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Romance / Re: 3 Things To Do If She Comes Over To Your House And Refuses To Have Sex by mizlolar(f): 10:13am On May 08, 2016
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Romance / 3 Things To Do If She Comes Over To Your House And Refuses To Have Sex by mizlolar(f): 12:58pm On May 06, 2016
You might be tempted to beg, negotiate or sulk, but this will only push her further away and make you seem pathetic.

It can be pretty frustrating if you invite a lady over with the intention of finally getting down and she refuses to give you what you want. Knowing how to handle it will make a very big difference.

1. Don’t push it:

You might be tempted to beg, negotiate or sulk, but this will only push her further away and make you seem pathetic. Plus, it will instantly turn her off. There is nothing arousing about being pressured for sex. If she says no, let it be, simply pretend it does not bother you and don’t bring it up for a while. She will be taken aback and begin to immediately question whether or not she will give it to you, which is what you want

2. Get her to relax:

The thing is, most women expect that visiting a guy means he will ask for sex. This causes her to put her guard up. Even if she is willing to give it to you, she would still want you to work for it. So, what you need to do is get her to bring down her guard by getting her to relax. If you ask and she says no, focus on other ways to make her feel comfortable with you. Watch a comedy, play some games, whatever makes her laugh and let go. It is only when she feels truly comfortable that she will consider having sex with you.

3. Make you move:

Now she is relaxed, comfortable and laughing with you, this is when you make your move. Flirt with her by bringing sex into the convo. Start with something random but not too threatening like, ‘Damn, if I ever get hold of that sexy ass of yours, I will take you to heaven and back.’ In one statement, you have complimented her and made her think about sex with you. If you have followed steps 1 and 2 above, by now she will be having an inner conflict whether or not to let you have some. But once again, don’t push. Flirt with her and compliment her. If she giggles or return the flirting, slowly move towards her and give her a soft kiss. Let her lead the way so she feels like she has all the power. At this point, make sure she tells you with her words or her body that she is ready to take things to the next level.

Warning: These tips will only work if she is attracted to you in the first place but unsure if she wants to sleep with you. If she insists she is not interested in sex after cajoling and flirting with her, respect her decisions. There is absolutely nothing sexy or manly about rape or coercive sex

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Romance / Why Do Only Broke Men Approach Me For Marriage? by mizlolar(f): 10:41am On May 05, 2016
Please i need ur help. Am having challenges in area of relationship. I have the problem of ending up with men who are nothing but gold diggers. They seem good from the start but before a few months, they will turn into pests.

I dont know what is responsible for this. I just need a man who ll love me on the basis of who i am not what i have. I am from a well to do family, I am the only daughter of my parents and my dad is late, I actually inherited quite a lot and initially it seemed like a blessing until I got older.

All the Guys i ve met so far re fake displaying fake love just to get hold of what is in my possession. I will give you a little insight so you can understand what I am going tru. Around 2013, my then fiance kidnapped himself and because i already knew he was too needy and then their was a lot of inconsistencies in the story so i ignored the kidnappers who were demanding for 700k ransom. The guys showed up 2 weeks later fuming without any injuries or even shedding any weight


He was ranting and saying all sorts like how wicked i was and how i abandoned him to die. I had to break it off immediately because he was beginning to sound like i was his mother and father joined together. The next relationship went quite the same way.


The guy sold my car and came up with stories of how he was robbed at onipanu by palm-grove. unfortunately for him, i had a tracker which had its own inbuilt battery, so when they disconnected the car battery thinking they have disabled the tracker, they gaffed. the car was subsequently tracked down to shagamu at a hotel managed by his cousin. these are just the few recent ones.

There are many more experiences that i wouldn’t bother you with but I am tired. the worst is that some will even want to move in with me because of the comfort of my place. Its really frustrating. My mum said i should stop driving but its nearly impossible for me to get around lagos without a car.


I simply stopped using the big cars and got a Toyota matrix and i even had to drive myself so it dosnt look like i am the one attracting the wrong men and scaring away the good ones yet i haven’t been lucky.


I am not looking for a millionaire, I just want a man with a little dignity and value not the ones who will start demanding for loans or come up with stories within months of how their visa was stuck or how their mother was diabetic and needed money for blood transfusion. I have heard a lot of such stories and i am tired.


I dont know if my mum is right that i am scaring away the right ones with my lifestyle. Honestly, i dont even live flamboyantly neither do I club. I am in my early 30’s and i really need to settle down.


