of love and it works both ways. Some women get married and soon regret it - despite all the mutual bleeping and the bride price and the rest... I will not advice my sister to stay in an unhappy marriage if she has tried to work it out and could not bear it.

I find you kinda of funny because I have lived a sheltered life and have never met anyone that thinks like that...

I'm a very objective person and don't take sides. I've addressed this too earlier.

chrisj2:
Stopping using terms like 'bleep' because you make it sound like she was being taken against her will. Do women not enjoy casual sex? Does it have to be love all the time? Come on! What are you saying here?

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That is why he should have used a condom. Responsible men wear condoms!!!!!! Foolish women let themselves get bleeped without protection.

chrisj2:
Great! The women do not have to zip up - they can just lie there and get pregnant for anyone.

Lol. I already addressed this in my previous posts.

chrisj2:
The sperm donor part is way off - OMG! If he truly moves on without a second thought about the child, people will say he is irresponsible. At least, he is trying to contribute. Like I said, small mistakes can easily escalate into big issues and in fact, the small mistake might also be just an excuse.

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He can't love her but he can Bleep her. Is this how we want to reason?

ghettochild:
Holy mary, mother God
I hope u r zipping up too..
Our dear virgin Mary..

Naaa it's not about that. It's just what it is.

chrisj2:
This is why the poster said the woman banging on about impregnating a woman is so in the past. Women can also put themselves in the Baby Mama position - some even steal sperms... It takes two when it comes to sex - was she forced? Could she have used the pill or insist on a condom. Whether the man was going to marry her or not is not that relevant: she got an unplanned pregnancy. I think marriage between the two is now too late - he does not love her and she is independent and strong enough (apparently) to be a single mother. Welcome to the 21 century!

My point exactly. He has moved on without the mother. Let him learn to move forward without the daughter too. He's a sperm donor. Let him accept that.

Elder0001:
This is the funniest shît I’ve read on nairaland this week.

People like you see marriage as an achievement .

You mustn’t be married to have kids

Nope. I don't see marriage as an achievement if I did I'd have been married a long time. That said, whether or not it's an achievement, men should learn to zip up or use protection.

Enemyofpeace:
Rubbish she doesn't even know how to cook

Exactly. If I said this literally people would think I'm hating.

If not for Davido I doubt she'll go far. I saw her fried rice on her IG page. Looks like over boiled, mashed green rice. Her eba too had lumps in it.

Noblefirstlady:
But some people are wicked sha . This is your own side of the story and I'm still weeping for the lady. Imagine what will happen if I hear her own part of the story.

You hit the nail on the head. This is what I've been trying to communicate but couldn't find the right words. I commend the lady though. Such a strong woman. I like how she sent the upkeep money back to the sperm donor. At least, sperm donor can't lie that she's a gold digger. That's a line irresponsible men like to use.

Tochukwu1099:
The girl knows all these and allowed him to bleep her. So it’s not his fault

Don't get me wrong. I'm not absolving the woman of blame. Naa. Just saying since op wants to move on without the mother, he should learn to move forward without the child too. It's a two-way street.

Earthbound:
You're right about the STI part. Also it is not compulsory to marry the mother of your child immediately. If she proves to be a good partner and even a better mother, I'd knock her up for the second time and marry her after childbirth.

Hilarious. You've been dating women with low sense of self worth all your life. Time you stepped up your game. No woman with a good sense of self will let you bed her, impregnate her the second time before marriage.

Tochukwu1099:
What’s your problem? Why are you calling op lunatic?
Seems you’re mad abi

You're still speculating? Me I'm certain op is a mad man. Only a mad man will impregnate a lady and dump her like a piece of furniture. "I don't want to marry her but I want access to my daughter". He's mad o. Is this how his mother brought him up? Without a father? If op is from a broken home, perhaps I'll empathise with him. Otherwise, he doesn't deserve to use his eyes see pussy ever again, let alone touch it.

You don't impregnate a woman and dump her. It's evil. Single mothers face stigmatisation. If you know she isn't worthy, don't Bleep it. If you must Bleep it use a condom.

Earthbound:
I'm not sure I know what S.O means but I mean my girlfriend, fiance, (or anyone I'm fùcking that I wouldn't mind being the mother of my child). You feel me? I've had FWBs that I go in raw with and those that I would never. If I'm fùcking you raw, best believe I'm cool with you carrying my child.

I get it now. Alright, s.o means significant other.

That said, I do respect the way you handle your women, it's your choice but I wouldn't advise it. What if something happens along the way, she got pregnant and you couldn't marry her? Remember that relationships do not necessarily have to end in marriage but if pregnancy sets in, you would have no choice than to commit to her and you may be doing yourself a disservice by marrying her.

Or what if the said lady uses pregnancy to trap you and you really don't want to marry her?

What about STIs? There are a million and one reasons to not have sex without protection. It favours both sexes.

Elder0001:
How exactly is he stupid?

Did he force her into sex?

I didn't make reference to the Op in that context. I meant women who don't use protection during sex have taken leave of their senses.

Earthbound:
I think Nigerian women need to be orientated on birth control use. Like most guys, I would almost never Fûck anyone I'm dating with a condom, it's just wrong. That said, haven't you been in a relationship you just know isn't for the long term but you keep enjoying the perks of staying in the relationship? The OP is not at fault for wanting to have a relationship with his offspring. The babe sef no know say that child can reignite what was lost between them. Na impatience kill both of them. Luckily for the kid, it seems both of them are financially stable.

I'm not sure I got you right. Did you say you won't use a protection with your S.O?

jaxxy:
U think Ure in a jungle system? The law has sense when humans choose to forget theirs. In the us the govt can even take ur child from u, giving birth to child doesn’t give u license to misbehave. Keep dreaming.

I think it's foolhardy, no offense, to use the U.S as a case study here. This is Nigeria not US

Earthbound:
Chill out. Take it easy.

It's not fair. It's not just fair. I don't think you understand the emotional trauma the said lady must have been through. That said, I don't understand how educated women have premarital sex without condom. It's stupid. Silly. Some will have premarital sex and wail that the man dumped them. While the the rest of that category will get pregnant, and get dumped for getting pregnant. I'm sure if pregnancy had not set in, the stupid op would still have been fucking her. And she too go still open legs believing it'll end in praise. Women need to wise up.

This can't happen to me sha. Wahalli the sperm donor wouldn't have access to the child. I would reason this way if I was younger. But with maturity, I know that the wellbeing of the child must be considered first more than anything. Every child has a right to fatherly care and love. But the question is, is this lunatic op worthy?

jaxxy:
A child from a relationship isn’t a sperm donor and he has legal rights. He doesn’t have to marry her disrespectful ass to claim pertanity his child. She shud have impregnated herself now.

He has no fucjing right to the child. Only thing he has right over is sperm not child.