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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Pheals(f): 10:06am On Oct 13, 2017 |
vanhelsing1:u don't compare unrelated stories... the guy should be the one to call... if what op said was right... although some gals if u spend millions on them they will still leave u for a brat.. but the op may not complain if she is working... she wrote... he doesn't care! |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by vivalavida(m): 10:08am On Oct 13, 2017 |
Ifakiland: #IConcur with this. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by cristianisraeli: 10:12am On Oct 13, 2017 |
captain247: free yourself from that kind of thought unless you will end up following the wrong man..all that glitters aint gold.. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by lhanreyhybee(m): 10:13am On Oct 13, 2017 |
It's simple. Guys are not the same. I'm sure he's wondering why you're not asking too. You love him and you know he loves you too.. don't break up. Start asking him the basic needs and don't let that other girl that's asking keep winning okay. Be good |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by vivalavida(m): 10:16am On Oct 13, 2017 |
You all shouldn't blame the guy for being stingy. You don't know his experiences with ladies. I once dated one broke chic and loved her like mad. All she needed to ask and I transfer money to her. If her data finishes, I sub for her without asking. One day we had a messy quarrel and this chic opened her mouth to say what have I done for her sef? That I have not done anything compared to what others are doing. That was the day my eyes opened. We broke up and I moved on with another girl. I have been drilling this one now by not spending again like I did this time and if she continues being the good girl I have seen,I will open the flood gates of heaven by December and propose to her next year cause she have been able to still love me sincerely without my spending much on her. What of the other babe? This August she called me up begging me in the name of God and friendship to borrow her 3k to pay the upper week. I collected that money back but it was the first week of October that she could pay 3k back. So make una leave that guy man alone. You don't know his story 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by mikolo80: 10:18am On Oct 13, 2017 |
AmazingM:Marsnizz: 8:14am Pls another thing is to put him on test like three time. the steps to follow are: (1) Ask him to lend you some money like #5000 promising to pay back in one week time .watch his reaction. if he gives you the money without complain and conditions,collect and keep it making sure that at the elapse of the week promised to pay back,the money is return to him .Give him back and tell him thank you .Watch his reaction. If he refuse to collect it then persuade him to collect,telling him something like " I borrowed this money from you to pay back because I wasn't in position at that time so have it .I don't want to be a burden of responsibility " watch his actions carefully. If he insisted on you having the money freely with smile on his face without a frown then collect it and say thank you very much at most two time. Dancing accurately to this show signs of freewill (2) secondly ask him to advice you that a friend is disturbing you to borrow her #15000,you have the money with you already but you are scared of letting it out but she was desperately in need. listen to his response. if he outrightly, stop you from assisting your friend that need help then put it in mind that he might not help your friends and family so easily. (3) finally .Tell him you are confused,seeking an advice from him .That your small brother or sister is dragging with you,for the pomade that you used your money in buying,you don't like it and can't change the cream for another one to stop her because she also like it more than you. Be quiet and listen to his advice. If he advise you to leave the cream for her/him and buy same for yourself and stop dragging for one and in case, you can buy next, buy two of it .One for yourself and one for them .But if he advise you to stop anyone from using your belonging,your brother or sister as of that matter . know that this guy must be stingy and cannot easily sacrifice something for another person. Therefore, you should be logical about number 3 because it may sound to him as your family is too poor to the extend of sharing common cream .I mean if he don't know your family too well . make sure, you give a gap of weeks or month in between this three trials and you will come back to tell me thank you 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by eboiga(f): 10:27am On Oct 13, 2017 |
Stinginess is a big turn off. He is spending his money on somebody else. Do not hesistate to leave him. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Sanctecosma(m): 10:33am On Oct 13, 2017 |
Divay22: You nailed it. Just be contented... |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by 400billionman: 10:59am On Oct 13, 2017 |
