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Celebrities / Re: Watch The Royal Wedding Live, See Pictures From The Wedding And, Comment Here by MissyB2: 1:42pm On Apr 29, 2011 |
Did I hear a poor man say money isn't everything? |
Celebrities / Re: Watch The Royal Wedding Live, See Pictures From The Wedding And, Comment Here by MissyB2: 1:41pm On Apr 29, 2011 |
Buckingham Palace, where the wedding procession route begins. |
Education / Re: Sex education is immorality teaching in disguise. by MissyB2: 2:54pm On Oct 16, 2010 |
donobi:Yes o. A personal experience that is trivial to this issue but somewhat related to it. Something happened in school someday and I was crying. Friends came around to soothe me. Some offered cigarettes, saying it would help me calm down but without stress, I turned it down. Reflecting on it now, had I not been previously informed of the seeming pleasure derived from smoking and the disadvantages, I probably would have accepted it because I just newly discovered one of its 'advantages' - it would make me calm- and that's how I would have continued lighting sticks of cigarettes each time I'm not happy and from 1 stick, 2 and 3 and 4 and 5 and then, I become an addict, regardless I've always known of its disadvantages. But because I've always known of its advantages and disadvantages, and that its disadvantages exceed its 'advantage(s)', what they said - It would make me calm - wasn't new to me, and that made it easier for me to turn it down with ease. Teach them everything. The gain and the pain. It helps. |
Education / Re: Sex education is immorality teaching in disguise. by MissyB2: 2:30pm On Oct 16, 2010 |
Meddler:I daresay it's more than that. Sex Edu. involves everything about sex. Everything that has to do with sex must be taught. The area you fail to teach, she would learn from friends and you know how risky that is. However, everything cannot be taught at once but gradually. Taking the female child as an example here - At age 12, when the child begins to adolesce, you could lecture her on how to ignore/turn down and report sexual advances made at her. You can't stop there. You have to tell her why she should, the possible outcome of failing to do so etc. Failure to touch these areas would leave her more curious than she was, previously and cause her to seek more knowledge from peer groups [God help, if she meets the wrong person or learns through practicals]. At 15, when she's more prone to fall victim to peer pressure and no longer a mummy's girl [ the mummy-says-i-shouldn't-do-that-and-that girl] - she's now beginning to form her own values and have a mind of her own- one can now explain, not necessarily profoundly, the pleasure [Like, Its [sex] main purpose is for procreation, and only husband and wife are supposed to engage in it, it's a beautiful thing ordained by God but can cause a lot of disaster if engaged in, before marriage. it's not for kids your age blah blah] and introduce the idea of condom. When she's 17,18, one can now go into full details- inform her of the inevitability of sex urge, and of course, the possibility of overcoming it. Teach the use of condoms, pills, abortion etc but always be on the anti-side of it. In a way that, you teach abstinence and preventive measures at same time. While emphasizing more on abstinence. Why is it necessary to inform them of the pleasure and seeming advantage(s) of the things you ask them not to do at that age? One of the reasons is, it helps them deal with lures, better. Teach them of the disadvantages alone and when they get informed of the pleasure part by friends, they would be thrilled at the new discovery, and most likely curious to try it out. |
Education / Re: Sex education is immorality teaching in disguise. by MissyB2: 11:46pm On Oct 15, 2010 |
bawomolo:Like I always say, each parent has his/her [explicitly or implicitly] defined roles. It's general awareness that when it comes to intimate issues like this, especially with female kids, the mother does the observation and teaching. She can later discuss it with father, in private. Mothers teach female kids how to handle menstrual cycle, ignore sexual advances made at them, etcetera. Hardly does a father do these things, when there's a mother. Kids just tend to be more 'open' and 'free' with mothers. That's how it is. bawomolo:'Include' is the word. Sex education includes those aspects and more. It's a very delicate subject, not everyone can teach it, as it should be taught- The reason I opine it's best taught [first] at home. There's no need refusing to talk to the child about sex pleasure. Every area must be touched- The pleasure, the pain, the inevitable urge, the possibility of overcoming that urge etc. It's only understandable that I fear, having my kid learn about sex [esp. the pleasure part] from just any person [how am i sure he/she isn't passing the wrong info across, or presenting the issue in a wrong manner, like making fun out of it] and in the midst of young minds, ready to try out everything. I, as a mother, have to lay the foundation first. It's my responsibility. DakANGEL:Nor I. |
Food / Re: The Official Nairaland Kitchen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by MissyB2: 5:08pm On Oct 15, 2010 |
Meet me in the bedroom, for your meal. |
Education / Re: Sex education is immorality teaching in disguise. by MissyB2: 2:19pm On Oct 15, 2010 |
