₦airaland Forum

Profperfect:
Men! Am broken right now . Like I know shits I have endured , covered , forgiven this lady , not to talk of once my lecturer visited our lodge(room) on going outside to get something in few minutes before I got back , they were already on it. She denied but later agreed cause I almost caught them red handed. The lecturer after like a year called me and confessed that his heart is troubling him that am a good person , that I should forgive him , which I did but each time I see him I remember, she has caused me pains , accusing me of not trusting her but she is actually the one doing things to break my trust fir her daily , tell me how do I trust this kind of a person ,

must you Marry this lady ?

grop1040:
Hi guys,

Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife.

So I'm 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.

He's bossy and very vulgar plus he's controlling, everybody knows him for that, he was married 13 years ago, however after his family relocated to the USA, he later found
out that his 3kids aren't his, the marriage ended like that, ever since then he's been traumatized, emotionally and any other way one can describe him as. Sometimes in order to at least feel that children presence around him, he would ask me to have my children come over to his place for some days, and I could witness how that really helped him over time, but then I noticed the absence of his wife started making him familiarize with my wife in certain odd manners which I was not really down with.

For example, if he comes to our house, most times comes around with a friend, either female or male, my wife seems not to be the attache type who would sit with us in the living room, she will rather be upstairs in the room, I have witnessed cases where he will shout at her, saying how can everybody be here and ur there upstairs?

There was even a time when one of the visitors he came with sighed and made face in a way that defined, wow, "was that necessary". Or times when he will ask her to cook stew for her, if she forgets or probably didnt want to do it because she knew it isnt her duty, she will be yelled upon, you'll here things like, where
is the egusi i told u to make, even the one you made last time, u didnt put enough this and that

Now yall might think am a dullard or a simp, or someone too relaxed as gentle and as patient as I am, I be original demon, if I start my madness, the result will end in eternal damage, and our family background from my mums side where this my brother was born, we tend to uphold unity over adversity, so when things like this occur, mum would rather have us calm and not fight so unity can continue.

So sometimes last year, the major issues started grooming that made me start to think if there was something going on with my step and my wife, it started with when the kids were with him, so madam and I were suppose to go for outing, so we decided to branch at his place to check up on the kids, on getting there while in his living room, he said to my wife "I like your hair" she responded thanks, he was like are u guys going out, I was like yea am taking her out, next thing she asked my madam, so when are we going on
our own outing? I shrugged and didnt understand where that came from, though she didnt answer him.

While we were leaving, I was waiting for her to bring up the topic and put it to me that why did ur brother say such a thing, even if its a joke, its too expensive, but she didnt, I brought up the topic, and she was like shes surprised too that she never thought he would say such a thing.

5 days later, we had a family party in his house, my other brothers, cousins and my mum, my children were there, while the
caterer were cooking outside, and we were all in his living room drinking, he opted to get some meat to dish and give everybody to at least be chewing something, he served it round but when it got to my wives turn, the one he already bit off from was what he gave her, funny thing is, it was only my mum and myself that saw the scene, my wife was not aware, that was when I knew something could be going on.

Afterwards, I put the ish through to my wife, she acted disgusted and said she cant blv he would do such, that although my mum already called her to say the same thing. So I asked details of what she discussed with my mum, she said my mum advised her that whenever he calls her, she shouldnt pick, that when he knows its obvious that shes avoiding his call, he probably would want to report to her, and then she will now break the silence of what she my wife have been experiencing with him thus her refusal to pick his call.

So I called my mum and I was like being calm, patient and cooperating with the useless policy of the family doesnt mean that the recent things happening won't seat any longer with me, that am gonna have to confront him and put him in his place. My mum begged me and begged, cos she's 76 years old, I considered and I had no choice but to cooperate with her advise.

The funny thing is, after this whole ish, I asked her that if he calls, will you pick, she answered yes I will, but I will have to see what he has to say first to know if I will continue the conversation or not, I was like for real? You must be kidding me, it means something that I am not suppose to know of is happening, she was like oh well its ur fault, why didn't u confront him instead of listening to ur mums advise.

Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup.

Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening
that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.

stoping the children from visiting him should be your first step of stamping your authority over your own household. If he wants children, let him remarry.