Plz help me with ideas on how to stop attracting gold digging shameless men. As at now, 4 guys re on my neck including head of admin in my firm but they are all my subordinates and I don’t want a scandal. Thank u.

Please advice. I don't need abuse from you guys... Thanks

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Politics / Re: Fulani Herdsmen Cause Accident On Lagos-Ibadan Expressway by mizlolar(f): 4:47pm On May 04, 2016
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Please I Need Advice by mizlolar(f): 4:22pm On May 04, 2016
Vongsama:
Do u knw anything about em boo?
Google's always there before u jump into mistakes.

Thanks.. I just google it, luckily i saw a thread on NL where someone was recounting his experience.. See the screenshot below
Awon weyrey..

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Jobs/Vacancies / Please I Need Advice by mizlolar(f): 4:10pm On May 04, 2016
I received this sms few days after applying for a Job online .. Should i discard it


"Your application for the customer service training has been received, To determine your eligibility for job referrals after the training, come with an updated CV and passport photo to 634 Akin Adesola beside GTBank head office V.I" the sms is from 'OCNL'

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Romance / REVEALED!! 10 Reasons African Men Love Ladies With Big Assets by mizlolar(f): 12:43pm On May 04, 2016
Every race and ethnic group and what they like about women but the passion African men have for big but’ts and br.e.asts are extremely outrageous.

Let’s take for an example Two Ghanaian and 2 nigerian men could be talking about some serious business and if a woman with big but’ts or br’ea.sts passes, the whole conversation will come to a standstill but this is never the same with slim women. Many men even die because of big but’ts and will do anything to have them. Oga o


Let’s take for an example Two Ghanaian and 2 nigerian men could be talking about some serious business and if a woman with big but’ts or br’ea.sts passes, the whole conversation will come to a standstill but

this is never the same with slim women. Many men even die because of big but’ts and will do anything to have them.


If you want evidence of this, you can go through our article on the list of women with big b00bs and but’ts and go to the comments section, you will see how African men are going crazy over these women. It seems to be a culture in itself.

This attitude came to our attention and so we decide to find out the reasons why it is so, and the responses we got were amazing. We made a compilation of the reasons why African men are so crazy over big but’ts and b00bs and here are The Top 10 of them. See them as you CONTINUE READING
Politics / REVEALED!! 10 Reasons African Politicians Love Ladies With Big Assets by mizlolar(f): 12:34pm On May 04, 2016
Every race and ethnic group and what they like about women but the passion African men have for big but’ts and br.e.asts are extremely outrageous.


Let’s take for an example Two Ghanaian and 2 nigerian men could be talking about some serious business and if a woman with big but’ts or br’ea.sts passes, the whole conversation will come to a standstill but this is never the same with slim women. Many men even die because of big but’ts and will do anything to have them


Let’s take for an example Two Ghanaian and 2 nigerian men could be talking about some serious business and if a woman with big but’ts or br’ea.sts passes, the whole conversation will come to a standstill but

this is never the same with slim women. Many men even die because of big but’ts and will do anything to have them.


If you want evidence of this, you can go through our article on the list of women with big b00bs and but’ts and go to the comments section, you will see how African men are going crazy over these women. It seems to be a culture in itself.

This attitude came to our attention and so we decide to find out the reasons why it is so, and the responses we got were amazing. We made a compilation of the reasons why African men are so crazy over big but’ts and b00bs and here are The Top 10 of them. See them as you CONTINUE READING

Education / Re: 9 Reasons Why Nigerian Polytechnics Are Better Than Universities by mizlolar(f): 2:22pm On Feb 25, 2016
[size=35pt]Are you crazy?[/size]

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Education / Re: 9 Reasons Why Nigerian Polytechnics Are Better Than Universities by mizlolar(f): 2:22pm On Feb 25, 2016
you are a fool

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Romance / I'm In A Very Confused State Right Now. Matured Minds Should Pls Help by mizlolar(f): 1:51pm On Feb 04, 2016
This is a long one so grab a comfy chair and some popcorn. Please stick with me though as i am feeling so lost right now and really need some solid advice and a large range of various perspectives.

[Please note that i'm at work right now so if i make a few errors then sorry lol.]

So let me start with a little about myself. Im 23. female. 5 ft 7. In fairly good shape(curvy). Easy on the eyes. I am in my very first long term relationship and we are about to celebrate our 1 year anniversary on Feb 6th. My boyfriend is 25. Male (obviously lol). Also easy on the eyes. Very innocent and a real gentleman. He's a real sweetheart! I've been looking forward to a day he'll take me to see his parents.

