₦airaland Forum

hollars:
don't worry!, we know how we do it. next time you're not going to escape it, he's just being a gentle man, was it your first meeeting?

Actually, it was the first visit I paid him a year after our first meeting, but I'm pretty sure that it is also the last one too! lol.

lol @ topic!

I once traveled with 2 very heavy luggages and a small one to spent few days with my friend. On my way back home, he was the one who drove me to the airport. When he came to pick me up, the guy wanted to impress me with the way he was carrying the load. Somehow he managed to reach his car. However, when we arrived at the airport, and the guy realized that he had to park his car 2 blocks away because of construction he turned bleu, lol! God, he sweated like a pig to the extent that I offered him my help lol, but his ego was to big so he rejected my offer. When he finally arrived at the counter he couldn't even lifted them. The worse of it, to a man point of view, is I never have intimacy with him lol.

NubianQ:
Your friends should not say things like that,  yes they do not have to insult the poster,neither do you have to come on here to talk about Nigerian men because you met just one. i think you should ZIP it now please,  

lol. I think my post should have included some of the women too. No offence intended tough! I didn't contribute to create their solid bad reputation worldwide, but they do. I was just reporting what I have learned.

The poster might be right since as Nigerian men, you don't know that you should never insult a woman under any circumstances. Your comments are speaking against you guys. It's never to late to start behaving like a gentleman though. Nairalanders, get your act together!

I once met a Nigerian man from a good family. He was a well-behaved young man except that he wasn't a gentleman, and didn't have refined manners at all. However, because I liked him a lot, I went to some African friends for advices.  Hmmm! I was chocked when they told me that in Africa, Nigerian men have a reputation to be unrefined, violent, abusive and fraudulent. Moreover, they warned me to avoid him if I like myself.

omega25red:
the guy must either be a cannibal or some sort of slave trader. How do you propose to someone you dont even know? whta ever happened to getting to know a persons personality the way the talk and all that good stuff. if you are a woman and you get that kind of offer you better run for  you life because something definately stinks in lagos (just might be your corpse)

Some people told me that in some traditional societies in Africa, the parents still arrange their children marriage. In that case, they don't get to know each other beforehand. Moreover, they said this situation is similar except that it's the guy himself who made the offer since his parents are living in Africa and nothing is official yet. In addition, they also advised to ask the young man to give a substantial part of the amount of money before he gets to be introduced to the young lady in oder to judge his seriousness and sincerity.

Ladies,

The facts: you are from a good family, very beautiful, well-educated, well-traveled and have good home training.

If you don't have dowry in your culture, and a guy from a rich and well-known west-African family, friend with one of your sister's friends, after seeing your pictures on Facebook, contacted your sister  to propose US$ 1 000 000 as bride price to marry you, how would you react?

Why some men think they can buy a woman?

I discussed this matter with some Cameroonian women. They said there's nothing wrong with his proposal because it has happened before.  furthermore, a brother to one of these Cameroonian women proposed himself to conduct the negotiations since he believes that if he offered a million he can go at least 2 times higher. Is this common in your own country?

FL Gators:
LOL I am soooo not a troop.

lol

fiswu:
@chines4 and St. Richy:

I appreciate your comments, but, as far as I'm concerned, it's over. I'm very slow to decide sometimes especially when my level of interest is high. However, I finally made up my mind. It was a good experience; It opens my eyes on the many things I took for granted, and I discovered another side of me. Anyway, his behavior towards me is the deal breaker. The real me is not tolerant on issues regarding respect. I took some time off to think about myself and I realized that I deserve more because, as "a total 10" with great culinary skills,  I have what most men are looking for everywhere (a Nigerian woman would have said I'm too much lol). Moreover, I love, respect myself and my family. Thus, I only deal with the best in all aspects, but sometimes I do make mistakes too; he is one of them. For some reason, I had forgotten how special, precious and beautiful (inward-outward) I'm. This is not for me. I wish him luck and happiness. Thanks for your time!

Hopefully, you'll forget about him soon. cheers!!!

hmmm! na wa o!

Please help translating these sentences to english:

1. A'kuko Na. Tu'to


2. M'AKA ADIAMAMA

Please help translating these sentences to english:

1. A'kuko Na. Tu'to


2. M'AKA ADIAMAMA

For an igbo man to be able to say to a girl that because he's broke he most likely won't be able to travel to attend her graduation ceremony, it's a proof of love?

