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I like orobo but lepa like me. Do I manage the lepa like that

onila:
girls get rejected too

pvssy
Boobs
Ass
Legs
Laps
And guys not any guy

AmazingM:
Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.

I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all. How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime.

It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it. In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.

I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action.

Thank you.

Marsnizz: 8:14am
Pls another thing is to put him on test like three time. the steps to follow are:
(1) Ask him to lend you some money like #5000 promising to pay back in one week time .watch his reaction. if he gives you the money without complain and conditions,collect and keep it making sure that at the elapse of the week promised to pay back,the money is return to him .Give him back and tell him thank you .Watch his reaction. If he refuse to collect it then persuade him to collect,telling him something like " I borrowed this money from you to pay back because I wasn't in position at that time so have it .I don't want to be a burden of responsibility " watch his actions carefully. If he insisted on you having the money freely with smile on his face without a frown then collect it and say thank you very much at most two time. Dancing accurately to this show signs of freewill
(2) secondly ask him to advice you that a friend is disturbing you to borrow her #15000,you have the money with you already but you are scared of letting it out but she was desperately in need. listen to his response. if he outrightly, stop you from assisting your friend that need help then put it in mind that he might not help your friends and family so easily.
(3) finally .Tell him you are confused,seeking an advice from him .That your small brother or sister is dragging with you,for the pomade that you used your money in buying,you don't like it and can't change the cream for another one to stop her because she also like it more than you. Be quiet and listen to his advice. If he advise you to leave the cream for her/him and buy same for yourself and stop dragging for one and in case, you can buy next, buy two of it .One for yourself and one for them .But if he advise you to stop anyone from using your belonging,your brother or sister as of that matter . know that this guy must be stingy and cannot easily sacrifice something for another person. Therefore, you should be logical about number 3 because it may sound to him as your family is too poor to the extend of sharing common cream .I mean if he don't know your family too well . make sure, you give a gap of weeks or month in between this three trials and you will come back to tell me thank you

Marsnizz:
Pls another thing is to put him on test like three time. the steps to follow are:
(1) Ask him to lend you some money like #5000 promising to pay back in one week time .watch his reaction. if he gives you the money without complain and conditions,collect and keep it making sure that at the elapse of the week promised to pay back,the money is return to him .Give him back and tell him thank you .Watch his reaction. If he refuse to collect it then persuade him to collect,telling him something like " I borrowed this money from you to pay back because I wasn't in position at that time so have it .I don't want to be a burden of responsibility " watch his actions carefully. If he insisted on you having the money freely with smile on his face without a frown then collect it and say thank you very much at most two time. Dancing accurately to this show signs of freewill
(2) secondly ask him to advice you that a friend is disturbing you to borrow her #15000,you have the money with you already but you are scared of letting it out but she was desperately in need. listen to his response. if he outrightly, stop you from assisting your friend that need help then put it in mind that he might not help your friends and family so easily.
(3) finally .Tell him you are confused,seeking an advice from him .That your small brother or sister is dragging with you,for the pomade that you used your money in buying,you don't like it and can't change the cream for another one to stop her because she also like it more than you. Be quiet and listen to his advice. If he advise you to leave the cream for her/him and buy same for yourself and stop dragging for one and in case, you can buy next, buy two of it .One for yourself and one for them .But if he advise you to stop anyone from using your belonging,your brother or sister as of that matter . know that this guy must be stingy and cannot easily sacrifice something for another person. Therefore, you should be logical about number 3 because it may sound to him as your family is too poor to the extend of sharing common cream .I mean if he don't know your family too well . make sure, you give a gap of weeks or month in between this three trials and you will come back to tell me thank you

cest fini

kennygee:
A lot of young men these days are just trying to Dodge their responsibility, shebi our grand dads and even some of our dads were sole providers, if you check, most of such marriages are still intact.

Young men want women who are not "liabilities" mostly because they want to eat their cake and have it.

I'm all for financial independence as a woman, but be sure you're not dating or planning a man who sees a lottery ticket in you.

Such men will abandon their financial obligations to you after marriage. My aunty dey suffer am now.

You want a woman to submit to you, love you, Cook for you, get pregnant, give birth, raise your kids and yet, you are demanding she shares ur financial obligations with you.

If a woman decides to help out in a marriage financially, its a choice, its not an obligation.

It is the man who is obligated to provide financially.

If the man is not married to you yet, pls look out for signs that he'd be able to take care of you and your kids when you're married.

Its when you're dating or courting that you should be able to enjoy the money and gifts of your partner because marriage is financially demanding.

Love is giving, i ain't saying women should be gold diggers, heck, women make their own money these days, I'm just saying just cause you have your money as a woman doesn't mean you should marry a stingy man.

You'd go broke marrying such a man.

I believe the reason there is a high rate of divorce these days is because women have become financially independent and can walk away from a marriage they are no longer tolerant of.

In the past, because woman no get means of trainimg her kids, ah go manage the marriage.

high rate of divorce because women choose wrong men out of desperation

imustsaymymindo:
If you want to recieve op, you have to give, that is the principle. For the fact you have no source of income does not mean you can't give him something. Give him qualitative time, give him attention, you can decide to cook his favourite meal for him, you can go to his house and take care of it for him. He would reciprocate by giving you something in return and not neccessarily money. Be contented with what you have @op.

