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LesbianBoy:
8. Dont use a car while you are single!!!


9. Don't live alone as a single lady


10. Stop watching african magic yoruba

I did the above except of course number 10 which I detest. But he proposed and wedding bells are ringing. So it doesn't follow

prince3009:
Wait till he sees me with a can of Pedigree or K-9 and we'll see if you will still say those same words. He's cute

He'll munch it, lick his mouth, wipe his nose and come back to me. #Win

Viciyus:
You see as you dey think?


So na unserious people no won marry abi?

So in order word, na serious people dey marry. And na thesame serious people dey unmarried by.


Like serious. Change your mindset

Like seriously, you need to practice the art of reading before thinking. I specified that "unserious ones refuse to marry BECAUSE (in other words, with the excuse that) they don't have money to raise a child. Whatever happened to marrying and saving towards having a child?

prince3009:
Nice post though.

@your profile pic...

I'M iN LOVEEEEEEEEEE


















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With your dog!

You have a lovely dentition tho.

By the way, did you find out why that man behind you was pointing like he wants to sell the beach to the other guy on red?

Just kidding

Thanks but no thanks, my dog, Elmo is taken. He doesn't have any space in his heart to love another.

DeeTus:
Maybe coz you acted like a man. So he questioned your gender.

Oh really? Never knew you can make out someone's gender simply by reading an article he/she shared on a social network.
Anyway, its Nairaland, so its the norm for people to do anything to discredit/backlash an op just for the sake of gaining likes

Jaycool18:
op hope m nt the one

Let me confirm from the AccelerateTV writer of this article. Lol

uncleck:
marriage na by force? It's not a big achievement. One has to be matured enough (financially, morally etc) to contemplate marriage. Here in Africa we see marriage as a children producing contract. So if you don't have the financial strength and patience to raise children, if you do not have a big heart to contain the excesses of women called wives, if you are not yet ready to scarifies some of your hobbies, then remain single.

The inability to care for kids should not be a reason not to marry. I know so many couples who get married and then wait for some few years when they've saved enough before having kids. You are not obligated to have kids immediately you marry. The wise ones count their cost first, the unwise ones rush to have kids and let them suffer, the unserious ones refuse to marry because they are scared of the expenses of having kids.

InZA:
It's a very rich article...Enjoyed every bit of it. I can hardly disagree with any of the points raised, being a guy myself I find that some of the points hold true in my own personal life (don't ask me which ones ).

I'm not going to get overly scriptural but I just want to draw a point from a verse in the Bible that says "We should change the we think by renewing our mind"... It basically all boils down to the way we see marriage, unfortunately very many of us don't see marriage as an institution that ought to be hallowed and respected and more unfortunately, the more we continue having flawed ideas about marriage, the less married couples we would see.

Another thing really is seeing a woman who's ready to walk the walk with you, every woman wants a man with 7cars, 7 pent houses and maybe 7heads too sef (Pun intended). It's really sad

We need to change the way we think about marriage.

A million likes for this comment cc @lalasticlala

“Last week, I found out Jeffery is not a graduate as he claimed. He is a 200 level student of DELSU, and he doesn’t work in Mobil. After 4 months. This is the last time I will date someone I met on Facebook …”

This is just one classic complaint about online dating.

With the world evolving digitally everyday, most people now buy and sell online, recharge our phones, order Sharwama, pay bills, etc. It’s not a secret that dating is also done online; thanks to the million and one social media platforms and online dating sites and it is also one of the top ways people meet nowadays.

While it works for some, or at least the very few who are lucky to meet the right person, some others may not be so lucky. We therefore compiled some of the biggest problems of dating or finding a date online.

The Scammers:

This is talking about those with false profiles eagerly waiting for you to click on them and start a conversation. And when you do, you meet someone so amazing you begin to wonder where he/she has been all your life. Well, until the stories and demands hit you: “My sister-in-law’s youngest brother’s granddaughter needs money for emotional surgery, please help me”…

The point is, these one are professional scammers. The solution is to use common sense when such a character comes your way.

Photo-shopped Profiles:

“Eureka” you exclaim when you finally see a profile that matches your taste. You cannot believe your good fortune because this person is not only real; he/she also shares your taste in music, movies, and books. So you chat for a while and decide to meet and … you see someone greatly altered from the pictures you have, someone not as cute, someone whose social images have undergone level 100 Photoshop.

