Chelsea can make UEFA Women's Champions League history tonight. No English team in the competition's current guise has ever lifted the trophy. Emma Hayes and her players can change that.

Standing in the Blues way is Barcelona. The Spanish side were beaten finalists in 2019 and will be hoping to go one step further this time around having overcome Paris Saint-Germain in the last four.

But it seems like Chelsea hope is almost been dashed cos they are already trail by 4goals to nil.

Nothing for Chelsea this night, and for Barca the ladies are saying what their men can do, they can do it much more better. Lifting the Champions League would be a boost for our dear Nigerian Oshoala.

The conclusion of this story is the most annoying part. After reading through, with the aim that the court will do something but at the end they adjourned the case.

Na only God know how many case dey court table wey adjourn don kill

United better don't follow the footsteps of Chelsea

I was curious why have never been invited to an Igbo naming ceremony, I decide to even know why, and I came across this, then felt like sharing.

I doubt if Igbo people do naming ceremony any more because I have never been invited for one by any Igbo friends. Naming of a child usually happens on the eighth day after birth and the baby is still very tender to be exposed to much crowd. For most Igbos of today, it is a family thing, not ceremonial.

The most significant event(before first birthday) after birth is Child dedication. It happens 3 months after birth, usually after baptism. Every Igbo child goes through early Baptism as most Igbos are Christians and baptism marks the christening of a new baby.

So child dedication is like a thanks giving ceremony after baptism of a child. The baptism happens few days or a day before the thanks giving of the given Sunday.

The reception follows after the church thanks giving normally at the parents residence. The party is usually huge depending on how well to do the parents of the baby are. Some couples who didn’t have an elaborate wedding use the child dedication to show that things are now better for them and also a way to thank God for bringing them so far.

There is always loud music from DJs, assorted native cuisines, soft and alcoholc drinks, closure of streets and cash gifts usually to the child’s mother even though most of the expense is usually borne by the father.

Child dedication has made naming very unceremonious amongst Igbos.

Have being hearing different people say nurses are wicked but I never believe it not until today. It's true that experience is the best teacher. I saw it with my koro koro eyes.


A woman was rushed to the hospital where I went to visit someone, she was bleeding seriously I guess it was miscarriage in a Keke. The women she entered the Keke with were the one running helter shelter trying to get a doctor to attend to her.


The nurse that was close by who I thought would rush to get a wheelchair or bed was just staring. She was not remorseful. What came out of her mouth surprised me. In a care free way, she said "go and look for bed yourself".


I was speechless hearing this and her behaviour was so irritating that I had to leave the hospital.

This took almost a whole day to kill. Yesterday was full of drama but at last, it was a success and it ends in cooking pot.

The festive period is here again, it's the period we 've all been anticipated for. Some people have already been given gifts, some were pranked as a result of gift, some almost run mad at the cite of the gift.

Now here are the questions, what are you planning to give to someone? Or what are you hoping to get? What would you have preferred apart from the gift received?

Let's here from the house

Hmmm, it could be natural for her to be happy and at the same time there could be a reason for her happiness. She reminds me a story I heard about a man who due to his high libido, his wife begged him to marry another wife that she can't tolerate it any longer. The man married the second wife and the second wife too was pleading for a third wife. It got to a stage that immediately they serve him food, they all run into their room and lock the door against him. because they know if oga finish food, the next thing is knacking.
So please she should spare us this online happiness and tell the world the reason of her happiness.

We call the game a reality TV show but it's turning to something else, all the drama taking place in the house have caused a lot of fans of the show to back out while some are seeing the reality show as a fixed drama.

Though my own opinion, I think most of the fights between housemates are caused by Ebuka, the kind of questions he asked is questionable. Though I feel he don't have to ask some of those questions. It's money we are talking about, people can go to any length to kill for it. Take Erica's attitude towards Laycon just because of the questions asked by Ebuka.

Erica has shown that she's out of everyone's league if she's not disqualified.

Like I said earlier, just my opinion.

What do you think, is Ebuka right in asking those questions or wrong?

They use humor to prevent pointless arguments: When there is some tension and they are about to fight over something small, they have the habit of changing the tone of the conversation from upset to funny. And it works. Sometimes they just use an inside joke and immediately switch from feeling bothered to laughing together. Or they make fun of each other and any small tension that could grow into a pointless argument fades away. They still address the problem, but they do it playfully — and healthily.
Obviously, if a more serious issue arises, they sit down and talk, as they believe in the importance of resolving conflict.