MikoB:
Actually it is against the convention rules that a contestant should mount the podium twice after his or her opening remark, this was exactly what Tambuwal did, he made his opening remark and he also came back again to ask his delegates to vote Atiku, but where technicalities will come in is that, how would wike differentiate the number of delegates that voted Atiku that were meant to vote Tambuwal in the first place? The best that can happen with this case is for the Judge to annul the convention in totality, since the actors did not follow the lay down rules.

AMOSUN and a few others did so during APC convention too

Antihypocrite:
Thoughts of suicide have been crossing my mind today. I really need help

Craze dey worry you, suicide thoughts over 320k debt. What would you do if you are crippled ?

Tylergee12:
Please holla me when him respond. I they learn from the thread . Thanks

quote author=miqos02 post=115300667] senior man, when do these universities accept new intakes ?

hahhahaha, we plenty.

Chinjo2:
So only you ate two loads of bread. But sorry to ask. Are you a bricklayer?

even a 12 year old won't be satisfied with those two loaves of bread talkless an adult

A lot of sacrifices are required, can we afford it ? Both leaders and masses

Zonefree:
The Muslim Muslim ticket is another factor that will work against APC in Lagos state.

I doubt if APC will get up to 200K votes in Lagos come 2023.

you mean Lagos has less than 200k Muslims ? Let's stop this joke already

Kly003:
Studies remains the best and valid way here bro... It takes 5 years to get your PR...

Good enough as a student, you have access to quality office jobs.

Poland system also allows student to work as you are eligible without a work permit, your student status makes you eligible and you can work full time. Yeha full time.

Unlike other countries where your studies is limited to 20 hours a week.

Language is the greatest shortcoming in Poland, but seem to be the greatest advantage.

senior man, when do these universities accept new intakes ?

thorpido:
Congrats to her.

Some things don't just gel with me sha.......wearing sneakers with suit. .....I know it's a trend.

a celebrity or rich person won't be questioned when their dressing seem awkward

mrvitalis:
People in cities , middle class care for this people most of the time , we provide for them ...so we would take the massage to them

Christmas provide a perfect opportunity to take the massage to the villages

I agree with you

mrvitalis:
We may see a rerun a rerun between tinubu and obi would see tinubu win

A return between obi and atiku would see obi win

A rerun between tinubu and atiku atiku would win

how will obi will rural areas? Don't forget that's where the big deal is. Most voters there are illiterates.

mrvitalis:
The numbers don't add up ...net vote is more important than total vote ooh

Tinubu would win south west say by a margin of +1.5 million ( highly unlikely APC won with +500k )
Would lose south south with -1.5 million minimum
Would lose south east with -3 million minimum ...that's -3 million net down south

No body can win middle belt with +1 million ...no body so let's give him +500k ...north east he would lose by -500k minimum
Can he win north west by + million ...with atiku and kwankwaso ?

with this your analysis, who do you think will win ? We may likely see a second round of elections.

RIP

bigcee:
"Nigerian girls are useless.....All of them"

your mum , sisters and female folks in your family too right ?

IboHausaYoruba:
Nigerians, let's learn to follow man that knows the road. Enough of Muslims taking us for granted. Tinubu has dared us by choosing a Muslim deputy, let's speak through our votes. Our fathers in the faith have spoken, Oyedepo, Johnson Suleiman, Enenche etc and CAN generally. The battle line has been drawn. If the over 28 million Christians in the North can cooperate with all the Christians in the South and pull our weights behind Peter Obi, then we are sure of winning. It is simple but requires dedications and focus. I AM OBIDIENT.

this is sadly not possible in Nigeria's present day politics.

what's your point ?