In essence, pictures are deceptive. So when you see that fantastic profile picture, don’t start celebrating your catch. Check the person out on other online platforms, or better still video-call in daytime, to ensure that the image is not different from the person.

To Date or Not To Date:

Well this problem occurs every day too, as even when you meet someone in real life, you would not necessarily know if they are right for you at that moment.

In the online world, this becomes an even bigger problem especially when you have many prospective ‘boos’. And because you have not met them physically, you’re not certain who you actually want. So you start pruning away those you deem unfit for even something as superficial as ‘not looking sexy enough’. And when you end up picking the ‘sexy’ one above the intelligent one, it usually ends in regrets, thanks to your shallowness.


Expectations:

A lot of people scourge the online dating platforms for quick and easy sexual gratification. The idea that getting easy lays through the Internet is not far-fetched, and it poses a problem for those with genuine interest in meeting other people that would lead to a meaningful relationship. So one may be unfortunate to meet with such a prowling predator.

Communication:

One major challenge with online dating is communication. In real life, most of our daily communication is non-verbal and involves a lot of body language. On social media, you cannot communicate through body language, and this becomes a problem because these non-verbal clues will give us insight as to if the other person ‘digs’ you or not.

In conclusion, this article is not discouraging online dating. It just highlights some precautions you should take if you are dating online, or you’re planning to.

SOURCE: http://www.acceleratetv.com/2015/04/5-problems-of-online-dating/

Gasout:
Good points. The way we have many unserious men out there so the women too!

I think we even have more unserious women than men based on what I've seen. I might be wrong tho

Uchesis:
U are a man? Check ur profile

#damnfakers

Try and understand how Nairaland works before making undue accusations. The article above was posted on a site and I simply shared on Nairaland as obviously seen at the end of the article where credit was given. How did my gender come into play here?

AccelerateTV


Recently I came to the conclusion that a lot of our men are no longer eager to get married. I believe they have their reasons and like most of them say, they never have enough money for the wedding day and maybe afterwards.

That makes me realize that we may not have prepared our men enough for marriage, to help them understand what measure of blessings are poured down on the man who chooses to take the bull by the horn and trust God enough to go into this institution that has been ordained by God himself.

I am yet to see anyone who consulted God before getting married, and didn’t pull through despite all the lessons that we learn on the way which give us room to grow up.

I can understand some of the reasons why men don’t want to marry these days, but one I find strange is when I discover that some men don’t actually want to get married because they are ashamed and very uncomfortable about the size of their penis.

One of the many texts I have been bombarded with lately says :“Dear sir, can a small Penis satisfy a woman with big buttocks? How many inches is long, and what do you consider as short. You may flash me and I will call you so you can tell me”.

I later found out he has not thought of getting married, because he thinks he will be ridiculed for the rest of his life. What do you make of that? Meanwhile I will like to take you through some of the other reasons why some men don’t get married.


1. MEN DON’T HAVE TO GET MARRIED TO HAVE SEX TODAY

A lot of men have realized that it is easier to get sex than in times past, when women insisted on getting married before sex. I am a man and I can tell you that a lot of women have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole.

I am not so sure who is more promiscuous these days, because it seems women offer sex like its going out of fashion these days . There are women, who are sleeping with about 4 men at the same time and would probably accommodate more if they can.

When women come to me to tell me how their husband was caught in Adultery, and seek my opinion on if they should leave him, I always reassure them that most men who commit adultery these days, don’t go out looking for these ladies, but that the ladies seem to be everywhere making themselves available and have removed the fun we men used to have chasing them.

When men realize that they can have all the sex they want without getting married, they just don’t see the point of GETTING MARRIED.


2. WOMEN ARE READY TO CO-HABIT WITH MEN THEY ARE NOT MARRIED TO

I believe it must have come to your attention now that a lot of men and women are living together now without being married to each other. It came to my attention through my counseling sessions.

By the time I ask the lady or man where the husband or wife will be right now, they go like “actually Jerome, I think there is one more thing you need to know and that is we are not legally married, but are just living together”.

