₦airaland Forum

macof:
are yorubas poorer and more backwards than your people?

pertrokillert:
I have had relationships when i was younger and they were amazing back then, i got hurt in a few and i think this made me extremely bitter and lost desire for relationships for a while. Here is what crosses my mind when i think of marriage.

1. I will be doing all the cooking
2. i will be doing all he laundry
3. I will do be the one raising all the kids. (diapers, cleaning after them etc)
(the guy will want to find them cleaned up and looking good)
4. I will do all the cleaning in the house
5. I will have to support the guy emotionally.
6. If i need emotional support i should go to my girlfriends.
7. I will give the guy sex all the time
(even when most times i just want romance without sex)
8. I am supposed to look pretty for the man all the time.
9. the man will get a good reputation for having a wife and kids while i do all the giving.

What does the man bring to the table?? Let's say i also make my own money.

Sanchez01:
Well, I had a little experience recently in my home recently which taught me how hypocritical we can be as Nigerians. I, for one, have always been a fan of the slogan 'buy Naija to grow the Naira' even though the reform of the movement is quite new. Had to deliberately buy a classy Aba shoe (black, with rock solid soles ) to demonstrate my loyalty to the Naira cause. And am I proud of the pair? YES! On to the main story...

I recently broke my fridge door shelf bar refrigerator plastic tray rack(whatever that means, but that's what it's called all over ) while trying to smuggle a ball of cabbage into the lowest compartment of the fridge. 'Not again, I muttered.' This is the second broken rack. I threw the first away just because I was angry and I couldn't find time to fix it. All it needed was a glue but I wasn't just elated enough to think about it. Not with this, 'dead body no dey die twice', I consoled myself in my typical Urhobo mentality. There's no way I'm losing this rack. I just have to fix it

On Saturday (just last week), I took a stroll, on a quest to get a strong SUPER GLUE that could help restore the beauty of my fridge. The most expensive glue should be the strongest (this is my mentality on products and brands overtime and I am not thinking of changing this anytime soon. Quite, fallacious, i know). After walking for over 10 minutes, I got to a store. I think it is safer to break the conversation into the dialogue format for easier read.

Me: Good afternoon, Madam. (I just needed to speak the pidgin English since I don't understand the Igbo Language)
The Woman: Good afternoon
Me: Abeg, I wan buy super glue. Na how much?
The Woman: Na two types dey, oga. I get the one of #30 and the one of #60. Na which one you want.
Me: Make I see the two, abeg. (She went into the shop, found both and handed them to me). Abeg, give me two of this one (pointing to the #60 glue).

She got me another and I paid. I wasn't too convinced about what I bought and I kept staring at the glues while I walked away. In no time, I discovered that the glues were Nigerian made! 'This must be fake', I thought to myself. Worst still, Chukwudi and sons LTD (sic) manufactured it . Eh! 'For what?', I unconsciously asked myself. Without wasting time, I turned back towards the store I bought the glues from. Quite uneasy, I spoke up;

Me: Madam, this glue... (quite displeased)
The Woman: (Quite surprised) Wetin do am?
Me: (Ignoring her question) Abeg, give me another one if you get.
The Woman: (Still quite surprised) But this one too good na.

We argued back and forth a while while my eyes would run to the 'Chukwudi and sons LTD' at intervals. Finally, I gave up and left. She probably didn't understand why I returned, but to me, I wasn't going to walk for ten minutes only to pop water out of the tiny glue container. 'What if it bonds for a just a little time?', 'what if this, what if that...' kept racing through my mind. I clearly wasn't in the mood for some Nigerian version of what we are not prepared.

Long story short, the glue has held the rack back to the door of the fridge but I have been skeptical and worried for no just cause. Perhaps, it's because the product was made here in Nigeria.

I guess this is perhaps one of the reasons why we struggle with Nigerian-made products. We advocate for them online but would readily shy away from patronizing them all because we are unconsciously stereotyped into believing everything with 'made in Nigeria' inscription must be awful compared to its foreign counterparts. It's a wicked mentality and most of us are guilty of this. I just hope we learn to accept Nigerian-made products and trust them to function well.

Laveda:
you're trying to make it seem like we force ourselves on these men, hope you know that? no no no
You're not listening (comprehending)
You're just hearing what you want to
You don't force yourself
You also don't analyse the guy
You just start ticking what society says a reasonable husband is instead of waiting patiently for the bone of your bone
Talk dark handsome good job blah blah blah
The guy also does the same
And he will just say, let me manage dis one
At least she is presentable
Check prince charles
He married Diana because she was a blue blood
Not because he liked her
Why do you think guys pray to find wife when they are poor
So they are sure the girl likes them and not the other stuff
Same thing should be done by girls
Stop marketing irrelevant things if not that is what will deceive the guy
Marriage, sometimes is a mutual agreement between two people, yet still the man still goes out to cheat. yes
Agreement to pretend to society that all is hunky dory
I've seen men cheating on their wives who's got the full package, beautiful, smart with big boobs and ass, what will you say about that?

Laveda:
You obviously don't get it. no my dear
You don't get it
Or you're trying to say husbands cheat cause the wife got got fat they cheat because they are not getting whatever attracted them in the first place and she isn't smart? smartness can not diminish like looks Was he forced into marrying her? no but she could have chosen a better guy but prolly wanted ring by fire by force What has being smart got to do with it? I dunno
You're the one who keeps bringing it up Funny enough these men go out and sleep with the brainless ones out there. because they see what they like (physical or psychological that the wife is not providing) eg desire boob's asss whatever
If he likes his wife for those reasons he will like other women with same attributes


Go out there and ask some men, they'd tell you its for "fun" they've got no reason, [b] yes it's fun cos the wife is no longer fun, her fault for choosing a fun guy kinda like marrying an olosho (what you think will follow) [/b]not even lack of "friendship" between the husband and wife causes it, stop trying to justify it.

