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Orhevus:
Guy you are full of wisdom, this is what should be encouraged

So what you are saying is that one should be singing about all the charity work they do so that people should know they are doing good. What he stated a not wisdom because that doesn't relate in anyway. Of what use is the good things you are doing for charity when you still carry hate for helping ladies just because you think they all don't deserve it.
Its a wasted effort thinking you are doing good for a particular set of people because you think they deserve it more while you pour out complete hatred for another set of people because of what you believe they are.

[quote author=Useku post=81161327][/quote]Maybe that was the only thing you could get. In all being said the most important thing here is giving ladies the confidence to know that they don't need to have the mindset that if a guy wants to help them financially, they think he will want something in return and therefore just put her mind to it just incase it will happen.

AstroG:
Who called you here,comon gerrrahia here

That slap sha would have really fit your face more. So that your mindset will reset

franchasng:
Continue helping ladies, as you grow and advance in business or career or whatever you do, you will get to realize how foolish you were helping those that never needed your help.

Most ladies you are helping will never notice you talk more of helping you if you were in their shoes and they were in your shoes.

Our ladies are selfish, wicked and close minded, you need to learn to be like them to excel in this present world.

Am very sorry bro but I just realized I don't roll in your kind of circle. Probably that is why I'm continuously blessed. Only very reasonable people get to understand the message being passed and for you all full of hate for Nigerian ladies I still wonder if you have met all the ladies in the full Nigeria that you just confidently generalize them as thesame. And I should also ask you a question. If you have sisters, are you trying to tell me that your sisters or female relatives are among these same set of Nigerian girls you believe are in the category you have put all ladies?

franchasng:
Be honest, how much have you given to your mother this month

This is suppose to be something of just common sense. If I could help people when I have the opportunity to do so, would making my mum happier be an issue to me? Incase it didn't happen in your own case, I actually learnt the habbit of giving and helping people from my parents.

Useku:
To start with, only a mofo(4ked up guy) will want to be bestie to a gal that has a bf,to me your tryna steal someone's gal.

bad ass guys have this soft spot for good gals,we do things for them without expecting nada in return.

We are only hard on cunning gals,feminists ,and players who like to eat their cake and have them.

Reading through the lines it's obvious your tryna sing your praise

Mr op you haven't done anything special !

Real gees don't get laid via blackmail.

Can you do me a favor as the real gee that you are? Get a nice cold glass of water and drink it slowly. Then try to read the post again carefully so that you can comprehend the message properly.

AwkaetitiBabe:
That lady that shattered ur heart eh, only God will judge her

I don't think any lady should be blamed for such a bitter heart the guy has all over him on this thread. Probably he surrounds himself with very irresponsible people or he lives in an irresponsible environment. I can't imagine someone who is surrounded by responsible people having this much bitterness in his heart.

vingeophysicist:
The rate adults insult themselves on this romance section is really appalling .

I am really surprised as well but I totally believe they are not adults as you stated. Mostly kids who have the opportunity to access the internet.

Biglittlelois:
You have two problems in this life; comprehension problem and lack of common sense,

Work on yourself.

Thank you for making him understand his problem. I thought I was the only one that noticed he really has such problems.

carter009:
Your right bro, same with me, they girl came prepared and was shocked when I told that her, I only helped her and not to sleep with her,,, seriously I don't know why the think everything is about sex, sex, sex, have experienced this kind of thing 3 times.

Nice one bro.

ubunja:
give your own family money. You've no business giving people's GFs help. Help the women in your family

Okay now I understand were you are coming from. Just take note that my family is not same as yours okay. They don't need help because they are already enjoying the grace of God upon the entire family.

ubunja:
nowhere did I say it


Get your own woman. Not a woman having problems with her man. Let her solve her own problems then get her after.

Do you even know how to read at all. What are you saying?

ubunja:
Get your own woman. Only losers wait for women having problems with their men.

Did you hear me say am single?

I don't really know why many guys find this very difficult to do or why some guys actually condemn the act of giving a lady financial help without demanding for sex. I did something recently and I really saw nothing wrong with it because I do for close male friends as well.