They communicate assertively: Some people have the habit of subtly expressing their negative feelings through their actions instead of addressing them assertively. Other people avoid conflict by completely shutting down when their partner calls them out on something. Cool couples always find a way to talk openly about their expectations and needs without upsetting each other or keeping things to themselves, and things improved a lot from that moment on.
All this was possible thanks to assertive communication, which is much more effective than a passive-aggressive communication style.

They spend time apart: While it’s important to spend quality time together, successful couples know that time apart helps each partner recharge. It keeps things exciting and fresh. When you focus on your dreams and passions, and have the ability to respect your significant other’s space, a healthy relationship can grow. The need to spend time apart is often overlooked.

They know consistent, small gestures are essential: The fact that they consistently do all these small things for each other to make them fall in love with each other every day more. All those small gestures help them feel grateful for being in a relationship with each other. Keep doing nice things for your partner, like complimenting them, bringing flowers from time to time, or preparing breakfast — not only during the honeymoon phase of the relationship but even after months or years. Be an attentive partner.

They support each other: Being there for one another and being supportive through concrete actions is essential to make a relationship flourish. That’s real love. Understanding and respecting your significant other’s needs and priorities is the key to successful and healthy relationships.

In summary using humor, communicating assertively, spending time apart, consistently doing nice things for each other, and supporting each other, are all habits that can make your relationship thrive. Healthy love is possible. It’s all about the desire to make it work and respecting each other along the way.

Extracted from: Medium

Nice topic to start my covid 19 writeup

What is really wrong with us all? This is a serious issue here but we found ourselves diverting the main news content to insult and abuse of tribes. Why won't the northerners do what they want when they are in power. If we check well, you will find out that all the Northern states are collaborating making things happen for themselves unlike other regions, you will never see them supporting each other. In the end, we say the northerners are not educated, please "who school don help now" for this our country. The people leading us, are they educated beyond SSCE or Diploma or highest BSc. It's so annoying that other regions are not helping matters. The presidency supposes to be questioned about this and not just to side talk the issue and forget it else, this will continue for as long as other regions are keeping quiet.

Truth be told, the Northerners are wiser than any other region. So please stop looking at the Northerners as fools. Let's forget about the budget allocation because I know many of us will say, their allocation is more than any other region, help me ask those leaders in other regions, what are they doing with their own allocations. They end up spending it on women and drinks.

Abegi i rest my case

Received this via WhatsApp from a friend. Came to NL to see if it's true but couldn't find it here. I decide to post here:


The New N-Power Test Assessment Schedule

N-POWER

Date

Programme

July 15th N-Power Tax

July 16th. N-Power Tax

July 17th. N-Power Tax

July 18th. N-Power Tax

July 19th. N-Power Tax

July 20th. N-Power Health

July 21st. N-Power Health

July 22nd. N-Power Health

July 23rd. N-Power Health

July 24th. N-Power Health

July 25th. N-Power Agro

July 26th. N-Power Agro

July 27th. N-Power Agro

July 28th. N-Power Agro

July 29th. N-Power Agro

July 30th. N-Power Agro

July 31st. N-Power Agro

August 1st. N-Power Agro

August 2nd. N-Power Teach

August 3rd. N-Power Teach

August 4th. N-Power Teach

August 5th. N-Power Teach

August 6th. N-Power Teach

August 7th. N-Power Teach

August 8th. N-Power Teach

August 9th. N-Power Teach

August 10th. N-Power Teach

August 11th. N-Power Teach

August 12th. N-Power Teach

August 13th. N-Power Teach

August 14th. N-Power Teach

August 15th. N-Power Teach

August 16th. N-Power Teach

August 17th-31st result

July 15th -27 applications

Don't forget to share this post so that others can know when they will be schedule for their exam


MODIFIED

O boy, this one weak and surprise me, what a threat. What do u think guys...

Petyr1:

somebody should answer this please

I guess yes, as long as the size is not more than the specified size.

DipoToyo:
Were you able to login n successfully submit?

No, even the verification of mail msg was not sent to any of the mail I tried to register since 12am I registered them.

CokeBar:
What was the duration before?

NAgro, NTeach and Nhealth were two year duration while some were 3months

What a change indeed, this administration has been full of surprises. Even the Npower that i guess was meant to reduce unemployment and poverty so they said has reduced the duration. The below screenshot shows it all.