Now that blows my mind, because you are not legally married, you are living together and also have a child or two, in Africa, yes in Africa!

I know some of these starts on Campus where a lot of girls are just not staying in their hostels, but have moved in with their boyfriends who probably have a room at the BQ of the lecturer’s Quarters on Campus or in their rented apartment in town, and most of their school mates consider it acceptable.

Please note that this is also happening amongst those who profess to be religious on Campus as well. So continuing in that way of life isn’t a problem later. How do you expect these men to consider getting married when they have found a short cut to it?


3. MEN BELIEVE THE POSSIBILITY OF DIVORCE IS HIGH THESE DAYS, SO WHY SPEND ON MARRIAGE, AND LATER ON DIVORCE

The rate of divorce is on the increase and it carries a lot of financial implications with it. So the guys figure out why marry if it can cost you more than having a family and catering for them at the end.


4. MOST MEN DON’T LIKE THE CHILD BEARING PART

Most men today don’t express “burning desire” for children, saying they are not ready yet. Another factor may be at play, “They know they will have to be there equally with a wife and provide hands-on child care.”

young men playing video games

5. SOME MEN DON’T LIKE THE CHANGE THAT COMES WITH MARRIAGE

Most of the time you will realize that a man just wants a wife “to look good, provide great sex, join in his recreational activities and tell him he is wonderful, while the Women’s requirements are much broader.” They want affection.

They want to feel loved. They want a great conversationalist, a man who is funny, a good father for their kids, someone who is attractive, a good sexual partner, a man who is ambitious and successful and God fearing.

And most men are simply not” all these things. For them to do this, a lot of changes may be required which some men are not just ready for.


6. SOME MEN KEEP LOOKING FOR THAT PERFECT WOMAN TO MARRY

Let me describe a SOUL MATE using what D.H. Lawrence said; “You are the Call and I am the Answer. You are the Wish, and I the Fulfillment. You are the Night, and I the Day.

What else? It is perfect enough. It is complete. You and I.” What I realize here is that you may never find a compliment until you are capable of complimenting. Most of the time, we are looking for someone who will compliment us without the intention of complimenting anyone.

I guess we may wait for a perfect soul mate forever until we change our attitude and go out to look for someone to compliment.


7. NO ONE IS REALLY PUTTING HIM UNDER PRESSURE TO MARRY

Men face little social pressure to marry, compared to what the females have to face. So at the end of the day, they don’t think it’s a big deal after all. One reason young men balk at marriage is “they don’t yet get it”, the problem is they just don’t realize what is in it for them.

We have not done a good job of selling marriage to men. They don’t know all the good things that will change in their lives. Married men are healthier than single men, wealthier, they live longer and happier lives, they have more sex, they have somebody who knows them, and tolerates them anyway.


8. MEN DON’T REALLY WANT TO BE WITH A SINGLE MOTHER IN MARRIAGE.

Most of the time single men are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children for a lot of reasons and one of them being that his family will object to it, the other reason could be that he begins to wonder how many men she has been with and abortions she has had before being forced to have the child with her now, and yet another reason can be that, he is not sure he will be comfortable with her having any form of contact with the father or fathers of the child/children when he is married to her.

Men feel this way forgetting that they can be worse when we talk in terms of morality. It’s more of the case of the pot calling the kettle black. Unfortunately they get away with it, because no one is holding them to ransom.


9. SOME MEN DON’T LIKE RESPONSIBILITIES.

So some men say, but it’s just another way to avoid becoming a responsible person. What a lot of men may not realize is that marriage is a vision that is bigger than who they are and all they have to do is give themselves to it with the Almighty God as a witness and then begin building together with their wives as they obtain favor from the Lord.

Men have to realize that when we are children age 0-11 we have privileges, then from age 12-21 we retain our privileges through responsibilities e.g. if you want to take your father’s car out, be ready to refill the tank after using up the fuel in it otherwise, don’t ask for it the next day since you are not ready to be responsible.

Then from age 21- what we have left is responsibilities, and a lot of us fear that, I mean being responsible. So you find a lot of irresponsible men out there, who can change if we start to prepare our younger generation for the real life out there.