AmazingM: Are you saying that in the past three years, he has never gifted you N10,000 or N20,000 even if in bits, in form of GIFT or CASH ? |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Cutiekatty: 11:00am On Oct 13, 2017 |
LifeofAirforce: You don't spend much,meaning at least you do spend a little on her. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by newslifeop: 11:05am On Oct 13, 2017 |
They wont |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by 400billionman: 11:07am On Oct 13, 2017 |
pocohantas: Gbam.. John 3:16. For God so LOVED the world, that he GAVE...... Anybody who doesn't give willingly is still a learner. Giving of TIME, KNOWLEDGE, HELP, lastly MONEY. But some people too selfish to understand. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by vanhelsing1(m): 11:11am On Oct 13, 2017 |
Pheals:ma friend ...plss dont compound issues here..i have alredy givin d OP posibilities dat could mek his fiance act like dat. either he is very stingy or something else. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by LifeofAirforce(m): 11:12am On Oct 13, 2017 |
Cutiekatty:Yep I do 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by kizyalex10(m): 11:19am On Oct 13, 2017 |
Blackhawk01:3 years nd for d blue moon,i mean simple subscription,besides ur tone is harsh,i gave an example with myself nd didn't force u to believe or continue,u re d person who is wearing d shoe,so u knw if u continue or not.thanks |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by gemale(m): 11:22am On Oct 13, 2017 |
AmazingM:I don't want to sound harsh but let me be very blunt with you. Truth is bitter but it is far better & beneficial than lies. Your sense of entitlement is very disturbing. Is being in a relationship a job that you feel you are entitled to financial compensation? What service are you rendering or what commodity are you selling that you feel it is your right to get money from that man? What law demands that he provides for your basic needs? He isn't your parent or guardian & you aren't his wife yet. Please drop that attitude. Look at the the things you say you need money for;recharge card & other frivolities. You are young, educated, healthy & agile. Yes, the current economic situation is terrible but look for something to do no matter how small instead of expecting a man to shoulder your welfare. Don't get me wrong. It is good to spend on someone you are in relationship with & IMO if 1 who claims to love someone is stingy to them, that love is questionable but to feel offended because a man doesn't give you money & consider ending things because of that portrays you as greedy, materialistic & lazy. Any money he gives you is a favour not a right. Therefore, the attitude you should have is if he gives you, good; if he doesn't give you, good. Go & learn something no matter how small (fixing nails, making hair, makeup, selling recharge card, frying puff puff, making zobo etc) that can give you little change as you are searching for work. Who knows if he can even help you with money to learn or provide capital after you have learnt to start your own business? Once again, sorry if I sounded harsh but the way I would tell my own good friend is how I've told you. God bless you. 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Ogbiko247(f): 11:24am On Oct 13, 2017 |
Teasting a lady for three years?A man that can't spend a Daim on you while on courtship for three years,will certainly not spend on you after marriage. On ur own. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by aribisala0(m): 11:25am On Oct 13, 2017 |
Grasping hungry kerosene users are a a big turn off. Must he spend on you? WHAT IS IT THAT YOU ARE SELLING?? Why can't YOU spend on him? Why not develop yourself . Do you imagine Ngozi Okonjo Iweala is waiting for her husband to spend on her The mind set is totally off. A man is not there to take financial responsibility for you. All that talk of gifts is just an alibi.get gifts for yourself. I finished with Nigerian women years ago. They are almost always a liability and they cannot even do properly. They like food too much and are always overweight |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Blackhawk01: 11:27am On Oct 13, 2017 |
kizyalex10: My tone wasn't harsh, you read too much meaning to it. I only asked simple questions. Half is better than none. It isn't even the cash involved that matters but the fact that you care enough to give her anything at all. When a man loves, true love oooo, he wants to protect and provide for his own no matter how little. It's just the way you guys are. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by kizyalex10(m): 11:41am On Oct 13, 2017 |