Let's not kill ourself by ourself. A word of advice, please just try as much as possible, engage yourself in a productive handwork to back this Npower. Dont just rely on this.

May God help us all

I believe in one way or the other we must have experienced both (i.e. using toilet paper and water). Which one do you think is more hygienic, convenient and appropriate to use after visiting the comfort's station.

For me, I appreciate the use of water than toilet roll. Water is more thorough and disperses much dirt, even without soap. You can also use as much water as needed, while toilet paper will, if used for too long, result in a sore butt.

After any of this is used (tissue or water) for good hygiene, proper washing of hands should be done with soap and water.

Back to you now, which do you prefer to use?

Lala abeg make we hear people opinion

Benefit of contentment
When you allow contentment in your life, you will:
1. Be at peace
2. Be Free from temptation
3. Be Free from sickness and diseases
4. Have joy
5. Not be afraid of the past, present and future
6. Prosper in all things
7. Be safe from Intruders
8. Be blessed abundantly in life

If you lack contentment
If you lack contentment, you will:
1. Be expose to enemies
2. Always encounter sorrow and bitterness
3. Loose the future
4. Loose your life
5. See God's wrath
6. Be dissociated from God's brethren
7. Be dissociated from the fellowship of God (Holy Spirit).

Prayers
1. Pray for the spirit of lack of contentment to be removed In Jesus Name
2. Pray for God to bestow in us the spirit of contentment.

Godliness with contentment is great gain. (1 Timothy 6:6)

Godliness is a God-centered life. It grows, not through the pursuit of a process, but through the presence of a person. Jesus Christ is the mystery of godliness (1 Timothy 3:16).

Godliness is an attitude and style of life that resect God and live according to the way of God i.e His instruction and principles.

His presence in your life is your hope of becoming the person God calls you to be. Christ in you [is] the hope of glory (Colossians 1:27).

Contentment is finding joy in what God has given to you. The opposite of contentment is greed which destroys your capacity to enjoy what God has given.

Contentment is a Christian grace that grows over time. It does not come quickly, easily or naturally. Paul says “I have learned to be content” (Philippians 4:12).

Contentment therefore means internal satisfaction which does not demand changes in external circumstances.

How did he learn it? He tells us “I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to hGodliness is a God-centered life. It grows, not through the pursuit of a process, but through the presence of a person. Jesus Christ is the mystery of godliness (1 Timothy 3:16).ave plenty. I have learned the secret of being content” (Philippians 4:12). He is saying: “There were times when I had plenty. But then God brought me to situations where I was ‘in need.’ And through that I learned something: I discovered the secret of being content.”

God used the experience of loss to produce the good fruit of contentment in Paul’s life. Have you discovered the secret of being content?

Jeremiah Burroughs described contentment as “a rare jewel.” How can you find joy in what God gives you, especially when it is less than you had before? Burroughs has great wisdom on how to obtain this jewel:

A Christian comes to contentment, not so much by way of addition as by way of subtraction… Contentment does not come by adding to what you have, but by subtracting from what you desire. The world says that you will find contentment when your possessions rise to meet the level of your desires… The Christian has another way to contentment, that is, he can bring his desires down to his possessions.

Great gain
“Godliness with contentment is great gain.” 1 Timothy 6:6

Not just gain, but “great gain.” Paul says “If you have godliness with contentment, it will be of huge advantage to you.” Why is this? It has to do with the consequences of not being content.

Why is godliness with contentment great gain?
1. You cannot keep what you gain
“…people who want to get rich” (v. 9)

If getting rich is your goal, you cannot keep what you gain. “We brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it” (v. 7). You may get rich, but you cannot stay rich. You cannot keep what you gain in this world.

2. You will encounter powerful temptations
“People who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge men into ruin and destruction… the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil (v. 9, 10)

If you set your heart on money, you expose yourself to powerful temptations that ruin many people.

3. You may wander from the faith
“Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith” (v. 10)

In the parable of the sower, our Lord speaks about “seed that is choked by thorns and thistles.” The seed is God’s Word. The thorns and thistles are “the worries of this life, and the deceitfulness of wealth, and the desires for other things” (Mark 4:19). Money chokes the fruit of God’s Word in the lives of some people.