If you are afraid that he may be the stingy type, find out how he gives to family, friends and strangers before you judge.

end of discussion

MaritzaNL:
The guy no even love am sef, if a guy love a girl, he will go extra miles to care for her.

Chei
And una husband go believe say dem get wife for house. May financial calamity not befall them cos na only moni una loyal to

Divay22:
But you'll admire a slay queen when you see one, is somebody not taking care of that queen you admire,will the heavens fall on you if you take care of your own for others to admire.
The truth is bitter, accept it..you're stingy..

My last reply to your mention.

why is slay queen poshuing me if she's happy with the maga. Go marry dem na make dem take una do ritual

Dasherz:
@ lawlahdey I don't think it's got anything to do with her resilience... shes not a random lady to him but a date of 3 years ... from the look of it the dude is just stuck up on spending or maybe he has a logic of not spending on a lady


OP .. I believe you should complain to him in the calmest manner possible, don't raise your voice at him and don't put up any fronting attitude .. just tell him this is what you want calmly and let him do the thinking

see pesin with sense

MhizzAJ:
She's trying her best nah at least she's not the demanding type..All she's asking for is a little bit of care.

The motive of some guys is just to take as much as they can from a lady.

what has he taken.
Make she go find dangote pikin maywe hia word

Safiaa:
Shes already said that he is comfortable and doing well for himself. If he doesn't have money, then thats understandable.

how do you know comfortable person. Does she know if his mother has cancer or kidney problem.no be by packaging o. Enough struggle de the land that guys will not say out loud

Ifakiland:
U from the east that they take care of and still use ur hubby money to fork around nko?
Igbo married woman and the easiest milfs to fork cos they married rich old bastards as hubbys

case in point

mikolo80:
we don't wait till we're old or steal money to marry.money will come but the womb clock will not wait for that time. And we don't marry underage girls

Adaumunocha:
Its you westerners that are championing this broke girls nonsense. Right from time we know you people don't take care of ladies. Very stingy set of people.

we don't wait till we're old or steal money to marry.money will come but the womb clock will not wait for that time. And we don't marry underage girls

Divay22:
Forget the idiot..
He's broke himself

so he's an idiot cos hes broke yet you that you're also broke is. ....

Kingkyle1:
Yes! Never going to do any Jack..

Toh
So long as its not that they 'can't ' then hope day even if na very slim hope

Adaumunocha:
Babe should look for something doing no matter how small. Never put your hope in man but in God.

Pls what are the pros of a stingy boyfriend.I will appreciate your reply

sledjama:
I remember when he started pushing the government back in 2014 to ban all cement producer not able to produce 42.5 grade cement just so he could further get some of his competitors out of business.

And trust the SON guys to rise to the occasion after receiving brown envelopes.

what were they too looking at. Dem no wan spend moni?

Kingkyle1:
Nice points you got there but most Nigerians don't know and those who know can't do a bleep while those responsible and capable to check mate this are not concerned because they know their own gain.

won't do bleep you mean

dominique:
I doubt if Nigerians can get this daring. The highest we'll probably go is body tattoo and multiple piercings

that's what we said about porn and suicide bombing

just imagine pumping 26 billion dollars into private power generation instead of buying iPhone and building non inhabited houses

biacan:
Woman beater spotted

only gold diggers get beaten

Nightwolf1:
Fulani herdsmen don pursue me

pursue them back

Nightwolf1:
How this one take reduce price of garri I don't know

you better enter farm

biacan:
You owns her alot

even wife is not owned. she can leave anytime she's tired of me

biacan:
She owns you nothing

neither do I

biacan:
Don't ever call your girlfriend a hoe

not if she behaves like one

biacan:
Never you in your life call your girlfriend a hoe

why not
if she behaves like one she will be labelled accordingly

land boku
they will farm by forced
only need about 365 heaps to feed
or we kill our selves fighting over resources
hit the reset button

biacan:
Then why are you complaining

me I don't complain
I don't spend on hoes
I'm devils advocating

inkdbetty:
I get where y'all are coming from sha, we're just saying that you don't take it like we owe you something.

you do o

She no wan gree follow you enter bed, free am.

nobody likes being taken for a fool
if she no wan enter bed make she no collect moni

Shey, you say na form she dey form, she'll come around.

ah no o
she go de feel she Don catch maga

If you want to be nice, be nice.

who nice epp
we want ponyor

You want to spend on a girl, spend because you like the girl.

we like her ponyor

Its the same thing as taking a sex worker for the night, might as well do that instead.

no it isn'
sex worker doesn't want it and we want to believe you like us instead you fool us. no o
we no o gree

Sex workers plenty wey dey find customer.

have you heard their prices

If you spend on a woman, do it because you like am. If she insults you, insult am back my brother.

who insult epp
na ponyor be d koko

Don't do and look petty mbok, as if you spent all your money on her. Show say you fit carry anybody wey you want. No be only her dey.

the point is we can't afford to carry anybody. money no reach and bodi no be wood. it's very painful to be 419ed

biacan:
but you're after a slay queen why do you want to slay them......come spend on me lemme advice you on how to make the next millions

abeg come advise me o
I no run

but yes she must be slain
Shebi she wan slay

biacan:
but you're after a slay queen why do you want to slay them......come spend on me lemme advice you on how to make the next millions

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