₦airaland Forum

cocolacec:
like the saying a stitch in time saves nine.For God's sake the baby is over 2 years old and you still want time.I commend the lady for having the baby despite all the humiliation,shame and stigma she encounters.It shows she has some level of God's consciousness.

Please find a self contained apartment and do something about your family before the year runs out.
Get married brother and seek God's forgivesness and see the way God Opens your blessings for you.

Try to rekindle the old flame that attracted you to her in the first place.
The white people who brought us western education dont really go to universities like Nigerians,after secondary school they are done schooling only a few go further.

cocolacec:
Op All the people making bad comments about the lady dont know her personally.All their advise is based on stereotype on Benin ladies.
I think she in Nigeria trying to see if you will miss her and make you realise she wont wait for you forever.

If she is good enough to have sex with and carry your baby ,she is good enough to be your wife.There is no perfect woman anywhere.It is not compulsory she goes back to school,she can start a business of her own with your love and encouragment.Save her the shame and stigma she and your baby face in a society like Nigeria.

You didnt realise you dont love her when you were having sex with her.
You better man up and take full responsiblity for your actions.

Its sad Men of this generation shy away from responsibilities.This lady could have been your own sister,how would you feel if her boyfriend treats her this way.

ahnie:
Pls leaving me arone.ayam north badbellying you.I have light to izzing.

Dude to be candid...you brought this on yourself.my only concern z the little child.

Permishun to hiss!

ahnie:

Permishun to hiss

Una still dey this op marra.e never tell us the truth.

FameG:
So has she called yet?

Loisemm:
If u have accepted this baby, why are you still calling her 'the baby' in all your posts?

H'mmmmm... I think the titled of the post said it all. "My baby", "our baby". It was just an oversight. I have accepted and love my baby die.

N couldn't you have used protection or ejaculated outside your girlfriend?
Well, is not as if I don't used protection(CDs) or ejaculates outside.u know sometimes a dog that want to get lost doesn't hear the whistle of it owner.So, it's an Act of God. In "EVERYTHING" we should give thanks to God.

For me, after ur description of this your baby mama, my mind tells me she is doing or trying to start full time prostitution in Italy or wherever she landed.

fabem:
Your baby is in someone custody in other for her to concentrate in he job. She can't see. her baby anytime she wants. Try to talk yo her whenever she is online to know the route of her travelling. That would help a lot maybe she is into prostitution or other illegal job. She can't have her own phone for now. You need to come down and take a drastic step immediately you get in touch with her and your baby.

pogolowa1:
Brother you were supposed to be an undergraduate oo. That girl is a typical Benin thief who wants to make it by any means. She is probably into prostitutions over there. Don't get your self worked up coz of your daughter. One day she would understand. Wat a wicked bicth with all your commitment.

Marvel1206:
Go to
https://countrycode.org/


i can't find the +289 there.. Maybe you can check through

ChemicalReaction:
For what it's worth, I'm glued to ur write up.

mrsmith11:
The code is not Italian code. I think is one those scam number they buy online to avoid ones exact location or for fraudulent activities

She is either in Nigeria or Libya using this number but not in Europe

Quincyolarks:
I believe your baby is still in Nigeria, Sir. The thread is really informative as I find myself in a similar dilemma, though she is my gf and we have a son. We lived together for a time before militants conflict in ikorodu created a separation and she has to go back home to her parents. Now, the mother who is also from somewhere in Delta said I must come and pay her bride price before she comes back home. Although I have plans of such I can't afford it at the moment. What runs through my mind now is whether to move on with my life and forget about baby and mama (while sending some form of child support) or persevere (single parenting is tough on both child and mother).

southernbelle:
You sound like you are a really nice guy and someone is just taking advantage of that, I'm sure your baby is in Nigeria and her mom knows more than she's telling you. Wait till Thursday, see if she'll really send the pictures. Don't promise her marriage and make her come back; if you give her that kind of hope and she falls for it, you may not like the way everything will turn out.

mrsmith11:
After reading your story I felt for you. I want to say somethings
If the telephone numbers she called you with doesn't start with +39 or 0039 then she is not in Italy

Secondly they don't separate children from there mother in camp rather they attend to them faster by providing temporary accommodation until there application is finalize

Is either the baby is in Nigeria or the worst may have happened

Which city or camp is she in italy

Marvel1206:
you're welcome bro.. Humans are prone to mistakes so what has happened has happened.. You have to face the reality now..

Like i said, find a way to get her back here.. Consult that your lawyer friend, and weigh your chances of winning or loosing the case

please keep us updated sir as time goes on...

ChemicalReaction:
OP, where are you? Let the part two be 'THE RETURN OF THE PRODIGAL FATHER'.

thelish:
Dem dey carry pikin go do OKPO work??
The baby is certainly around. Inasmuch as its hard, just forget about this girl. Stop d chatting with her. Tell her when u see d baby, then u can continue ur chat with her.
Guy u must do that DNA o. compulsory

Marvel1206:
she noticed the love you have for your daughter and quickly used it to her advantage... You have to think of a way to get her back to nigeria even if you have to lie that you'll marry her.. Then when she returns, act! She's probably being influenced by her friends..

But wait, you have to be damn sure the baby is with her cos i don't buy the excuse that she only sees her every two days..

TAKE YOUR TIME TO PLAN

Marvel1206:
she noticed the love you have for your daughter and quickly used it to her advantage... You have to think of a way to get her back to nigeria even if you have to lie that you'll marry her.. Then when she returns, act! She's probably being influenced by her friends..

But wait, you have to be damn sure the baby is with her cos i don't buy the excuse that she only sees her every two days..

TAKE YOUR TIME TO PLAN

Marvel1206:
Do you love the girl?
Can you marry her?

Marvel1206:
amen


but on a serious note... She said she is in italy, aren't you concerned about how she got there?

Marvel1206:
Funny how you appear so tied to the baby you once told her to abort well, is not funny. It's surprised. It's beyond my comprehension.

This lady is not a wife material... Please are you sure the baby really resembles you? The DNA test shouldn't be ruled out here. If you don't have money, just keep it in mind.

But how that hemi-demi-semi illiterate wan take get to italy na? What is her business there?
Is she a migrant? I just hope she's not toeing a sex worker's path

CONCLUSION: YOU ARE IN TROUBLE

Neverquit:
1) Do DNA
2) Confirm that she is really in Italy
3) Do not marry her
4) If the child is yours, carter for your child, but do not be manipulated
5) Next time use protection