Blackhawk01:alright d give I do most times Is hardly cash,like subscribtion,if I ask her while she is nt chatting maybe she will say her sub,expired,not that she can't do it but I will do it bfor she does.well she is from a comfortable family.distance haven't slowed us down a bit.my dear,let me nw advice u,every man has its own problem.if u re a regular on this forum,sometime last week,a woman said she divorced her husband who is very nice nd romantic to her nd even provide for her because he has a little manhood.some quit because their husband has so much sexual urge,some quit because of domestic violence,some quit because of cheating.but some people still live with these set of people,nd their marriage goes on,because they understand that no man is perfect including them,they might jump out from frying pan Nd enter fire.would u rather start a new relationship again nd after building it for so long,u still find out another fault from him?nd u want to run?hw long will u continue. Datz it.no marriage is perfect.nt bed of roses,every marriage has a cross,so u carry it.some women re cheats,psycological abusers,naggers.but some men who re man enough endure while some jump ship.nd sometimes they re lucky but must times they meet d worst. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by donqx: 11:44am On Oct 13, 2017 |
not these young ladies of nowadays whom are widely exposed and has nothing |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Uhomanbulus110(f): 11:55am On Oct 13, 2017 |
My dear sister if u still love him just be patience maybe he will change just keep on pray for him or pray to God to give you a man that really deserve you i wish you well |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by gemale(m): 11:56am On Oct 13, 2017 |
Adaumunocha:Haa! Responsibility? Is that what you think? It's your boyfriend's responsibility to take care of you? Can't you take care of yourself? Isn't it your responsibility as an adult to take care of yourself? It should get to a point in 1's life where asking for handouts becomes embarrassing. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Gentlevin: 12:16pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
vivalavida:My guy u said d truth...some people just type thrash because they have not experienced shit from some babes...I once had a lovely babe I wanted to marry. Whenever I visit her, I buy things for and also for all her siblings plus mama and papa. I even opened bank acct for her and do make transfers to her. But today where is she? 6yrs friendship/relationship gone and she feels I did nothing, sometimes purposely ignoring me for 2months wit no reason . And now d @op is here saying her guy is stingy.......I have vowed that d next babe I will date, I won't spend on her except to buy only airtime for her. I will spend after I have married her...........Many babes value their "true love" only after they have successfully lost their "true love" to another babe that value him |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Toyindiva(f): 12:48pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
[quote author=Esepayan post=61368287] Look Here MR man it is not about been lazy here ok, some men are born like that before you date a guy if he is not treating you right or treating you like a piece of thrash you leave that relationship, caring matters a lot in a relationship cz, it spice it up, and please am not a dumb ass you are the dumb ass here, I guess you dnt treat your woman right that is why you are quoting me smh. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Toyindiva(f): 12:50pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
[quote author=Esepayan post= Look Here MR man it is not about been lazy here ok, some men are born like that before you date a guy if he is not treating you right or treating you like a piece of thrash you leave that relationship, caring matters a lot in a relationship cz, it spice it up, and please am not a lazy ass you are the lazy ass here, I guess you dnt treat your woman right that is why you are quoting me smh. [/quote] |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Toyindiva(f): 12:56pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
Esepayan:Look Here MR man it is not about been lazy here ok, some men are born like that before you date a guy if he is not treating you right or treating you like a piece of thrash you leave that relationship, caring matters a lot in a relationship cz, it spice it up, and please am not a lazy ass you are the lazy ass here, I guess you dnt treat your woman right that is why you are quoting me smh. [/quote] (Modify) (Quote) (Report) (Share) |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by tylesh(f): 12:59pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
tosyne2much:Word! 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by aribisala0(m): 1:06pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
Caring means giving money If a Nigerian woman says a man is "CARING" it has only one meaning So please tell me How do we know a woman is "caring" Hungry nonentities everywhere 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Joy1706(f): 1:20pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
Ifakiland:You need help. Your bitterness is choking me |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Ifakiland(m): 1:32pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
Joy1706:I hope u choke out then, one less broke ass gal to worry about |
Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by vivalavida(m): 1:33pm On Oct 13, 2017 |
Gentlevin: No mind them. It is easy to call someone stingy |
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