We have been very happy together. Weve had our ups and downs but nothing too serious has really threatened our relationship,until now (atleast from my perspective).... Before we get into the heat of the discussion,just know that i was a very confident and secure individual. I trusted my boyfriend whole heartedly and i felt as though nothing could ever threaten “us”. That facade has broken and has left me weak and somewhat feeble. A shadow of my former self-assured character.

So on the Monday night just past (it is currently Thursday afternoon) my boyfriend,his best friend his workmate and his workmates girlfriend and I decide to drink and go night clubbing/dancing. We pre-drink and then head to the clubs. We drink and dance and at one point (1am?) the other couple fight and go home. So now its just my boyfriend,his best friend and myself. This is where it got weird...
We're on the dance floor when my boyfriend he's got something to tell me. He says “my ex-gf is coming to meet up and hang out with us soon,just thought you should know,you're alright with it ok?”. Bleep no i wasnt alright with it,like wtf man. I told him that,and he said it would be fine. So i was like whatever,maybe this is normal? (keeping in mind that this is my first long term bf).

Anyway so we move clubs and she shows up [about 23/5.9ft/skinny and way beautiful more than me. around 60kg]and talks to my bf and his mate and ignores me for a solid 10 seconds until i introduce myself. I squeeze harder than normal when shaking her hand,and look her square in the eyes. she squeezes a little hard but i overpower her. She also averts her gaze (i won that battle! Haha). I give them a chance to catch up by going to pee for a few minutes. When i come back inside we chat awkwardly. This lasts for 30 seconds and she goes silent so i just start dancing to the music to get over the awkward silence that follows. she then walks off somewhere. At this point my bf tells me that hes going to dance. So i follow him out and it turns out she was going to dance with him... What. The. Bleep. At this point she sees me,and tells the guys she leaving. Good riddence...

So the night carries on as normal,only i keep questioning in my head on wtf just happened. This is when i think i started to become paranoid and obssessive. These qualities slowly manifested from that point on that night,to what it is now. Anyway,back to the story.
As the night continued,i notice my bf acting a little strange. Every time i went to hold his hand,he'd hold it weakly and then shake my hand off. I kept testing and he'd keep doing it. I then noticed he'd start to avoid my kisses to the point where id go for a kiss,and he'd fully turn away so id get his cheek. he even pushed me off him once. Finally,hed been avoiding any and all eye contact for the rest of the night. Thats when i knew something was up.

When we got home and settled into bed,i told about how i was feeling. he got angry and said “whats wrong with that” and “you met your ex boyfriend the other day!” (this was at a gathering of my friend group of where he just happened to be,because we're from the same friend group). We had a big fight and he made me feel like i was in the wrong. He said i needed to just let it go because they were just friends. I sit there dumb founded feeling like i was an absolute fool for bringing it up. He then goes to sleep.
At this point i start freaking out as,while we were fighting, he told me her ex gf was from secondary school and that their break up was “mutual”. They were together for close to 4 years and i feel like they were high school sweathearts. I also suspect she lost her virginity to him.

Anyway, i was lying there next to my drunk sleeping boyfriend when i decided to read his texts. Turns out they had been texting on and off since August 2015 (she initiated first contact). They had also been meeting up whenever his ex gf was in town. (my bf ex-gf lives in a different city). The worst part was that They actually went and got a “drink” (at a bar) every time. A couple of times they even meet up at a club. This happened all without my knowing and i honestly cant believe that ive just found out this weekend. Reading those texts felt like someone was trying to yank my heart out of my chest. The realisation that your bf has been doing this is one of the most painful things ive ever been through. Id rather break my arms.

Now what gets me most about these texts is that he didnt even make a mention of me at all. One night that they were texting,was a night we were at a family event. The ex gf asked my bf what he was doing. Instead of saying “im at my gfs family event”,he just said “im drinking at a friends place”. Noticing that he was texting his ex-gf without mentioning me was absolutely gut wrenching.
I asked him yesterday if he had seen him any other times other than last monday. And i said “you would tell me if you have right babe?”. He denied any other times he met him. I knew he was lying so i just said “i trust that you would tell me babe” and left it at that. I asked him about it again today and he just got angry and said “are we going to fight about this again”. Again i left it alone but tonight im gathering the courage to finally bring it up and tell him about reading his texts and that i know he's been lying to me.