4. You will experience great sorrow
“Some people, eager for money, have… pierced themselves with many griefs” (v.10)

Money is a great servant but a terrible master. If you set your heart on money, money will break your heart. You will not keep what you gain. You will fall into powerful temptations. You may wander from the faith. You will pierce yourself with many griefs and sorrows.

That’s why godliness with contentment is great gain. When you have less, learn the art of contentment. This rare jewel is not found when you have more, but when you have less.

Bring your desires down to the level of your possessions. Learn to enjoy what God has given more than you grieve what He has taken away. Practice the art of godly contentment and you will find that it is great gain.

Conclusion
This write-up is meant all of us, lack of contentment leads to all the evils we are facing in the world. When you lack contentment, you are bound to do evil to satisfy yourself. I will encourage us to pray for the spirit of contentment to be released upon us all. Most of these evil vices we are experiencing are caused by lack of contentment.

What relationship facts should everyone know before getting married?

Do not rush to get married. Date for several months, then live together for a year or so first. Everyone is on their best behavior in the first 6 months to a year of a relationship, so to truly know them you need to be with them a long time before you get married.

Do not have children in the first 2 to 3 years of marriage. You need to concentrate on getting to know each other, iron out the big kinks, learn how to communicate and settle disagreements, and get financially settled before children are brought into the picture. Children do not stabilize a marriage.

If you have children, do not marry someone who isn’t 100% excited and into being a parent. If you want children, do not marry someone who is not 100% excited about having them, and make sure their timeline on when is compatible with yours.

Be financially stable before you get married. Finish your education, get a good job, start saving money and start a retirement fund, be stable in your living arrangements.

Have lots of long discussions with the intended spouse on important topics. Where they want to live, who should do what in the marriage, how they process love and sex, religion, politics, relationship to families, how money is spent and budgets are made, what is important, what acceptable behaviors are in public, in private and in the bedroom. How disagreements will be handled. How much time you want to spend with each other. How do you want to spend your free time and vacations.

Being head over heels in love does not guarantee a good marriage. Feeling safe and secure with the person, like you can be yourself with them, and that they are your best friend are very important in a good marriage.

You don’t have to be two peas in a pod, but you do have to be accepting of each others differences.

Sex often does not get better. In a very long term marriage sex may eventually become impossible. The marriage cannot be primarily about sex.

Be respectful and polite of your spouse. Let the little stuff go. Don’t call names or say ‘always’ or ‘never’ when talking about things you don’t like.

“You can choose to be right, or choose to be happy”. I don’t know who said this originally, but they are right. If you fight to the death because you are right about something and it is not a life and death issue, you are crushing your spouse’s spirit.

Before you say anything to your spouse, ask these three questions. “Is it nice?” “Is it necessary?” and “Is it true?” If all three questions cannot be answered yes, don’t say it.

No matter what, support your spouse emotionally. Even if they are wrong, they deserve to know you have their back and will go down on your side. Disagree in private but present a united front in public.

If you hurt your spouse, there are steps to a proper apology. First, say you are sorry you did the thing (or didn’t do the thing). Second, say you won’t do it again because you don’t want to hurt them. Third, either do something to make up for the wrong or ask them what they want done to make up for it if you cannot think of anything. It is not an apology unless you do all three steps.

All the big decisions need to be made together with each spouse having an equal vote. If you disagree, find a compromise or agree to take turns getting what each of you wants.

Don’t go into a marriage expecting to change your spouse. They will stay the person they are to start with. They may even become more of the person they were to start with. Make sure you can live with who they are now instead of expecting things to improve.

You can add to this please.

For residents of the town of Isanlu in the Yagba East Local Government Area of Kogi State, last Thursday will remain unforgettable for them. It was the day armed robbers invaded a bank in the community and killed many people including some police officers.

KOGI State Governor Yahaya Bello has released N10 million for the burial of slain victims of last week’s robbery attack at Isanlu, in Yagba East council, which claimed seven policemen, including that of the divisional police officer in the area.


The burial cash was delivered on Sunday by Deputy Governor Edward Onoja, according to a statement. Commissioner of Police Ayuba Ede received the money on behalf of families of the slain officers, it was said.

Also present were the Secretary to the State Government, SSG, Dr (Mrs) Folashade Ayoade Arike, the Deputy Chief of Staff to the Governor, Sunday Faleke, the Commissioner for Finance and Economic Development, Ashiru Asiwaju and the Security Adviser to the Governor, Comdr. Jerry Omodara (rtd).