I have this lady friend I met sometime ago through a friends girlfriend. That period I met her she was having serious issues with her boyfriend so as the gentleman that I am, I gave her a gentle friendly shoulder to lean on and feel very comfortable to have any conversation with. After a while she and her boyfriend finally broke up and at this point we both get to hangout once in a while and just gist normal. One thing I really liked about her (just as a friend sha) was how decent she always dresses and the kind of things she likes talking about that inspires someone. She is also a very friendly person that like to be very polite with people even if you are a gateman or cleaner. She is very humble so that's why our friendship clicked but I have no intention to destroy our relationship because of sex or relationship.
She has a job as a receptionist in a small company but the pay isn't that great so she is just managing herself till she could get something better. Because of how things are now, she had a little financial problem and was short of cash for her rent when it was due so she told me about it and God being on her side, I had some extra cash to help out. Before now, there is a hotel I usually love to relax at their bar and sometimes I lodge there when I need some good privacy to carry out my voice over rehearsal and recordings. So I am very well known in the hotel and I have taken her to the hotel bar some few times just to hangout, eat, drink and gist normally about different stuffs. We have never involved in any conversation that went to the direction of having anything serious with each other and I have never even seen her legs before (because all the times we hungout she always wore a jeans or something long that covers her leg) let alone ever imagine the colour of her pants.
So the day she asked me for financial help I told her to meet me at the hotel that evening at when she came, I was completely in shock what she wore and how so beautiful her body was. I was truly amazed she wore a nice short gown and I could practically tell she had no bra on. It was completely oblivious to me that she came prepared for anything should incase I demand for sex it won't be hard for me to get a pass. Even the hotel workers that knew me were already trying to signal me if I needed my special room so that they can go and keep the AC chilling for me but I knew deep in my heart that I can't just have sex with her all because I offered to help. We spent our usual time there doing what we normally do when we go there and when it was getting late I told her we needed to leave and I was going to give her the money in the car. I could practically see she felt a little shocked that I really wanted to give her the money without demanding for anything especially when I told her it was not a loan so she didnt need to pay back.
Why am sharing this here today is because I was in the company of some people few days ago and a conversation of something similar to this came up and most of the guys there were saying that can never happen. I didn't tell them I have done something like that even recently but I was so shocked to see that people were so confident with themselves that no guy can ever do that. Another reason I put this post is also for ladies to understand that you don't have to always keep that mentality which makes you believe that a guy can't help you financially without demanding sex. There are some guys who you are better off with as just good friends and if you ever think of going into a relationship or having sex that friendship might be destroyed forever.
I am sure some people on this forum can relate with the message I am trying to pass.

Hello everyone,
I have been thinking of an idea which I would love to see come to reality. Subject of this post "From Nairaland to the world" is just because this is the first place I have decided to share my idea and see if together we can make this happen.

Everyday is almost all about bad news in Nigeria and so quickly we are beginning to forget that even in this present day Nigeria, there are good things still happening and there are a lot of places people can go and have a very nice time to cool off stress or for a short break/holiday.

No matter what ever dangers and insecurities people post everyday on various social media platforms, I am not trying to say people should not talk about serious issues happening in the country, I am only saying that we can also have a platform to share alot of the good aspect of Nigeria as well and places where people can go and have fun with absolute peace of mind.

I intend to create an instagram page which I would love everyone of us to follow and then share and comment on various nice places around Nigeria that shows a different beautiful view of Nigeria to the world and not just the everyday imagination of Nigeria as a no go country.

Before I continue on this great idea, I think it's best we start from Nairaland here by post nice pictures of places around Nigeria which you can recommend to people at anytime and you are very confident that such a place is a paradise to visit in Nigeria.

Please let us try as much as possible not to bring up anything negative on this thread or fight one another for whatever they recommend. Let us all take a matured view into this and make it our responsibility to show to the world that our country and it's citizens are people the world can always look up to no matter our struggles.

Thanks alot guys and I hope we can all do this together peacefully.

pelkad1290:
Guy u try ooo
After making the dough, you get mind pay tithe
MayGod bless u


Make I nor lie if I get like 10milla
To remove the 1milla tithe give pastor wey dey collect from all side go hard I rather give the less privileged

What you should know is that whatever you do from your own heart is what God sees. Don't ever think God sees what you do physically as a human being, the Almighty only sees your spirit and not your physical.
If you are paying tithes, or giving to less privilege, it doesn't really matter to God because what God sees is what your heart has decided to do and what how happy your heart is going it.
Those that worship God must worship him in Spirit and in truth. You can't please God physically. Take note of that.

I just want us a share a very brief message of what you learnt from church today.

There was something my pastor said today that really touched my heart.

We are all walking in light as a born again Christian and your light shine brighter according to how you walk in Christ Jesus. For example, it is the kind of light you put in a room that the determines the color of things in that room. If you put a very bright white light, it will perfectly reflect all the exact colors of everything in the room. But when you put a red light or a blue light, you will observe that the colours of my things in that room will reflect differently.

We should always let our light shine perfectly bright in order for people to see our true reflection and colour which is the Christlike life we are suppose to live.

What did you learn?

White chick admirer spotted

I really feel for alot of married men out there. While they are struggling so hard to put food in the home, the wife is busy looking for sex all in the name of he doesn't satisfy me.
The very painful aspect is the fact that many of these couple already had sex before marriage so if the lady knew she would not be able to cope with such sex issues why agree to marry him and start going to cheat on him.

This is serious. These extra big boobs don't freak me in anyway. They are really annoying.

Onlinefriendonl:
Am married but not getting attention I want. Please don't think am loose or flirty. I won't be here if he's giving me listening ear or shoulder to lean on. He want me to treat him like a boss while he treat me like am nobody. That's fine I have accepted my fate as we already have two boys. I just want a chat mate that's all. You must be above 33 please. Call me let's talk 07014289125

It would have been nice if you were on whatsapp so that chatting will be possible. It's not so nice if someone has to call you directly and speak on phone especially if your hubby is around. Try to have a whatsapp so you get to chat with people that can put a little smile on your face and you can easily delete such conversations in order not to get your hubby to find out or suspect you of something you probably are not even doing.
I totally understand your situation and it's always good to have few people you can always communicate with when you feel lonely.