Is this a good idea? What can i do? Should i just leave it alone? Does he have feelings for his ex gf? Is he cheating on me?
Please please please help me out here. I dont know what to do and the paranoia and obssession is starting to take over my life. My heart is just telling me to move past it and keep loving him(LOve his so much). But my head is telling me to back off and get out know before that heart gets ripped out and torn to shreds.
I really appreciate any help or advice here and i really appreciate you sticking with me until now. Im so lost and in a heap of pain at the moment....

I really need this to hit the front page cos I registered on this site because of this issue so I can seek advice

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Romance / Re: How To Self Amuse To Attract Women by mizlolar(f): 1:05am On Feb 04, 2016
It works for females also... Check my profile for more awesome relationship tips
Romance / How To Self Amuse To Attract Women by mizlolar(f): 10:21pm On Feb 03, 2016
Self-amusement to attract women 
 Self-amusement is the act of finding ways to amuse yourself. It’s a skill, as well as a state of mind. The more you practice at putting yourself in this vibe or state, the better you become at it.

Self-amusement engages your brain to look for things or create things to stimulate itself. There are different ways of doing this, but it’s all in your own power. You can be creative and use your imagination to ‘have fun’ (like role playing or coming up with strange stories) or you can just remember and visualise past fun experiences. (Think about a funny movie which instantly makes you laugh. If you’re on a date you can also talk about this movie.). You can even spot things in your environment and start ‘appreciating’ them...

The mistake a lot of people make around self-amusement is that they imagine having to be a loud comedian. That’s wrong. You can amuse yourself by observing a pen if that excites you. As long as you engage your brain emotionally you’re doing it good enough.

One of the biggest benefits of self-amusement is that once you’ve learned it, you can decide to have fun on demand. Whenever and wherever you are. It doesn’t matter if you’re on a boring date (not boring anymore!), if you’re on the bus or if you’re hanging out with friends. Self-amusement comes from within. It’s something you do to yourself and your environment shouldn’t matter.

And because you can do this despite of whatever's happening around you, you start being the one influencing your environment. Which can be great. You can literally make others feel good by making yourself feel good though self-amusement. That’s why it’s also called ‘gaming’ yourself.

How to self-amuse 
 First you start by accepting the state you are in. You can be feeling on top of the world or really bad, it doesn't really matter. Just become aware of how you’re feeling and accept it. Then slowly start working towards enjoying yourself.

Meditation can help you become more self-aware about your feelings in the moment, which can then help you turn them around.

Sometimes you need to give your body a sort of spark to un-stifle. What I mean with this is wake your body and mind up for a second. You could jump around, scream your name for a bit or maybe just squeeze your hands. You just need to do something ‘different or strange’ to snap out of your body's cruise control. If you always use the same gesture or behavior it will start being anchored with getting in the right state. This will help your body shift it's emotions even easier. Right before experienced lifters lift heavy weights they perform a mini ritual. The same with sprinters and so on.

Now think about what puts you in a good mood. Is it a certain kind of jokes? Is it a certain dance when you’re out? You have to find out what engages your brain so that you can do it whenever you want to self-amuse. And then do it often while trying new things.

I love making silly jokes and teasing people. (Even my male friends, giving a little dis or troll for fun can add into the vibe, especially when they do it back. But this depends on your friends of course.) Teasing people and making silly jokes or comments makes me feel good, even if other people don’t find it as funny. Obviously I adjust toward what other people react to but even if they don’t react I still amuse myself in the process of trying to make them react. Does this make sense? You need to find what brings you in a good mood.

And when all else fails, fake it till you make it. Pretend to laugh or make fun until you feel like an idiot for doing it and start laughing with yourself. Everything is better than being in a too logical mindset that revolves around facts or outcomes… Experiment with yourself and see what works best. The more often you do it the easier it will become.

Some nuances while self-self amusing are:
•Have very low fun standards. If you like silly jokes use them. It’s not about what you’re laughing about, it’s about the fact that you’re laughing. Don’t censor yourself too much.
•Use curiosity to guide you, observe your environment and use elements out of it.
•Use what other people say to self-amuse by teasing them. Ask them questions for information to work with for fun.
•Don’t look for a reaction when self-amusing. Just be appropriate for your situation. If you notice that people really don’t react to a certain way of ‘self-amusing’, switch it up. Never look disappointed when people don’t validate you after doing something, you’re self-amusing for you, not for the validation.

These were a couple of paragraphs of the full article which you can check by clicking on link on my profile page

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