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QueenSekxy:
No problem thanks alot.

K. Remember the title


Talk your way to an intimate marriage

QueenSekxy:
Really?? How do I get this book?

Google it. Any store willing to ship to Nigeria will sell. Easy beezy.

That's Uba for you. The elemelu way is what I call it.

QueenSekxy:
Thank you.
Even without having much friends, I've succeeded in my endeavours, that's also why I think I really don't need much friends but then, I'm still scared of what the future holds cos I really have long way to go.

Scare..... Insecurity.



Always monitor and confront what motivates your behavior each time you want to act that way. By telling yourself the motivation of my behavior is the fear of this person not that that person has done anything,you can begin to be more lenient.


Remember Paul said something about capturing every thought that exalts itself above/against God. This is capturing your very thoughts that motivates and produces action in you

QueenSekxy:
Yeah. True, I always want my bf to behave like me by avoiding people too.

Smh. Find Donald Harvey his books addresses your concerns it's the ministry God gave him. Forget about finding his books in Nigeria though. You've got to buy them online
. His information is golden. You will not forget this day if you read his books. Oh, he's a psychiatrist

QueenSekxy:
I really need any Christian book that can help me.

Find the spiritual man by Watchman Née part one to three.


Then though this one feels like marriage oh, but it will help you understand what's happening. Find this book, you will thank me for pointing you to it.


Donald Harvey how to talk yourself to an intimate marriage

QueenSekxy:
Lool.

Stop living for your thoughts. Your fears and insecurities are hindering you from forming meaningful relations with people. Start online, make friends outside your familiar zone.


Begin the change you want offline online.


Start engaging in practical meaningful discussions engaging new persons staying away from old friends if possible.

Can we move this thread to Fp please for people with similar issues mods...

QueenSekxy:
Lol. Funny but true.
That's what have been going through my mind since this year.

Lol

I can bet you've suspected me twice already

UyaiIncomparabl:
Thanks for your prescription. How do I practice silence and thought management? Are there books to read on that?

Teachings of the soul. Mastering the soul. Google will help. As a Christian, I follow the Christianity way, and for this l only found two persons who wrote on this one is Watchman Née. Go find his book The Spiritual man

QueenSekxy:
Nne, I pray things get better.
I do go out with my day 1s friends, but in a very long time.
Say, once in 4-6 months.

Worst is that, ive started strategizing on how to avoid people when I go to camp.
Lol

Told ya, it forces you to see things before they happen. You have an escape plan hatched for everything. James bond

UyaiIncomparabl:
Thanks for your prescription. How do I practice silence and thought management? Are there books to read on that?

Yours is special from hers o. Your a virgo an, you should understand yours is nature. Rather than try to kill it, men how did I undo mine o. Na long story.


You're a virgo so it's this way for all of us.



Try not to react to pictures your brain shows you. I use a sit down and wait approach for example. If anything happens, no matter if the house is burning, I simply say I'll wait for all sides to be heard before I hush. This enforces your inner core to be less frantic and more rational so it doesn't excessively throw you off balance.


Cosmicdroid come view this thread please and back me up

UyaiIncomparabl:
Phew. I know how you feel. The truth is, you can't totally leave that shell, but you can be a little more outgoing. I really don't have any corrective measures to prescribe for you because I'm exactly like you.

I suggest you both befriend yourselves. It can help you both... trust me.

QueenSekxy:
Thanks, I will be putting this into practise.

Also, or rather most important stop talking to yourself. The voices in your head is leading yku6a wrong path. Subtle mental unfitness


Start giving people the benefit of a doubt.





Please study conflict avoidant behavior as its deeply rooted in this

Maverickking1:
I think you should read up on avoidant personality disorder. It's something that comes with being an introvert.

Perfect. She's been avoidant.



And it destroys marriages and relations.



It forces people to assume the worse can happen even when nothing is wrong. It also forces its victim to function in a crisis mode. I need to be detached so I can be free to run if problem arises.


It's a default flight mode personality that's forming in her. It's like wooo I don't have time once any shiitty start, I go japa.

QueenSekxy:
Greeting people has a way of connecting you with them or making them become friends with You, cos, they will always get to talk to you when greeting starts coming.
That's what I try to avoid.

Enforced isolation and detachment. Notice you say they would want to get connected. I. E. They would want to ask you for things and you want to be connected with people but without them hanging their issues on you. Change how you see people. I already tell you, that people carry blessings and it's you who needs them. Or give people the benefit of a doubt that Afterall they haven't hurt you yet. Insecurities and fear of the unknown makes this a more complex social issue

UyaiIncomparabl:
Hmm. Are you a psychiatrist?

I read your thread. Do you know they say habits form by doing things repeatedly overtime for a period of 20days. Begin to let people win you in arguments voluntarily not proving your right.


Declutter your mind by changing the movies you watch and friends you hang out with


Stay away from controversial circumstances


Make new friends new company, do things differently. If you do this, mental flexibility will be developed and you can see people as they are right or wrong and accommodate them better


Finally, learn to be responsive not reactive. Wait till you hear the last word from people before you talk. Practice silence and thought management. Do not let your thoughts roam and rule you over.

Ishilove:
Will greeting kill you? You are not the only introvert in the world so you don't have any excuses for not greeting. Being courteous does not automatically mean you're friends with them. It just shows you're a well adjusted human being.

Not like that. Many times it's triggered when kids experience their parents divorce at very young age.

QueenSekxy:
Definitely one of the above.
But then, even when I was little, I still had those characters.

It's too bad that people don't even know that I'm a daughter to a popular man in our society. Cos i avoid going out with my dad/mum so that i wont get to meet people or greet them.

I've walked this road. You need to change your perspective about people. I. E that people aren't just troublemakers but come with blessings only a relationship can bring you in contact with.


It begins by confronting whatever happened in the past facing it and making peace with it. Forgiving is the door that leads to wholeness. This is how it's taught is psychiatry.


In a room alone or front of a mirror. Point your finger and begin to say to the situation like it's a person pointing your finger, saying you hurt me badly, you did this and this and that and it hurt me real bad. You really hurt me, open up all that transpired. Do this each time you feel introverted for some time. Shouldn't be more than 3 weeks if done right, multiple times. As your heart opens up, the situation should release its grip, freshness will come in and you can begin to walk a different path.


Environmental gmfactors also induces this. Jesus how I wish I can type to explain


If you can hide your number and give me a call, I want to say something.

You're introverted. Caused by hurt, disappointment, lack of trust in people. Bad memories from the past or a strong mistrust for people is the underlying cause of the problem.

daddytime:
They'd regret this season like none before it aswear..

It's way too much

QueenSekxy:
Goodmorning all.
Please, I have this character of avoiding people in real life. I avoid talking to people or even greeting people.
I'd prefer taking a longer path than meeting someone I know through a route that's closer to where I'm headed.
Last two week, I changed route from my normal routine path of reaching the destination of where I work cos, someone said I always pass him without greeting
I'm kind of worried cos it might affect me in the future.
I'd stay indoor and pretend to be sick rather than see a visitor at home.
How do I stop this? Thank you.

Are you born in August or September?



Are you from the South South?

daddytime:
Arsenal open nyansh say make dem do without confom

Liverpool lost the league the day they didn't draw City at hone

Will finish later

daddytime:
In fact my kolo na apprentice for where your own dey...

I greet you bro...

as man u take sell yday march

daddytime:
Hahaha...you really sabi me...lol

I dey always look out for your comment. Even if I see 5000 comment, na only your own I dey hunt for. Once I read am like this, my belle go swell. I Don dey okay for two weeks without food be that