Laveda:
Now, does that make sense to you? No, the man wasn't forced into the marriage, he saw everything including her flaws and still agreed to marry her.

Why are you justifying cheating?

Pylony:
Go and sin no more

Pylony:
Abi! Then why complain if dominance speaks louder than loud speakers?

MrKrap:
only restructuring will save d economy, cos apart from dat, noting will work especially now dat d current govt is allegic to restructuring talkless of implementing 2014 national conference.
lets see how buari, who hates capitalism (economic system practised in economic power house like america, japan, china, singapore, south korea, taiwan, brazil, agentina, canada, germany, france, australia etc) will develop nigeria with his favorite system "feeding bottle economy" (socialism).

MrKrap:
why do u tink d reserve is under going serious depletion it was becos of buari's ungarded remarks about dollars, forex restrictions n lack of economic policy direction dat saw d con3 delisted from JP-morgan index group with foreign investors leaving in droves dat saw d economy lost $80 billion in d last one year.
if GEJ was in power today, he never would have wasted 6 months to appoint ministers n charge a new economic direction to deal with falling international oyel price. d naira will at most be at N250, thus d depletion of foreign reserves to defend d naira will not even arise.

jimbson:
Aboki.. Jst forgiv d babe joor. She has bin wit u for hw lng nw? Excpt u av bin pretendin to luv her anyways.

investnow2013:
You either have a Country that is fair & Competitive or You don't!

overall90:
It's not Buhari making.
It was done by the military constitution called the 1999 constitution where in land mass is one of the criteria used for fund sharing.
Just look at the the number of northern states earning more than the oil producing states ,add that to the number going to their many local governments and you have an idea of how this people have been siphoning all the oil wealth and yet some people keep talking about 13% derivation.

Dreal11247:
Though sexual looseness cannot be justified, the level of women indecent dressing is nauseating. I think something urgent needs to be done to curb the evil trend.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#9999ff] It's good.
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Yeah,i believe that.[/color]

Pylony:
Then who are those blasting music for a whole 3hours using out door mega-phones to cause nuisence as you put it?? And i don't tend to get you, who are you refering to being violent with a finger up a nose hole.

ba7man:
The best minds from all tribes are based in Lagos..... I believe.

They definitely can identify the right kind of leaders to protect their interest..........


Picture Fayose trying to gain popularity in Lagos with his stomach infrastructure...... he'll probably be sued to court and impeached eventually with such mediocre actions.

SamuelAnyawu:


There's no need wasting tax payers money in conducting a National Census....

A Local Government in Kano will surely be more populated than Imo and Anambra state


We need True Federalism

Every State should control it's resources.

pickabeau1:
just drop it...

pickabeau1:
mikolo80

its ok..

pickabeau1:
mikolo80

its ok..

bayelsaowei:
buhari is blocking one hole and his cronies are making more holes...wake up Mr man...

Ameachis men have over taken the same choppings of tompolo...buharis men are using millions of naira to cut grass...budget is been padded right left and center...

Don't act like you were born yesterday....

Buhari should focus on feeding the masses rather than his cronies under the cloak of useless corruption fight. ..
I agree with you but this man has been planning for 50 yrs so it's not now he will change
My own is half loaf is better than none
And no govt feeds it's ppl
Ppl should enter farm and build factories to feed themselves
At least the cronies share rice
What did PDP share
Chop alone die alone
That's politics
Ppl should enter farm

OrlandoOwoh:
If judges could take bribe, bet me, those in the jury system would do worse.

Amelian:
It's takes an idle lazy person to continuing replying demented goat like you. thank goodness you know you're lazy and idle
Why you have to buy husband
If u like insult yourself from now till next year. why will I insult mysel
I have home training

I don't fucvking care. yes you do
Why you keep replying even taking time to re spell cuss words
Very low quality woman
Yet you wonder why you can't find a man
My quiet only means, am not jobless like you.. I have better things to divert my energies to.. abi o
Like your vibrators and dildos
Soon you go turn lesbian
So keep on ranting.. me ke
I'm just advising your type to stop being foolish and looking for Wetin no loss
I don't care... I heard you the first time [/b]It's your time...[b] I get enough for dimwits like you that keep deceiving fellow ignoramuses like you Do whatever u like with it.. Keep insulting yourself till eternity. Chei this tin really pain you o . It's your choice. nope
It's yours
Just shut up and ask
We will tell you how to get good man

Note: don't stop ooo.. Fill up the pages .. Chei
Abeg o
No go commit suicide o
Oya sorry no vex
Ah before then say I bully you go commit

Am off to my dinner date.. Eat your heart out

bayelsaowei:
the 16 years people are still with the buhari but in a different party reason why we are stagnant..and with the mathematics f9 buhari we are sliding further down economically...

If buhari plans to build our economy with recovered loots then we are on a long thing..
not to rebuild but to block the holes if not APC will be worse than PDP

Besides his cronies are stealing us dry presently as we speak...
how
Where's the money to steal
But if he poshu PDP
It will force APC to work so that PDP will not get chance to probe them in return
Long term strategy
Abeg make the guy just focus on our economy...people dey hungry...