May the souls of the deceased rest in perfect peace and may the comfort their family, grant them the fortitude to bear this great loss (Amen)

These are the true fact we as human must accept in life. At times things happen and at the end we acclaim it to spiritual things. Most of this happenings can be natural while some are as a result of out thinking, doings etc.

1. The quality of your mental health is directly linked to the types of thoughts you have.

2. You will die and never exist in the same form again, ever.

3. Meaning in life is self generated, combat nihilism yourself.

4. Hard work is sometimes not enough, you also might need luck, intelligence and connections.

5. If you are attractive, people will be more open to you in all ways possible.

6. You act according to your beliefs. If you believe something is possible you will try to do it. If you believe something is impossible you will never do it. Choose the best beliefs for life you want.

7. Change is the only constant thing in universe.
The present moment is the only real thing.

8. The past is present gone by, the future is the present that will be. Focus on the present moment.

9. Intuition is always right, but 80% of the time you can't verbalise what’s its about.

10. Most values that you think are yours, actually aren’t.

Some of this are the parenting mistakes that destroy kids’ mental strength by David M., You can add to it. By avoiding these mistakes, it will go a long way in developing children mentally and psychologically.


1. Corporal punishment and humilitation as “discipline.”

2. Making everything about submission and learning, without unstructured play time and outings and exploration together.

3. Modeling dysfunctional behavior in front of kids, like seeing parents fight, or gossip, or cheat.

4. Hiding your feelings from your kids, including your frustration, excitement, disappointment, joy, curiosity. They need to see how an adult handles feelings well (or how you clean it up if you don’t).

5. Spending your spare time with passive entertainment, like TV shows or watching sports, vs. active engagement in experiences with the whole family.

6. Stifling curiosity about topics you don’t like to discuss, like your finances or your job or how you handle conflicts and problems.

7. Enforcing homework as an unpleasant chore vs. taking an interest in the topics and learning along with the child.

You can add yours pls.

This kind story sef fit give person headache.

As we all know only too well, money can buy you virtually anything in football. The one thing it can’t buy you, though, is loyalty. The great irony of filling a team with the best players that money can buy is that they’ll leave if someone offers them more money, such is the life of a mercenary.

Premier League Team Nicknames
Know the nickname of your premier league club.
Whether it be opposition fans giving a team a derogatory name in order to annoy their rival fans or a name from the supporters themselves, keen to make the club their own, virtually all football teams have a nickname.

Team
Nickname

AFC Bournemouth
Nickname: The Cherries

Arsenal
Nickname: The Gunners

Aston Villa
Nickname: The Villans, The Villa, Villa

Brighton & Hove Albion
Nickname: The Seagulls, The Albion

Burnley FC
Nickname: The Clarets

Barnsley
The Tykes, The Reds

Birmingham City
The Blues

Blackburn Rovers
Rovers, The Blue and Whites, The Riversiders

Brentford
The Bees, The Reds

Bristol City
The Robins

Chelsea
Nickname: The Blues, The Pensioners

Crystal Palace
Nickname: The Eagles, The Glaziers

Cardiff City
Nickname: The Bluebirds

Charlton Athletic
Nickname: The Addicks, Red Robins, The Valiants

Derby County
Nickname: The Rams

Everton
Nickname: The Blues, The Toffees, The People's Club

Fulham
Nickname: Cottagers, Whites, Black and White army

Huddersfield Town
Nickname: The Terriers

Hull City
Nickname: The Tigers

Leeds United
Nickname: The Whites, United, The Peacocks

Luton Town
Nickname: The Hatters

Leicester City
Nickname: The Foxes

Liverpool
Nickname: The Reds

Manchester City
Nickname: The Citizens, City, The Sky Blues

Manchester United
Nickname: The Red Devils

Middlesbrough
Nickname: The Boro, Smoggies

Millwall
Nickname: The Lions (Formerly known as The Dockers)

Nottingham Forest
Nickname: Forest

Newcastle United
Nickname: The Magpies, Geordies

Norwich City
Nickname: The Canaries, Yellows

Preston North End
Nickname: The Lilywhites, PNE, The Whites, Preston, The Invincibles