Solosolojohquay:
She is black forget all those Indian film there are many brown skin indian all those Bollywood actress and actor passes through a long casting and audition process.

you can marry low key and delay child birth

victooman:
Good day nairalanders,,
l met a beautiful and excellent girl during my Nysc, honestly she is everything l need in a woman,
We finish our service last year and started life in Abuja, she live with her sister and doing her own business while l live alone in the same town,, The problem now is that this girl mother is already pressurizing her for marriage,, she is 27 yrs and the mother is already making her looks like she is too old for marriage,, yesterday she came to my house looking all moody and worried,, when l enquired she told me her mom is asking her when the man she is dating will come home for introduction,, l took my time to explain things to her,we can't go into any marriage without been financially stable,l have a business l am running and l am looking at stability of that business in 3-4yrs time,,l told her l wont give you any specific date on when to come see her people ,,but l assured her if she stick with me God knows l wont think of any other woman during marriage,,, she told me her plan is to get married at 25yrs and l told her things dont always work out the way we plan them,, honestly l dont want to lose this girl and l also dont want to rush anything,, what do l do nairalanders...

i agree with you, so the police officer may be right to call the police on them

Midastorch:
Their obstruction of the road can lead to death of someone going on an emergency treatment, some people are going for business transactions might just lose that deal that will change their lives forever, A student might be in that traffic going for exams, pls let us start thinking with our heads and eschew emotional judgements online, Have a great day sir

oluwaseyi0:
Yet you comfortably avoid mentioning their offense

he said obstruction of traffic

LibertyRep:
The Apostle should be discreet and discerning of subtle scam.

It's his money anyways.

Good luck to the would be beneficiaries

he is also helping his own ministry

wonder233:
Advert.
Before you feel oppressed, please know this is the new creative way brands advertise. They get celebrities with huge following to put it out there that they just acquired the brand and go ahead to do detailed showing of the brand. It is a marketing strategy, long being used by top brands

you mean the celebrity wont pay for the car and still drive it home?

EdemIboro:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/entertainment/nollywood/543391-veteran-actress-sola-onayiga-kitchen-practical-is-dead.html

rest in peace madam

sleek214:
The meeting didn't go well, that's why baba didn't or hasn't said anything. Maybe baba bluntly told them that they can't win any state

he can't afford to rubbish his name again, he supported ATIKU in 2019 and ATIKU lost even though the PDP was a strong party then. If you are in his shoes at this time, you will do same.

Built2last:
Look at this map below and tell me why APC will win in this election


Tinubu has insulted all sensible Christians

Tinubu, Kwankwaso and Atiku will share votes

Let's see how it goes.

you need to also consider the population of each state sir. Don't forget Lagos is locked down for tinubu. We don't need to argue that, you know he will use all available machinery to ensure that even though Lagos is governed by a Christian. Lets deal with real statistics here and no insults

Gistsme1:
Latest song in Osun. Electorates collected APC, BAT's 10,000 money for Agbado & Cassava but voted Adeleke.

Video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qysxN0eTMbs

https://www.instagram.com/tv/CgG7C9Jjnvb/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

a video of 1:10 seconds, I heard your voice for more than half of that duration. is it really necessary ?

harmony75:
She's be scarce in public so sad � rest in peace ma'am �

I guess she has been ill

sonofElElyon:
Kemi Nelson is dead. Died at the age of 66 years

https://punchng.com/former-apc-women-leader-kemi-nelson-is-dead/?amp

strong woman, rest in peace .


Na she slap Lagos female commissioner one time like that.

Cognitivereason:
lol...am not sure you know what you are saying...there is no chinese contractor building anything on lagos ibadan expressway..
no dey yarn nonsense

I made a mistake, the other company is RCC

Cognitivereason:
no dey yarn nonsense..
no chinese company ..even CCECC doesnt beat julius berger..

oga, have you passed the other stretch handled by the Chinese company ? There are no complaints about that. Only Julius Berger own has issues. Before you respond, note that I pass through this road daily. So I will show you proof of you need.

ajayiopy:
YOU KNOW WHY FG FIND IT DIFFICULT TO CONTROL THESE CONTRSCTORS? EVERYONE DON COLLECT KICKBACK.
AM A VENDOR TO UNICEF,ONCE YOU ARE GIVEN A JOB. NO MOBILIZATION,YOU LOOK FOR YOUR FUND , BUILD TO THE SPECIFICATION GIVEN,WRITE YOUR INVOICE AND YOU GET PAID.
WITH THAT YOU WILL FOLLOW EVERYTHING TO THE LETTER.

still not an excuse to do shady job

ogododo:
https://punchng.com/lagos-ibadan-motorists-slam-julius-berger-over-open-bridge-joints/

that nonsense company, even Chinese companies are better than them. They love the traffic hold ups the create. Nonsense