NOwazobia:
every disappointment is a blessing in disguise. You should be happy she exposed the type of lady she is; atleast, you can now adjust accordingly. Goodluck bro.

Thanks man

BRATISLAVA:

If he's not a gold digger, why is he so concerned about your financial status? Why is he running when he thinks you need food from him? Why is he too interested in your pockets?

Well, you know him best. But what you described is a gold digger in male uniform. Men can be gold diggers, who said its only reserved for boys? He's immature whether you say he's a man or not.

Who told am concerned about her financial status, ask her she will tell you am not type of a person. I was only being caring

CalliDora1:



He's no old school. For your info, I'm older than him. So you know.

Look at how you are just letting things out

9jageekz:





You are already talking about WIFE... nawa ooooo


your SIMPing no be here... you'll learn someday!!

Guy call me anything you want

omooba969:


Are you under any obligation to give her money - Mr Nice guy.

No, am not. You may think of me any how you want, but she didn't ask me for anything. When you like someone and you see that person going through a situation, won't you in any way assist. I have given money to people that are hungry that I don't have any emotional feelings with, so if I felt disturb not being able to meet up with the need of someone I have feelings that is steady growing, I don't think am a simp or any thing.

Decimus:


I understand you bro. It's good now that you are ready to correct your mistake, that lady is a gem and she doesn't deserve such treatment from you. Since she's not picking your calls, text her to send you her account number so you can wire her account. She also said you are a civil servant, maybe you should place her on a certain percentage of your salary, like 35%.
If she refuse to send her account number, go and drop the money at her doorstep.

Ok good. For those calling slow, I had something with her then, is just that I messes up. Am ready to do what it takes. I don't judge people. She is a very nice girl and will make a good wife. Am not saying this to get her good side but is the truth. Am not a simp. Have been different relationship so I can tell.

NOwazobia:
Presumption is quite bad.
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The guy may be wanting to help but helpless himself, so he may have decided to take a break due to the burden of shame that weighed on him that instance (it is very common among introverted people).
you never inquire from him but went ahead to conclude (and even posted it on the public space) from your own rather narrow presumption, therefore, maybe judging him falsely.
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he made a mistake by even initiating such friendship initially.

You are the only person that understand what happened. I have even admit it. After that I couldn't get myself to talk to her. Though, it was only because I couldn't give her money then. what I was going through and her issue here on nl, made just give her a break.

Sixfeetbelle:


Despite all the talks going on here, no guy has been able to tell me why he's back after ghosting her because of a perceived 2k?

Is he now buoyant enough to give her the 2k?

I like your comments and if you thinking ghost her, no problem. So how do we go about things now

Ekemeze:


Why the dafuq are explaining things to idiots here. ?

BTW, is your destiny tied to her? if she ghost u. why not move on huh? damn! is she the only woman on earth? does all these make any sense to u?

Is not like my destiny is tied to her, she is a very nice lady. Forget everything people are talking about her. After I sorted myself out, I thought she would be angry with me( which she have every right to) and won't want to talk to me again, that was why it was up to this moment.

CalliDora1:


My grievance is, why did he ghost me when I didn't pressure him to do anything for me against his wish. It made feel like he didn't want to associate with a "failure" and God knows I'm not and will never be a failure.

Please pick my calls.

Sixfeetbelle:


The guy bleeped up by making an assumption. Until the person bills you before you ghost them. That's how these things work.

Okay, if he knew the format, why did he come back? Is he now rich enough to handle her billing?

Sincerely I didn't ghost her. I was going through a lot and we didn't just communicate. I don't know if you have been in situation where you just want keep things to yourself

CalliDora1:



I'm sorry daf. I'm ashamed I can't pick your calls. What do you want me to say? You shouldn't have come here to explain anything. I'm shaking right now daf. I cant. Please im sorry for all this.

Shalom.

You don't have to be. I like a quiet life but the way you brought it here was some how. I will chat you up now. let's put what everyone have said in the past.

CalliDora1:


Dafe can you just shut up! Who was giving you attitude? You stopped calling and got me putting two and two together which prompted me to test you by continually telling you Ive not eaten and now you turn to say I posed hungry?? You better Watch it.!

Did I ever ask you for anything for once? Say the truth...

I didn't want you here reason I didn't mention you. Just be a man and leave here now!!!