Queens Park Rangers
Nickname: The Hoops, The Rs, QPR

Reading
Nickname: The Royals

Sheffield United
Nickname: The Blades, Red and White Wizards

Southampton
Nickname: The Saints

Sheffield Wednesday
Nickname: The Owls

Stoke City
Nickname: The Potters

Swansea
Nickname: The Swans

West Bromwich Albion
Nickname: The Baggies, The Throstles, Albion

Wigan Athletic
Nickname: The Latics

Watford
Nickname: The Hornets, The Golden Boys, Yellow Army, The 'Orns

West Ham United
Nickname: The Irons, The Hammers, The Academy Of Football

Wolverhampton Wanderers
Nickname: Wolves, The Wanderers

The ongoing registration for beneficiaries willing to serve as enumerators in the Agriculture for Food and Jobs Plan Programme which was initially restricted to N-Agro has been extended to both N-Health and N-Teach. This was made known by N-Power Lagos through their Facebook page.



All beneficiaries who are interested should rush and register before the close of registration at https://npagro.fmardpace.ng/agent/register.

Summit correct information to avoid disqualification and make sure you have an active email. A code will be sent to you through the email with which you will write an online test.

This is a difficult moment for N-Power beneficiaries as many are yet to receive their March and April stipends. In fact, as it stands at the moment, many beneficiaries do not know their fate in the programme. But with this development, N-Health and N-Teach beneficiaries have something to smile about.

We are calling on the Federal Government of Nigeria to look into the plight of N-Power beneficiaries. Neglecting them in this lock down period is wickedness of the highest order. Most of them have no other source of income. Since no palliative were given to them, they should be paid their stipends.


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Pls place this on the front page so that people can be aware of this development and benefit from it. Thanks

This days I see alot of bad things happening in marriages such as keeping malice, divorce, fighting, killing one's partner etc which at times I believe most couples don't know when to seek help outside. I decide to share this piece to help, it was written by LESLIE BECKER-PHELPS, a
Psychologist.

By the time most couples attend their first counseling session, they are far down the road toward irreconcilable differences. There are many reasons they wait so long. They think the problems aren’t really that bad and they can work it out. They tell themselves that time will take care of it. Life and responsibilities distract or get in the way of sincere efforts to work on the relationship. No matter the reason, the more distant or strained a relationship becomes, the harder it is to repair. So, if you recognize problems in your relationship, begin by asking yourself, How important is my relationship to me?

A good follow up question to consider is: How important is it for me to work on making my relationship strong and healthy? It is all too easy to let your relationship become the backdrop as you focus on attending to the many different facets of life. But if you value your relationship, it’s essential that you make a conscious effort to nourish it.

Do what you can to come together with your partner to address problems that arise, but know that there are times when you probably need the help of a therapist. Here are some of the most common signs that it’s time to seek counseling:


You don’t enjoy each other’s company.

There is a lack of affection. This might signal negative or hostile feelings. Or, it might reflect a lack of feeling.

You lead parallel lives. If you make attempts to connect, you still seem to miss each other.

You feel alone even when you are together.

Every little difference of opinion leads quickly to tension. Most attempts to discuss disagreements end in heightened conflict or avoiding each other. Both of you feel misunderstood and criticized.

You are defensive in each other’s company. Because you are primed to protect yourself, you are each quick to see negativity in your spouse’s comments.

You keep secrets. With a sense of distance or being at odds, you tend to avoid talking about much that is important. You might also lie about things you think your spouse would disagree with or hold against you.

You have thoughts of having an affair… or you are already involved in one. This includes emotional affairs. (In an emotional affair, you are not physically intimate, but you likely share personal experiences that you don’t share with your spouse. You also either don’t tell your spouse about the person, or you minimize their importance.)

You feel more like adversaries than a team. You may not care if they are upset, or you may even want to hurt them (most likely because of how much they’ve hurt you).

You don’t feel any warmth when you think of your spouse. This is true even when you reflect on your early days of dating and your wedding.

Your trust is broken. This is a tough one. Though you may feel that broken trust can never be repaired – such as after one of you has an affair – this is not necessarily true. Marital therapy has helped many couples regain trust, albeit slowly, and rebuild a relationship that’s stronger than ever.

You don’t respect your spouse and may even feel disdain for them. (At this point, even marriage counseling may not be able to revive your marriage – though you might still try it, if you are truly motivated).

If you notice any of these signs, it’s time to consider getting outside help. While marriage counseling is not a cure-all for relationships, it does offer a better chance at a happier future together.