10. SO MANY MEN DON’T WANT TO MISS OUT ON THE SINGLE LIFE, WHICH IS WHY EVEN SOME WHO ARE MARRIED, STILL LIVE LIKE THEY ARE SINGLE.

Well, some people just don’t want to grow up, do they?

SOURCE: http://www.acceleratetv.com/2015/04/why-your-boyfriend-may-not-be-in-a-hurry-to-become-your-husband/

Richhard:
whaoo, tbh,i used the same also,but did not work for me(i did not add oil though) and it makes me sweat! Thanks for your input,i appreciate! xx

There are other very light-weight lotions in the market you can try out tho. Different strokes for different folks.

Richhard:
thanks,can u post a pic of the aveeno u are using,i have used aveeno before,but never works for me. And naturally,i drinks water alot!

This is the aveeno lotion I use. You can find it in most drugstores and skincare stores....
To make mine more effective, I pour essential oils in it. They are purely natural and help to combat skin dryness

Like the op said, you can't use a product once and expect it to perform miracles. You have to be consistent with it

Richhard:
oh so no need for body lotion! Cool! Thanks missus,i really appreciate your reply xx

*runs out to look for olay

You cannot have a dry skin and skip using a body/lotion or cream. I've been faithful to Aveeno body cream with essential oils poured inside. This is my 7th year using it and i can say it has even healed my dry skin.
Dry skin issues also begins from inside, so you have to hydrate your body inside and out. Take lots and lots of water, like its about to go scarce.
For my dry hands, i use Neutrogena Norwegian formula hand cream or sometimes anyone I can afford.
These are the basic things that work for me and has worked for others with dry skin.

Where can I scan it on the island for an affordable price? Its just been parked at home

mayor2013:
How did you manage to drive the car all the way from delta to lagos vis-a-viz the problem

We managed it. When you're on the highway, you rarely apply brakes unless you meet a pothole or sth. We couldn't leave it in delta

mayor2013:
Go back to who ever ran the scan for you and tell him or her that you need the fault codes. A trial by errror won't be of any help

I did it when I was in Delta. Now I'm back to Lagos. Maybe i'll just buy a scanner and post the scan codes here. This is really frustrating...

mayor2013:
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this souds more like a throttle issue, but lets not go with that. What where the fault codes that you were given. Post those fault codes here and we would take it up from there

They didn't give me fault codes. They just came with a quote and asked me to buy new set of coils, spark plugs, service the throttle body, nozzle and buy new fuel pump. I've done that already

autologic:
U have a driveability issue with ur car.Try to scan the car first.Call autologic on 08061166316 for comprehensive scanning.

Read my post again... I said the car has been scanned for issues already

Siena:
[color=Blue]I sent you a request yesterday too, it's also showing as pending.

My display name is Sachi Motorsport UK.[/color]

Wow. Didn't see it. Just sent it again

Siena:
[color=Blue]Hi!

I haven't seen your BBM request. What's your PIN? I could add you then.[/color]

Sent you a request on both bbm pins in your signature. Please accept. Its urgent

kunle1004:
You can ask for Biodun at the volkswagen service centre on Kofo Abayomi Street.

I thought of going there but I'm so scared of their charges, given the fact that I've spent so much already

Hello guys,

I recently got a Skoda fabia 2007 from a Nairaland seller. Its been one issue or another. I won't say I regret it but I've decided to tackle the issues. Recently, the car jerks almost every minute. If I step on the brake to the end and then want to accelerate, it'll stop accelerating and just be crawling and jerking. Sometimes when I step on brake and accelerate, the engine will turn off.
I've been to autocare shops and the car was scanned for issues. I've spent a lot to buy a new fuel pump, injector cleaner, service the nozzle, clean the exhaust, top up the oil and even clean the spark plugs.
But its getting worse. I'm really fed up and need a specialist on Skoda cars in Lagos, preferably on the island to help me fix it.

jrhymez:
where is your location pls.. or hook me up 08096771885

I'm in Lagos. The dog is in warri

Etranshub:
@op do you still have the dog? If yes I would love to adopt him but he is going to be a security dog on farm. I was actually considering buying a gsd puppy thats why I came to this section. You can be rest assured he will be well taken care of and you can always visit when ever you want

Sorry I've been offline due to wedding preparations. Yes, you can adopt him if you can pick him up. The vet who kept him is even uncomfortable with him because he's aggressive and doesn't tolerate other dogs.

joseph1832:
So in your generosity you think someone who can't stand to see her dog given out to a dog eating individual can stand the sight of seeing the same dog put down in a 'humane way'?. Marvelous, bloody marvelous! Clap for your self!.