See, I don't want us to drag this here, pick my calls. you didn't offend me and am not angry with you. you didn't know what I was going through then and I suppose to have told you. My ex arrest me and took to court. I didn't tell all this. And unlike what you think I was ashamed of myself not meeting up with your need then. So don't let us spoil what looks like what is damaged already. Please pick my call or reply my message on WhatsApp

CalliDora1:


Dafe can you just shut up! Who was giving you attitude? You stopped calling and got me putting two and two together which prompted me to test you by continually telling you Ive not eaten and now you turn to say I posed hungry?? You better Watch it.!

Did I ever ask you for anything for once? Say the truth...

I didn't want you here reason I didn't mention you. Just be a man and leave here now!!!

See, I don't want us to drag this here, pick my calls. you didn't offend me and am not angry with you. you didn't know what I was going through then and I suppose to have told you. My ex arrest me and took to court. I didn't tell all this. And unlike what you think I was ashamed of myself not meeting up with your need then. So don't let us spoil what looks like what is damaged already. Please pick my call or reply my message on WhatsApp

frankson1:




Oga, I'd rather prefer you IGNORE. She said that you're mature so act as a matured person and look away. Don't get dragged here even though we don't know you.

My is just so annoying when people misunderstand you

CalliDora1:



Did I mention you? Besides I couldn't bring myself to ask you why you did what you did intensionally cos I don't want to be taken for a ride knowing you already have a mindset. So I decided to throw it open to the public to hear what could possible a man abscond for no reason and resurface again acting like he didn't know what he did.

You didn't need to come and defend yourself here, my dear. I was hoping to come over after garnering enough from advices here and ask a few questions but you just jumped out to prove what? Oh.. you were arrested? But did you tell me? Nope. Rather you chose to come and say it here? I'm further disappointed.

My head is full.

Throw it open by bringing it here. what happened to your before hasn't taught a lesson. Sometimes I wonder if you are being paid to do this.
Ok, so after you have finished tarnishing my image, you will now come and do what. And you know am regular here. I was expecting more from you, but this is childish

CalliDora1:


Just let me be.
That's why I said it's typical if most nairaland guys to always assume someone wants to beg them for favor.

Guy the film when she act now make me fear Igbo babe

ford101:
you can't give what you truly don't have.the man doesn't have money.

You are right. then I was broke and I told her. then she started giving attitude and I was having some issues so I had to withdrew

nenyewrites:


You should change this attitude in your next relationship. Else you’ll be hurting your partner unintentionally.

Thanks for the advice

CalliDora1:



Helloooo.. what do you mean by did she ask? Ask for what exactly? All I want to know is why he stopped calling and chatting and not why he didn't offer to help or not. Please!

If you want to know why I stopped chatting and calling you, why didn't you tell me yesterday. why did you have to bring it here. I don't know what you wanted me to do then. I ask why haven't you eaten and you said you don't have much. And I was not that buoyant then. And I explained everything to you. Then you start giving me attitude. that period, I was invited to court and you know the reason. I was face with the court issue for six weeks. At first I was arrested and my phone was taken from me. All this period you didn't call. and the best thing you could do is to bring it up here. Am very disappointed

Calli, am really disappointed with this. At least you should have told me than bring it here. It shows why you keep having issue in nl. You lied to me and I was busy beating myself up that I could not help. You suppose to be mature than this. That means my spirit was right to have withdrew then.

Continuation. Since you this am going to let everything out. Another reason why I back peddled was she had issues on nl. She had been in different relationship in the past that was gave her bad impression here on nl. She had to change her moniker different times. Infact people of her past relationships still hurt her. I just came out of a relationship that was a disaster. And am not ready to get involved in another traumatic relationship. So when all this things start coming out, I decided I should give her time to sort herself out. People were cursing and insulting her. She hardly comment without people cursing her and am not ready for such. So I withdrew.

I don't normally do this before but I am forced to because op and most commenting really misunderstood me. Yeah am the guy. I had to create this new account to hid my identity. Am Christian and everything I said and did I did with good intentions. Am not the type of guys that will blank or reject her because of money. I really wanted to her then. Infact one the reason I back peddled was because I couldn't assist then. She pose to me then like she was truly in need and I felt ashamed of myself. Not knowing she was lying. She could tell from my intentions then that I meant well. I was going through a lot of this then. Some of which the op knew about. I had this issue that landed me in court. Though she didn't know about the court issue. Am this type of person if am going through a ruff part, I don't like disturbing others. I keep things to myself. We just knew each other, and I cannot be sharing all this with you. If the op notice then, I wasn't if commenting on nl then. I was reserve in everything. Since