Did you marry him legally? If not, you better start worried! Hmmm,  are you sure you are his first wife?

Nairaland, I need answers.

What does that mean when a man call another a DRAKE?
what does that mean when a man call himself FUGE?

edgenig:
he is still going to clubs with young girls a bit older dan the wife,he is spreading the disease.

ok. open another thread and post his picture along with some of his information. we nairalanders will do the rest to save other innocents lives.

Hmmm, I thought naija men only do this kind of thing to non-naija women. Na wa ooooooooooh! money, money, money?! May God help her!

If a girl whom you are not in intimacy with, repeatedly, begs you in God's name at each tentative to stop contacting her for any reason whatsoever because she believes that you don't respect her, what would be you reaction if you love her?

I once met a guy, and it was exactly the same scenario. Hey! I didn't know guys form too. I moved one with my life shaa.

tai2:
Hey mito,

Sorry about the delay in posting, I've been on some other stuff, I only just popped in to drop a response to your problem. Basically the guy in question probably wants to get laid with no strings attached and is being a player about it. If he's good looking, he either has a girlfriend or he doesn't. If he didn't have one or at least a constant love interest, he'd get to the the darn point and make a solid offer instead of playing games with you.

You've clearly told him you're game and you're open to listening to whatever he has to say and he's still playing the friend dance and offering dumb excuses and sending text messages about "being friend's". Does he think you're still in grade school, lol. He wants to leave the door open for eating his cake and having it later with no commitments, if he wanted something serious he wouldn't be on about playing friends and all that jazz. Move on like the Greyhound Express, life's too short to be messing about with people who don't know what they want.

Dr Tai2, Thanks a loooooooooooooot! You literally set me free. He keeps telling me that he doesn't have a girlfriend , no social life and he just go to work/school blablabla. I fell in love with him but, all he has been doing is only trying to confuse me by all means. May God bless you again and again! Happy Easter dear!!!

na2day?:
i think that is self explanatory enough

If I asked it's because it wasn't enough for me, but anyway I'm waiting for Tai2 comments. Thanks!

na2day?:
there is nothing wrong for u guys to remain friends but u must point out to him the guidelines as regarding your friendship

What do you mean? Can you explain me your reasons in more than one sentence?

@ Dr tai2

I'm very beautiful and all. In my situation what should I do:

I met this very handsome guy 2 years ago and I like him a lot. We are living in separates states.

However, he hardely calls or text me pretending that he is too busy with work/school. I'm the one who is doing this, but sometimes he just not pick up the phone (we are not in a relationship and either in intimacy).

I finally decided to stop communicating with him and informed him. Since that day he started sending an average of 3 text messages per weak asking me to reconsider my decision.

ex:''I hold you high as a top priority and a friend no matter what the case may be'', ''You can run , but you can't hide'' etc,

Moreover, because I was upset for the fact that he didn't want to leave me alone, I told him that I could help him to stop wasting his time on me if I knew his plan.

I guess he got mad and replied that he didn't want anything from me, I'm too complicated and  I should take it easy.

What confused me the most is the fact that he refused to stop our friendship. According to him, my reasons are just nonsense unimportant things and he is tired of explaining me too much all the time and he noticed that I like attention a lot.

@poster

Since you are into interpretation , what did he mean by this: I hold you high as a top priority and a friend no matter what the case may be"?

tayo_ast:
2yrs? bhoi.

We live in separates states so the process is slow. hehehe

One more thing, how do I interpret "I hold you high as a top priority and a friend no matter what the case may be"?

tayo_ast:
r u sure he understands english??

yes and very well!

tayo_ast:
u nid 2 study d guy. . . its complicated

you're right, it's very complicated. I have been studying him for almost 2 years now, but I still don't understand him.

tayo_ast:
hw did he criticize u??

by telling me:"you make me explain thing too much (because I couldn't understand how he could be busy almost all the time). I noticed you love attention a lot"

tayo_ast:
d guy's def on2 sth. Just giv him a fair hearing, pls

I'll try, but it's fair if he criticized me because he noticed that I love attention a lot?

tayo_ast:
u seeing any1?

nope.

tayo_ast:
wat'd he say?

"I don't want anything from you. you are too complicated. take it easy".