Mitchyy never knew Nigerians could be so full of love for their dogs? I believe you have friends right?

Yes I do. But they are in Lagos

Seun:
mitchyy:
Please take him to a vet to put him down in a humane way with an injection.
The way the dog eating people kill dogs is very cruel, so let a vet do it humanely.
Make sure that it's done by a vet you trust, and make sure you are there so it'll be done right.

No o. The thought would forever haunt me. He's currently with a vet and we paying 1000naira daily till we find someone to take him in. Let me find his pic. I'm in Lagos while he is in Delta

Hello guys,

I don't know what to do with my 8year old German Shepherd. He has been with us for so long, now its just mum and dad at home and they think they no longer need a dog. Just heard dad is contemplating giving him out to someone who eats dogs. *tear*
I don't want that to happen. We are seriously searching for anyone who needs a security dog, so we can give him out for free. Can't bear the thought of him being eaten. I'm just confused

Accelerate TV
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Most people are usually faced with a dilemma whenever they have to go on a first date with their new interest. They have to make decisions like what to wear, what to say and where to go. This piece will focus on suggestions that will help you choose the perfect first date location and activity.

1. Dinner Date

This is one of the most popular choices for first dates. While it is not necessarily innovative, over time it has proven an effective way of getting to know someone better. Whether the restaurant is Five Star or Casual, dinner dates afford you the opportunity to meet and ‘gist’ in an ambient atmosphere, get served by professional waiters, take a walk while holding hands and if you’re lucky, get the goodnight kiss. But, dinner dates could be disastrous too. Apart from the food and drinks, there’s nothing else to focus on except yourselves, and the pressure to maintain meaningful conversation till the date ends might be too much to bear.

2. Lunch Date

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While dinner dates would seem romantic, lunch dates usually represent less pressure on the part of both parties. The meeting is taking place in daytime, and the atmosphere is generally less ambient. This usually works for when one or both parties are not really sure on where the relationship is headed and want(s) to thread carefully. It is also advisable to meet someone for the first time via lunch dates, for safety reasons.

3. Games

Get tickets to a football, boxing, volleyball or any other game and take your date there. It isn’t romantic, but it’s wide open, public, fun, and you’ll have a natural focal point of conversation (the game that you’re both watching) to fill in the gaps in conversation that can be a first-date hazard.

4. Concerts

If you both have similar tastes in music, whether it’s R & B, Rock, Hip-Hop or Afro-Beats, then music show tickets might be a good point to start off your potential relationship. Like game dates, you’d be meeting in a public place with lots of people around and a common point of interest to generate conversation.

5. Comedy Shows

Everybody loves to laugh. If there’s a comedy show in your area, then it’ll be a very good idea to have a first date there. The performing acts will help in breaking all the ice and you will subconsciously become closer just by laughing to the same jokes.

6. Movies

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Movies are a reliable go-to choice for a first date. Despite the fact that there isn’t a lot of opportunity for get-to-know-each-other conversations in a darkened theater, it is still one of the most preferred places to have first dates. It is open, safe, and could be combined with a Dinner or Lunch Date where you could talk about yourselves, and exceptional scenes in the movies you just saw, if there’s nothing else to talk about.

7. The Mall

Another public place where you can walk around, discover common interests and quietly make fun of the people passing you by is the mall. There’s plenty to do, plenty to talk about and the pressure is not so high. You should go with enough money though, for if something nice catches you or your date’s fancy. Go with your Access bank Solo Card too, to take advantage of discounts on transactions made via POS.

What are some of your favorite ideas for a first date? Share with us in the comment section below.

SOURCE: http://www.acceleratetv.com/2015/01/7-great-places-to-go-on-a-first-date/

Carlcaresophia:
Sorry we don't have service center in Abeokuta, attached pls find the contact information of our service centers in Nigeria, you can choose one to go. Thank you!

Hello, does carlcare in V.I open today?