It depends on how the teaching is done. Preach the importance of condom in case abstinence is impossible, without making it seem you're encouraging them to have s[i]e[/i]x because ''with condoms, you're safe''. I think sex education should be done by mothers [at least, it should start from home] not school. It's risky having your child learn from school or peer group, for fear of misinformation. I can't trust my child with any other person, on that subject. |
Food / Re: The Official Nairaland Kitchen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by MissyB2: 1:38pm On Oct 15, 2010 |
Thanks for the appreciation, Darl. Just holla at me whenever you're hungry. |
Romance / Re: Give Me Beauty Or Get Out Of My Sight! by MissyB2: 9:30am On Oct 15, 2010 |
I tell you - Iice is strange. Werrin concern you with pesin feet and hands? omo_to_dun:I'm so dead! Rotfl Don't we all love them handsome/beautiful? I'm a fan of Fine Face too. . . . .I mean, why should I settle for less? Something's got to attract your attention before you get close to them and begin to notice their good qualities. That thing that attracts me, most times, is either looks and/or their knowledge [judging from their words]. When I decide to settle down, he must be Fine. Not necessarily drop-dead handsome but, at least, an 'okay' face. I wouldn't want to regret or cheat. |
Education / Re: Your Bizarre Experiences In Boarding School by MissyB2: 11:16pm On Oct 14, 2010 |
oyb:Noooooooooooooooo You so know about those dayz. Some used Geisha [Is that what they call it?] but I prefer and used sardine. I always try as much as possible not to allow others know what i'm preparing, 'cause I never want to share. Chei! See me remembering those good 'ol dayz. |
Food / Re: The Official Nairaland Kitchen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by MissyB2: 10:57pm On Oct 14, 2010 |
E consain You? |
Education / Re: Your Bizarre Experiences In Boarding School by MissyB2: 10:49pm On Oct 14, 2010 |
oyb:You did that too? I also did. Soak it in cold water for 30 minute. Chei! |
Education / Re: Your Bizarre Experiences In Boarding School by MissyB2: 4:26pm On Oct 14, 2010 |
iice:I remember the washing of toilets and ironing of uniforms when there isn't light. Mehn! It reminds me of one of my bad days in the hostel. During one of the hols, I saw a senior student close to my house - She was with a dude. I was so excited, I started shouting her name ''Senior Pat'' [God help you if you called them by their name, within and outside school compound] while walking fast to meet her. She gave me a faint smile and asked how I was doing. After replying with the famous ''Fine, thank you'', I asked her ''You? how are you?'', she didn't answer. We greeted and went our separate ways. On the first day of resumption, I heard some1 shouting ''**Missy**, at the count of 10, i want to see you crawling to my corner- 1, 2, 5, 7, 8, 9and1/2, [that's the usual way they count]. I started crawling. Unfortunately i didn't make it to her corner b4 the mention of 10. Punishment x2. After interrogating and accusing me of disrespecting her by asking her ''how are you'', and not obeying her count, i was given 2 dirty toilets to wash. I was so sad 'cause i didn't think I was wrong. While washing the toilet i started crying and growling - ''In my house, no one treats me this way, these wicked seniors sef''. Too bad, she heard me and that was how i received the beating of my life plus 1 additional toilet. Long story. I later informed my parents though, and they came to school to see the principal and every other senior was mad at me for reporting. Hostel life. |
Education / Re: Your Bizarre Experiences In Boarding School by MissyB2: 3:33pm On Oct 14, 2010 |
Word of Faith, I hail thee. I spent 6 good years of my life in a boarding school. A period I'll never forget. I remember when we were flogged with clothes hanger on the feet, by senior students at odd hours [12, 1, 2 a.m].I cried and complained I didn't want to remain there but I was made to stay. As time went on, I became a senior student too and found myself doing some of the things that were done to me. Then, I realized it's only normal. How senior students would count from 1-10 for everyone to come downstairs for meal. Even if your room is on the last floor, fly if you will but be downstairs before 10 is mentioned, else na die. How many people fell and dislocated arms and legs The soaking of garri at night and sneaking in of food stuffs and stove. The sisterhood I shared with strangers - Strangers that became sisters. Ate same food at same time together, had bath together, slept together, did everything together. The tears I shed when I finally had to leave, the regret. The assemblage of junior students in my corner, crying and singing. The speech we gave before leaving, the hugs and the i'll miss Yous. If I have a second chance, I'll go again. 1 Like 1 Share |
Food / Re: The Official Nairaland Kitchen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by MissyB2: 2:54pm On Oct 14, 2010 |
Yorisb:There happens to be no plantain in the kitchen at the moment. Bear with us. |
Food / Re: The Official Nairaland Kitchen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by MissyB2: 2:50pm On Oct 14, 2010 |
wendybaby:Sorry it's coming late. |
Celebrities / Re: Any John Dumelo Fans in the House? by MissyB2: 2:01pm On Oct 14, 2010 |
jennykadry:Na Winch? Van and I have come a loooooooooong way. |
Celebrities / Re: Any John Dumelo Fans in the House? by MissyB2: 12:15pm On Oct 14, 2010 |
He's cute but sucks at acting. Too 'slow'/calm for a man. Go Van! |
Politics / Re: Do You Want To Denounce Your Nigerian Citizenship? There Is Opportunity. by MissyB2: 10:50pm On Oct 13, 2010 |
LouisThoru:Classic! Lmao |
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