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follypimpi:
@Poster

I would advise u tell the dude how u feel ? Instead of suffering in silence.

Once I asked him what did he wanted from me because he used to tell me that he wants me. He told me he honestly didn't know. Now, how do I tell him I love him and preserve my dignity?

MRbrownJAY:
[size=14pt]ROFLMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!![/size]
see confused person!!!!! she rejected the poor guy down, now she is home watching his pics, talking about being in love with the same fella!
here is my advice to you: contact him directly and explain to him exactly what you wrote on here. . . . . . . .then APOLOGIZE for doing what you did and pray that he will give you another shot without having "ulterior motives".

"ulterior motives": wouldnt it be sweet for him to s, hag you and dump you knowing that you were playing hard to get before?!

I would not like him to take me for a ride. I'm not ready to bear any heartbreak, and I wasn't playing hard to get. It's just that he misbehaved, so under influence of anger and pride I rejected him. Moreover, he keeps telling me he doesn't have girlfriend. I sent him a text to ask for forgiveness, yesterday, he didn't reply. 

[quote author=Temilade£ link=topic=407680.msg5626273#msg5626273 date=1267708189]Well, i can't feel where you are coming from because i have never been in that situation to lust after a guy. You sounds like u're 15 [/quote]I'm not, and I found it strange too.

MRbrownJAY:
go ahead for what?! arent they dating already but living in different states?
is the poster just in love with some random guy?!?

We are not dating. We are just friend for now.

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
help me out for a sec, what did you meant by the following statement:

I call/text him every week to know how is doing. I went to visit him even though it's expensive and I paid for it; he offered me half of the money, i refused it. I apologized to him for my behavior in the beginning (rejection), but how can't I tell a man that I'm madly in love with in? He'll be scared.

Guys, I need serious advices. I can tell you that it's not a funny situation at all.

This is actually the first time I fall in love. This thing is bitter-sweet; I would not like to stop loving him, but I'm dying slowly. He do not have money because he's still studying for his degree but I don't care. I'm jealous of every single girl I see in his list of friends. Moreover, I started being insecure even though I'm very beautiful. Right now, I spend all my free time looking at his pictures, thinking about him, hoping and praying. I keep giving him green lights, but he is doing nothing. In fact, in the beginning, I rejected him. Moreover,we are not even leaving in the same states. What do I do I'm going insane. What do I do?

9jaganja:
Ignorant questions. What about a rat from the US dating a rat from Togo? please folks get over it. Most folks here are seriously ignorant and they don't even know it. I haven't heard anyone saying Canadian and American relationships blah blah blah. You guys are ignorant and educated illiterates. Why not just go on with you lives and meet someone, anyone you like instead of trying to know about how relationship with where you come from and where they come from are. Annoying Ignorant fools.

hmmmmmmmmmmm!

sjeezy8:
yooo hatians are crazy yoooo esp in NJ and New York- well the ones ive met I even went to a hatians church with my cuzzos whol church sermon was in creole I didnt understand ish.

What did you mean by crazy buddy?

seun0622:
Mito,

Your post is not self explanatory, What is the relationnship between the girl you want to sleep with and her behaviour?  Kindly elaborate!

They are just friend for now, but the girl always overeact (yelling and anger) when the guy misbehave (being late and lies).

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-405518.0.html#msg5599737

Now back to the topic: What do you think of them?

@MzDarkSkin

It's ok.

Guys, if a girl whom you want to sleep with called you one day to tell you that you both are supposed to have a serious talk about her behavior, what will be your reaction

FL Gators:
Men of same species, dnt blame her

MzDarkSkin:
I know my ppl Lloyd Banks is one of us but he is Puerto Rican however Usher and Trina are American.[/b]

Lloyd Banks, Usher and Trina fathers are from Haiti.

I met a handsome guy sometime ago. Whenever I get angry I'll start yelling at him like crazy even though we are just friend for now, but he never ask me not to yell or to change my behavior. Obviously, he doesn't like this. However, all he will do is to stop answering my call or text for for a short period of time. I think he's either shy or in love. Ladies, there are good naija guys.

Most Haitian people and people of haitian descent that I know are very attractive ex: Wyclef, Jimmy Jean-Louis, Maxwell, Garcelle Beauvais, Lloyd Banks, Usher,Trina McGee-Davis, Michaelle Jean etc. They are very nice, well-behaved, fun to be with, and their food are so sweet. However, I came across few Haitian-Naija couples.

Why? How do you feel about dating/marrying them?

[quote author=tpia. link=topic=403256.msg5573012#msg5573012 date=1266979549]i think i can get a job as a go between for naija men and non-naija females.

i can help with interpreting, reading their [naija men's] motives, checking up on their culture, habits, etc.The whole kaboose.

abi na to start company ni?

after all will smith did it in Hitch.[/quote]You didn't help.

I guess even though you start that company, non-naija women (like me) will not trust u because it'll between naija men, and we know how men do. lol. Not a bad idea though. Because of their culture, naija men are not easy to understand or figure out for us non-naija women.

@dbigsten

Thanks, but I can't be sure.

@Faakay

I'm not ill-mannered. He even aknowledged it. What is it wrong for a lady to draw her line or to raise the bar?

@ neily
I don't get it.

@Igwe

The answer is no. lol. Thanks!

NLanders, this issue is serious ooooo. What is your take on it?

kitlady02:
@mito,
it means i agree with kpolli,

ok!

kitlady02:
gbam!!

What do you mean?

Taken:
"You're a strong woman who takes no bullshit from nobody, and I have a lot of respect for you."

Meaning =  Lady take it easy cus u are sending possible suitors away -

Ok. I see,

Taken:
- abi u want to remain single all ya life?

no, but it's just too bad though 'cause I can't change my personality and the content of my character.

Good question!

Guys, what can possibly be in the mind of a man who was worried about a woman and confesses this to her:

"You're a strong woman who takes no bullshit from nobody, and I have a lot of respect for you."

It's a good or bad statement?

@chiogo

No. Neither do all western women are hardworking. There are lazy women and goldiggers too among them.